Boost your confidence
Feel calm and unwavering, as a true king of the situation is supposed to be. And to do this, raise your testosterone level, because the higher a man's testosterone level, the more calm and emotionally stable, determined, sexy, etc.
What you need for this:
- engage in forceful confrontations - personal victories, even in ordinary contests will add self-value and will not only boost your testosterone, but also your mood
- start eating oatmeal, it neutralizes the globulin that blocks the natural production of testosterone
- this also includes foods rich in zinc and magnesium, healthy fats
- cut down on beer and alcohol, as they lower testosterone production by 50%.
Feel calm and unwavering, as a true king of the situation is supposed to be. And to do this, raise your testosterone level, because the higher a man's testosterone level, the more calm and emotionally stable, determined, sexy, etc.
What you need for this:
- engage in forceful confrontations - personal victories, even in ordinary contests will add self-value and will not only boost your testosterone, but also your mood
- start eating oatmeal, it neutralizes the globulin that blocks the natural production of testosterone
- this also includes foods rich in zinc and magnesium, healthy fats
- cut down on beer and alcohol, as they lower testosterone production by 50%.
Solve any problem
Cease to be cowardly about every problem and don't let yourself be taken out by what you think are impossible tasks. Show your backbone with this technique:
β Break the problem into pieces and solve them gradually.
Break it down until you have an algorithm of simple tasks that won't cause you difficulty, and then act.
It's better to act slowly and confidently than to tremble before each action like a little girlπ
Cease to be cowardly about every problem and don't let yourself be taken out by what you think are impossible tasks. Show your backbone with this technique:
β Break the problem into pieces and solve them gradually.
Break it down until you have an algorithm of simple tasks that won't cause you difficulty, and then act.
It's better to act slowly and confidently than to tremble before each action like a little girlπ
Shut up any asshole
Calm is the difference between you and emotional girls. Don't turn into a barmaid and always respond with dignity.
Hold up any aggressor with just one tactic:
- Put your opponent in a position where he will only answer your questions with a strict "yes" or "no."
And twist those questions in your direction as much as possible. That way you'll easily lead him into a stalemate and, in fact, he'll shut himself up.
As an example, if you have to perform some duties, without stinting on expressions, ask if they are in the list of your job duties. In addition, ask if you are paid extra for them.
Calm is the difference between you and emotional girls. Don't turn into a barmaid and always respond with dignity.
Hold up any aggressor with just one tactic:
- Put your opponent in a position where he will only answer your questions with a strict "yes" or "no."
And twist those questions in your direction as much as possible. That way you'll easily lead him into a stalemate and, in fact, he'll shut himself up.
As an example, if you have to perform some duties, without stinting on expressions, ask if they are in the list of your job duties. In addition, ask if you are paid extra for them.
Information garbage
Television, the Internet, pseudo-specialists are not always relevant, reliable sources of information. The psychology of personal development is a science that must be learned with care:
Learn to find authoritative sources.
Rely on research, not misguided opinions.
Don't trust experts who are ready to solve all problems at once, lightning fast.
To avoid mistakes, read books, scholarly articles, and authoritative publications where psychologists argue a position.
Television, the Internet, pseudo-specialists are not always relevant, reliable sources of information. The psychology of personal development is a science that must be learned with care:
Learn to find authoritative sources.
Rely on research, not misguided opinions.
Don't trust experts who are ready to solve all problems at once, lightning fast.
To avoid mistakes, read books, scholarly articles, and authoritative publications where psychologists argue a position.
Fear of defeat
Condemnation in society, by loved ones, frightens a person, often forces him to give up radical changes.
But creative self-development, financial growth, external and internal transformations are impossible without mistakes, defeats. This is a normal process of movement, and a loss, a failed attempt - life experience, not a lost war.
How to get rid of fear: never blame yourself for mistakes, but learn to accept them, analyze, correct them.
