How do you create genuine connection in another language? In any language really?

Empathy can sound like this:
"I don't really know what to say, but I am so glad you told me"


Sympathy usually sounds like this:

- "I'm sorry you feel this way"
- "At least it's not as bad as it could be"
- "Focus on the positive!"
- "Here is the tissue. Please stop crying"
- "You are so strong! Your father just passed away, and you continue grinding and performing"

Knowing thousands of words in a foreign language is so not enough to create and master relationships with people.

Many people are stuck at the level of translating every word and remaining oblivious to the impact of their words on another.

The advanced level is the level of nurturing relationships. That's the only reason we actually need another language: to create some sort of relationship with others. We don't want to feel othered, we want to belong with others.

There's no textbook on that. No language school will teach you these skills. That's why I vote for PRACTICE, again and again.

Come and practice with me in a dedicated group of amazing individuals if what you need is to BELONG with others too.

If you're an immigrant who needs English to create meaningful relationships, get a high-paying job, sell your ideas and services to native speakers, or feel the freedom of expressing yourself authentically, check out my group coaching program that begins on Oct 24, 2024.

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Yesterday I promised to share something special.
This is only 12 minutes long, but it explains a lot of what I’ve been sharing recently.

Listen to this conversation.
Such conversations happen so rarely.

What does it mean to express your real self in another language? How does that sound? What words would you need to express your truth?

Let me know in the comments if that resonates.

If you want to be a part of these conversations, let’s book a 20-min call and talk about your needs.

The methodology that I use helps people develop their metacognitive skills and become better learners.

You can apply this approach to learning any non-trivial skill, including full, authentic, and spontaneous expression in a foreign language.

➡️ To try it, enroll in my free course "9 essential skills to achieve native-like fluency". Create an account and start practicing.

➡️ To work with me, join the next group coaching program "Native-Like Fluency" (start date: Oct 24).

❤️ DM me to book a 20-min free discovery call

➡️ The recorded "Native-Like Fluency" program is available at 70% off. You can practice on your own time and still get individual feedback and attention.

A fragment from my group coaching program.

To learn non-trivial skills fast, you need to learn A LOT about yourself and how you learn.

Not "how to study", but "how to learn new skills".

If you want to be spontaneous, fluent, and authentic in a foreign language, you don't need to memorize lists of words. You need to learn to FEEД and understand, and then communicate what you feel and understand in THEIR language.

If you understand a lot but can say very little, this is not true understanding.

If you understand it because you have lived it (not because you heard or read about it), you will find a way to express it.

Spontaneous speech is all about EXPRESSION in real-time. Your expression doesn't need to be messy, clunky, or awkward. It can be clear, beautiful, and real.

➡ Apply to join the new cohort to learn to express the REAL you in a foreign language.
https://nataliatokar.me/nativelikefluency

We begin on Oct 24.

We will go together and we will go far: regular practice until April 2025 will absolutely change how you sound, think, write, and express yourself in English.