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๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ

"I hear you. I get your world. You are right!"

This is what I said to my Queen yesterday.

Moments before that she was expressing how she was feeling about something.

And what I was doing was I wasn't listening.

I wasn't listening because I (my ego) was busy protecting and surviving.

I was coming up with different versions of "But you are not hearing my point..."

When we are "defending" our point of view, we are listening through a filter that gives even more to defend.

And when we are "listening" that way, we are not HEARING the other person (because all we are hearing is our ego-based perspective).

The moment I realized what I was doing, I stopped listening - and defending (because I know I don't need to be "surviving" my wife) - and I started HEARING her!

And I heard her. I got her reality.

And I could see that from her perspective, she was right.

The effort to defend my perspective didn't allow me to see that.

At that moment, I felt deep compassion for both of us.

I also saw how my perspective was purely ego-driven and one-sided.

She felt listened to AND heard - she felt "gotten" (I got her world).

And I felt light and free.

From this new place, I knew how to replace my one-sided perspective with a new one that fully honors her, and it makes her feel safe with me - and serves my true self, not my constantly scared and surviving (ego) self.

I'm sharing this very personal story with you because I know that YOU haven NOT been heard many times before...

And I know that you haven't heard OTHERS just as many times (let's be honest).

The reality is we hurt the most the people we love the most.

And the way hurt starts is by NOT HEARING them, by not GETTING their world...

Because we are so busy SURVIVING... them - the people we love the most.

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If you've read the whole thing you probably have new questions now. Ask.

Or you may now have radically new thoughts from an insight you got while reading. In this case - share your thoughts - whatever is coming up. I'd love to meet you in your humanity ๐Ÿงก

Much love -

Ivan


P.S. If you are ready to heal your relationship with yourself so you can heal your relationship with others and Life itself - I can help. Message me privately if, and when, you are ready to explore this new level of growth, expansion, lightness, and freedom.
๐ˆ ๐š๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐š ๐›๐š๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง

If you really get what I'm about to share with you - and if you let it in - you'll never be the same!

I know this is a bold statement to make... but you be the judge at the end. You tell me!

Today I had a beautiful connection call with another coach.

We were in the same mastermind for coaches for the past 6 months, mentored by our teacher Peter Crone.

The mastermind just ended. She asked me:

"What was the insight from the last 6 months that transformed you the most?"

I said, I had many.

But the one that had a really profound impact on me was when I heard him say:

"You have never done anything wrong - ever!"

This is why this was so profound for me:

It enabled an entirely new level of self-acceptance...

Exactly as I am.

With all the things "I've done to others" that I was still judging myself for.

And because of this new level of self-acceptance...

- I stopped secretly feeling that I am a bad person
- I completely stopped fighting with myself (more accurately - fighting my past self)
- I have also made peace in advance with my future mess-ups... because I'll mess up again
- I now have an entirely new level of compassion for myself

And all of this amounts to an entirely new level of inner peace.

But that's not all.

It also took my ABILITY TO RELATE to others to a level that I didn't previously know existed. (This alone skyrocketed my coaching skills!)

And as a result, every time I get to be with another person (including with a client) my default "baseline" is this:

- They have never done anything wrong - ever!
- They did what they did, which was absolutely appropriate for the level of awareness and the tools they had at the time
- They did what they did - and there are CONSEQUENCES, and there's RESPONSIBILITY. But it wasn't "wrong"!
- Right now they judge themselves because..

[Read the full article on my website. Link: https://ivannikolov.com/you-have-never-done-anything-wrong-ever/ ]
๐ˆ๐ง ๐œ๐š๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ๐๐š๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ "๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐๐š๐ฒ"

I don't know what day you are having today.

An amazing day.

Or a day in which you feel under-resourced, disconnected, frustrated, violated, angry, unexpressed, or resigned.

Chances are it's somewhere close to 50/50.

I'm writing this message to tell you that all of it is okay.

You don't have to feel bad for feeling bad - it's okay.

You don't have to avoid feeling bad either.

