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_*My wife took my phone and deleted my
girlfriend Jane's number and saved her own
number as Jane

_*You see, someone has told my wife about
Jane my girl friend.

_*I then got an SMS from Jane asking for
mobile money 50,000.

_*I rushed to my wife and lied to her that I
need 50,000, for an emergency. I told her
that my mother was unwell and she needed
the money urgently.*_

_*My wife gave me the money and I rushed
to send it to my girlfriend Jane

_*She did not acknowledge receipt of the
money.

_*When I was relaxing at home after work, I
kept wondering if Jane had received the
money.

_*I sent her an SMS to find out if she had
received the money. Her response was, "Call
me now".*_

_*I got out of the house to make the call.*_
_*You can imagine my horror when my
wife answered the call instead of Jane!!!!*_

_*It's been 3 hours. I'm still standing
outside.*_

_*I don't know how to come back into my
own house!*_

_*Any advice?😭😭

Note: Be faithful to your spouse.
Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.
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Dating with Marriage at heart .

Listen, you don't deserve whomever you don't give a genuine attention to.

You can't treat someone like a piece of garbage and expect to be treated like a diamond..

~ Every clean compound has its committed cleaner..

Admiration doesn't make a relationship but commitment does....

No relationship exists without communication..

" I'm busy may be an excuse " but it can never build a healthy relationship....

~ If it's not working out, why pretend?

One of the greatest way to respect your partner is to value his/ her feelings and time....

#When Marriage is @Heart#

~ You must plan together to avoid distance at heart...

√ Don't allow your partner to beg for attention.
√ Don't use the past against him/her...
√ Don't date by deceit....

~ There is no profit in Wasting people's time.

" If you know it won't work out, why keep someone for 2, 3, 5, 4, 6, years just for fun?
Haba! That's sheer wickedness...

* when you're mentally ready; you will be conscious of people's time and feelings....

The problem is that we give little to relationships yet expect to reap a bountiful harvest of marriage..

No one wakes up in the morning and starts a journey without a destination..

Are you dating for marriage or for fun?

Why most people struggle in their relationship is because they are dating for fun and not marriage..

Dating for sex and not love...

Dating for money and not vision..

We want to know how long he/ she can last in bed..
But difficult to know how long he/she can last in prayers...

Are you mentally, socially, spiritually, and economically ready?
Just ask yourself this.

Marriage is a responsibility; if you're not compatible you can't work together...

" Remember They Will Soon come Back...

Stop waiting in vacuum, watch body language and intention..

~ Not everyone loves you for you, most people love because of what they want..because of their selfish desires.

If the body language, words and actions are not correlational, know it that something huge is cooking hence don't wait for it to get done before you decide to take a walk .

Don't invest your feelings and time
Cut if off....

Keep good communication..
Give every necessary attention
Show care to keep your love...

Marriage is honourable; but don't marry when you're doing nothing.

Every other person is a distraction, if you're truly in love..

Love is wise!

#COACH
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A woman has sex because she wants the man.

A man has sex because he wants sex.

Do you see the difference?

Sex is a physical thing to some men.

But for a woman, sex is both physical and emotional.

A woman can have sex because of love. But a man can have sex because of sex.

Before a woman can have sex with you, she must have feelings for you. She must be emotionally attached to you.

That EROS dimension of love will be there.

Hardly will you find a woman having sex with a man she does not love. Except if she's a prostitute.

But for a man, the reverse can be the case. A man may have no iota of love for you, and still have sex with you.

This is why a man can hire a prostitute just to have sex. He doesn't need to love the prostitute before he fulfills his sexual desire.

Now, understand this:

As a woman, a man can use you to feed his sexual desires. He can even give you money. He can take you out. All because he wants sex, not you!

If you want to know if a man truly loves you, don't give him sex. Sit back and watch.

If he leaves you because you don't give him sex, then he doesn't love you. He only loves sex!

Dear young adult girl!

As you're growing up and getting closer to the journey of marriage life..please try to understand that you can choose a husband for yourself but your kids can't choose their father, while choosing a father for them pls choose a father, a friend, a tutor, a believer, and guidance for them...

