Ever come across stubborn people who are hard to change their minds?
Or, perhaps, you are not so resilient and have trouble changing your beliefs, behaviors, and perceptions yourself.
In fact, this is a manifestation of a special quality of personality, which is called rigidity.
It can control our life, but escape from it is not easy, as rigidity is associated with many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth.
That's what it's about. The news today is scary, but the comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.
Or, perhaps, you are not so resilient and have trouble changing your beliefs, behaviors, and perceptions yourself.
In fact, this is a manifestation of a special quality of personality, which is called rigidity.
It can control our life, but escape from it is not easy, as rigidity is associated with many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth.
That's what it's about. The news today is scary, but the comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.
I'm gonna burst!
What should we do to prevent an "explosion"?
A strong emotion, like any explosion, leads to devastation, and afterwards it takes a long time to rebuild what has been destroyed... ⠀
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What can we do when feelings overwhelm us?
Enlarge the inner space. Let it expand.
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How?
By breathing deeply through the mouth. When we start to breathe through our mouth, we automatically engage our stomach. It's like we go into the belly with our consciousness.
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Try it right now!
It's more space, wider, softer and warmer in your belly... can you feel it? It's as if the words themselves create space to settle, to soothe.⠀
What should we do to prevent an "explosion"?
A strong emotion, like any explosion, leads to devastation, and afterwards it takes a long time to rebuild what has been destroyed... ⠀
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What can we do when feelings overwhelm us?
Enlarge the inner space. Let it expand.
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How?
By breathing deeply through the mouth. When we start to breathe through our mouth, we automatically engage our stomach. It's like we go into the belly with our consciousness.
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Try it right now!
It's more space, wider, softer and warmer in your belly... can you feel it? It's as if the words themselves create space to settle, to soothe.⠀
EFFECT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT
We have difficulty relating "ourselves today" to "tomorrow”, so ww live as if immortal, putting hard things off until later.
Case in point: During research, 74% of shoppers, when choosing a meal for the week, preferred healthy fruit. And when they were asked to make a choice for the current day, 70% of experiment participants reached for chocolate.
The solution: try not to identify today with tomorrow. Imagine that tomorrow you’ll be a different person, and no one will be able to do your thing but you.
We have difficulty relating "ourselves today" to "tomorrow”, so ww live as if immortal, putting hard things off until later.
Case in point: During research, 74% of shoppers, when choosing a meal for the week, preferred healthy fruit. And when they were asked to make a choice for the current day, 70% of experiment participants reached for chocolate.
The solution: try not to identify today with tomorrow. Imagine that tomorrow you’ll be a different person, and no one will be able to do your thing but you.
BYSTANDER EFFECT
Why doesn't anyone come to help?
The more people observing an emergency situation, the less likely they are to decide to help those affected.
Example: an experiment was conducted in 1968 by social psychologists Bibb Latane and John Darley. The experiment was conducted in New York City and consisted of a college student simulating an epileptic seizure. In a situation where one passerby was present during the seizure, the student received help 85% of the time. Only 35% of the time, if there was more than one person nearby, did the student get help.
Why doesn't anyone come to help?
The more people observing an emergency situation, the less likely they are to decide to help those affected.
Example: an experiment was conducted in 1968 by social psychologists Bibb Latane and John Darley. The experiment was conducted in New York City and consisted of a college student simulating an epileptic seizure. In a situation where one passerby was present during the seizure, the student received help 85% of the time. Only 35% of the time, if there was more than one person nearby, did the student get help.
More than a teacher: Who is a mentor and why your child needs one
The mentor is an authoritative adult who guides and helps with defining yourself, your interests, and your abilities. The main difference from a teacher is that a mentor never teaches the school curriculum, but helps a child find his or her own life and career path.
Areas of work:
- Helping you find your weaknesses and strengths;
- Defining interests;
- Choosing a profession;
- Combating bad habits;
- Solving problems in communication with peers.
Why mentoring?
Mentoring is aimed at adjusting to life, thinking effectively, exploring one's potential, and building skills to use it in difficult situations.
