I don't really teach the English language.
I help you develop your SPEECH in English, which means we're working on developing your second language identity.

Working on your new identity means we're learning a new way of relating to self and others, which boils down to mastering relationships in another language.

Speech and Language are not the same.
You can attend English classes for another 10 years and learn nothing about developing your speech in English.

Your speech is how you express yourself. It's the reflection of your conscious and unconscious thoughts and beliefs.

When you focus on "language" and ignore "speech development", you get stuck at the level where you avoid mistakes and wait for approval.

You're dying to hear "Oh, your English is so great!". At the same time, you have no real friends among native speakers. You feel othered, misunderstood, and unseen.

Let me tell you a secret: Correct English alone will not give you the relationships you crave. Correct English is not the baseline of true connection.

There are so many advanced English speakers who are terrible communicators.
Their priority is being right and correct.

And then there are people whose priority is connection. They will ALWAYS work on improving their English skills because they care about the connection. They want to give the other person the confidence that they're heard, understood, valued, and seen. They don't want to sound confusing, difficult to listen to, or unable to express how they really feel and what they are experiencing moment to moment.

Prioritize connection.
If you do, the quality of your speech and your presence will naturally become your priority.

If you want to work with me 1:1 or in a group setting, DM me to book a 20-min call to discuss your situation and your needs. It's free.

To join the next cohort of my 6-month Native-Like Fluency (October 6 - April 6, 2024.), apply here nataliatokar.me/nativelikefluency

A new audio for all the community members who are doing the new grammar practice routine.

Check out the first 3 exercises.

Only one exercise a day.

We will keep track of all your results, and we will address the repetitive patterns during a Zoom call.

If you want to join this routine, become a member.

It's easy to apply: send me a voice message on the website, and I will respond. nataliatokar.me/community

Achieving mastery in a foreign language is, in essence, the process of mastering oneself. It's not only about grammar and vocabulary but about understanding how we express our thoughts, emotions, and identity through that language.

I graduated with honors. English was my major, and on the day of graduation I was expected to speak it perfectly, and also teach it. But feedback from reality told a different story. While I excelled on paper, my practical skills were mediocre.

When I traveled to the U.S., I quickly realized my English was far from perfect—people constantly asked me to repeat myself, and I could only understand a fraction of what they were saying.
I nodded and smiled, masking my confusion, frustration, and disappointment. I didn’t know what to reply because I didn’t understand them. I could only guess… and 99% of the times I guessed incorrectly.

Upon returning home, my disappointment deepened. Though I had excelled as a student, I felt like a fraud. In the classroom, my English skills were enough—on paper, I was even seen as an expert. I was more knowledgeable than my classmates and much more advanced than my students. Everyone said: “Now you can teach”. But I knew better. I didn't want to teach from a position of superiority, knowing I could only guide others to the same mediocre level of skill I had attained. I would only perpetuate the illusion that “being better than others is the same as mastery”.

“Being better than others” was not what I wanted, even though I had achieved it many times. That desire stemmed from deep insecurities. What I truly wanted, and still want, is to become a better person, a better human.

I couldn’t teach the skills I hadn’t mastered yet myself. I couldn’t give what I didn’t have. So, I started looking for people who could teach me and places where I could continue learning.
I was hungry for more, but I quickly learned there was no school for “more”, no established method to reach beyond the basics. “What more do you want?” they asked. “You have a teaching degree. You’re already advanced.” But deep down, I knew there was something beyond that.

For me, “more” meant building real connections with native English speakers, being seen as an equal, not superior or inferior.
Telling people what to do every 15 minutes (what many call “teaching”) is easy. I wanted “more”. I wanted to engage meaningfully, to be understood and considered, but I couldn’t even express my thoughts, feelings, and desires in English. I gave people nothing substantial to consider. I often behaved as if everything I said in English was subject to their approval. I was never truly confident in my words.

Whenever I tried to express my thoughts, feelings, or concerns in English, they seemed to be dismissed or minimized. But eventually, I realized that I was the one dismissing them. I never expressed myself fully—because I couldn’t. Instead, I pretended everything was fine, hiding my true emotions. Yet, I still expected others to see through the façade, to hear and understand me. My own expectations hurt me the most.

No one had ever taught us how to build real relationships in English. We were taught to speak it correctly, but never how to feel or fully express ourselves in the language.

I searched for years, but found nothing. Every language school or company I joined dismissed my ideas as too radical. “No one needs mastery,” they’d say. “Just stick to the lesson plan. Your job is to help students pass tests.” But I didn’t care about tests. I could ace any exam if I needed to. What I couldn’t do was be myself—without preparation—in English. I didn’t know how to be both authentic and spontaneous in the language.

When I couldn’t find the support I needed, I began sharing my tools and methods with other advanced learners who, like me, were seeking more. Eventually, I founded my own company, developed my method, and dedicated myself to empowering others to create their own “more.”

At the core of the method is the idea that to advance to the next level, learners must develop key skills they’re often missing. Rather than studying the language itself, we focus on developing our speech in a foreign language, as well as our second-language identity.

This requires mastery of the following skills:

• self-correction
• self-reflection
• self-evaluation
• internalization
• SEEing mental images
• creative writing
• decision-making

Language is no longer separate from the self. What truly matters now is how YOU speak the language, not how it’s defined in grammar books.


I continue learning and honing my skills. I share everything I know with my community so that people have the power and the right skills or continuously improve their English skills instead of giving their power away to others. You don’t need English classes for the rest of your life. Most people repeat the same mistakes in class, maintaining their current level but never advancing. If your goal is to reach the next level, to truly improve, you need a different method.


If you're ready to take your language skills beyond the classroom, I invite you to explore my method. Join my free course, "9 Essential Skills to Achieve Native-Like Fluency," and start your journey toward mastering English and yourself. You can sign up here: [link]. https://nataliatokar.me/sign-up Create an account and check your email. You will get access to my self-study resources, which include this free course.

And if you want to dive deep and practice your spontaneous English skills with me, become a member and get full access to exclusive practices and feedback.

Learn JOY

“Your English is already good. Why do you keep perfecting it?”

“You’re not fat. Why do you go to the gym every day?”

“You don’t have diabetes. Why do you say NO to cakes? Why do you deprive yourself of simple pleasures?”

“You probably think you’re better than everyone. There can be no other reason for this behavior…”

People don’t have to understand you. Some never will. Some will, and you’ll go together very far.