Overburdening a wife with what she cannot do

Question:
A brother who has been married for several years has been constantly telling his wife to keep the house clean, but this problem only gets worse over time. Alhamdulillah, she has other good qualities, but it seems as if with more children the duties of the house are becoming more neglected. He has advised her gently and at times harshly calling her names such as filthy, lazy, living like pig, but her response is excuses and says she does try, but it is clearly not enough. It has come to the point when the brother has threatened to divorce her and does not want to oppress himself and her by sinning and losing patience, even though he still loves her for her good qualities. What is the advice for this brother?

Answer:
The advice for the brother is to fear Allah in relation to his wife. He should not over burden her with what she cannot bear. He is to be gentle with her and be helpful to her and he should not call her names. He should not threaten her with divorce, rather he should show patience and gentleness.

Answered by: Shaykh Abdul Hameed Al Hajoori

من أعظم الصفات التي يتعين أن يتميز بها الداعي إلى الله البعد عن الانتقام للنفس {ﻭﻣﺎ اﻧﺘﻘﻢ ﺭﺳﻮﻝ اﻟﻠﻪ ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻟﻨﻔﺴﻪ ﺇﻻ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻨﺘﻬﻚ ﺣﺮﻣﺔ اﻟﻠﻪ، ﻓﻴﻨﺘﻘﻢ ﻟﻠﻪ ﺑﻬﺎ} فالانتقام للنفس يدل على ضعف في الإيمان وضعف في الاتباع وضعف في حسن الطباع من العفو والصفح والتجاوز فعلنا أن نسموا بأخلاقنا عن هذه الصفة الذميمة التي تحجب عن الإنصاف وتولد البغضاء وتنتج بسببها الشحناء والله المستعان.

From the greatest of attributes which is a must for a caller to Allah to be distinguished by way of is distancing oneself from taking revenge for oneself.

He the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم never took revenge upon anybody for his own sake; but when Allah's Legal Bindings were outraged, he would take revenge for Allah's sake.

Taking revenge for oneself indicates weakness in Eeman, weakness in following (the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم), weakness in good character from forgiving, and letting things go. It is upon us to raise by way of our high manners from these lowly characteristics which blinds justice, and brings about enmity which results in hatred Allah aid is sought

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Taking Advantage Of What Is Left Of Ramadhaan

Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān - May Allāh preserve him - said:

"Do not wait around for the last ten days to come upon you, then (after that) the month comes to an end. Look, what righteous deeds have you reposited (left behind)? Think about what has passed, what has passed from it? And how will you spend what is left (of it)?

Think about yourselves, for whoever is a good doer, let him continue and complete it with goodness, and whoever is careless and heedless, then let him repent to Allāh for what has past and make up for what remains, for deeds are (judged) by their final endings.

So fear Allāh, oh servants of Allāh, preserve this month of yours which Allāh has made as an opportunity for you in your life, do not waste it, a great month, the month of fasting and standing (i.e., in prayer), in which the gates of hell fire are closed and all the gates of paradise are opened in it, and the devil is shackled in it, and it is said: “Oh, seeker of good, come near and oh seeker of evil, refrain!" and that occurs every night. So answer the invitiation of Allāh, oh servants of Allāh, and do not persist in your negligence and carelessness, for life is short and limited, and the deeds are preserved (i.e., in your book), and you are taken into account and rewarded (for them), so picture your final outcome and rectify your deeds. We ask Allāh - Glorified and sublime be He - to guide us and you in this month and in other than it, and throughout our lives to righteous speech and action."

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'Virtues Of The Last Ten Nights Of Ramadhaan And Laylatul-Qadr'

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16th Ramadhaan 1444 - 07/04/2023

Masjid Al-Imaam Muqbil
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▫️Narrated Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (رضي الله عنه )  tracing back to the Prophet Muhammad صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : "I observed i'tikaf in the first ten (nights and days) in order to seek that night (Lailat-ul-Qadr). I then observed i'tikaf in the middle ten days. Then (an angel) was sent to me and I was told that this (night) is among the last ten (nights). He who among you likes to observe i'tikaf should do so; and the people observed it along with him.. "
📖Transmitted by Muslim with this wording and the origin of the Hadeeth is Muttafaqun Alaih.