Condemnation in society, by loved ones, frightens a person, often forces him to give up radical changes.
But creative self-development, financial growth, external and internal transformations are impossible without mistakes, defeats. This is a normal process of movement, and a loss, a failed attempt - life experience, not a lost war.
How to get rid of fear: never blame yourself for mistakes, but learn to accept them, analyze, correct them.
How to avoid emotional burnout?
Oh, I know that many people don't like to plan. And in vain.
β«οΈ You should plan your rest
Allocate time in your daily plan for reading, watching useful video content, talking to friends, taking walks, and so on. Follow the plan strictly and respect your personal time just as much as your work time.
β«οΈ Even your favorite coffee should be limited
Drinking too much coffee can lead to caffeine addiction, which is detrimental on a physiological and psycho-emotional level.
β«οΈTry new things
Make it a rule to try something new every month: sign up for a trial dance lesson, visit a trampoline center, go to a master class. So you'll get a boost of energy from new experiences, meet new people.
Oh, I know that many people don't like to plan. And in vain.
β«οΈ You should plan your rest
Allocate time in your daily plan for reading, watching useful video content, talking to friends, taking walks, and so on. Follow the plan strictly and respect your personal time just as much as your work time.
β«οΈ Even your favorite coffee should be limited
Drinking too much coffee can lead to caffeine addiction, which is detrimental on a physiological and psycho-emotional level.
β«οΈTry new things
Make it a rule to try something new every month: sign up for a trial dance lesson, visit a trampoline center, go to a master class. So you'll get a boost of energy from new experiences, meet new people.
What can keep you from self-development?
I mean, does something like that happen to you?
Like courses, trainings, smart books, and routines. And everything somehow remains at a standstill.
What's getting in the way?
β«οΈ Lack of motivation
Motivation drives a person to action and makes him move toward his goal. It is like the fuel in the gas tank of a car.
β«οΈ Debris in the head
Wrong attitudes, bad habits, other people's way of thinking, fear of evaluation, labels of the past... All this is garbage in one's head, which makes one not live one's life.
β«οΈ Fear of change
There are many kinds of fears. These include the fear of taking on extra responsibility, facing criticism, and failing.
I mean, does something like that happen to you?
Like courses, trainings, smart books, and routines. And everything somehow remains at a standstill.
What's getting in the way?
β«οΈ Lack of motivation
Motivation drives a person to action and makes him move toward his goal. It is like the fuel in the gas tank of a car.
β«οΈ Debris in the head
Wrong attitudes, bad habits, other people's way of thinking, fear of evaluation, labels of the past... All this is garbage in one's head, which makes one not live one's life.
β«οΈ Fear of change
There are many kinds of fears. These include the fear of taking on extra responsibility, facing criticism, and failing.
We trust not in what we see
We behold and own what we invest (consciously or not) our most precious resources in: time, attention, experience, and action.
If your actions are not yielding the results you plan, you are most likely standing in a childish position:
β«οΈ "It's not my fault" (that's the way the circumstances are),
β«οΈ "It didn't work out for me again and there's no point in trying anything else,
β«οΈ "I have no idea what I need to do, so I'm going to keep doing something... just for the sake of action and pretend I'm not concerned with the result."
β«οΈ "I'm waiting for someone to come along and help/suggest/guide, hold my hand."
See?
More often than not, the reason for stagnation is that we don't want to go beyond the childish position.
We behold and own what we invest (consciously or not) our most precious resources in: time, attention, experience, and action.
If your actions are not yielding the results you plan, you are most likely standing in a childish position:
β«οΈ "It's not my fault" (that's the way the circumstances are),
β«οΈ "It didn't work out for me again and there's no point in trying anything else,
β«οΈ "I have no idea what I need to do, so I'm going to keep doing something... just for the sake of action and pretend I'm not concerned with the result."
β«οΈ "I'm waiting for someone to come along and help/suggest/guide, hold my hand."
See?
