If you see a beautiful women and you want to meet her but you do not take action to meet her…
Then it's a form of being dishonest with yourself.
For example, If you see a woman in a bar and she looks at you, and you stare at her all night without doing anything then on a deep level, you're being dishonest about you intentions.
If you're afraid to approach a woman, it's because somewhere inside you're more invested in her opinion of you than you are in your opinion of yourself.
You are more invested in her not rejecting you than you are in aligning yourself with your desires.
Then it's a form of being dishonest with yourself.
For example, If you see a woman in a bar and she looks at you, and you stare at her all night without doing anything then on a deep level, you're being dishonest about you intentions.
If you're afraid to approach a woman, it's because somewhere inside you're more invested in her opinion of you than you are in your opinion of yourself.
You are more invested in her not rejecting you than you are in aligning yourself with your desires.
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Understand:
Dating is like negotiation.
In any negotiation, the person with the most power is the one who’s able to walk away more easily.
Dating is like negotiation.
In any negotiation, the person with the most power is the one who’s able to walk away more easily.
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Entrepreneurship is funny because you start off to build a business, but in the end, the business builds you.
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When you’re running 3 to 4 girls in a rotation.
Girls basically will start showing up in your life out of nowhere.
3 women are too close to 2.
2 women are too close to 1
1 woman is too close to 0.
Always cultivate options.
Have mutliple streams of females.
That’s why I like to have a minimum of 4 women at all times that I rotate between.
Girls basically will start showing up in your life out of nowhere.
3 women are too close to 2.
2 women are too close to 1
1 woman is too close to 0.
Always cultivate options.
Have mutliple streams of females.
That’s why I like to have a minimum of 4 women at all times that I rotate between.
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PS: If you're ready to finally change your dating life this year and want the exact system to consistently get 1–3 dates per week in 30-60 days…
(without relying on dating apps or sacrificing your work)
Then you should book your Dating Game Plan Call here and we’ll show you the exact frameworks you need to get there + a custom roadmap: https://go.higherselfcircle.com/schedule
(without relying on dating apps or sacrificing your work)
Then you should book your Dating Game Plan Call here and we’ll show you the exact frameworks you need to get there + a custom roadmap: https://go.higherselfcircle.com/schedule
You can only ever be 1 of 3 guys a woman will have sex with:
1️⃣ The guy she thinks she can get resources or a relationship from. She makes this guy wait for sex & vets him thoroughly. Few men make the cut.
2️⃣ The guy she purely wants sex with and nothing else. Fast sex, but then she won’t see him again after.
3️⃣ The guy she wishes she could have a relationship with, but thinks she can’t, but he’s still sexy to her. Fast sex (no need to vet him thoroughly since “I can’t have him anyway”), but then if the guy shows her after that she actually has a chance with him, she will get excited & stick around.
Most men are the 1️⃣ guys by default. This is generally the top priority item to fix ASAP for the average guy who begins actively working on game + sex appeal (to not be stuck ‘waiting in line’ with girls forever…).
Guys in the 2️⃣ category have a lot of fun for a while but turn into huge messes once they start wanting relationships with girls but can’t get them to stick around.
Ultimately the guy you want to be is the 3️⃣ type of guy. However, this is the one that takes the MOST game: you need to communicate all of that
➡️ You have boyfriend qualities
➡️ While still being sexy
➡️ Meanwhile making her think you are UNAVAILABLE for a relationship
➡️ Yet without making her feel like YOU are rejecting HER for that yourself (else she will feel insulted and auto-reject)
1️⃣ The guy she thinks she can get resources or a relationship from. She makes this guy wait for sex & vets him thoroughly. Few men make the cut.
2️⃣ The guy she purely wants sex with and nothing else. Fast sex, but then she won’t see him again after.
3️⃣ The guy she wishes she could have a relationship with, but thinks she can’t, but he’s still sexy to her. Fast sex (no need to vet him thoroughly since “I can’t have him anyway”), but then if the guy shows her after that she actually has a chance with him, she will get excited & stick around.