🔟. Striving in acts of obedience.

▫️Narrated A'isha (رضي الله عنها)  that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to exert himself in devotion during the last ten nights to a greater extent than at any other time.
📖Transmitted by Muslim

▫️Narrated A'isha (رضي الله عنها)  that when the last ten nights began Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) kept awake at night (for prayer and devotion), wakened his family, and prepared himself to observe prayer (with more vigour).
📖Agreed upon by Al Bukhari and Muslim



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Question: We have some Hizbees who, if they want to build a masjid, announce this matter on WhatsApp and elsewhere. So, what is the ruling on this action?

Sheikh Abu Bilal hafidahullah:

This is wrong. I don't I advise with this. This is not appropriate and does not reflect what you all know to be from the Salafi Da‘wah. Making announcements saying "we want this", "we need this", "such and such masjid requires such and such". This is not our way of Da'wah. We neither know [of this approach] nor do we allow anyone to undertake this in our name. We do not permit anyone to announce on WhatsApp or elsewhere that the Masjid Anwar (Sheikh Abu Bilal's masjid in Haami) needs this and needs that. This is not from our Da'wah, and we do not desire this. This is from the methods of those whom you are aware of (Hizbees). It was recently circulated that Masjid Anwar needs a water coolant. We did not speak to anyone about this, not consciously nor in our sleep. By Allah, we did not speak to anyone consciously nor in our sleep; that we need a water coolant. What is this?! This is not our Da'wah. We do not call to this from before nor after. And that a hundred and thirty students will drink from it. They will drink this much, and you will receive this much reward. O people, this is not appropriate. No one should spread anything about our centre without permission. No one should spread anything about our centre without my permission. This affair, "We need, we need" is closed a door.

Question: So what is the ruling on this action? Is this considered a sign of Hizbiyyah?

Sheikh: Yes, this is their way. They spread this widely. "We want this, and we need this."

The door of intercession is a religious matter, O brothers, let's not conflate between this and that. Intercession is matter of religion, and the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, interceded, but not in this way. Rather, in situations where a person needs intercession, intercede. But in this manner of widespread dissemination, we are not aware of this from our scholars nor anyone else among the people of Sunnah who does this. Rather, they consider this among the signs of the Hizbees, and they consider this begging, like what is being done whereby they spread it on WhatsApp; "We want this, and we need this. Donate this...We have a masjid called Birr Al-Waalidayn, contribute this much. Each person should contribute what they have."

Intercede with your brother. There is nothing wrong with this; it's a desirable form of intercession with relation to masjids, without the need to circulate it on WhatsApp that we have masjid birr al-walidayn. Nowadays, there are many masjids called birr al-waalidayn with shares being offered like this and like that, and it's widely announced. And many people exploit these things for their own interests.

Question: How do we amass funds if we want to build?

Sheikh: Intercede with the people of good if the country needs a masjid, intercede with the people of the Town. It may be a duty upon you to intercede for them; if you are someone whose intercession is listened to, then intercede. You may need to intercede because this is one of the most important things. It's one of the necessary things that the people of the country need if they don't have a masjid, or if the masjid they have is not sufficient for the people, and so they need a masjid in another part of the village. Intercede for them, holding your head high, without writing such things or spreading such things in your name or in someone else's name. Communicate with people of goodness and intercede for them; in those things that people deserve to be interceded for.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "Intercede, and you will be rewarded. And Allah decrees upon the tongue of His Prophet what He wants."

Allah said: "Whoever intercedes with a good intercession will have a share of it. And whoever intercedes with a bad intercession will have a share of it." Allah encourages intercession, but not in these methods.