Not only that, but if today is one of "these days", the part of you that feels under-resourced is asking to be acknowledged.

It's asking to be listened to.

And it's asking to be held.

Not judged, ignored, denied.

Nobody feels good all the time.

Nobody!

And, that's exactly what it means to be alive!

So embrace the crappy days just like you embrace the amazing days.

To be in the experience and presence of true JOY means to feel fully ALIVE.

And both types of days offer this gift for you.

Don't be afraid to unpack it.

Don't be afraid to feel fully ALIVE!

What day is today for you?

Perfect! I celebrate you ๐Ÿงก

Much love -

Ivan


P.S. If you are ready to heal your relationship with yourself so you can heal your relationship with others and Life itself - I can help. Message me privately when you are ready to explore these new levels of growth, expansion, lightness, and freedom.
๐‘๐ž๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ...

It is NOT a problem to feel inadequate and insecure (however that could look like - fear, dread, avoidance, resignation, smallness, not-good-enoughness).

And, It is NOT a problem to allow AND to feel all your feelings and emotions, including the ones you are embarrassed by or simply afraid to fully feel (shame, guilt, anger, resentment, bitterness, rejection, etc)

It's just that so much more is available for you.

But NONE of it is wrong. It's human.

And anybody who tells you the opposite, they either...

- don't understand and are themselves living in ignorance or denial, or

- they are trying to sell you something

Or both.

Here's the truth:

There's nothing wrong with you, including your insecurities and inadequacies, your pain, hurt, and fears!

Embrace all of it. Allow all of it to be a part of your experience.

In time, what's not yours (your false identities and all the lies) will fall away.

And more and more of what's available to you will be revealed.

Wishing you a week of profound depth of experiences... and a pinch of magic ๐Ÿ™‚

Much love

Ivan
๐Ž๐ง ๐…๐ž๐š๐ซ & ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐…๐ž๐š๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐…๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ( ๐€๐ฅ๐œ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿง™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ”ฎ )

I remember a mentor explaining about fear some years ago.

He said when we talk about Fear we literally create it as if it is an entity.

Once it is created we feel we have to deal with it the same way - as a separate entity.

And he said fear is nothing more than a bunch of sensations and feelings in the body in the present moment.

I remember thinking about it. It was true.

Back then, in my perception, fear had the shape of a human but it was dark and almost like the face of a monster. That's how I had "created" it.

And, I had to deal with that every time I felt fear.

The reason why I'm mentioning this is because I now realize - because of the social stigma that we've created about failure - it also might appear as a separate scary entity for a lot of people.

And failure combined in a phrase like the "Fear of Failure" - becomes something really big and potent to deal with in the perception of an individual when...

...Fear is nothing more than the anticipation of a future that hasn't happened yet.

And failure is a true treasure by way of the feedback and the learnings it offers.

And all it takes is a shift in perspective...

And practice.
๐ˆ'๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ - ๐ˆ ๐๐จ๐ง'๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ง - ๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ '๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฆ๐ž

I love to work with introverts with a strong inner sense of mission because...

- They are powerful but they pretend that they are not (because it's too painful to know that you are powerful while staying in the current familiar reality)

- They tend to take much longer to start believing in themselves and get going on what truly matters to them

- They tend to be in indecision (because they don't trust themselves or think they are not worthy) or in denial (because this way they can tolerate life)

- They tend to have a much higher tolerance for pain

- They struggle for too long with their current limiting beliefs, insecurities, and inadequacies

- They feel that they are alone and they have to figure it out all alone (they rarely seek help, if ever).

Is what I mentioned above familiar to you? It is very familiar to me.

I am an introvert.

And I wish I didn't spend decades feeling that I'm different, that I don't fit in, that something is wrong with me.

I wish I didn't feel insecure, indecisive, inadequate, and scarce for as long as I did.

I wish I didn't tolerate pain and hurt for as long as I did - because it was familiar (known to me) while change and transformation were unfamiliar and scary.

I wish I knew much earlier that I am not alone - and I'm not required to figure out Life all alone.