The mentor is an authoritative adult who guides and helps with defining yourself, your interests, and your abilities. The main difference from a teacher is that a mentor never teaches the school curriculum, but helps a child find his or her own life and career path.
Areas of work:
- Helping you find your weaknesses and strengths;
- Defining interests;
- Choosing a profession;
- Combating bad habits;
- Solving problems in communication with peers.
Why mentoring?
Mentoring is aimed at adjusting to life, thinking effectively, exploring one's potential, and building skills to use it in difficult situations.
Take Care of Yourself
A combination of four types of exercise can help maintain strength and endurance:
- Walking, biking and swimming strengthen the cardiovascular system.
- Weightlifting strengthens and maintains muscle tone.
- Stretching exercises help maintain flexibility.
- Balance training with yoga helps avoid falls.
A combination of four types of exercise can help maintain strength and endurance:
- Walking, biking and swimming strengthen the cardiovascular system.
- Weightlifting strengthens and maintains muscle tone.
- Stretching exercises help maintain flexibility.
- Balance training with yoga helps avoid falls.
How to identify the provocateur? Name the phrases peculiar to him:
1. "It didn't happen, you're fabricating."
2. "I'm just expressing my opinion, I'm entitled to it."
3. "Are you absolutely sure of what you're saying?"
4. "And you prove your point."
5. "Are you saying I'm wrong?"
These are the most basic statements that the provocateur gives out in order to cause you to have doubts. Of course, after such words, many lose heart: after all, what you have told the attacker interlocutor has been argued and proven, but the person still refuses to perceive it.
Such his behavior can lead to the appearance of insecurity in you. In addition, you can trace in yourself such negative emotions as anger, confusion and anxiety.
1. "It didn't happen, you're fabricating."
2. "I'm just expressing my opinion, I'm entitled to it."
3. "Are you absolutely sure of what you're saying?"
4. "And you prove your point."
5. "Are you saying I'm wrong?"
These are the most basic statements that the provocateur gives out in order to cause you to have doubts. Of course, after such words, many lose heart: after all, what you have told the attacker interlocutor has been argued and proven, but the person still refuses to perceive it.
Such his behavior can lead to the appearance of insecurity in you. In addition, you can trace in yourself such negative emotions as anger, confusion and anxiety.
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Curiosity
Curiosity in manipulation is a tool for attracting and retaining attention.
All public speaking manuals recommend that you begin your speech with a story to pique curiosity. And during the speech, insert promises to share a little later about something that arouses interest.
The next episode of a soap opera is normally interrupted at the most interesting part...
Curiosity in manipulation is a tool for attracting and retaining attention.
All public speaking manuals recommend that you begin your speech with a story to pique curiosity. And during the speech, insert promises to share a little later about something that arouses interest.
The next episode of a soap opera is normally interrupted at the most interesting part...
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People are blessed with tremendous inner resources, but they rarely use them.
With meditation, you can calm yourself down with no pills. If you listen to your own intuition, you can avoid danger and even death.
If a person doesn't know what his hidden talents are, he should recall what he admires most in other people.
Similar skills can be developed in ourselves.
With meditation, you can calm yourself down with no pills. If you listen to your own intuition, you can avoid danger and even death.
If a person doesn't know what his hidden talents are, he should recall what he admires most in other people.
Similar skills can be developed in ourselves.
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Desire to impress
Bragging is also a technique of manipulators.
Knowledge of a person's psychology and weaknesses makes him or her a convenient object of manipulation.
So the first line of defense against manipulation is not to discover your weaknesses!
But you have to know them.
It allows you to protect yourself not only from manipulation, but also from criticism by preemptive moves.
Bragging is also a technique of manipulators.
Knowledge of a person's psychology and weaknesses makes him or her a convenient object of manipulation.
So the first line of defense against manipulation is not to discover your weaknesses!
But you have to know them.
It allows you to protect yourself not only from manipulation, but also from criticism by preemptive moves.
Smart people say: don't compare yourself with others
But no matter what heights of awareness we have reached, willingly or unwillingly, consciously or subconsciously, we still compare ourselves to others. Since behind it is an evolutionary mechanism pop up that ensures our survival.