More often than not, the reason for stagnation is that we don't want to go beyond the childish position.
The Halo Effect
I still fall for this trick.
If you like a person's appearance, there is a good chance that you also like what they say or do, including things that may not exist, this phenomenon is called the halo effect.
The halo effect is a distortion that plays a serious role in how we perceive people and situations, simplifying them and making them more logical than they really are.
Sometimes it really pays to make a good first impression in an important meeting, as the outcome may depend on it.
But beware, as there are professionals who have mastered this tool to perfection.
I still fall for this trick.
If you like a person's appearance, there is a good chance that you also like what they say or do, including things that may not exist, this phenomenon is called the halo effect.
The halo effect is a distortion that plays a serious role in how we perceive people and situations, simplifying them and making them more logical than they really are.
Sometimes it really pays to make a good first impression in an important meeting, as the outcome may depend on it.
But beware, as there are professionals who have mastered this tool to perfection.
Finding a vector of development
In order to find out where to go, analyze the factors that prevent you from living a happy, fulfilling life:
-Health problems.
-Relationships. Short-lived, you are depressed, fall into victim status.
-Satisfaction at work.
-Lack of career.
-Financial instability.
-No spiritual, intellectual growth, development.
-Inability to build social connections, to communicate with others.
The goal of the stage is to understand which sphere of life suffers the most, to start self-improvement in this direction.
In order to find out where to go, analyze the factors that prevent you from living a happy, fulfilling life:
-Health problems.
-Relationships. Short-lived, you are depressed, fall into victim status.
-Satisfaction at work.
-Lack of career.
-Financial instability.
-No spiritual, intellectual growth, development.
-Inability to build social connections, to communicate with others.
The goal of the stage is to understand which sphere of life suffers the most, to start self-improvement in this direction.
Helplessness - where from and why?
When a man beats a woman, many people condemn her. Like, how can you not leave, how can you put up with this crap. But in fact, she often CANNOT and her "infantilism" has a scientific explanation, which is called "learned helplessness"ππ»
If a child is beaten by parents since childhood, put under moral pressure (humiliated, oppressively brought up), he got used to the fact that he has to tolerate, there's nowhere to go. And when in the future such a person found himself in similar conditions, he acted according to the familiar scenario "endure and suffer".
When a man beats a woman, many people condemn her. Like, how can you not leave, how can you put up with this crap. But in fact, she often CANNOT and her "infantilism" has a scientific explanation, which is called "learned helplessness"ππ»
If a child is beaten by parents since childhood, put under moral pressure (humiliated, oppressively brought up), he got used to the fact that he has to tolerate, there's nowhere to go. And when in the future such a person found himself in similar conditions, he acted according to the familiar scenario "endure and suffer".
Fear of relationships - where from and how to get rid of
Tough boundaries are about trying to defend yourself where no one ever thought of encroaching on you, about fencing yourself off from close relationships and trying to put up a higher fence to make sure no one gets over...
How to overcome the fear of relationshipsβ
The first thing to do is to admit your fear, to say out loud what you are afraid of. Then stand in front of a mirror and say out loud a supportive phrase about yourself.
For example: "My fear is just a shadow of a past relationship. I realize that men are different and I desire to allow myself a new relationship, and it will be better than before."
The most important thing is to acknowledge your fear. Support yourself and let the anxiety fade away.
Tough boundaries are about trying to defend yourself where no one ever thought of encroaching on you, about fencing yourself off from close relationships and trying to put up a higher fence to make sure no one gets over...
How to overcome the fear of relationshipsβ
The first thing to do is to admit your fear, to say out loud what you are afraid of. Then stand in front of a mirror and say out loud a supportive phrase about yourself.
For example: "My fear is just a shadow of a past relationship. I realize that men are different and I desire to allow myself a new relationship, and it will be better than before."
The most important thing is to acknowledge your fear. Support yourself and let the anxiety fade away.