I wish I had powerful mentors much earlier than I did (I hired my first coach in 2016) so that I didn't have to desperately try and hold onto fragile new beliefs while the old ones were refusing to let go of me.

This is why I love to coach and mentor introverts - they remind me of me and what I've gone through.

And because I know deep in my bones how to help them be fully expressed and alive NOW - not someday... or never.

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If this message spoke to you in a way that you recognize, let me know. I want to help you.

You don't have to do it all alone.

Much love -

Ivan
๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐จ๐ง'๐ญ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž

Let's make things easy...

What's your purpose in life?

What's the highest purpose in every-single-person's life?

I just had a mastermind call with soulmates. And this came up in the call.

And it asked to be spoken about. Revisited again. Contemplated in later quiet hours (which is where this text is originating).

Powerful questions that I've spent years banging my head against the wall trying to understand.

I do know today.

And... I oftentimes still forget... and get carried away inside the physical world of achievement.

The purpose in life is not to build businesses, make lots of money, acquire things, leave a legacy, or help save the human race

(Though it might inspire those things... and that's fine as long as we don't get confused and carried away).

The real purpose in every person's life is this - ready?

Two levels...

( read the full article on my website here: https://ivannikolov.com/if-you-still-dont-know-your-purpose/ )
๐๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ž, ๐๐จ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐‹๐ˆ๐…๐„ ๐š๐ ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ

It hurts.

A lot!

I know because I used to hurt myself constantly.

And I didn't know I was doing it. I thought LIFE was doing it to me.

Here's one big way how in toda'y tech-driven world we use life against ourselves.

We constantly COMPARE ourselves to others - tech facilitates precisely that.

Here's the truth.

It is one thing to RELATE to others so that you can KNOW yourself.

That's good.

But COMPARING your life to other people's lives - that's a dis-ease called "comparisonitis"...

And it's not good.

It leaves most people deflated, discouraged, depressed, even resigned.

Comparisonitis is how we use LIFE against ourselves.

And it oftentimes costs lives.

Here's what you need to know to stop this "infection" right now:

1. You have different lessons "to learn" than anyone else

2. You have different ego-based non-Self layers to discard than anyone else

3. Nobody's life is all roses and unicorns - NOBODY'S! People simply have problems at different scales than you and I

No 3, by the way, is a Universal requirement. Really!

Why?

Because we grow only when we are challenged so we can stretch beyond our current self.

Everybody gets that.

And because having experiences throughout the entire spectrum (desired and undesired) is the only way pure consciousness can experience itself through you.

So you'll get all of it.

That's why your life will never look like anyone else's simply because you are on your unique journey of healing and expansion.

So please stop comparing yourself to others. Stop using LIFE against yourself.

And start appreciating your own unique journey.

So that you can finally start living - fully!

Much love ๐Ÿงก

Ivan
If I were to put together a 45-min complimentary workshop that will help address:

- Feeling stuck or at a standstill
- Having blocks, blind spots, and subconscious limiting "stories" (and not knowing how to fix them)
- Feeling limited, muted, and scared to fully be yourself
- Surviving instead of thriving - at work, in your relationships, health, and life


And at the end of this workshop you will:

- Have a profound understanding of why people get stuck
- Know how and when you developed your subconscious blocks and limitations
- Learn about the fastest and most efficient way to overcome your biggest blocks (by rewiring your brain)
- Discover ways to permanently rewrite your brain and free yourself from your limiting subconscious narratives (without having to work on that for years and still not get it done)


Would you be interested in knowing more about this workshop?
"๐ˆ ๐ค๐ž๐ž๐ฉ ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ง๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ"

If that's something you've ever said or thought to yourself - read on. (If not, you probably know someone who has - share this with them)

I'm not a relationships coach. And I don't have to be.

This is pure psychology - and that's what I DO understand and am good at.

Here's how this works...

A person meets someone another person. It's great for a bit. But soon they discover that the other person is emotionally unavailable to them.