Most men are the 1️⃣ guys by default. This is generally the top priority item to fix ASAP for the average guy who begins actively working on game + sex appeal (to not be stuck ‘waiting in line’ with girls forever…).
Guys in the 2️⃣ category have a lot of fun for a while but turn into huge messes once they start wanting relationships with girls but can’t get them to stick around.
Ultimately the guy you want to be is the 3️⃣ type of guy. However, this is the one that takes the MOST game: you need to communicate all of that
➡️ You have boyfriend qualities
➡️ While still being sexy
➡️ Meanwhile making her think you are UNAVAILABLE for a relationship
➡️ Yet without making her feel like YOU are rejecting HER for that yourself (else she will feel insulted and auto-reject)
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Every Man Needs to Learn Cold Approach (Here’s Why)
New Video just dropped on Youtube Today.
https://youtu.be/9kYhQPxJLns?si=vxtiroDdBveHIrYL
New Video just dropped on Youtube Today.
https://youtu.be/9kYhQPxJLns?si=vxtiroDdBveHIrYL
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Cold Approach Is a Non-Negotiable Skill for Men
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If I was still living in Tallinn, Estonia 🇪🇪 then it would be 2 degrees celsius right now and some bad weather.
Now that I work remotely and travel without a base, I went to Da Nang Vietnam 🇻🇳 for a few weeks.
It’s 30 degrees outside, food and accommodation are 3 times cheaper than in Europe.
Working at coffees, going the gym daily, walks on the beach everyday.
Plenty of digital nomads and travellers I connected with.
Feel much better overall.
Change your geography = Change your life.
Now that I work remotely and travel without a base, I went to Da Nang Vietnam 🇻🇳 for a few weeks.
It’s 30 degrees outside, food and accommodation are 3 times cheaper than in Europe.
Working at coffees, going the gym daily, walks on the beach everyday.
Plenty of digital nomads and travellers I connected with.
Feel much better overall.
Change your geography = Change your life.
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If you don't think there's a chance you'd marry your gf / bf you shouldn't date them exclusively or seriously.
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Before you get into a serious relationship:
Discuss
• Your long-term goals
• What you both want from life
• Boundaries
• Loyalty standards
• Social media behavior
• How you handle conflict
• Expectations in communication
• Money habits
• Lifestyle differences
• Jealousy triggers
• Dealbreakers
Discuss
• Your long-term goals
• What you both want from life
• Boundaries
• Loyalty standards
• Social media behavior
• How you handle conflict
• Expectations in communication
• Money habits
• Lifestyle differences
• Jealousy triggers
• Dealbreakers
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A fool talks to 3-4 women, doesn’t get sex & ends up hating himself, thinking he’s not “in her league”
A playboy talks to 20 women, fucks one, instantly forgets about the other 19.
He repeats the process & always has new prospects ready to get fucked.
A playboy talks to 20 women, fucks one, instantly forgets about the other 19.
He repeats the process & always has new prospects ready to get fucked.
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After 5 years living in Estonia, I decided to leave.
Not because it was bad, but because I kind of outgrew it.
Inside the video, you'll learn:
• What Estonia actually gave me (business, network, lifestyle)
• The hidden downside of staying too long in one place
• Why changing environment is the fastest way to level up
If you feel stuck or too comfortable, this will hit.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/9cKIdiOTfFc?si=vnxGwh80BlJEDfq9
PS: Highly recommend visiting Estonia if you've never been there.
Not because it was bad, but because I kind of outgrew it.
Inside the video, you'll learn:
• What Estonia actually gave me (business, network, lifestyle)
• The hidden downside of staying too long in one place
• Why changing environment is the fastest way to level up
If you feel stuck or too comfortable, this will hit.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/9cKIdiOTfFc?si=vnxGwh80BlJEDfq9
PS: Highly recommend visiting Estonia if you've never been there.
