Forwarded from Marvโs Tribe
HOW TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN YOUR HIGHER SELF & YOUR LOWER SELF:
These are two forces that influence all your decisions. While one tries to guide you towards self-actualization, the other tries to pull you towards self-destruction. It's imperative to learn to observe & discern the two.
The lower-self is instinctive & impulsive. It majorly seeks to fulfil its animalistic urges like safety, eating, sex.
It's concerned with maximizing pleasure & minimizing pain. It functions based on your primal instincts to survive.
The lower self is loud, obnoxious, indecisive, anxious, fearful, entitled, possessive & reactive.
The higher self is inspired by meaning and purpose.
It has visions, goals and long term plans. It seeks to pursue excellence, self-improvement & bliss.
The higher self is quiet, unwavering, self assured, incisive, calm, balanced, detached, selfless & self evident.
The lower-self seeks instant gratification, competitiveness, power struggles, over-consumerism.
The voice that tempts you towards your vices (porn, procrastination, day drinking) - is the same voice that guilt trips you after you indulge it -
Learn to ignore this one.
Listen to the one that tries to motivate you to read, write, make new friends, workout, clean your room, groom yourself, post your contents, or start a new business.
Your willpower is the gap between discernment & choice -
You strengthen it through consistent self-discipline, self-awareness and self-accountability.
You weaken it through inadvertence, indulgence and laziness...
These are two forces that influence all your decisions. While one tries to guide you towards self-actualization, the other tries to pull you towards self-destruction. It's imperative to learn to observe & discern the two.
The lower-self is instinctive & impulsive. It majorly seeks to fulfil its animalistic urges like safety, eating, sex.
It's concerned with maximizing pleasure & minimizing pain. It functions based on your primal instincts to survive.
The lower self is loud, obnoxious, indecisive, anxious, fearful, entitled, possessive & reactive.
The higher self is inspired by meaning and purpose.
It has visions, goals and long term plans. It seeks to pursue excellence, self-improvement & bliss.
The higher self is quiet, unwavering, self assured, incisive, calm, balanced, detached, selfless & self evident.
The lower-self seeks instant gratification, competitiveness, power struggles, over-consumerism.
The voice that tempts you towards your vices (porn, procrastination, day drinking) - is the same voice that guilt trips you after you indulge it -
Learn to ignore this one.
Listen to the one that tries to motivate you to read, write, make new friends, workout, clean your room, groom yourself, post your contents, or start a new business.
Your willpower is the gap between discernment & choice -
You strengthen it through consistent self-discipline, self-awareness and self-accountability.
You weaken it through inadvertence, indulgence and laziness...
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People with no businesses are always the loudest to give advice.
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Any business that can't run without you being present...
Ain't a business
Ain't a business
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Forwarded from STRONGLAND (Life Math Money)
Never self-pity. Does nothing. Makes you weak. That's it. That's the tweet.
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Stop blaming the world for your problems.
Most likely, you and only you are responsible for them.
Most likely, you and only you are responsible for them.
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Forwarded from Basedoniaโข - By E-go (E-go)
How to humiliate someone who is trying to humiliate you
Following up on yesterdayโs thread where I showed how to get over such things happening to you. I am now going to explain how to avoid letting them happening to you.
For that, you need to understand that humiliation is about how the situation is perceived by the audience but how you see it yourself.
An important thing to remember is that there is a fine line between humiliation and confrontation. The line being that humiliation is nothing but a lost confrontation.
In this thread, I will show you how to respond to someone trying to publicly humiliate you and win that confrontation.
1- Humiliation attempts are about showing off:
If you are to respond to humiliation attempts, you need to accept the fact that you will be starting on the losing side.
But thatโs not all bad. I will explain later.
What is important to grasp here is that the person attacking you is not just trying to do you harm.
They are trying to harm your image and reputation
As such, what interests them the most is how the people watching the scene react to it and aspire to make them side with them.
This is their weak point.
In a way they are seeking external approval. This is your leverage.
2- Do not get impulsive:
Let them talk while understand their motivation, figure out why they chose to publicly humiliate you.