Then the person will either start compensating by becoming needy in the relationship (this doesn't work out well)

Or they will simply extract themselves from the relationship - hurt and wounded... even more (this doesn't work out well either)

No matter which way it goes, at the deepest level (much deeper than "I'm not good enough for them") the person will make this mean...

I'm not wanted, or

I'm not important, or

I don't matter, or

I'm not lovable


Only... they DIDN'T "decide" this about themselves now - they did a long long time ago...

In their childhood.

Now they are simply confirming that and adding more evidence to what they already know about themselves at the deepest subconscious level.

But how did this happen in the first place? - you may ask.

Here's how:

As a small child (0-7) the person experienced one or more of the following:

๐Ÿ˜” One or both parents were emotionally unavailable to one another

๐Ÿ˜” One or both parents were too self-preoccupied and rarely gave attention to the child (usually the mother)

๐Ÿ˜” One or both parents are emotionally and/or intellectually unavailable to the child

And to make sense of that reality, the child had to find a way to "explain" it to themselves usually by making this whole story mean that "I'm not wanted", or "I'm not important", or "I don't matter", or "I'm not lovable" - purely as a survival strategy.

Once they decided that about themselves they had to start adapting to that "inner truth" by adjusting their fragile self-concept accordingly...

And then spend the rest of their life subconsciously "orchestrating" the events to meet the people that will help them add more evidence to support their inner truth.

So what's the way out of that?
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[Full article: https://ivannikolov.com/attracting-emotionally-unavailable-partners/ ]
There's nothing wrong with you. And there has never been anything wrong with you. You "decided" that at one point early in your life because... that was the only way you could make sense of your circumstances. You simply had to survive.

And you did.

Now you can let go of this idea.

It's now SAFE to let go of this idea!

๐Ÿ™๐Ÿงก
๐€ ๐œ๐š๐ฌ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ (๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ)

I'm going to make a case for why you are worthy (you are good enough) without having to qualify for it - ever!

First, worthiness (good enough-ness) is the same as inherent value.

Great. So, now think of a baby.

If you've ever had a baby this will be easy for you to relate to. (I have a baby, now 7 months old, and this is very alive in me right now.)

When you think of your baby (or a baby) you don't think "Oh, well, it's kinda okay. Though, I'm not very happy with it because it's not doing much - it's not working, it's not doing the dishes or cleaning the house, and it's not helping with anything. It's even creating a mess. So, I don't know... but I'll take care of it because I think it has a future potential - it might have some value in the future... I don't know..."

Can you see how ridiculous this is?

Hear me carefully!!!

We love a baby for WHO THEY ARE, not for their future potential - to work, produce value, create, pay us back, etc.

Thereโ€™s no expectation for them to โ€œbe of valueโ€ so they can be valuable now.

They ARE VALUABLE NOW!

No conditions, no expectations for them to "deserve" or prove their value.

They are valuable by just being here, by being themselves, and by the fact that they are pure MIRACLE.

A baby's value is inherent!

Guess what.

You are that baby. You are that miracle. Nowhere in your growing up and becoming an adult did you disqualify.

You are valuable now - meaning you are worthy and good enough...

Now!

You don't have to deserve or prove your inherent value/worth.

Now I want to quickly address a couple of big sources of confusion...


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[Link to full text https://ivannikolov.com/this-is-exactly-why-you-are-good-enough/]
Who and how will you BE and what will you DO if you knew that you cannot get life wrong, that you cannot mess life up - even if you tried?

This is a BIG question to ponder. And it could be incredibly liberating once you realize that you cannot mess it up - ever!

You will always be exactly where you need to be ...and nothing outside of that will available to you at that moment.

In other words, you simply do not have the power to avoid your own journey.

And if you truly get that there will be an overwhelming feeling that you will experience.

If you do, I'd love to know what that was for you ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ™‚
๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ

โ€œWhether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.โ€ โ€• Henry Ford

Similarly...

