Sheikh Salih al Fawzan حفظه الله:
Patience in Islam means three things:

1 - patience upon the obedience of allah

2 - patience in staying away from what allah has made haram

3 - patience upon the qadr of allah

[شرح أصول الثلاثة]

A man came to Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه and said: “I married a pretty daughter of an uncle of mine, and this took place in Ramadān. Am I allowed to kiss her?” 

Ibn Abbas asked: “Are you able to control yourself?” He replied: “Yes.” So, Ibn Abbas said: “Kiss her.” 

The man asked: “Am I allowed to caress her?” Ibn Abbas said: “Are you able to control yourself?” The man replied: “Yes.”So, Ibn Abbas said: “Caress her.” 

The man asked: “Am I allowed to touch her private part with my hand?” Ibn Abbas said: “Are you able to control yourself?” The man said: “Yes.” So, Ibn Abbas said: “Touch her.”

[الصحيحة للألباني ١/٤٣٦]

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“For the believer, the world is the place of good-doing that brings him nearer to Allāh. The unbeliever, however, makes use of the world in disobeying Allāh and incurring His punishment upon himself.”

[The Way to Patience & Gratitude | Pg. 304-5]

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:

“The sign of good will is when one seeks the pleasure of Allāh, preparing for His meeting, feeling grief for any moment that passed in anything other than satisfying Him or keeping close to Him, and feeling delighted with Him, in other words, to have no interest in life except Allāh all throughout the day.”

[al-Fawā’id | Pg. 187]

He Lost The Woman, and He Lost His Religion – Ibn al-Qayyim (Rahimahullah)
Ibn al-Qayyim (Rahimahullah) narrated:

It is reported that in Egypt, there was a man who would maintain the mosques, making the call to prayer, etc. He was, by all outward means, an obedient person and devout worshipper.

One day, as he usually would, he ascended the minaret to make the call to prayer. At the base of the minaret, there was a Christian woman standing. He saw her, and was seduced by her looks. So, he descended the minaret, went to her, and entered her home. She said to him: “Who are you, and what do you want?”

He replied: “I want you.”

She said: “Why?”

He said: “You have enslaved my eyes, and you have captured my heart.”

She said: “I will never answer your desire in a doubtful or suspicious manner.”

He said: “Ok, so, I will marry you, then.”

She said: “You are a Muslim, and I am a Christian. My father will never allow me to marry you.”

He said: “So, I will become a Christian.”

She said: “If you wish to do so, go ahead.“

So, the man became a Christian in order to marry this woman, and lived with the woman’s family in her house. Later on that day, however, he was on the roof of the house. He fell from the roof and died without even having enjoyed his new bride. So, he lost the woman, and he lost his religion.”

Ad-Da’ wad-Dawa, page.127 of Ibn Al-Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah (Rahimahullaah)

ٱللَّهُ يَتَوَفَّى ٱلْأَنفُسَ حِينَ مَوْتِهَا وَٱلَّتِى لَمْ تَمُتْ فِى مَنَامِهَا ۖ فَيُمْسِكُ ٱلَّتِى قَضَىٰ عَلَيْهَا ٱلْمَوْتَ وَيُرْسِلُ ٱلْأُخْرَىٰٓ إِلَىٰٓ أَجَلٍۢ مُّسَمًّى ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَءَايَٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

"It is Allāh Who takes away the souls at the time of their death, and those that did not during those sleep. He keeps those (souls) for which He has ordained death and sends the rest for a term appointed. Verily, in this are signs for a people who think deeply." • [39:42]

Ibn Taymiyyah said: "Here Allāh explains that the taking away of souls is of two types:

He takes them away at the time of death, and He takes away the souls that did not die in their sleep. Then when they sleep, He keeps the soul of the one who dies in his sleep and He sends back the soul of the one who did not die in his sleep. Hence, when the Prophet ﷺ went to bed, he would say:

بِاسْمِكَ رَبَّيْ وَضَعْتُ جَنْبِيْ، وَبِكَ أَرْفَعُهُ، فَإِنْ أَمْسَكْتَ نَفْسِيْ فَارْحَمْهَا، وَإِنْ أَرْسَلْتَهَا فَاحْفَظْهَا بِمَا تَحْفَظُ بِهِ عِبَادَكَ الصَّالِحِيْنَ.