If you can understand their motives, you can expose them,
This is why itโs important to let them talk so that they can dig their own grave.
Now, the next step is to destroy their public image by showing their bad faith and poor intentions.
3- Ask them to talk in private:
Do so in a way that you interrupt what they say.
Turn around and cut the conversation short.
What this will do is that they will refuse.
Which is exactly what you want.
Once they refuse turn again and face them.
Itโs time to speak up.
4- Strategic Victimization:
So far, you have only been listening and asking for a private conversation.
As such, you are painted as someone who is yet to defend their point.
On the other hand, they are perceived as someone whoโs angry and been relentlessly seeking confrontation.
You already messed with their plan.
Theyโve already started to seem evil, which makes the validation theyโre seeking gradually slip away from them.
Remember when I told you to figure out their motives?
Itโs time to expose them and put the spotlight on them.
This is the exact opposite of what they want.
Explain their poor intentions and that theyโre motive are to harm your reputation; do so while exchanging eye contact with the audience more than you exchange eye contact with the person provoking you.
What you will be doing is involving the audience and making them side with you.
There are two possible reactions that can come after this:
- They will want to take the conversation privately, and you will refuse.
- They will get angry and you will laugh.
In the first case: everything is done and finished.
You have successfully defused their attempts, they no longer wish to publicly humiliate you.
Your refusal on the other hand will show that you are in control of the interaction and that they missed the chance to set things straight with you.
Itโs time to leave the situation and not say anything more.
Ideally, never talk to that person again.
In the second case, the battles keeps going for a bit longer.
The fact that you laugh to their face will make them angrier; they might lose control and start elevating their voice.
Again, they will be digging their own grave.
Your reaction should remain the same.
Stay calm, keep a smile on your face and only answer to say that their reaction is blown out of proportion.
You will only open your mouth to say that what theyโre doing is ridiculous.
Try as much as possible not to engage in the core topic.
Only expose their bad behavior.
Remember, theyโre seeking validation from the audience.
Your sole goal is to turn the audience against them.
They will lose their shit.
Once you make sure that nobodyโs on their side.
Following up on yesterdayโs thread where I showed how to get over such things happening to you. I am now going to explain how to avoid letting them happening to you.
For that, you need to understand that humiliation is about how the situation is perceived by the audience but how you see it yourself.
An important thing to remember is that there is a fine line between humiliation and confrontation. The line being that humiliation is nothing but a lost confrontation.
In this thread, I will show you how to respond to someone trying to publicly humiliate you and win that confrontation.
1- Humiliation attempts are about showing off:
If you are to respond to humiliation attempts, you need to accept the fact that you will be starting on the losing side.
But thatโs not all bad. I will explain later.
What is important to grasp here is that the person attacking you is not just trying to do you harm.
They are trying to harm your image and reputation
As such, what interests them the most is how the people watching the scene react to it and aspire to make them side with them.
This is their weak point.
In a way they are seeking external approval. This is your leverage.
2- Do not get impulsive:
Let them talk while understand their motivation, figure out why they chose to publicly humiliate you.
If you can understand their motives, you can expose them,
This is why itโs important to let them talk so that they can dig their own grave.
Now, the next step is to destroy their public image by showing their bad faith and poor intentions.
3- Ask them to talk in private:
Do so in a way that you interrupt what they say.
Turn around and cut the conversation short.
What this will do is that they will refuse.
Which is exactly what you want.
Once they refuse turn again and face them.
Itโs time to speak up.
4- Strategic Victimization:
So far, you have only been listening and asking for a private conversation.
As such, you are painted as someone who is yet to defend their point.
On the other hand, they are perceived as someone whoโs angry and been relentlessly seeking confrontation.
You already messed with their plan.
Theyโve already started to seem evil, which makes the validation theyโre seeking gradually slip away from them.
Remember when I told you to figure out their motives?
Itโs time to expose them and put the spotlight on them.
This is the exact opposite of what they want.
Explain their poor intentions and that theyโre motive are to harm your reputation; do so while exchanging eye contact with the audience more than you exchange eye contact with the person provoking you.