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think your destiny is predetermined or you think your future is for you to design--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think that life happens to you or you think life happens for you--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think that life is unfair or you think that life has got your back--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think there's something wrong with you or you think that you are fine exactly as you are--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think you could have or should have done something differently in the past or you think you've done the best you could with the mindset you had at the time--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think you have a problem or you think you have a view of something and you can shift your view--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think that it's too late for you to go for your dreams or you think that you can go for your dreams at any age--you are right.

๐Ÿ”ฎ Whether you think that what you've gone through has damaged you irreversibly or you think that what has happened is your gift--you are right.

๐Ÿ’ก All of it is just a perspective. And it's that perspective that continuously shapes your future.

๐Ÿง™๐Ÿป Be careful what you think, believe, and know about yourself right now because you are either designing a new future or preparing to repeat more of your past.

๐Ÿงก Much love

Ivan


P.S. When you are ready to discover and dissolve your biggest subconscious blocks, blind spots, and limiting self-definitions - and start living a juicy life that really excites you - reach out. Let's chat about how I can help you create that in months, not years.
๐‡๐ž๐ซ๐ž'๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ "๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ " ๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ

...and how to want in joy instead of pain and suffering

How often do you want to be somewhere else rather than where you now are?

And I don't mean physically, but rather in the sense of "I'm not okay where I am right now and I want things to be different".

If you are like most people, my guess is.. pretty often.

Okay. You know that I am in the business of liberating others from their own limitations, resistance, and suffering (because that's been my journey, too).

So let's talk about the TWO Energies of WANTING...

Energy 1: Resistance

Wanting to be somewhere else because I'm not okay with life the way it is right now. So I want it to change.

One powerful thing that my mentor Peter Crone taught me is this: You are always where you are and never where you WANT to be.

Why is this powerful?

Because the result of what we want is always in the future.

And we are NEVER in the future. We are always here in the present moment.

So every time we think "I want my life to be different" we are reinforcing that life is not okay the way it is right now, and we are in the scarcity energy of "not having" what we want.

The most important thing to understand is that wanting always happens in a present/now moment while what we want is always in the future - and we are never in the future.

And that's in perpetuity - every time we "want", the moment of wanting will be a present/now moment!

Energy 2..


[link to the full article https://ivannikolov.com/heres-why-wanting-is-oftentimes-very-painful/ ]
The how-to is never important.

It is never the real question.

And it is never the real (or right) answer.

Hereโ€™s what helped me truly get and fully accept this ideaโ€ฆ

For every โ€œright wayโ€ of doing something there is at least one person (and more like many) in the world doing it the โ€œwrong wayโ€ - and is successful in it.

Just think about it. Really think.

So next time you catch yourself looking for the right how-to - keep that in mindโ€ฆ

There isnโ€™t a right how-to!

So then what matters if itโ€™s not the how-to?

Great question.

What matters isโ€ฆ

SELF-BELIEF

Believing deeply, having a conviction that your how-to WILL WORK!

In other words, itโ€™s about the WHO!

Itโ€™s about the being vs the doing - who you are being at the level of core beliefs when taking action.

Itโ€™s all energetics.

Now you finally know why people will take the exact steps (how-to) of someone else, theyโ€™ll do all of it, and they still donโ€™t get the results that the person with the self-belief did.

This is a game-changerโ€ฆ noโ€ฆ a life-changed to understand.

When you do, the questions you will start asking will be entirely different than the questions you are asking now.

Have a joyful weekend.

Much love -

Ivan

P.S. If you need help with reprogramming your self-beliefs and upgrading your self-concept message me and letโ€™s have a chat.
๐๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ

Have you always had high expectations of yourself?

Is personal growth one of your top values or pillars in life?

Then read this. Chances are...

You have felt alone on your growth journey, or

You have felt discouraged and tired of having to constantly "work at it" just to keep your head above the water in the emotional and psychological "ocean of life"".

Here's something I wanted to share with you:

I've been on my own growth journey almost my entire life.

But the last year has been the steepest and the most challenging one.

I've managed to dismantle many core-level subconscious limiting beliefs (and I still have work to do on this level - I'm not 'there' yet).

