Self-discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment, and a mindset of focus builds that bridge.
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Your excuses don't determine your destiny, your actions do.
Stop making them, start acting
Stop making them, start acting
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Forwarded from Marvβs Tribe
HOW TO CREATE A HAPPY LIFE
Happiness is a state where nothing is lacking. The path to happiness is truth seeking, and the path to truth is understanding.
Happiness is a skill that can be learned. You can slowly and methodically improve your happiness baseline
1) Get your health in order:
If youβre not fit enough to make money, hangout with friends or do the things you love - then you are not going to be happy.
Health is the foundation of happiness.
2) Chase financial freedom:
You cannot buy happiness, but you can buy your way out of common causes of unhappiness.
Renunciation is ineffective in the long run - and happiness without material comfort is playing life on hard mode.
3) Have fewer desires:
Desire is a contract you make to remain unhappy until you get what you want. Human wants are insatiable, yet no external thing will make you happy forever. Happiness is sustained by needing less and less things to be happy.
4) Seek peace
Contentment brings peace, peace brings happiness. In solitude youβll find peace, and peace is happiness without the excitement. You canβt always be happy, but you can always be at peace. Inner peace is much easier to achieve and maintain (cos it needs nothing). Happiness / sadness are highs and lows of the same ladder - peace is when youβre unmoved by either.
Peace is happiness at rest, happiness is peace in motion. Happiness is the ability to interpret events in such a way that you don't lose your inner peace.
5) Be present:
Unhappiness comes from;
- comparing the past to the present
- regretting and wishing things happened differently
- imagining unreal scenarios
The human mind is constantly oscillating between the past and the future. This causes mental stress and disturbs your inner peace. So catch your mind whenever it wanders and bring it back to the present as much as you can.
6) Avoid envy:
Happiness is an internal game, you play against yourself.
When your feel envious of someone - donβt just choose one aspect of the lives, be ready to do a 100% + 24/7 swap with them.
Now do you still want their lives?
7) Reduce your sense of self:
Self-improvement is a recipe for self-conflict.
Donβt take yourself seriously, you are just a monkey with a plan.
All your accomplishments and shortcomings will go to dust.
8) Avoid things that make you unstable:
- Porn
- Sugar
- Coffee
- Alcohol
- Video games
These things will make you feel good in the short term but could ruin your happiness long term.
All screen activities reduce your happiness.
Non-screen activities make you more stable and happier.
- meditate
- walk in nature
- exercise regularly
- get more sunlight
- have conversations in real life.
9) Practice acceptance:
Acceptance means to be okay with whatever the outcome is.
If you want change - make it happen.
If you canβt change - accept it.
And if you canβt accept - leave it.
Stay Inspired
Happiness is a state where nothing is lacking. The path to happiness is truth seeking, and the path to truth is understanding.
Happiness is a skill that can be learned. You can slowly and methodically improve your happiness baseline
1) Get your health in order:
If youβre not fit enough to make money, hangout with friends or do the things you love - then you are not going to be happy.
Health is the foundation of happiness.
2) Chase financial freedom:
You cannot buy happiness, but you can buy your way out of common causes of unhappiness.
Renunciation is ineffective in the long run - and happiness without material comfort is playing life on hard mode.
3) Have fewer desires:
Desire is a contract you make to remain unhappy until you get what you want. Human wants are insatiable, yet no external thing will make you happy forever. Happiness is sustained by needing less and less things to be happy.
4) Seek peace
Contentment brings peace, peace brings happiness. In solitude youβll find peace, and peace is happiness without the excitement. You canβt always be happy, but you can always be at peace. Inner peace is much easier to achieve and maintain (cos it needs nothing). Happiness / sadness are highs and lows of the same ladder - peace is when youβre unmoved by either.
Peace is happiness at rest, happiness is peace in motion. Happiness is the ability to interpret events in such a way that you don't lose your inner peace.