What you will be doing is involving the audience and making them side with you.
There are two possible reactions that can come after this:
- They will want to take the conversation privately, and you will refuse.
- They will get angry and you will laugh.
In the first case: everything is done and finished.
You have successfully defused their attempts, they no longer wish to publicly humiliate you.
Your refusal on the other hand will show that you are in control of the interaction and that they missed the chance to set things straight with you.
Itโs time to leave the situation and not say anything more.
Ideally, never talk to that person again.
In the second case, the battles keeps going for a bit longer.
The fact that you laugh to their face will make them angrier; they might lose control and start elevating their voice.
Again, they will be digging their own grave.
Your reaction should remain the same.
Stay calm, keep a smile on your face and only answer to say that their reaction is blown out of proportion.
You will only open your mouth to say that what theyโre doing is ridiculous.
Try as much as possible not to engage in the core topic.
Only expose their bad behavior.
Remember, theyโre seeking validation from the audience.
Your sole goal is to turn the audience against them.
They will lose their shit.
Once you make sure that nobodyโs on their side.
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Live fearlessly, live fully, and care more about your craft than the opinions of people you donโt even know.
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Forwarded from STRONGLAND (Life Math Money)
No discipline = no success. Because no matter how much talent you have - without discipline you will lose to people with less talent but higher discipline. It's one of the most underrated assets in the world. Fortunately, it's 100% in your hands.
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Don't be too available for anyone. Stop being everyone's friend
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Lack of self-discipline and lack of initiative are the key indicators behind someone struggling in life.
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Aristotle said โKnowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.โ
But how many of us take the time to get a good sense of who we are?
Here are 10 things you should know about yourself if you want to live a happy and fulfilling life!
1. What Are Your โNon-Negotiablesโ?
Knowing your โnon-negotiablesโ helps you to set boundaries.
It can save you a whole lot of time spent in relationships that you donโt like and arenโt serving a purpose in your life.
2. What are your core values?
Your values are what you stand for. They are the things that are important to you.
A good way to know "what your values are" is to ask yourself:
- What will you not do?
- What are your standards?
3. What are your strengths?
Knowing what you do best helps you get more things done in less time.
And, when you are doing things that you are good at, you feel that you are in the flow. You donโt feel like itโs hard work.
4. What are your weaknesses?
You need to know your legitimate weaknesses.
It will give you so much relief when you can accept that youโre just not so good at something.
Remember, you donโt have to be good at everything, you can always outsource your weaknesses.
5. What makes you happy?
We often go through our days without actually consciously thinking about our happiness.
Do you know a list of things you can do to brighten your day when youโre not feeling spectacular?
If not, start figuring it out.
6. What is your Personality Type?
Knowing your personality type is like having permission to be who you are, unapologetically.
It can give you a much deeper understanding of who you are and why you are the way you are.
7. Who is your role model?
Role models are great at showing us the things that we would like to see in ourselves.
List out the qualities of your role model and write down the ones that you would like to see in yourself. Work on those.
8. What are you grateful for?
Asking this question will give you a dose of optimism and make you realize that your life is not as bad as you think it is.
Before you start worrying about the things you don't have, take a moment to be grateful for the ones you already have.
9. What is your goal?
One of the most important things to know about yourself is what your life goal is.
Without it, you can be left feeling aimless and without a purpose.
Get your goal and write it down, look at it now and again to see how much closer you have got to it.
10. What is your WHY?
A clear โwhyโ gives you purpose and motivates you to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals.
Without knowing the โwhyโ behind your goals, dreams, and aspirations, you minimize your chances of achieving your goals.
TL; DR;
Ask yourself:
What Are Your โNon-Negotiablesโ?
What are your core values?
What are your strengths?
What are your weaknesses?
What makes you happy?
What is your Personality Type?
Who is your role model?
What are you grateful for?
What is your life goal?
What is your WHY?
If you want to:
- get to know yourself better
- gain clarity about your purpose
- become focused and disciplined
Read this: https://t.co/3UkGNV8QY1
This is a program based on the principles of PSYCHOLOGY and MEDITATION
It will transform you into the best version of yourself.