And what matters here is not "why," but "what we have as a result" of such a comparison. As a result, we get different feelings, the most "popular" of which is envy.
But no matter what heights of awareness we have reached, willingly or unwillingly, consciously or subconsciously, we still compare ourselves to others. Since behind it is an evolutionary mechanism pop up that ensures our survival.
And what matters here is not "why," but "what we have as a result" of such a comparison. As a result, we get different feelings, the most "popular" of which is envy.
Envy has many masks
While we don’t want to feel it, because envy is poor, shameful, low and sometimes unbearable. We hide our envy from ourselves, calling it by different names, forbidding ourselves to feel it in order to think well of ourselves. As a result, we feel emptiness, incomprehensible sadness and anger.
We are afraid of envy of others in his address, since that’s dangerous feeling, and it’s better to keep quiet about their successes. Otherwise, suddenly we’ll be devalued, become objects of anger and ridicule.
While we don’t want to feel it, because envy is poor, shameful, low and sometimes unbearable. We hide our envy from ourselves, calling it by different names, forbidding ourselves to feel it in order to think well of ourselves. As a result, we feel emptiness, incomprehensible sadness and anger.
We are afraid of envy of others in his address, since that’s dangerous feeling, and it’s better to keep quiet about their successes. Otherwise, suddenly we’ll be devalued, become objects of anger and ridicule.
Professionalism and awareness
It's a lot of hard work. The need to make unpopular decisions. Taking emotional risks and stepping out of your comfort zone. Standing your ground.
Mostly unawareness. Doing, redoing, inventing. And to face again the field of your ignorance, which is the wider the circle of light that stands out from the darkness with your attention.
It's a lot of hard work. The need to make unpopular decisions. Taking emotional risks and stepping out of your comfort zone. Standing your ground.
Mostly unawareness. Doing, redoing, inventing. And to face again the field of your ignorance, which is the wider the circle of light that stands out from the darkness with your attention.
Fruitful timing
For 5-10 minutes before diving into a deep sleep, our subconscious mind is ready to take in essential information, process it, and give clues.
Dedicate these minutes to analyzing the day's victories, self-involvement techniques for positive attitudes, watching helpful videos, and spiritual practices.
For 5-10 minutes before diving into a deep sleep, our subconscious mind is ready to take in essential information, process it, and give clues.
Dedicate these minutes to analyzing the day's victories, self-involvement techniques for positive attitudes, watching helpful videos, and spiritual practices.
Psychosomatics - HOW IT WORKS
Our feelings and emotions are expressed through facial expressions, gestures, tension or relaxation of body muscles, and chemistry within the body.
These affect the organs. Which, in turn, have a margin of safety. Each organ has its own.
Initially, so-called "functional impairment" of the organ takes place.
Meaning, one has a symptom with no obvious cause (lesions, diseases detected by tests and examinations).
Such symptoms are a signal that the emotional response is excessive and overwhelming. Then the functional disorders develop into "organic damage," this leads to chronic disease.
Our feelings and emotions are expressed through facial expressions, gestures, tension or relaxation of body muscles, and chemistry within the body.
These affect the organs. Which, in turn, have a margin of safety. Each organ has its own.
Initially, so-called "functional impairment" of the organ takes place.
Meaning, one has a symptom with no obvious cause (lesions, diseases detected by tests and examinations).
Such symptoms are a signal that the emotional response is excessive and overwhelming. Then the functional disorders develop into "organic damage," this leads to chronic disease.
How to let the past go
Avoid imposing standards on yourself. It's a trap!
There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations". Most people absolutely know that any typical situation is bound to have its default course. And, thus, most traumas and hurts from the past are unfulfilled expectations.
➡️ For example, a woman gets married simply because she expects her husband to support her, while her husband earns pennies and doesn't bother to earn more, the woman gets divorced and is angry at the world, thinking that all men are mean and lazy.
The divorce happened years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found another man from among those "reined in" to earn, and she doesn't consider it a feat. Yet, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" gone irrevocably.
Avoid imposing standards on yourself. It's a trap!
There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations". Most people absolutely know that any typical situation is bound to have its default course. And, thus, most traumas and hurts from the past are unfulfilled expectations.