YouTube
I Lived in Estonia for 5 Years… Here’s Why I Left
After living in Estonia for 5 years, I break down my honest experience with Estonia expat life, from cost of living and business advantages to why I ultimately decided to leave for now. If you're thinking about moving abroad or building a location-independent…
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Most guys don’t have a dating problem.
They have an execution problem.
They overthink.
They hesitate.
They stay in their comfort zone.
Nothing changes.
You don’t fix that with more content.
You fix it with immersion.
They have an execution problem.
They overthink.
They hesitate.
They stay in their comfort zone.
Nothing changes.
You don’t fix that with more content.
You fix it with immersion.
We'll go to the best spots.
We meet incredible women.
And you walk out as a completely evolved version of yourself.
This is how past clients have completely transformed their dating lives, fast.
You’ll take more action in 3 days than most men take in 3 months.
I take a small group only (4–5 guys max).
We’ll be diving deep into proven strategies that are working right now.
You’ll learn:
✅ Proven systems that transform your dating life forever
✅ How to attract & date high-quality women anywhere you go
✅ Advanced flirting and attraction techniques that work in the real world
✅ How to navigate social dynamics & become an elite communicator
And much more
We meet incredible women.
And you walk out as a completely evolved version of yourself.
This is how past clients have completely transformed their dating lives, fast.
You’ll take more action in 3 days than most men take in 3 months.
I take a small group only (4–5 guys max).
We’ll be diving deep into proven strategies that are working right now.
You’ll learn:
✅ Proven systems that transform your dating life forever
✅ How to attract & date high-quality women anywhere you go
✅ Advanced flirting and attraction techniques that work in the real world
✅ How to navigate social dynamics & become an elite communicator
And much more
That’s why I’m running 2 new exclusive bootcamps in Asia:
🇹🇭 Bangkok — April 24–26
🇮🇩 Bali — May 29–31
This is not a seminar.
This is 3 days of real life.
Each Bootcamp is a 3-day immersive experience where you’ll:
✅ Get 18+ hours of live coaching
✅ Go out day & night to apply in real time
✅ Learn elite-level social skills and attraction systems
✅ Get full feedback and breakdowns in every session
✅ Connect with other high-level men inside a private mastermind
🇹🇭 Bangkok — April 24–26
🇮🇩 Bali — May 29–31
This is not a seminar.
This is 3 days of real life.
Each Bootcamp is a 3-day immersive experience where you’ll:
✅ Get 18+ hours of live coaching
✅ Go out day & night to apply in real time
✅ Learn elite-level social skills and attraction systems
✅ Get full feedback and breakdowns in every session
✅ Connect with other high-level men inside a private mastermind
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DM me "Bootcamp" if you're interested in joining one of them: https://t.me/limooueslati
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Dating apps are more efficient for getting laid.
But they will drain your soul even if you’re winning.
Cold approach is the opposite.
You feel good even if you get rejected because you know you earned it.
But they will drain your soul even if you’re winning.
Cold approach is the opposite.
You feel good even if you get rejected because you know you earned it.
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Only filter for two things in women:
Attraction and kindness.
If she’s not genuinely attracted to you, you’ll feel it.
Less intimacy, less affection, constant doubt… and eventually things break or drift.
And if she’s not naturally kind and nurturing, you’re signing up for friction and drama. It’s a lack of femininity.
And if you keep choosing women like that, it says more about you than them.
It means you don’t expect to be treated well.
Fix your standards. Everything else follows.
Attraction and kindness.
If she’s not genuinely attracted to you, you’ll feel it.
Less intimacy, less affection, constant doubt… and eventually things break or drift.
And if she’s not naturally kind and nurturing, you’re signing up for friction and drama. It’s a lack of femininity.
And if you keep choosing women like that, it says more about you than them.
It means you don’t expect to be treated well.
Fix your standards. Everything else follows.
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