Most guys think dating success is about looks, money, or being “alpha.”
It’s not. Let me explain.
If I lost all my dating results tomorrow...
New city. Zero contacts. No momentum.
And I had to get back to 1–3 dates a week…
This is exactly what I’d do 👇
Step 1: Fix the foundations
Before tactics, you need stability.
• Clean haircut
• Fitted basics
• Good hygiene
• Sleep that doesn’t suck
• Gym 3–5x/week
• Eat decently (80% is enough)
You can’t flirt properly if your nervous system is fried...
If you feel off, women feel it too.
Also: clean apartment.
Good lighting, clean bathroom, tidy space.
Logistics matter more than people admit.
It’s not. Let me explain.
If I lost all my dating results tomorrow...
New city. Zero contacts. No momentum.
And I had to get back to 1–3 dates a week…
This is exactly what I’d do 👇
Step 1: Fix the foundations
Before tactics, you need stability.
• Clean haircut
• Fitted basics
• Good hygiene
• Sleep that doesn’t suck
• Gym 3–5x/week
• Eat decently (80% is enough)
You can’t flirt properly if your nervous system is fried...
If you feel off, women feel it too.
Also: clean apartment.
Good lighting, clean bathroom, tidy space.
Logistics matter more than people admit.
🔥6
Step 2: Build ONE dating funnel
Pick one channel first.
Online or offline.
Not both at once.
If online:
• Simple Instagram
• 6–9 quality photos (lifestyle, social, subtle status)
• No flexing. Rooftops, cafés, hotel lobbies work.
• Same photos → dating apps
• Stories daily so you feel “alive”
Instagram is a search engine.
Local bars & lounges, gyms, yoga studios = endless leads.
If offline:
• Minimum 1 approach per day
Gym, café, grocery store, walk outside.
Batch it on weekends if needed.
Daily non-negotiables
• 1–3 real-life approaches
• 5–15 intentional DMs
No spam. Just clean, direct messages.
Volume > perfection.
Dating works like sales.
Not every lead converts.
That’s normal.
The rule most guys ignore
If you haven’t talked to at least 30 women,
you don’t even have a real sample size.
If you want the exact system I use... daily actions and practices that practically guarantee success with women…
DM me the word "System" here: https://t.me/limooueslati
Pick one channel first.
Online or offline.
Not both at once.
If online:
• Simple Instagram
• 6–9 quality photos (lifestyle, social, subtle status)
• No flexing. Rooftops, cafés, hotel lobbies work.
• Same photos → dating apps
• Stories daily so you feel “alive”
Instagram is a search engine.
Local bars & lounges, gyms, yoga studios = endless leads.
If offline:
• Minimum 1 approach per day
Gym, café, grocery store, walk outside.
Batch it on weekends if needed.
Daily non-negotiables
• 1–3 real-life approaches
• 5–15 intentional DMs
No spam. Just clean, direct messages.
Volume > perfection.
Dating works like sales.
Not every lead converts.
That’s normal.
The rule most guys ignore
If you haven’t talked to at least 30 women,
you don’t even have a real sample size.
If you want the exact system I use... daily actions and practices that practically guarantee success with women…
DM me the word "System" here: https://t.me/limooueslati
Telegram
Limo Oueslati
Coach, entrepreneur, business-owner
❤2
People can only meet you, as deeply as they’ve met themselves.
🔥6❤1
When momentum drops, the brain looks for location answers.
“Maybe it’s the city.”
“Maybe I should move.”
“Maybe I should go back.”
It’s rarely the place.
Clarity is a reward for execution, not a prerequisite.
Act first. Decide later.
Low momentum makes you question everything.
High momentum answers everything.
“Maybe it’s the city.”
“Maybe I should move.”
“Maybe I should go back.”
It’s rarely the place.
Clarity is a reward for execution, not a prerequisite.
Act first. Decide later.
Low momentum makes you question everything.
High momentum answers everything.
❤3💯2
Just dropped a Tokyo vlog.
This night was wild.
Started with authentic Kobe Wagyu beef, ended deep in Tokyo Drift car culture. No tourist stuff, just real Tokyo food, cars, and late-night energy.
If you like Japan travel, luxury food, or car culture, you’ll enjoy this.
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/ZGNR2KxAtpk?si=b1NaL8ETqB939sFq
This night was wild.
Started with authentic Kobe Wagyu beef, ended deep in Tokyo Drift car culture. No tourist stuff, just real Tokyo food, cars, and late-night energy.