And don't forget to be a good mother. You can raise a hero and not a zero
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I used one hour 45minutes to write this but you can use 15 minutes to read.

TIPS TO MANAGING POST BREAK UP ERA


Going by incidences of break ups, disappointments, heartbreaks being experienced especially by ladies, guys not left out but you will agree with me that ladies are the worst hit. 


The need to learn how to manage the post break up is very important, I am inspired to write about it in order to help people walk through this critical period. 


Read and be Intentional about doing them.


Breakups and the emotions they bring up are complicated. Relief, confusion, heartbreak, grief — all of these are perfectly normal reactions to the end of a relationship. Even if things end in healthy and productive way, you’ll probably still be left with some uncomfortable feelings.


The following tips can help.


1. Establish boundaries.


It’s sometimes easy to avoid crossing paths with an ex-partner after a breakup. But what if you live in the same town or attending the same church? Hard you say. You can actually set a clear boundaries for future contact.


2. Take some time apart.


Even if you decide to maintain normal friendship, a little space for sometime won't hurt. Taking a break from texting and hanging out together would help a lot in the healing process. This gives you time to focus on yourself. It can also help you avoid falling into a harmful pattern of offering emotional support to your ex-partner and prolonging the breakup.


3. Respect each other's need.


If you want to stay friends but your ex doesn’t want any contact, you need to respect that. Don’t call, text, or ask their friends to talk to them for you.


You might miss them dearly, but not respecting their boundaries will likely hurt any future chance of friendship.


Alternately, if your ex contacts you, especially before you’re ready to talk, don’t feel obligated to respond. This can be difficult, especially if they seem vulnerable or express feelings similar to your own. Remind yourself that you both need time and space to deal with those difficult emotions and wait until the no-contact period has passed.


4. Maintain physical and emotional boundaries. There are things you do together before the break up, like you always hold each other hands when walking together, this is good as it builds intimacy but try as much as possible to avoid this after the break up.


It brings the feeling of "seems like we never broke up" and that will only compound issue.


4. Resist the urge of checking your ex's social media page.


You might be tempted if you see him or her with someone new. May be you want to know if they feel as awful as you do or you are looking for that status update of them missing you or wanting you back. But ask yourself "what will looking at their page accomplish?" probably nothing healthy. So avoid it.


5. Express yourself.


Normally anger, resentment, self pity, confusion, hatred etc will set in after break up. Let it flow but avoid wallowing in them. You take comfort in the reason for the break up "in the best interest of the two of you" right?


6. Prioritize self care.


Everyday do things that makes you happy, things that nurtures you, things that add value to you, things that motivate you.


7. Do the things you love.


Post break up era provide you with opportunity to do what you always love to do. Now you have enough time. Do it! In fact see it as an opportunity in disguise to discover yourself. Read books. Serve God and man.


8. Manage your social media engagement.


Don't post about the break up. If you and your ex agree to be friends, don't unfollow them. There is more to life.


9. Take your time.


Healing is very important before going into another relationship in order not to experience the same mistake. Make sure you are ready for another relationship so that you don't unleash your pain, anger, frustration on your partner.


10. Pray. Connect to God He can always help you walk it through. You can do nothing without Him.


I believe this is helpful. You don't need this? Send it to those who need it. 
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Our sanity is sacrosanct.


You know I love you.


An impactful and responsible relationship and marriage is possible.
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We are dating people who are busy doing meet ups with other people while we still in the picture, people who are brave to sleep with someone else and come back to sleep with you, a person who will look deep in your eyes and say I love you while they don't mean it.


We are a generation were alcohol is turned into cool drinks, Relationship are hobbies, Breaking a girls virginity is an achievement, Hurting someone is a joke, Beating up your girlfriend is a discipline, Suicide becomes natural Death and cheating is a part of relationship .
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DEAR YOUNG MEN,

Remember your Creator in the days of your youth (Eccl 12:1). Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching (Prov 1:8). Do not spend your strength on women (Prov 31:3).