There are also many beliefs that I wanted to believe in because they were important to me not only as an individual but also as a coach.

Two of them are:

- Being the person who has the outcome vs the person trying to get the outcome, and

- Being the person who is a product of his product

The first belief means putting the energetics of becoming first and allowing action to come from that place.

The action in this instance is called (and it feels) aligned, authentic, and inspired.

Versus taking constant action from my current self (from insecurity, inadequacy, scarcity) - and expecting a different result.

(This never works because reality is always a mirror reflection of one's inner reality.)

The second belief means I use what I know for my healing and liberation first before I teach it to others.

It wasn't always that way. Now it is!

Working on these two beliefs has inspired a few very specific adjustments to WHO I am being (and I'm writing to you from that place).

So here's my BIG message for you today

No matter what you want, you must BEcome the person who has it first. That's the only way you can have what you want.

And if by chance you get what you want before doing the inner work (it happens sometimes) - you won't be able to keep it because you would NOT be the person who subconsciously deserves it (yet).

In other words, get your thoughts, feelings, and attitudes equal to the person who already has what you want.

This is not "the law of attraction" stuff - this is quantum physics, neuroscience, and epigenetics!

And if you don't know how to do that I can help you.

If this is you - message me.

(If this is someone you know - share this with them and let them decide what they want to do with it.)

Have a magical... and brave (if your path calls for that) week.

I celebrate you no matter where you are or where you want to go - and how.

There are no wrong paths. Only more efficient and less efficient paths.

Eventually, all roads merge at the same mountaintop. The only question is how many months or years... or lifetimes it will take.

Much love -

Ivan
After a trip to beautiful Tenerife for my lady's birthday, I'm coming back to you today with a big message.

Please, read carefully...

๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ž๐œ๐ญ. ๐ˆ'๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ž๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ. ๐…๐š๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ญ.

You have endured stuff in the past that has robbed you of your innate and pure authenticity.

I have as well. All of us have.

My message for you is this:

Being a messy human is a part of the game we call life. It's all by design.

If you are anything like me you've spent a good part of your life making yourself wrong for who you are (or aren't), and for how your life is going.

It's okay.

All of it is okay.

All your past hurt, all your present insecurities, all the ways you feel insufficient, damaged, or small - none of this is wrong.

So please, stop being hard on yourself for being a messy human having a messy and imperfect human experience - like the rest of us (no matter how much some are trying to hide that from the outside world).

Here is an invitation:

Accept and appreciate ALL of YOU - especially the messy parts!

They have suffered enough. They've been punished enough. They have been exiled for long enough.

It's time to bring all these parts closer to you. It's time to bring ALL of YOU to the center, to embrace ALL of YOU!

To feel your wholeness.

And to accept your wholeness amidst your messiness.

There is an incredible amount of lightness and magnetism in a person who can be messy and enough at the same time.

And there are no special qualifications to feel light and be magnetic.

The only requirement is for you to learn to BE with ALL of YOU.

Have an imperfect week full of realness, self-acceptance, and self-honoring.

Much love -

Ivan


P.S. When you are ready to remove your subconscious blocks and rapidly uplevel your self-concept so you can finally feel "at home" with yourself - message me.
๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ-๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก [๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ]

Feeling like you aren't measuring up (to other people's standards... or to your own standards)?

Like you are consistently falling behind - like you're not running fast enough?

Like there's something big that you have to achieve, to make something out of your life?

To become someone?

To get "there"?

I know that feeling way too well. When I immigrated to the United States, first because I was an immigrant trying to make it, and second because I was in THE US...

I, too, learned that I have to compete, to "make it".

I lived this way for two decades.

It exhausted me.

And after I lived for that long in total exhaustion both mentally and emotionally - I learned that I didn't have to get anywhere or become anyone.

I learned that I didn't have to save humanity or the planet.

Not that there's anything wrong with saving humanity or the planet.

The problem is when all of the efforts are coming from feeling the need to do all this because without it we feel insecure, inadequate, and insufficient (not good enough).

The true problem is the energy behind the efforts, you see?!

