Who was that person in your life that told you it should be easy?

You have a toxic boss... Is it easier to just dismiss your emotions and do what must be done?

Your mother-in-law is making your life terrible. Is it easier to just never communicate with her? But what if your children love her?

Your colleague said horrible things about you at a party. Maybe just block them?

The guy you just started dating asks idiotic questions and sends weird texts. Is it easier to just block him than epxlain why you don't want another date?

We practiced saying "NO" and "YES" with an "open heart", i.e. NOT from the place of

"It's all your fault that I get so tired at work!"

or

"You give me so much anxiety!" (I'll just avoid you)

or

"The tasks you assign are never clear! I need better communication"


or

"Just block him/her!"


What if we can say a firm "NO" or communicate what we need WITHOUT harming the relationship?

You're welcome to join this practice.
WOMEN only for now.

DM me to get on the waitlist and join the next meeting on Nov 3, 18:00 CET.

“We get lost repeatedly, because we are easily convinced of ideals that seem right at the time, but lead us astray. We listen to words, although Lao Tzu has warned us of their shortcomings. We use a lot of words. “Holding on to virtue is to trust it more than the Way itself, when it’s revealed to us. Virtue is a poor replacement for the real thing, but it can be very seductive. So, many of us hurry to decide what’s virtuous and what’s not, and then take pride in holding on to their course without ever questioning it. Tragedy is a very likely result, as history has shown us again and again.
 
When we are convinced of being virtuous, we easily lose compassion as well as common sense. It’s better to regard virtue with caution, so that we immediately discover when it leads to intolerance, prejudice, cruelty, and other deviations from Tao.”

Excerpt From: Stenudd, Stefan. “Tao Te Ching: The Taoism of Lao Tzu Explained.”

A good reminder.

Pay attention to who you’re surrounded with

If you haven't received a response to your application to join the Advanced American accent group with Amy Walker, please apply again. Some people misspelled their emails, and we can't get in touch.

You can also apply directly by recording a short introduction here https://www.videoask.com/fejazits6


ahmalshehri38&gmail.com - I don't who you are but you applied with this email address.

please apply again with the right email, and I will be happy to proceed with your application.

https://youtu.be/-IzWIf4dAjg?si=ArJcO2kui_pUCPbk

the basics of successful learning

There will be no more LIVE cohorts of "Native-Like Fluency"

The current group is full, and I'm not accepting more applications.

BUT!!!

I want to share the method with the people who want to dramaticlaly improve their English skills and are tired of doing the same thing and seeing very unimpressive results.

The program "Native-Like Fluency" is now available as a series of recorded lessons, which will take you to new exercises, practice routines, feedback from me, and weekly spontaneous speaking practice.

YES! You get to attend our LIVE Sunday Practice Sessions if you're doing this program.

I will help you all along. You will not do it alone.
You will practice with feedback from me and you'll be a part of the community where we all practice the same thing.

Also, the recorded program is 70% less expensive than LIVE participation. Grab this opportunity now!

You will get TWO complementary 1:1 coaching calls with me (normally $295 each) if you purchase the recorded program until Nov 1, 2024

There will also be a dedicated support group for everyone who gets it before Nov 1.

https://nataliatokar.me/nlf-replays

I just paid $555 for a 60-min consultation, and OMG! It was so insightful.

I couldn't imagine paying even $300 for one hour of someone's time a few years ago. I could continue making this excuse for a few more years: "Oh, that's too expensive. I'm actually doing okay. I can improve my English / my career /my body later, i.e. I can do it any time..."

But the cost of making these excuses is too high for me.

I would still be on the other side of having native-like fluency. I'd still be scared, confused, feeling pressured to speak spontaneously, feeling lonely and NOT having the amazing relationships I am having right now with the best professionals like Amy Walker and Alex Brown.

The option to wait is always available, but it's so damn expensive....

$555 gave me a lot of clarity and energy for action.
Waiting seems to cost $0, but in reality it cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars that I ended up not making because I was busy waiting.

I waited for times when I'd feel better, know better, find a better teacher...
The truth is simple: the best teacher shows up when you're ready. The money starts flowing when you start taking action. The people start seeing you when you decide to become visible.

It's all a matter of making a decision.