Rejoice in the wife of your youth (Prov 5:18). Those that despise discipline die when they are young, after wasting their lives in immoral living (Job 36:14). You only have one LIFE, so please take care of it, use it positively.

Life moves pretty fast. Work hard while young. The glory of young men is their strength (Prov 20:29). There’s an old man, your future self - who will depend on your youth. Grow from the inside out, and remember, you will not be young forever.

A man should bear the yoke in his youth (Lam 3:27). Use your youth to store up for your sunset years. We blossom like a flower and then wither. Like a passing shadow, we quickly disappear (Job 14:2).

Respect your elders. Be humble for God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble (1 Pet 5:5). And don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young (1 Tim 4:12). Be a role model to your peers.

May the good Lord keep on blessing you and protect you young man from all the wickedness Amen.
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Happy weekend Dearies.
I truly wish you the very best in life.
But the truth is, no matter how well anyone can wish you or how well you pray, if you don't take actions and make choices to achieve the best in life it won't happen. No matter how powerful your prophet is, how potent the 'direction' (akwankyire) is, no amount of 'i receive it' and 'amen' to positive declarations will bring results except actions taken. When we pray, may we listen and act aright.

Best regards: Ms. Sark LifeCoach
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As a new week starts tomorrow, reflect today and go into the week with a set target to add value to your life. Be conscious to achieve something
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When they move from Europe to Africa, = *Voyages of discovery.*

When we moved from Africa to Europe = *Illegal immigrants.*

A group of Africans in Europe = *Refugees.*

A group of Europeans in Africa = *Tourists.*

A group of Africans in the bush = *Poachers*

A group of Europeans in the bush = *Hunters.*

Black people working in a foreign country = *foreigners*

White people working in a foreign country = *expats*

*Did this world fail Africa or did we fail ourselves? Food for thought!!*

*IN FACT, THE GREATEST STUPIDITY NORMALIZED BY AFRICANS IS:*

When a French citizen does not speak English, Africans respect him.

When a Spaniard doesn't speak English, Africans respect him.

When a Chinese person doesn't speak English, Africans respect him.

When a Russian doesn't speak English, Africans respect him.

When a Portuguese person doesn't speak English, Africans respect him.

But when an African does not speak English, Africans consider him a joke, unintelligent, illiterate, dumb and stupid.

This is the level or extent of the harm we have suffered as a people. We use English as a parameter to measure the intelligence of our people, including children.

In our schools, children are led to believe that they are stupid just because they cannot speak a language foreign to their ancestral trajectory.

Dear Africans, put an end to this mental slavery. Teach your children your mother tongue and allow locals to feel free to speak their native language without any stigma.

Do not help oppressors to prolong their oppression.

If you come across this post, please share it widely to spread this message and enlighten an African. The people around you need to hear this. It's a collective effort. Do not break the chain of mental revolution.
#africaworldnews
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You need power only when you want to do harm otherwise LOVE is enough to get everything done.
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MY HUSBAND MADE ME CRY ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT

As a Lady we all look forward to our wedding day and particular our wedding night. We know how precious that first night with our husband will be. So I have always looked forward to my wedding night.

Unfortunately my wedding night became the most painful day of my life. When we got into bed I expected us to do what newly married couples will do. That was when my husband said he has a confession to make. He said some years back he had an accident that affected his spine and because of that he could no longer perform as man. I though he was joking until I confirmed and saw it was true.

When we were dating he made me agree that we will not do anything until our wedding night and I agreed, believing my man is a good man. Not knowing he had something he has been hiding. I feel so sad and I haven't stop crying.

