A man came to 'Umar b. al-Khaṭṭāb رضي الله عنه to complain about his wife's ill-temper.
While he was waiting for 'Umar to come out of his house, he heard 'Umar's wife scolding him and 'Umar quietly listening to her, and not answering her back.
The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself, "If that is the case with 'Umar, the leader of believers, who is famous for his uprightness and toughness, then what about poor me?!"
At that moment, 'Umar came out of his house and saw the man walking away.
He called him and said: "What is it you want of me, O man?"
The man replied: "O' leader of the believers, I came to complain to you about my wife's bad- temper and how she nags me. Then I heard your wife doing the same to you, so I turned around, muttering to my self, "If that is the situation of the leader of the believers, then what about me?"
'Umar replied: "O my brother, I bear with her because of her rights over me. She cooks my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes, breastfeeds my child... And yet none of these are her duty; and then she is a comfort to my heart and keeps me away from forbidden deeds. Consequently, I beat with her."
The man said: "It is the same with me, O' leader of the believers."
'Umar said: "Then, O' my brother, be patient with her, indeed this life is short."
{الذهبي الكباءر ١٩٤}
While he was waiting for 'Umar to come out of his house, he heard 'Umar's wife scolding him and 'Umar quietly listening to her, and not answering her back.
The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself, "If that is the case with 'Umar, the leader of believers, who is famous for his uprightness and toughness, then what about poor me?!"
At that moment, 'Umar came out of his house and saw the man walking away.
He called him and said: "What is it you want of me, O man?"
The man replied: "O' leader of the believers, I came to complain to you about my wife's bad- temper and how she nags me. Then I heard your wife doing the same to you, so I turned around, muttering to my self, "If that is the situation of the leader of the believers, then what about me?"
'Umar replied: "O my brother, I bear with her because of her rights over me. She cooks my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes, breastfeeds my child... And yet none of these are her duty; and then she is a comfort to my heart and keeps me away from forbidden deeds. Consequently, I beat with her."
The man said: "It is the same with me, O' leader of the believers."
'Umar said: "Then, O' my brother, be patient with her, indeed this life is short."
{الذهبي الكباءر ١٩٤}
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Safiyyah, the daughter of Shayebah, said:
“While we were at A’isha’s (radi Allahu anha) we mentioned the women of Qureish and their good favors, then A’isha said: “indeed the women of Qureish have a good favor and by Allah I have not seen better than the women of Al-Ansar in their strength of acceptance of the Book of Allah and in the belief in the Revelation: At the time when Surat An-Nur was sent down (and in it Allah says): “Let them (believing women) draw their veils over Juyubihinna.” soon their husbands turned to them reciting what Allah had sent down to them (i.e. the above Ayah), the man recites to his wife, his daughter, his sister and to every female relative. Not a single woman of them except that she took up her engraved Mirt (55) (wrapper) and covered her head and face in acceptance and belief in what Allah had sent down from His Book. The next morning they were behind the Prophet (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم), covered as if black crows were on top of their heads.” (56)
Therefore, there is no choice but to submit the order of Allah and no hesitation should exist in following the ruling of Allah. So come for repentance, O My Muslim Sister, and watch for words like “I will repent, I will pray, I will cover with Hijab“, because delaying the repentance is a sin that you must repent from! Say as Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) said on the tongue of Moosa (May Allah’s peace be upon him) :
عَجِلْتُ إِلَيْكَ رَبِّ لِتَرْضَىٰ
“I HASTENED TO YOU, O MY LORD, TO PLEASE YOU” (Qur’an 20:84)
And say as the believing men and women said:
سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا ۖ غُفْرَانَكَ رَبَّنَا وَإِلَيْكَ الْمَصِيرُ
“WE HEAR AND WE OBEY. (WE SEEK) YOUR FORGIVENESS, OUR LORD, AND TO YOU IS THE RETURN” (Qur’an 2: 285)
(55) With pictures of houses and dwellings.