If you like Japan travel, luxury food, or car culture, you’ll enjoy this.
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/ZGNR2KxAtpk?si=b1NaL8ETqB939sFq
YouTube
I Ate the Best Beef in the World in Japan | Tokyo Drift
In this Tokyo vlog, I take you inside a real Kobe beef restaurant, explain what makes Wagyu beef so expensive, and share my honest first reaction tasting it. Later that night, we dive into Tokyo Drift culture, late-night drives, and the side of Japan most…
❤7
Important Video: Why your IG isn’t getting dates (fix this)
If you're not using IG in 2026 to get dates or you don't subcommunicate high-status on it, you're missing out on a TON of opportunities and dates...
Watch this to fix it:
https://youtu.be/2fwJe29UtRU
If you're not using IG in 2026 to get dates or you don't subcommunicate high-status on it, you're missing out on a TON of opportunities and dates...
Watch this to fix it:
https://youtu.be/2fwJe29UtRU
YouTube
Why your IG isn’t getting dates (fix this)
Here's exactly why your IG isn’t getting dates. In this video, I break down how to fix your Instagram profile for dating, increase attraction, and get more dates from Instagram as a man without relying on dating apps.
Book your Dating Game Plan call: ht…
Book your Dating Game Plan call: ht…
👍2
Back in the day, I used to only cold-approach girls when I was drunk.
Sober? I’d freeze.
In this video, I get interviewed about my journey and share some powerful insights
https://youtu.be/ZTXOSDSPSFo
Sober? I’d freeze.
In this video, I get interviewed about my journey and share some powerful insights
https://youtu.be/ZTXOSDSPSFo
YouTube
I Could Only Approach When Drunk… Until I Learned This
I used to only approach girls when I was drunk.
Sober? I’d freeze.
In this street interview, I break down how I rebuilt confidence from zero after moving to a new country, how one client went from “33-year-old virgin” to having a girlfriend, and the simple…
Sober? I’d freeze.
In this street interview, I break down how I rebuilt confidence from zero after moving to a new country, how one client went from “33-year-old virgin” to having a girlfriend, and the simple…
❤3
The person in the conversation who is the most relaxed and enjoying their time has the strongest frame in any interaction.
❤5👍2
Your dating life is costing you up to $50,000 a year.
Not because you’re buying dinners.
Because you’re paying in time and focus.
Here’s the part most men never calculate:
If you waste 5–10 hours a week swiping, texting, chasing, and “hoping it works out”…
That’s 250–500 hours per year.
Now put a value on your time.
If your time is worth even $100/hour, that’s $25,000–$50,000 burned.
And that’s only the visible cost.
The bigger cost is what it does to your brain.
Mental bandwidth.
Because dating doesn’t just steal hours.
It steals attention.
You’re trying to work but your mind is split.
Did she reply?
What should I say next?
Did I mess it up?
Why did she ghost?
Should I double text?
That mental noise adds up.
Overthinking.
Rejection anxiety.
Emotional swings.
Random confidence dips.
And yes, it hits business.
Not because you’re buying dinners.
Because you’re paying in time and focus.
Here’s the part most men never calculate:
If you waste 5–10 hours a week swiping, texting, chasing, and “hoping it works out”…
That’s 250–500 hours per year.
Now put a value on your time.
If your time is worth even $100/hour, that’s $25,000–$50,000 burned.
And that’s only the visible cost.
The bigger cost is what it does to your brain.
Mental bandwidth.
Because dating doesn’t just steal hours.
It steals attention.
You’re trying to work but your mind is split.
Did she reply?
What should I say next?
Did I mess it up?
Why did she ghost?
Should I double text?
That mental noise adds up.
Overthinking.
Rejection anxiety.
Emotional swings.
Random confidence dips.
And yes, it hits business.
❤4
Unsolved dating problems leak into performance.
You do less deep work.
You procrastinate more.
You feel “off” socially.
You chase dopamine instead of execution.
Dating inefficiency isn’t harmless.
It’s a tax on focus.
High-level men don’t tolerate broken systems.
If their marketing is inconsistent, they fix the pipeline.
If operations are messy, they create SOPs.
If their calendar is chaos, they build rules.
But in dating, most guys accept chaos like it’s normal.
Random effort.
Random weekends.
Random results.
Random confidence.
That’s not “just how dating is.”
That’s a broken system.
And broken systems always cost you.