And that's a wrap!
If you found this valuable, consider sharing it with your friends and family
https://twitter.com/Mindset_Machine/status/1535253200516816896
Thank you โค๏ธ
But how many of us take the time to get a good sense of who we are?
Here are 10 things you should know about yourself if you want to live a happy and fulfilling life!
1. What Are Your โNon-Negotiablesโ?
Knowing your โnon-negotiablesโ helps you to set boundaries.
It can save you a whole lot of time spent in relationships that you donโt like and arenโt serving a purpose in your life.
2. What are your core values?
Your values are what you stand for. They are the things that are important to you.
A good way to know "what your values are" is to ask yourself:
- What will you not do?
- What are your standards?
3. What are your strengths?
Knowing what you do best helps you get more things done in less time.
And, when you are doing things that you are good at, you feel that you are in the flow. You donโt feel like itโs hard work.
4. What are your weaknesses?
You need to know your legitimate weaknesses.
It will give you so much relief when you can accept that youโre just not so good at something.
Remember, you donโt have to be good at everything, you can always outsource your weaknesses.
5. What makes you happy?
We often go through our days without actually consciously thinking about our happiness.
Do you know a list of things you can do to brighten your day when youโre not feeling spectacular?
If not, start figuring it out.
6. What is your Personality Type?
Knowing your personality type is like having permission to be who you are, unapologetically.
It can give you a much deeper understanding of who you are and why you are the way you are.
7. Who is your role model?
Role models are great at showing us the things that we would like to see in ourselves.
List out the qualities of your role model and write down the ones that you would like to see in yourself. Work on those.
8. What are you grateful for?
Asking this question will give you a dose of optimism and make you realize that your life is not as bad as you think it is.
Before you start worrying about the things you don't have, take a moment to be grateful for the ones you already have.
9. What is your goal?
One of the most important things to know about yourself is what your life goal is.
Without it, you can be left feeling aimless and without a purpose.
Get your goal and write it down, look at it now and again to see how much closer you have got to it.
10. What is your WHY?
A clear โwhyโ gives you purpose and motivates you to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals.
Without knowing the โwhyโ behind your goals, dreams, and aspirations, you minimize your chances of achieving your goals.
TL; DR;
Ask yourself:
What Are Your โNon-Negotiablesโ?
What are your core values?
What are your strengths?
What are your weaknesses?
What makes you happy?
What is your Personality Type?
Who is your role model?
What are you grateful for?
What is your life goal?
What is your WHY?
If you want to:
- get to know yourself better
- gain clarity about your purpose
- become focused and disciplined
Read this: https://t.co/3UkGNV8QY1
This is a program based on the principles of PSYCHOLOGY and MEDITATION
It will transform you into the best version of yourself.
And that's a wrap!
If you found this valuable, consider sharing it with your friends and family
https://twitter.com/Mindset_Machine/status/1535253200516816896
Thank you โค๏ธ
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You will get a really impressive view of the business world starting a side hustle instead of doing an MBA.
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Forwarded from Corporate Machiavelli
Apologizing to an angry mob is the WRONG response.
They won't interpret your apology as a sign they should forgive you.
They will interpret your apology as an admission of guilt; justification as to why they should hate you even more.
They won't interpret your apology as a sign they should forgive you.
They will interpret your apology as an admission of guilt; justification as to why they should hate you even more.
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You attract what you are, not what you want.
If you want something extraordinary, become extraordinary.
If you want something extraordinary, become extraordinary.
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You get smart by being comfortable appearing stupid temporarily.
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Forwarded from Masculine Tribe (The Masculine Sage)
You are responsible for all the shit people give you.
It is your responsibility to make sure everyone treats you well.
If they don't, show them the door.
You don't want anyone in your life who is always pulling you down.
The only criticism which is right for you is the one which comes with a constructive review in the end.
One from a friend, a loved one or your family.
It is your responsibility to make sure everyone treats you well.
If they don't, show them the door.
You don't want anyone in your life who is always pulling you down.
The only criticism which is right for you is the one which comes with a constructive review in the end.
One from a friend, a loved one or your family.
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