(56) Reported in The Tafseer of Al-Qur’an Al-Ath’eem by Ibn Katheer 5:90 (Arabic)
“While we were at A’isha’s (radi Allahu anha) we mentioned the women of Qureish and their good favors, then A’isha said: “indeed the women of Qureish have a good favor and by Allah I have not seen better than the women of Al-Ansar in their strength of acceptance of the Book of Allah and in the belief in the Revelation: At the time when Surat An-Nur was sent down (and in it Allah says): “Let them (believing women) draw their veils over Juyubihinna.” soon their husbands turned to them reciting what Allah had sent down to them (i.e. the above Ayah), the man recites to his wife, his daughter, his sister and to every female relative. Not a single woman of them except that she took up her engraved Mirt (55) (wrapper) and covered her head and face in acceptance and belief in what Allah had sent down from His Book. The next morning they were behind the Prophet (صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم), covered as if black crows were on top of their heads.” (56)
Therefore, there is no choice but to submit the order of Allah and no hesitation should exist in following the ruling of Allah. So come for repentance, O My Muslim Sister, and watch for words like “I will repent, I will pray, I will cover with Hijab“, because delaying the repentance is a sin that you must repent from! Say as Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) said on the tongue of Moosa (May Allah’s peace be upon him) :
عَجِلْتُ إِلَيْكَ رَبِّ لِتَرْضَىٰ
“I HASTENED TO YOU, O MY LORD, TO PLEASE YOU” (Qur’an 20:84)
And say as the believing men and women said:
سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا ۖ غُفْرَانَكَ رَبَّنَا وَإِلَيْكَ الْمَصِيرُ
“WE HEAR AND WE OBEY. (WE SEEK) YOUR FORGIVENESS, OUR LORD, AND TO YOU IS THE RETURN” (Qur’an 2: 285)
(55) With pictures of houses and dwellings.
(56) Reported in The Tafseer of Al-Qur’an Al-Ath’eem by Ibn Katheer 5:90 (Arabic)
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Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
"He created the seven seas, but He loved a tear from you (out of fear of Him) but your eyes were tearless."
[الفوائد 53]
"He created the seven seas, but He loved a tear from you (out of fear of Him) but your eyes were tearless."
[الفوائد 53]
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Painting the Nails Red and Growing Them Long:
The fourth is the other ugly custom, which has crept in from the profligate women of Europe and affected many Muslim women, and that is to paint their nails with red varnish, which is nowadays known as "manicure", in addition to which, some of them grow their nails long-—and some young men may do the same thing -even though this constitutes a changing of Allāh's creation and incurs Allāh's Curse upon the one who does it, as we have seen earlier. It also entails imitation of the disbelieving women, which is forbidden in numerous traditions, including the words of the Prophet (ﷺ): "He who imitates any people [in their actions] is considered to be one of them."^100
It is also in conflict with the fitrah (way or religion):
"[Adhere to] the fitrah of Allāh upon which He has created [all] people."
[al-Rum (30): 30]
And the Prophet (ﷺ ) said:
"Five [actions] are from the fitrah: circumcision, cutting the pubic hair (and in another narration:
"shaving the pubic area" trimming the moustache, trimming the fingernails and plucking the underarm hair."^101
And Anas (radiy Allahu 'anhu) said: "We were given a time limit (and in another version: The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ ) imposed a time limit on us') with regard to trimming the moustache, shaving the pubic hair, plucking the armpit hair and clipping the nails and we were not to leave it for more than forty days."^102
Extracted from - The Marriage Guide According to the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ | Sheikh al albani
Page 82/83
The fourth is the other ugly custom, which has crept in from the profligate women of Europe and affected many Muslim women, and that is to paint their nails with red varnish, which is nowadays known as "manicure", in addition to which, some of them grow their nails long-—and some young men may do the same thing -even though this constitutes a changing of Allāh's creation and incurs Allāh's Curse upon the one who does it, as we have seen earlier. It also entails imitation of the disbelieving women, which is forbidden in numerous traditions, including the words of the Prophet (ﷺ): "He who imitates any people [in their actions] is considered to be one of them."^100
It is also in conflict with the fitrah (way or religion):
"[Adhere to] the fitrah of Allāh upon which He has created [all] people."
[al-Rum (30): 30]
And the Prophet (ﷺ ) said:
"Five [actions] are from the fitrah: circumcision, cutting the pubic hair (and in another narration:
"shaving the pubic area" trimming the moustache, trimming the fingernails and plucking the underarm hair."^101
And Anas (radiy Allahu 'anhu) said: "We were given a time limit (and in another version: The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ ) imposed a time limit on us') with regard to trimming the moustache, shaving the pubic hair, plucking the armpit hair and clipping the nails and we were not to leave it for more than forty days."^102
Extracted from - The Marriage Guide According to the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ | Sheikh al albani
Page 82/83