“I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. All these and other factors combined, if the circumstances are right, can teach and can lead to rebirth.”

— Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Hozir siz bajargan vaqtingizda zavq/rohat oladigan har qanday mashg'ulot sizni doimiy ish faoliyatingizga aylansa zavqlanish darajangiz tushib ketaveradi.

Masalan, sayohatchi bo'lish. Oddiy holatda, deylik, har oyda yoki ikki oyda bitta katta sayohat qilib turasiz va bundan odam rohatlanishi tabiiy (agar u sayohatni yoqtirsa). Endi sayohat qilish orqali pul topmoqchisiz ya'ni uni ishga aylantirmoqchisiz. Blog yuritasiz yoki sayohatlar tashkil qilishni boshlaysiz. Oxir-oqibat doimiylik sizni bezdiradi.

Sohalardagi professionallik har doim zerikib ishlash orqali kelsa kerak. Zavqlanib professional darajaga chiqib bo'lmaydi.

Substack'da bir kanal bor. Ora-orada ijodiy yozish uchun antiqa mavzular berib turadi. Oldinlari shunga o'xshash vaziyatlarga xayoliy yoki hayotiy voqelarni yozib turar edim.

Sinab ko'ringlar.
Publication

Kayfiyatim yo'lda yuz bergan bir nechta ko'ngilsiz voqealarga qaramasdan juda ham ajoyib. Bilmadim, balki, uyga kelganim uchundir yoki bayram shukuhi balki ikkisi ham ta'sir qilayotgandir.

Undan tashqari futbol. Jahon chempionatiga yaqinmiz. Ular g'alaba qilishsa nur ustiga nur.

Aytgancha, hammaga Arafa muborak!

Qurbon Hayiti muborak bo'lsin barchamizga!

Odamlar katta bo'laversa qiziqishlari o'zgaradi deyishadi. Rostan ham shunaqa, lekin qiziqishlar tabiiy o'zgaradimi yoki majburan o'zgartiriladimi degan savol tug'iladi.

Saad Yacoob

O'zimni 3-shaxs bo'lib kuzataman ko'pincha. Hamma qilayotgan ishim "3-shaxs men"ga yoqmaydi.

"3-shaxs men" faqat kuzatadi, hech qanday o'zgarishlar kiritmaydi hayotimga, maslahat bermaydi. Faqat "harakat qilayotgan men"ni krinj ishlariga izoh bildiradi.

Nimaga odam boshqa odamni yoqtiradi? Qanday yoqtiradi? (Yoqtirish sevgi ma'nosida emas). Ba'zilarni boshqalaridan ko'ra ko'proq yaxshi ko'radi.

Bitta yagona sabab bilan bo'lmasligi aniq. Bir nechta sabablar yig'indisi bilan yoqtirsa kerak. Ba'zida boshqalarni yoqtirgan narsalari uchun ham yoqtirishimiz mumkin. Usmon Azimni gapi bor edi "men nevaramni yoqtiraman, u esa mushukni yoqtiradi. Mushukni yoqtirgani uchun uni ko'proq yoqtiraman" degan.

Even when I am not thinking I would be thinking about why I am not thinking

"Nega ba'zi ayollar ishlashni afzal ko'radi, ba'zilari yo'q?" degan savolga javob qidirish uchun ikki tadqiqotchilar Amerikalik opa-singillarni o'rganishgan ekan.

Bir nechta sabablar topishgan va ular orasida eng qizig'i shu ekan: singlisi/opasini eri o'zining eridan ko'proq pul topsa, ayolning ish qidirish ehtimoli yuqori bo'larkan.

When you don't know what you want, the only thing you want is to know what you really want

"It is better to be unhappy and know the worst, than to be happy in a fool's paradise"

"Bir yomon haqiqatni bilmasdan baxtli yashagandan ko'ra, uni bilib baxtsiz bo'lgan yaxshiroq"

Shu gapni "Telba" asarida Dostoyevskiy yozgan. Lekin bu gapga men qo'shilmas ekanman o'ylab qarasam.

To'g'ri, odamzod haqiqatni har doim bilgisi keladi. Lekin uni bilish baxtsiz qilsa, haqiqat unga qanday foyda olib keladi?

"Agar Saturn Yerga Oychalik yaqin joylashganida qanday ko'rinar edi"

Bir qarashda juda g'aroyib ko'rinadi. Lekin tug'ilganimizdan shunaqa shaklda ko'rganimizda odatiy holdek bo'lib qolar edi

Mana shu post ham o'qib ko'rishga arziydi

https://t.me/khurshidyuldosh/90

Nikki and Tom met each other while backpacking around India. They were single travellers who became a couple. They had long, laughing nights together, and they enjoyed the intense union that comes only when travelling. But Tom lives in Canada, and Nikki lives in Ireland, and it's time to go home. They say goodbye, and they make promises that they both know they won't keep.

This is a story with pathos. It's that moment when you know a good thing will end. And in Japanese, this is known as 'mono no aware' Mono no aware is not really an emotion per se, but rather an aesthetic experience. Like its sister concept, wabi sabi, it's all about appreciating the transiency of life. When Nikki goes home on her flight, and Tom is left alone in a hostel, there is a kind of poignant beauty to that.

In years to come, when Tom reflects on those backpacking days, he will reflect in both happiness and sadness. He'll grow further and further away from that moment, and when he's 50 years old, married, and with children, he'll reflect on that time. It'll conjure a feeling of mono no aware, happiness flecked with pathos.

A wise person in my life once told me, after losing their closest friend of 50 years, that, 'Of course, I'm sad. I think about them every day, but I'm happy that I got to share the planet with them for so long.'

And that is, at least in my opinion, more beautiful than a million sunsets.