Contrast feeling like "I have to" be and do all these things with "I choose" or "I'd love" to - that is my aligned intention...

But I'm not attached to how that happens -- or even if that happens at all!

Because either way, I am at peace with myself.

That's the difference.

And that's the problem with combining...

-> the enormous influence of mass media, social media, unethical marketing, common social narratives

and

-> a human being who has a limited view of themselves due to unprocessed and unintegrated childhood and experiential trauma and hurt

I was personally so influenced by this combo - feeling not enough on so many levels while also feeling like I suck big time in comparison with what I was seeing others accomplish.

I no longer do.

I broke free from that. These days I am validated by me, not by what's happening or who thinks what of me.


[ Read the full text here: https://convertkit.ivannikolov.com/posts/the-reason-for-low-self-worth-and-how-to-change-it ]
๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฉ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ [๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‘ ๐ซ๐š๐๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ]

The new year is coming ("thanks, genius!" ๐Ÿ˜„)...

And with that - a set of new (or renewed) promises and commitments for life changes.

Based on how I know most of my new year commitments have gone in the past, and based on knowing that new commitments usually don't materialize for the majority of people...

(shhh - it's because of committing to new actions without changing one's limited view of themselves)...

Here's what you MUST do (in that order) to create a big, rapid, and permanent shift in your life:

1. Realize that your circumstances are - and will always be - a perfect mirror of your inner world - how you view yourself (the reality you live in today is a reflection of who you have been up until this moment. Right now you are pre-paving your future with your thoughts and emotions that are based on your programming)

2. Find out in what ways you subconsciously "believe" less of yourself - and expose all those limiting views of yourself for the lies they are

3. Learn to stop predicting your future based on your past (thus repeating it) - and to start creating your future from possibility (the way you used to when you were a child)

4. Learn to recognize your intuition (your natural guide) in the background of your negative ego-based self-talk - and to pay attention to it

5. Learn and practice taking action despite fear (and see for yourself how fast you grow in your self-confidence - confidence that nobody can take away from you)

You may be able to do all of this alone - with the help of role models and/or friends who can hold a safe space for you and can truly listen.

But it might take quite a bit of time.

I want to offer you to experience time travel - to get it done in just a few short months - just in time for a completely different year than any of the ones before that.

So

If you want help with any or all of the 5 rapid-shift steps I shared above let's talk.

We'll look together at your specific set of circumstances (I promise you they are not as bad as you now think) -- and at what you want to create instead (I'll ask you to make it even bigger and I'll help you see and feel exactly how and why you absolutely can!)

This alone will bring tremendous clarity. And it will create a shift in the way you view yourself and what you think is possible for you.

And if we are not a perfect match there's zero pressure to continue working with me after this call. Zero!

I dislike being pressured. And I don't do what I don't like being done to me.

Though I will coach you hard through all your limitations, fear, and low self-worth that will come up on the call - so the coaching will be there for sure ๐Ÿ™‚

If you are ready private message me and I'll send you the link where you can fill out a quick form and book a consultation call with me.

(You've waited long enough. More waiting and more thinking is unlikely to change how the next year is going to go.)

Talk to you soon.

Much love ๐Ÿงก

Ivan


P.S. If you feel good with where you are in your life and how the next year will be, and you know that you don't need my help - feel free to forward this text to someone you care about who may need help.

Even if it's just a consultation call they have with me they will thank you a lot - the insights and the clarity they'll get on the consultation call are guaranteed to shift how they view themselves - and their reality... even from this one call.
Wanna stop 99 percent of your feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, inadequate, insecure, and insufficient?

Here it is...

Stop comparing yourself and your life experience with others and their life experience.

Solved.

You can stop here... but if you want to know why - here's the rest:

Think about it... If you were the only human alive on this planet, you'd have nobody to relate to - and use that against yourself.

You would be happy, fulfilled, and full - because you wouldn't have any points of reference to know what anything else would feel like ๐Ÿ˜˜

Have a happy (and comparison-free) Sunday ๐Ÿฅฐ