‘"In Your name my Lord, I lie down and in Your name I rise, so if You should take my soul then have mercy upon it, and if You should return my soul then protect it in the manner You do so with Your righteous servants."

[مجموع الفتاوى ٥٧٢/٤]

‎ قال الربيع بن خثيم
‎ رحمه الله :
‎كل ما لا يبتغى به وجه الله عز َّوجل يضمحل

Rabi' bin Khateem رحمه الله said: "Everything by which the pleasure of Allah is not sought shall vanish."

‎ [صفوة الصفوة ٣/٤١]

Ibn Rajab رحمه الله said: "O group of repenters, fast today from the lustful desires so that you can acquire Īd ul Fitr on the Day you meet (your Lord)."

[لطائف المعارف ١٦٠]

When Imam Ahmad (rahimahullah) would walk in the streets, he would walk amongst the laborers so that nobody would point to him out of respect, and so that the people would think him to just be another laborer, and would therefore not point to him out of respect.

[Siyar A’laam an-Nubalaa (9/465)]

Ibn ‘Umar رضي الله عنه said:

“Verily, shyness and Īmān are linked together. So if one of them is removed [from the heart], the other one leaves.”

[Musannaf Ibn Abī Shaybah: 25859]

خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍۢ وَٰحِدَةٍۢ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَأَنزَلَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلْأَنْعَـٰمِ ثَمَـٰنِيَةَ أَزْوَٰجٍۢ ۚ يَخْلُقُكُمْ فِى بُطُونِ أُمَّهَـٰتِكُمْ خَلْقًۭا مِّنۢ بَعْدِ خَلْقٍۢ فِى ظُلُمَـٰتٍۢ ثَلَـٰثٍۢ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمُ ٱللَّهُ رَبُّكُمْ لَهُ ٱلْمُلْكُ ۖ لَآ إِلَـٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ ۖ فَأَنَّىٰ تُصْرَفُونَ ٦

He created you ˹all˺ from a single soul,1 then from it He made its mate.2 And He produced for you four pairs of cattle.3 He creates you in the wombs of your mothers ˹in stages˺, one development after another, in three layers of darkness.4 That is Allah—your Lord! All authority belongs to Him. There is no god ˹worthy of worship˺ except Him. How can you then be turned away?

Imām Ibn Al-Qayyim رحمه الله stated:

‎"Some of the Salaf said: If it wasn't for the calamities of the Dunyā we would come on the Day of Judgment bankrupt."

‎[Zād Al-Ma'ād 4/176]

Imam Abdur Rahman al-Jawzi (rahimahullah) said:

If you find a darkness in your heart after you sinned , know then that in your heart there is light, because of this light you felt the darkness.

[Rowdathul Muhibeen 2/112]

Why is it that some students love for people to sit under them and don’t want to be the one seated and have expectations that they must be given a position. Even if it be handed to them from Ahlul Bidah?

Abdullah bin Muhayriz (from the Tabi’īn) said: "I accompanied Fudālah bin Ubayd, May Allāh be pleased with him, the companion of the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ). I said to him:
'Advise me, may Allāh have mercy upon you.' He said: 'Memorise three characteristics from me, may Allāh benefit you with them. If you are able to know and not be known, then do so. If you are able to listen and not speak, then do so. If you are able to sit (in the circles of knowledge) and not have people come to you to sit, then do so.'"(1)

Abu Bakr Al-Marūthī (d. 275H) said:
"Imaām) Ahmad bin Hanbal (d.241H) said to me: 'Tell Abdul Wahhāb [al-Warrāq (d. 251H)]: (Prefer to) have no fame, for indeed, I have become trialled with fame.'" (2)

Look at the status of Sufyān Ath-Thawrī (d.161H):