The Triple Rule - Warm Quiet Dark
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A rule that gives us a sense of security. Hear the real you. Feel your body - what it is crying out for.
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Real self-care is a care filled with GRACE to your body. Your thoughts. Your feelings. Self-care is it without all these conditions.
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βοΈ If I feel like resting, I rest.
βοΈ If I wish to eat, I eat.
βοΈ If I want to sleep, I sleep.
βοΈ If I don't need to socialize with toxic people, I don't socialize.
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I hear my body and my desires. I hear my thoughts.
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A rule that gives us a sense of security. Hear the real you. Feel your body - what it is crying out for.
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Real self-care is a care filled with GRACE to your body. Your thoughts. Your feelings. Self-care is it without all these conditions.
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βοΈ If I feel like resting, I rest.
βοΈ If I wish to eat, I eat.
βοΈ If I want to sleep, I sleep.
βοΈ If I don't need to socialize with toxic people, I don't socialize.
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I hear my body and my desires. I hear my thoughts.
One tip for you, men
It seems to me that I won't say anything new, but if you wish the dialogue with women to be not only constructive, but also useful for you, you should never raise your tone.
Whyβ
Because their emotional sphere is much more developed and everything is interpreted as aggression on the subconscious.
βοΈMy advice: Better use a confident tone periodically, raising the tone slightly and smoothly lowering it. And make eye contact at all times, especially when she is speaking.
It seems to me that I won't say anything new, but if you wish the dialogue with women to be not only constructive, but also useful for you, you should never raise your tone.
Whyβ
Because their emotional sphere is much more developed and everything is interpreted as aggression on the subconscious.
βοΈMy advice: Better use a confident tone periodically, raising the tone slightly and smoothly lowering it. And make eye contact at all times, especially when she is speaking.
Learning how to catch liars
The first thing I recommend you startπ with the eyes. Always look into the eyes. Quite often people, when lying they look away to the side, or up and to the left.
βοΈ Especially children tend to look away because of shame.
But there are skilled liars who do this without looking away. Then they can be caught blinking more often.
Men are big fans of rubbing their eyes when they lie, while women are more inclined to touch their lips or chin.
In fact, touching the face while lying is a classic.
Now go and check on your loved ones to see if they are lying to you.
I'll tell you later how to catch more experienced liars.
The first thing I recommend you startπ with the eyes. Always look into the eyes. Quite often people, when lying they look away to the side, or up and to the left.
βοΈ Especially children tend to look away because of shame.
But there are skilled liars who do this without looking away. Then they can be caught blinking more often.
Men are big fans of rubbing their eyes when they lie, while women are more inclined to touch their lips or chin.
In fact, touching the face while lying is a classic.
Now go and check on your loved ones to see if they are lying to you.
I'll tell you later how to catch more experienced liars.
How to attract good luck and love into your life?
Grab a couple of simple affirmations. By repeating them every morning, you're sure to set yourself in the right moodππ»
Luck
No pondering or doubting: "Maybe I wish luck would come to me...". The saying goes, "I believe luck will surely smile on me today!"
Luck
Believe in a bright future and say, "I will do anything for happiness." The more you repeat this word, the faster you will come close to the realization of your goals.
Love
Don't be afraid to say compliments, show attention to loved ones, talk more often about love to your life partner. If you are visited by strong, joyful emotions, share them with friends.
Praise people. See how the world around you will begin to reciprocate you.
Grab a couple of simple affirmations. By repeating them every morning, you're sure to set yourself in the right moodππ»
Luck
No pondering or doubting: "Maybe I wish luck would come to me...". The saying goes, "I believe luck will surely smile on me today!"
Luck
Believe in a bright future and say, "I will do anything for happiness." The more you repeat this word, the faster you will come close to the realization of your goals.
Love
Don't be afraid to say compliments, show attention to loved ones, talk more often about love to your life partner. If you are visited by strong, joyful emotions, share them with friends.