5) Be present:
Unhappiness comes from;
- comparing the past to the present
- regretting and wishing things happened differently
- imagining unreal scenarios
The human mind is constantly oscillating between the past and the future. This causes mental stress and disturbs your inner peace. So catch your mind whenever it wanders and bring it back to the present as much as you can.
6) Avoid envy:
Happiness is an internal game, you play against yourself.
When your feel envious of someone - donβt just choose one aspect of the lives, be ready to do a 100% + 24/7 swap with them.
Now do you still want their lives?
7) Reduce your sense of self:
Self-improvement is a recipe for self-conflict.
Donβt take yourself seriously, you are just a monkey with a plan.
All your accomplishments and shortcomings will go to dust.
8) Avoid things that make you unstable:
- Porn
- Sugar
- Coffee
- Alcohol
- Video games
These things will make you feel good in the short term but could ruin your happiness long term.
All screen activities reduce your happiness.
Non-screen activities make you more stable and happier.
- meditate
- walk in nature
- exercise regularly
- get more sunlight
- have conversations in real life.
9) Practice acceptance:
Acceptance means to be okay with whatever the outcome is.
If you want change - make it happen.
If you canβt change - accept it.
And if you canβt accept - leave it.
Stay Inspired
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Don't put your own happiness on hold in order to please others.
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Upgrade your circle of friends. Grow beyond the limits they gave you.
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Every great success requires some kind of struggle.
Good things really do come to those who work hard to pursue their goals and dreams they believe in.
Good things really do come to those who work hard to pursue their goals and dreams they believe in.
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The difference between who you are and who you want to be stems from your mindset.
Once you start to change your mindset, you will immediately start to change your behavior.
Once you start to change your mindset, you will immediately start to change your behavior.
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Your income is directly tied to your self-education.
Never stop learning.
Never stop learning.
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Mindset Machine π
Your income is directly tied to your self-education. Never stop learning.
If you are serious about learning
Start reading 100 Mental Models.
People like Elon Musk, Naval Ravikant & Warren Buffet extensively use them to think rationally and make better decisions.
Get started now and get the top 50 books of all time for FREE π
https://t.co/H2lVGT94wg
Start reading 100 Mental Models.
People like Elon Musk, Naval Ravikant & Warren Buffet extensively use them to think rationally and make better decisions.
Get started now and get the top 50 books of all time for FREE π
https://t.co/H2lVGT94wg
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100 MENTAL MODELS
HOW TO THINK BETTERThe world is complex and interconnected, and we need to understand the big ideas from big disciplines, in order to have a whole map of the reality to be able to make better decis...
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Forwarded from Marvβs Tribe
HOW TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN YOUR HIGHER SELF & YOUR LOWER SELF:
These are two forces that influence all your decisions. While one tries to guide you towards self-actualization, the other tries to pull you towards self-destruction. It's imperative to learn to observe & discern the two.
The lower-self is instinctive & impulsive. It majorly seeks to fulfil its animalistic urges like safety, eating, sex.
It's concerned with maximizing pleasure & minimizing pain. It functions based on your primal instincts to survive.
The lower self is loud, obnoxious, indecisive, anxious, fearful, entitled, possessive & reactive.
The higher self is inspired by meaning and purpose.
It has visions, goals and long term plans. It seeks to pursue excellence, self-improvement & bliss.
The higher self is quiet, unwavering, self assured, incisive, calm, balanced, detached, selfless & self evident.
The lower-self seeks instant gratification, competitiveness, power struggles, over-consumerism.
The voice that tempts you towards your vices (porn, procrastination, day drinking) - is the same voice that guilt trips you after you indulge it -
Learn to ignore this one.
Listen to the one that tries to motivate you to read, write, make new friends, workout, clean your room, groom yourself, post your contents, or start a new business.
Your willpower is the gap between discernment & choice -
You strengthen it through consistent self-discipline, self-awareness and self-accountability.
You weaken it through inadvertence, indulgence and laziness...
These are two forces that influence all your decisions. While one tries to guide you towards self-actualization, the other tries to pull you towards self-destruction. It's imperative to learn to observe & discern the two.