I don't know who to even share my pains with, what should I do in this situation?
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How to differentiate between true love and fake love

FAKE LOVE/LUST

1.. The feeling arises from hormones

2.. Only felt as a gentile sensation

3.. Is primal instinct

4.. Only sexual desire and physical attraction

5.. Focuses only on a persons looks and body

6.. You want sex and not conversation

7.. You don't discuss feelings, just fantasy

8.. You say what they want to hear

9.. Silence is uncomfortable

TRUE LOVE

1.. Physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual attraction

2.. The feeling arises from the heart and soul

3.. Is felt as a deep feeling of peace

4.. Is universal consciousness

5.. Focuses beyond the physical body and looks

6.. You explore deeply into one another

7.. You discuss and express feelings openly

8.. You listen to them intently

9.. Silence is understood
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There are still many beautiful marriages out there. Yours can be one. It begins with a choice
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Decide, Discuss and
Determine to do
something exceptionally
*GOOD FOR SOMEONE*
this week and your life
would never be the same.
Good morning
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PHYSIOLOGICAL BLOOD GROUP AWARENESS           

Maria got married in the year 2010, from that time till now she has been rocked with 10 heart breaking miscarriages. To her, she blames the terrible experience on the witches in her village, she doesn't know that she and the Nigerian dysfunctional system is the cause of her predicament. I will tell you how, seat back and enjoy this brief lecture.

Have you ever heard of the word Rhesus factor?
Rh factor is a protein that can be present on the surface of the red-blood cell. People that have the Rh factor are Rh positive +, those who do not have the Rh factor are grouped as Rh negative-.

The + and - in front of the blood group is the rhesus factor. So we A+, A-, O+, O-, B+, B-, AB+, AB-. Rhesus factor is genetic, it's gotten from the parents emphatically the man. 
Now that we are clear on what Rh factor is let us move further to why I said Maria  is the cause of her miscarriages .

If you are Rh positive eg (a+, b+, o+, ab+) you are safe, but if you are negative eg (a-, B-, AB-, O-)  you are not. If are a male Rh - you are safe, if you are a female you aren't safe. If you  a rh- woman and you get pregnant for a man who is rh- you are safe but if you get pregnant for a man who is Rh+ you aren't safe.
Most people are Rh positive only very few are negative, the possibility for a rh- woman to find a rh- man is slim, that's where the problem lies.

Let us assume Maria is rh- and during her school days she aborted a pregnancy, the man who got her pregnant then was rh+, obviously her baby was rh+.
During abortion, the rh+ blood came in contact with her rh- blood. That was the beginning of her problem.

Once rh- comes in contact with an rh+, a certain antibodies are activated. This antibodies are activated to stop anything they think is a threat from coming into the body. E.g a baby.  A rh- woman with an activated antibodies would keep having miscarriages, the antibodies would keep fighting and taking off any foetus. The woman might end up childless and if not properly informed might think she is under a demonic oppression, she will be spending nights in Churches out of ignorance. She may even think that God has forsaken Her.
Women with activated antibodies are RH sensitized and once this antibodies are activated it can never be deactivated until the woman dies.

Antibodies are activated in a rh- woman by abortion, ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage and child birth.
During child birth of a rh- woman who got pregnant by a rh+ man, children inherit their rhesus factor from the man so once the baby's  rh+ comes in contact with the woman rh- during delivery the antibodies are immediately activated so after that particular child birth the woman would keep having miscarriages because the activated antibodies would as usual fight off any foreign body.

The antibodies can be stopped from being activated by administering an injection known as Rh Immunoglobulin to a negative woman .
The injection is administered 28wks into pregnancy, 72 hrs after delivery, after ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage or abortion. If it's not administered and the antibodies are activated, it would never be deactivated.

Because our dysfunctional health system doesn't promote proper rhesus factor sensitization, Maria is left helpless after one mistake.
Mothers,  tell your girls and sisters, a rh- girl must be extremely careful. Because of the very small number of rh- people, it's extremely rare to find a rh- man. The possibility to get pregnant for a rh+ man is high. Once  she gets pregnant for a positive man and rushes to have a quick abortion, she might have as well jeopardized her future for life.

Apart from this, a woman with a negative rhesus factor has no problem. it can however be controlled with rh Immunoglobulin injection.
A rh- man or woman cannot receive blood donation from a rh+. it would lead to death as the blood would immediately clog and cake.
Operation know your rhesus factor today. Check into any near by hospital and test your blood group.
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