➡️ For example, a woman gets married simply because she expects her husband to support her, while her husband earns pennies and doesn't bother to earn more, the woman gets divorced and is angry at the world, thinking that all men are mean and lazy.
The divorce happened years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found another man from among those "reined in" to earn, and she doesn't consider it a feat. Yet, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" gone irrevocably.
Reflect on tricky issues.
As an example, Oxford and Cambridge applicants are often asked challenging questions in entrance exams to train their analytical thinking.
Some of them are even published in books. First, ponder them on your own, and then read the author's reasoning.
Here are some samples, and you try to answer them:
Can your bag ever get empty?
An empty bag is not empty at all. In addition to dust, crumbs, scraps of paper, and germs, it is full of air, which takes up all the empty space.
But what if you pump out the air? The bag would still be overflowing with the bubbling quantum energy produced by the appearing and disappearing particles and waves.
As an example, Oxford and Cambridge applicants are often asked challenging questions in entrance exams to train their analytical thinking.
Some of them are even published in books. First, ponder them on your own, and then read the author's reasoning.
Here are some samples, and you try to answer them:
Can your bag ever get empty?
An empty bag is not empty at all. In addition to dust, crumbs, scraps of paper, and germs, it is full of air, which takes up all the empty space.
But what if you pump out the air? The bag would still be overflowing with the bubbling quantum energy produced by the appearing and disappearing particles and waves.
Conscious man, what is he?
He is a person aware of what he is doing at any given moment, accountable for all his actions and able to say no when necessary.
A conscious person realizes what is going on in his head, he is capable of controlling his thoughts, he doesn't drown in them. He chooses his thoughts like he would choose his clothes.
The conscious person thinks before saying anything to another human being. He sees the meaning of words, he knows that he can hurt the other person, so he chooses his words carefully.
He is a person aware of what he is doing at any given moment, accountable for all his actions and able to say no when necessary.
A conscious person realizes what is going on in his head, he is capable of controlling his thoughts, he doesn't drown in them. He chooses his thoughts like he would choose his clothes.
The conscious person thinks before saying anything to another human being. He sees the meaning of words, he knows that he can hurt the other person, so he chooses his words carefully.
What to focus on, what the first steps to take, and what direction to follow in order to become the best version of yourself!
▫️Step 1: broaden your horizons
Our self-development greatly depends on our erudition. Initially, it is hard to find any path if you have scant information.
▫️Step 2: read a lot
Books are an invaluable source of knowledge. Whatever your professional field, read! Explore fiction. Study spiritual literature. The whole world is in books.
▫️Step 3: move
Learning the proper mechanics of exercise, the specifics of exercise and how to exercise is very mind-blowing. If you're passionate about sports, it's simply impossible not to develop.
▫️Step 1: broaden your horizons
Our self-development greatly depends on our erudition. Initially, it is hard to find any path if you have scant information.
▫️Step 2: read a lot
Books are an invaluable source of knowledge. Whatever your professional field, read! Explore fiction. Study spiritual literature. The whole world is in books.
▫️Step 3: move
Learning the proper mechanics of exercise, the specifics of exercise and how to exercise is very mind-blowing. If you're passionate about sports, it's simply impossible not to develop.
It's so much like people...
Waiting for happiness.
I'll get my dream job and everything will change❗️
I'll meet a real man and he'll make me happy❗️
We're always waiting for him or her to be better, more responsible, more purposeful and then we'll be HAPPY.
But alas, our partners or circumstances don't make us happy.
If there is no feeling of harmony in our hearts, our acceptance of ourselves, understanding of our own wishes and goals, then nothing can make us happier.
So, if you want to be happy, start with yourself!
Waiting for happiness.
I'll get my dream job and everything will change❗️
I'll meet a real man and he'll make me happy❗️
We're always waiting for him or her to be better, more responsible, more purposeful and then we'll be HAPPY.
But alas, our partners or circumstances don't make us happy.
If there is no feeling of harmony in our hearts, our acceptance of ourselves, understanding of our own wishes and goals, then nothing can make us happier.
So, if you want to be happy, start with yourself!