I decided to build my career in English and use English for the rest of my life. That means EVERY DAY. When I became firm in my decision, opportunites knocked on my door, and I welcomed them.

The video says “Don’t worry about your English”. Most people make the conclusion that grammar is not important. I see a very different message here.

What do you see here?
I’ll share my view a bit later in a voice note

I have a new QUIZ for you.

If you're a community member, the same quiz is in the Grammar Practice Routine, and the system WILL measure your results. If you're a member, click here.


If you're not a member, check yourself.
This grammar practice routine is designed to help you make decisions rather than memorize all the rules of all the tenses.

We are finishing the chapter on the Present Tenses and are moving on to the Past Tenses so you tell beautiful, impactful, and clear stories in English, because they are worth sharing.

If you have questions about the quiz, ask them here or inside the quiz. There's a place for them.

https://nataliatokar.typeform.com/to/YihXlExq

Now there's a weekly practice plan for the community members.

If you find it hard to decide what exercise you should do TODAY and how to plan your practice week, follow my recommendations.

Learn and see more here

There is SUCH a huge difference between knowing a lot ABOUT something and EMBODYING it.

Like, we all know what a good parent is, right? When we see a bad parent, we know.
But BEING a good parent is so f*cking hard.

Knowing a lot about being honest is cool. BEING honest with yourself every single moment of the day is so damn hard.

I've been doing the practices from Joni Christine, our new embodiment coach. She says, "You can't have your full-blown YES before you own your NO".

Knowing a lot about boundaries is awesome. Communicating your boundaries is incredibly hard if you haven't practiced that before.

You don't have to go on a silent retreat to learn to be YOU in another language or to learn to effortlessly communicate what you mean in English.

You can literally do this from your laptop. You can learn from home. But you must be devoted to the practice.

And yes, you can learn English from a book or from YouTube (at least, that's what they say on the internet). But you can master real effortless fluency only with a coach, and you will get there A LOT faster.


You need a coach because real fluency is impossible to attain in the context of a classroom or in your alone time with Youtube. You need to communicate with different people about different things. You need feedback too. AND... you need to practice outside the coaching sessions.

Our group environment is a perfect playground for this. You get to talk to people from Russia. U.S., France, Hong Kong, and we all need the same thing - a natural ability to effortlessly communicate in English.

We talk to our accountability partners in between the sessions to deepen the practice; we share our epiphanies in writing, and we pay close attention to life. We are inspired by daily situations to create improvement.


Joni asked me to share my NO with her today. And then she broke down what I said, and my jaw dropped. I saw how I say "NO" to push people away. I really want them to never do this again! So I say NO. And then she showed me a beautiful way of saying the SAME "No", but in a way that inspires people to respect my boundaries and my needs and not pull away. In fact, my NO inspires them to act differently.

This is not what you can learn in one session and have it with you forever. This must be practiced.

This practice is open for WOMEN ONLY for now.

If you want to learn to say NO in a way that does not NOT harm the relationship, if you want to learn to communicate your needs to people instead of waiting for them to figure you out (which can take forever haha), join the practice this Sunday.

The women in our circle are truly amazing. We come from different backgrounds and counties, but we all need the same - connection, love, empowerment, confidence, and safety in relationships wth others.


Way too often women say what they think they should say.... and it backfires. You can learn to say what your hearts needs to express. Let me show you how in our meetings.

The next meeting is this Sunday, Nov 3, 2024. | 7pm MSK or 9.am MDT (Mountain Day Time)

DM me to join @nataliatokar

In case you missed my email,

You can get 70% OFF the native-like fluency program until the end of TODAY!

https://newsletter.nataliatokar.me/70off

On Nov 7, I’m doing an onboarding call for the people who’ve made the decision to do my native-like fluency program in the next 12 months.

The main Bonus, which was 2 private coaching calls has already expired!

But you can still get this program at 70% off before Nov 6.

I want you to experience DIRECT ROIs of becoming more fluent and free in your expression.

My clients are committed, disciplined, individuals who have a strong spirit.
I’m offering a new way to learn the language and finally move past “good English”. They offer their commitment and inspiring work in return. The results … are astonishing.

Read about some of them here ⬇️



https://newsletter.nataliatokar.me/nlf-lastcall-nov6

My cats also help me practice being precise and speak metaphorically in English :)