The lower-self is instinctive & impulsive. It majorly seeks to fulfil its animalistic urges like safety, eating, sex.
It's concerned with maximizing pleasure & minimizing pain. It functions based on your primal instincts to survive.
The lower self is loud, obnoxious, indecisive, anxious, fearful, entitled, possessive & reactive.
The higher self is inspired by meaning and purpose.
It has visions, goals and long term plans. It seeks to pursue excellence, self-improvement & bliss.
The higher self is quiet, unwavering, self assured, incisive, calm, balanced, detached, selfless & self evident.
The lower-self seeks instant gratification, competitiveness, power struggles, over-consumerism.
The voice that tempts you towards your vices (porn, procrastination, day drinking) - is the same voice that guilt trips you after you indulge it -
Learn to ignore this one.
Listen to the one that tries to motivate you to read, write, make new friends, workout, clean your room, groom yourself, post your contents, or start a new business.
Your willpower is the gap between discernment & choice -
You strengthen it through consistent self-discipline, self-awareness and self-accountability.
You weaken it through inadvertence, indulgence and laziness...
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People with no businesses are always the loudest to give advice.
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Any business that can't run without you being present...
Ain't a business
Ain't a business
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Forwarded from STRONGLAND (Life Math Money)
Never self-pity. Does nothing. Makes you weak. That's it. That's the tweet.
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Stop blaming the world for your problems.
Most likely, you and only you are responsible for them.
Most likely, you and only you are responsible for them.
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Forwarded from Basedoniaβ’ - By E-go (E-go)
How to humiliate someone who is trying to humiliate you
Following up on yesterdayβs thread where I showed how to get over such things happening to you. I am now going to explain how to avoid letting them happening to you.
For that, you need to understand that humiliation is about how the situation is perceived by the audience but how you see it yourself.
An important thing to remember is that there is a fine line between humiliation and confrontation. The line being that humiliation is nothing but a lost confrontation.
In this thread, I will show you how to respond to someone trying to publicly humiliate you and win that confrontation.
1- Humiliation attempts are about showing off:
If you are to respond to humiliation attempts, you need to accept the fact that you will be starting on the losing side.
But thatβs not all bad. I will explain later.
What is important to grasp here is that the person attacking you is not just trying to do you harm.
They are trying to harm your image and reputation
As such, what interests them the most is how the people watching the scene react to it and aspire to make them side with them.
This is their weak point.
In a way they are seeking external approval. This is your leverage.
2- Do not get impulsive:
Let them talk while understand their motivation, figure out why they chose to publicly humiliate you.
If you can understand their motives, you can expose them,
This is why itβs important to let them talk so that they can dig their own grave.
Now, the next step is to destroy their public image by showing their bad faith and poor intentions.
3- Ask them to talk in private:
Do so in a way that you interrupt what they say.
Turn around and cut the conversation short.
What this will do is that they will refuse.
Which is exactly what you want.
Once they refuse turn again and face them.
Itβs time to speak up.
4- Strategic Victimization:
So far, you have only been listening and asking for a private conversation.
As such, you are painted as someone who is yet to defend their point.
On the other hand, they are perceived as someone whoβs angry and been relentlessly seeking confrontation.
You already messed with their plan.
Theyβve already started to seem evil, which makes the validation theyβre seeking gradually slip away from them.
Remember when I told you to figure out their motives?
Itβs time to expose them and put the spotlight on them.
This is the exact opposite of what they want.
Explain their poor intentions and that theyβre motive are to harm your reputation; do so while exchanging eye contact with the audience more than you exchange eye contact with the person provoking you.
What you will be doing is involving the audience and making them side with you.
There are two possible reactions that can come after this:
- They will want to take the conversation privately, and you will refuse.
- They will get angry and you will laugh.
In the first case: everything is done and finished.
You have successfully defused their attempts, they no longer wish to publicly humiliate you.
Your refusal on the other hand will show that you are in control of the interaction and that they missed the chance to set things straight with you.
Itβs time to leave the situation and not say anything more.
Ideally, never talk to that person again.