Praise people. See how the world around you will begin to reciprocate you.
How do mindsets and stereotypes affect our lives?
In simple terms, they are our glasses through which we perceive the world around us, they color it in different ways, and they determine our attitude toward it. Absolutely everyone has these glasses. Yeah, reality hurts us for our narrow-minded beliefs. There are serious attitudinal differences among different social groups.
For instance:
The poor are more likely to believe that little can be changed in the world, that their fate is predetermined (hence there is no need to try to change anything), while the rich more often believe that much depends on them personally (hence one can and should change the world around them).
Can a person with a deep conviction of no talent create a masterpiece of art?
For this reason, it is essential to have the right attitudes, to believe in one's own strength, and to persevere in the right direction.
In simple terms, they are our glasses through which we perceive the world around us, they color it in different ways, and they determine our attitude toward it. Absolutely everyone has these glasses. Yeah, reality hurts us for our narrow-minded beliefs. There are serious attitudinal differences among different social groups.
For instance:
The poor are more likely to believe that little can be changed in the world, that their fate is predetermined (hence there is no need to try to change anything), while the rich more often believe that much depends on them personally (hence one can and should change the world around them).
Can a person with a deep conviction of no talent create a masterpiece of art?
For this reason, it is essential to have the right attitudes, to believe in one's own strength, and to persevere in the right direction.
What is the destructive power of depreciation?
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Impairment always contains some evaluative judgment or comparison with someone better, and devaluation always has the feeling of becoming less than you are.
You are told all the time that you fall short of the expectations of whoever is evaluating you. Critical remarking is a fairly common form of devaluation that many parents apply, both as a form of parenting to their children and for communicating with their marriage partner. After a critical remark, you may still be given advice even though you haven't asked anyone for advice.
In this way, devaluation is aimed at making you feel like a complete nothing, an incompetent, unselfish infantile, stupid and completely unfit for life.β
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Impairment always contains some evaluative judgment or comparison with someone better, and devaluation always has the feeling of becoming less than you are.
You are told all the time that you fall short of the expectations of whoever is evaluating you. Critical remarking is a fairly common form of devaluation that many parents apply, both as a form of parenting to their children and for communicating with their marriage partner. After a critical remark, you may still be given advice even though you haven't asked anyone for advice.
In this way, devaluation is aimed at making you feel like a complete nothing, an incompetent, unselfish infantile, stupid and completely unfit for life.β
Where to get energy?
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To begin with, let the idea sink in that each one of us has this energy source within us.
When we only allow this source to be inside us, it will start to beep and respond.β
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How do we catch its signals?
Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever. When the eyes light up because of something. It's that real interest that connects everyone with their living, creative part.
The part that is capable of experiencing pure joy. The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.
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To begin with, let the idea sink in that each one of us has this energy source within us.
When we only allow this source to be inside us, it will start to beep and respond.β
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How do we catch its signals?
Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever. When the eyes light up because of something. It's that real interest that connects everyone with their living, creative part.
The part that is capable of experiencing pure joy. The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.
Ever come across stubborn people who are hard to change their minds?
Or, perhaps, you are not so resilient and have trouble changing your beliefs, behaviors, and perceptions yourself.
In fact, this is a manifestation of a special quality of personality, which is called rigidity.
It can control our life, but escape from it is not easy, as rigidity is associated with many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth.
That's what it's about. The news today is scary, but the comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.
Or, perhaps, you are not so resilient and have trouble changing your beliefs, behaviors, and perceptions yourself.
In fact, this is a manifestation of a special quality of personality, which is called rigidity.
It can control our life, but escape from it is not easy, as rigidity is associated with many mental processes, and often we are predisposed to it from birth.
That's what it's about. The news today is scary, but the comments to it are even more scary. What's interesting is that sometimes it seems that all the commenters are at least prone to rigidity, and at most in need of emergency psychological support.