Sufyān Ath-Thawrī was an imam of Ahlus-Sunnah Wal Jamā'ah. It was said about him:
"The people of Hadith are three, Abdullah ibn Abbās (d.68H) in the era of the Sahābah, Ash-Sha’bi (d.100H) in the era of the Tabi’ūn, and Sufyān (Ath-Thawrī) in the era of the Atbā' at-Tabi’īn." (3)

Sufyān Bin 'Uyaynah (d.191H) said to Imām Ahmad:
"You will never with your eyes see the likes of Sufyān Ath-Thawrī up until you die." (4)

Yet look at how Ath-Thawrī saw himself:

Khalfah bin Tamīm (d. 213H) said:
"I saw Ath-Thawrī in Makkah, and many had gathered around him. So he said: 'Indeed to Allāh we belong. I fear that Allāh will cause this ummah to be in a state of loss, when the people are in need of the likes of me.'" (5)

And he said:
"If it was not that I saw it as something lowly, I would live amongst a people who did not know me." (6)

And he likewise said:
"Safety is in not loving to be known!" (7)

• (1) Hilyah al-Awliyah 5/141
• (2) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 11/226
• (3) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 7/240
• (4) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 7/238
• (5) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 7/275
• (6) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 7/275
• (7) Siyar A’lam An-Nubala 7/258

Narrated Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه, the Prophet ﷺ used to say,

‎اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْفَقْرِ وَالْقِلَّةِ وَالذِّلَّةِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ أَنْ أَظْلِمَ أَوْ أُظْلَمَ ‏"‏

"O Allah, I seek refuge in Thee from poverty, lack and abasement, and I seek refuge in Thee lest I oppress others or am opressed."

Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)

[Sunan Abi Dawud 1544]

‎{كلا بل رَانَ على قلوبهم ما كانوا يكسبون}

‎قال الحسن البصري

‎الذنب على الذنب

‎والذنب على الذنب

‎حتى يعمى القلب فيموت

Ḥasan al-Baṣrī رحمه الله said: "Sin on top of sin, sin on top of sin until it blinds the heart and then it becomes dead."

‎[المخلصيات ١٧١٢]

Shaykh Mohamed bin Salih Al - Uthaymeen (rahimahullah) said:

From the means of steadfastness upon the religion

-From that which necessitates steadfastness is that the person looks at what he is going to achieve from steadfastness and what he is going achieve from deviation; he will gain from steadfastness the affair of having a good life and (receiving) abundant reward.

Allah The Most High said:

"Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter). [Surah An - Nahl, Ayah 97]

And from that which increases upon steadfastness (is) purifying the heart from resentment, hatred, envy and transgression against the Muslims - for indeed if a person's heart is pure, sound and righteous, Allah will grant him firmness (in the religion) and steadfastness.

[Liqaat Al - Bab Al - Maftooh 7/275]

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗔𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗼𝗺𝗲

١.) Avoid continuing the debate whilst angry and abstain from this until the nerves are calm.

٢.) Utilize the manner of investigation and not argumentation; identify the problem and its causes.

٣.) Avoid interrupting (them when speaking) and listen attentively.

٤.) It is incumbent to make it (a pleasant environment) with good feelings, and for each spouse to clarify that they love each other. However, they want a resolution to the problem.

٥.) It is a must that they be prepared to forego the issue. If each party persists upon what they are upon, then this will lead to the situation getting worse and it could possibly end in divorce.

[A Woman’s Guide to Raising a Family by Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān (حفظه اللّٰه) pg. 39-40]

Al-Hafidh Ibn Rajab al Hambalee رحمه الله said,

To fast in the month of Shaban before the month of Ramadan is like praying the supererogatory prayers associated with the obligatory prayers

[طائف المعارف]

Imaam Ahmad bin Hanbal (rahimahullah) said:

“The fundamentals of the Sunnah with us are: Clinging to that which the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam were upon, taking them as our examples to be followed; avoiding innovations, for every innovation is misguidance.”

[Usoolus-Sunnah (p.5) by Imaam Ahmad]