In the second case, the battles keeps going for a bit longer.
The fact that you laugh to their face will make them angrier; they might lose control and start elevating their voice.
Again, they will be digging their own grave.
Your reaction should remain the same.
Stay calm, keep a smile on your face and only answer to say that their reaction is blown out of proportion.
You will only open your mouth to say that what theyβre doing is ridiculous.
Try as much as possible not to engage in the core topic.
Only expose their bad behavior.
Remember, theyβre seeking validation from the audience.
Your sole goal is to turn the audience against them.
They will lose their shit.
Once you make sure that nobodyβs on their side.
Following up on yesterdayβs thread where I showed how to get over such things happening to you. I am now going to explain how to avoid letting them happening to you.
For that, you need to understand that humiliation is about how the situation is perceived by the audience but how you see it yourself.
An important thing to remember is that there is a fine line between humiliation and confrontation. The line being that humiliation is nothing but a lost confrontation.
In this thread, I will show you how to respond to someone trying to publicly humiliate you and win that confrontation.
1- Humiliation attempts are about showing off:
If you are to respond to humiliation attempts, you need to accept the fact that you will be starting on the losing side.
But thatβs not all bad. I will explain later.
What is important to grasp here is that the person attacking you is not just trying to do you harm.
They are trying to harm your image and reputation
As such, what interests them the most is how the people watching the scene react to it and aspire to make them side with them.
This is their weak point.
In a way they are seeking external approval. This is your leverage.
2- Do not get impulsive:
Let them talk while understand their motivation, figure out why they chose to publicly humiliate you.
If you can understand their motives, you can expose them,
This is why itβs important to let them talk so that they can dig their own grave.
Now, the next step is to destroy their public image by showing their bad faith and poor intentions.
3- Ask them to talk in private:
Do so in a way that you interrupt what they say.
Turn around and cut the conversation short.
What this will do is that they will refuse.
Which is exactly what you want.
Once they refuse turn again and face them.
Itβs time to speak up.
4- Strategic Victimization:
So far, you have only been listening and asking for a private conversation.
As such, you are painted as someone who is yet to defend their point.
On the other hand, they are perceived as someone whoβs angry and been relentlessly seeking confrontation.
You already messed with their plan.
Theyβve already started to seem evil, which makes the validation theyβre seeking gradually slip away from them.
Remember when I told you to figure out their motives?
Itβs time to expose them and put the spotlight on them.
This is the exact opposite of what they want.
Explain their poor intentions and that theyβre motive are to harm your reputation; do so while exchanging eye contact with the audience more than you exchange eye contact with the person provoking you.
What you will be doing is involving the audience and making them side with you.
There are two possible reactions that can come after this:
- They will want to take the conversation privately, and you will refuse.
- They will get angry and you will laugh.
In the first case: everything is done and finished.
You have successfully defused their attempts, they no longer wish to publicly humiliate you.
Your refusal on the other hand will show that you are in control of the interaction and that they missed the chance to set things straight with you.
Itβs time to leave the situation and not say anything more.
Ideally, never talk to that person again.
In the second case, the battles keeps going for a bit longer.
The fact that you laugh to their face will make them angrier; they might lose control and start elevating their voice.
Again, they will be digging their own grave.
Your reaction should remain the same.
Stay calm, keep a smile on your face and only answer to say that their reaction is blown out of proportion.
You will only open your mouth to say that what theyβre doing is ridiculous.
Try as much as possible not to engage in the core topic.
Only expose their bad behavior.
Remember, theyβre seeking validation from the audience.
Your sole goal is to turn the audience against them.
They will lose their shit.
Once you make sure that nobodyβs on their side.
π₯12π9β€1
Live fearlessly, live fully, and care more about your craft than the opinions of people you donβt even know.
π12π₯6
Forwarded from STRONGLAND (Life Math Money)
No discipline = no success. Because no matter how much talent you have - without discipline you will lose to people with less talent but higher discipline. It's one of the most underrated assets in the world. Fortunately, it's 100% in your hands.
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