The fix isn’t trying harder.
It’s making it predictable.
You build a simple process that creates consistent results:
how you meet women, how you filter, how you lead, how you set dates.
Less guessing.
Less wasted time.
Less mental noise.
More results.
If you're ready to change that this year and want the exact system to consistently get 1–3 dates per week in 30 days (without living on dating apps)…
Book your Dating Game Plan Call here and I'll show you exactly how to get there within the next few weeks: https://go.higherselfcircle.com/schedule
You do less deep work.
You procrastinate more.
You feel “off” socially.
You chase dopamine instead of execution.
Dating inefficiency isn’t harmless.
It’s a tax on focus.
High-level men don’t tolerate broken systems.
If their marketing is inconsistent, they fix the pipeline.
If operations are messy, they create SOPs.
If their calendar is chaos, they build rules.
But in dating, most guys accept chaos like it’s normal.
Random effort.
Random weekends.
Random results.
Random confidence.
That’s not “just how dating is.”
That’s a broken system.
And broken systems always cost you.
The fix isn’t trying harder.
It’s making it predictable.
You build a simple process that creates consistent results:
how you meet women, how you filter, how you lead, how you set dates.
Less guessing.
Less wasted time.
Less mental noise.
More results.
If you're ready to change that this year and want the exact system to consistently get 1–3 dates per week in 30 days (without living on dating apps)…
Book your Dating Game Plan Call here and I'll show you exactly how to get there within the next few weeks: https://go.higherselfcircle.com/schedule
❤3
Slow feet, don’t eat.
While you’re overthinking about whether you should approach her or text her…
Another guy is going to do it and get her before you.
If you don’t have the balls to approach her, then why would you deserve her?
While you’re overthinking about whether you should approach her or text her…
Another guy is going to do it and get her before you.
If you don’t have the balls to approach her, then why would you deserve her?
❤8👍2
Media is too big
VIEW IN TELEGRAM
A Woman’s love is conditional and self-preserving.
Understand that a woman's "love" is savagely opportunistic.
Don't over-invest in something that is inherently flakey
Instead of investing heavily in a woman, who can leave the moment:
- a better guy comes along, or
- the moment she ceases getting value, or
- when misfortune strikes you,
Invest heavily in yourself. Prioritize your own goals
Let women be a nice supplement - never the purpose.
Understand that a woman's "love" is savagely opportunistic.
Don't over-invest in something that is inherently flakey
Instead of investing heavily in a woman, who can leave the moment:
- a better guy comes along, or
- the moment she ceases getting value, or
- when misfortune strikes you,
Invest heavily in yourself. Prioritize your own goals
Let women be a nice supplement - never the purpose.
❤9
My advice to every 20-29-year-old man is to get 2-3 FEMALE FRIENDS who are actually attractive and don’t sleep with them.
A) You get desensitized to being around pretty girls, and you stop being a weirdo.
B) You get real insight into what their human experience is like.
C) Pretty girls attract other pretty girls, NOTHING is better than a hot female wingman.
A) You get desensitized to being around pretty girls, and you stop being a weirdo.
B) You get real insight into what their human experience is like.
C) Pretty girls attract other pretty girls, NOTHING is better than a hot female wingman.
❤10👍1
Your social life needs to be consistent
One weekly event you attend
At least one big one monthly
3-4 yearly bigger ones
Quarterly trips or getaways
You will never meet people let alone the "right ones" staying at home
One weekly event you attend
At least one big one monthly
3-4 yearly bigger ones
Quarterly trips or getaways
You will never meet people let alone the "right ones" staying at home
❤4
Stop:
1. Porn
2. Fear
3. Excuses
Forget:
1. You should be a nice guy
2. There is only one special girl
3. What she told you she wants
Do:
1. Take action
2. Be the prize
3. Approach Women
4. Lead With Certainty
5. Be Dominant & Assertive
Keep:
1. Your Mission first
2. A Strong frame
3. Multiple Options
4. Working On Business
5. Going To The Gym 4x/Week
1. Porn
2. Fear
3. Excuses
Forget:
1. You should be a nice guy
2. There is only one special girl
3. What she told you she wants
Do:
1. Take action
2. Be the prize
3. Approach Women
4. Lead With Certainty
5. Be Dominant & Assertive
Keep:
1. Your Mission first
2. A Strong frame
3. Multiple Options
4. Working On Business
5. Going To The Gym 4x/Week
🔥10❤5