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Question: When is it permissible to raise funds for masjids in non-Muslim countries, given that there are no funding from the government?

Sheikh Abdulhameed Az-Zu'kari ḥafidhahullāh:

There is no harm in directing [people] to goodness in order to establish those masjids and prayer halls in non-Muslim and polytheistic countries. This is part of elevating the word of Allāh and cooperating in righteousness and piety. The one who directs to goodness will have the reward of the one who acts upon it. However, they should not follow the Hizbee approach of setting up charity boxes and passing through the worshippers [seeking funds] and making collections after every Friday prayer. Rather, they direct good doers with encouraging words like, "If you were to contribute to the benefit of this masjid, or appoint an imam for this masjid, or rent this masjid, you would have a great." They will be rewarded for every prayer offered and every Āyah recited therein. And its ruling is like that of someone who builds a masjid for the sake of Allah, if Allah wills, with sincerity and seeking reward. Even if these places may be rented, during the rental duration they are considered masjids and have the same rulings.

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23rd Ramadhaan 1443 - 23/04/2022

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Question: What is the ruling on collecting funds in masjids? For reasons such as building masjids and sometimes for the needs of the masjid?

Sheikh Abdulhameed Az-Zu'kari hafidahullah:

Directing [people] to good is something permissible; it's acceptable to direct those who one sees to be a good-doer towards performing good. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "The one who directs to good will have the reward of the one who acts upon it." However, using masjids for begging and similar purposes is something scholars disapprove of. It's only common with the people of Hizbiyyah and charity organisations, who exploit the masjid's name and amass wealth in the masjid's name. When a man in need came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, he saw that he was in need so he said, "Give charity to him," meaning directing [people] to good.

As for the methods take on by these charity organisations and Hizbees, such as passing through each worshipper individually in the rows with a bag, or placing collection boxes in masjids...[this is incorrect].

Our scholar, may Allah have mercy on him, was asked by our brothers from Yaafi', Bani Bakr tribe, about the ruling on the collection box they established to collect funds for exceptional circumstances such as illness, marriage, calamity, or the like. He forbade that and informed them that the companions, may Allah be pleased with them, were wealthier and more eager to do good, yet they didn't engage in such practices.

And our Sheikh Muqbil, may Allah have mercy on him, authored a book (ذم المسألة) warning against such practices, which became widespread from those mentioned earlier.

Furthermore, associating Da'wah with asking people for their money is something which pushes people away.

Allah says,
{وَلَا یَسۡـَٔلۡكُمۡ أَمۡوَ ٰ⁠لَكُمۡ}
"He does not ask you your wealth." [Surah Muḥammad: 36]

{ إِن یَسۡـَٔلۡكُمُوهَا فَیُحۡفِكُمۡ تَبۡخَلُوا۟ وَیُخۡرِجۡ أَضۡغَـٰنَكُمۡ }
"If He were to do so and pressure you, you would withhold and He would bring out your resentment." [Surah Muḥammad: 37]

{یَـٰقَوۡمِ لَاۤ أَسۡـَٔلُكُمۡ عَلَیۡهِ أَجۡرًا}
"O my people! I do not ask you for any reward for this ˹message˺." [Surah Hūd: 51]

{ وَیَـٰقَوۡمِ لَاۤ أَسۡـَٔلُكُمۡ عَلَیۡهِ مَالًا}
"O my people! I do not ask you for a payment for this ˹message˺." [Surah Hūd: 29]

{ قُلۡ مَاۤ أَسۡـَٔلُكُمۡ عَلَیۡهِ مِنۡ أَجۡرࣲ وَمَاۤ أَنَا۠ مِنَ ٱلۡمُتَكَلِّفِینَ }
"Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “I do not ask you for any reward for this ˹Quran˺, nor do I pretend to be someone I am not." [Surah Ṣād: 86]

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