"A man's worth is revealed by the height of his aims, not the hunger of his desires."
Marcus Aurelius
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A high degree of intellect tends to make a man unsocial. For the more he finds within himself, the less he needs from the outside world. Most people cannot bear silence because it forces them to confront themselves. So they fill their lives with noise, distraction. and endless entertainment. But the deeper a person thinks, the more exhausting, shallow company becomes. And so, without hatred for humanity he slowly learns to enjoy solitude. Not because he thinks he is better than others, but because peace becomes more valuable than belonging
Arthur Schopenhauer
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Forwarded from Aziz Rahimov
O'zgarish
1. Odamdagi barcha yaxshi xislatlar fikrlash ortidan keladi. Adashadi. FIkrlaydi. To'g'rilaydi. O'zgaradi.
2. O'zgarish uchun odam o'z fikri xato ekanligini tan olishi kerak. Ko'pchilik uchun bu qiyin ish. Atrofingga qara - nechta odamni yillar o'tib eshitib, "iye ancha o'zgarib ketibdi", nechtasi haqida "haliyam o'sha" degan fikrga kelasan?
3. O'z fikrini eng to'g'ri deb o'ylagan odam qotib qoladi. Chunki unga yangi fikr kerak emas. O'ziniki eng to'g'ri. Noto'g'ri bo'lsa ham, isbotlanmagan bo'lsa ham. Kibrning alomati bu.
4. Bilmaslik ayb emas. Bilaman deb o'ylashlik ayb. Birinchisini o'zgartirsa bo'ladi. Ikkinchisi esa senga seni sohangda dars beradi. U fikrlashni "bilaman" degan illuziyaga almashtirib yuborgan.
5. Agar har 6 oyda o'zingga o'zing - "1 yil oldin g'irt ahmoq bo'lgan ekanman" demayotgan bo'lsang - yetarli tezlikda o'zgarmayapsan. Yangi fikrlar shakllantirmayapsan.
6. O'zgarishdan qo'rqma. Agar umuman o'zgarmagan bo'lganimizda - gap eshitishdan qo'rqgandan yoki qizlarga yoqish uchungina bir ish qiladigan maktab bolasi bo'lib qolib ketardik. Qizig'i atrofingdagi ba'zilar hali ham shunday.
1. Odamdagi barcha yaxshi xislatlar fikrlash ortidan keladi. Adashadi. FIkrlaydi. To'g'rilaydi. O'zgaradi.
2. O'zgarish uchun odam o'z fikri xato ekanligini tan olishi kerak. Ko'pchilik uchun bu qiyin ish. Atrofingga qara - nechta odamni yillar o'tib eshitib, "iye ancha o'zgarib ketibdi", nechtasi haqida "haliyam o'sha" degan fikrga kelasan?
3. O'z fikrini eng to'g'ri deb o'ylagan odam qotib qoladi. Chunki unga yangi fikr kerak emas. O'ziniki eng to'g'ri. Noto'g'ri bo'lsa ham, isbotlanmagan bo'lsa ham. Kibrning alomati bu.
4. Bilmaslik ayb emas. Bilaman deb o'ylashlik ayb. Birinchisini o'zgartirsa bo'ladi. Ikkinchisi esa senga seni sohangda dars beradi. U fikrlashni "bilaman" degan illuziyaga almashtirib yuborgan.
5. Agar har 6 oyda o'zingga o'zing - "1 yil oldin g'irt ahmoq bo'lgan ekanman" demayotgan bo'lsang - yetarli tezlikda o'zgarmayapsan. Yangi fikrlar shakllantirmayapsan.
6. O'zgarishdan qo'rqma. Agar umuman o'zgarmagan bo'lganimizda - gap eshitishdan qo'rqgandan yoki qizlarga yoqish uchungina bir ish qiladigan maktab bolasi bo'lib qolib ketardik. Qizig'i atrofingdagi ba'zilar hali ham shunday.
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People say that love is rare. I am not so sure. What is rare is something even more desirable. Understanding. There is no point in being loved if you are not understood. They are simply loving an idea of you they have in their mind. They are in love with love. They are in love with their loving. To be understood, and not only that, but to be understood and appreciated once understood. That is what matters.
Matt Haig, “The Life Impossible”
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