The Hate Virus
When we notice that others disregard norms and follow impulses, we easily allow ourselves to succumb to whatever impulses we have. That is, whenever we grasp universal hatred, our own self-control declines.
A famous person has donated money for hot lunches for doctors - "he's a bastard - it's PR." A famous actress sets up a fund to help sick children - "well, of course, it's a corrupt scheme."
Even the worst of times pass. But the anger in our hearts will accumulate and grow until it destroys all the good in each of us.
And remember, he, whom you hate, may not even know of your existence, but the virus of hatred can start certain psychosomatic processes in your own body.
When we notice that others disregard norms and follow impulses, we easily allow ourselves to succumb to whatever impulses we have. That is, whenever we grasp universal hatred, our own self-control declines.
A famous person has donated money for hot lunches for doctors - "he's a bastard - it's PR." A famous actress sets up a fund to help sick children - "well, of course, it's a corrupt scheme."
Even the worst of times pass. But the anger in our hearts will accumulate and grow until it destroys all the good in each of us.
And remember, he, whom you hate, may not even know of your existence, but the virus of hatred can start certain psychosomatic processes in your own body.
Adrenaline addiction
People addicted to high levels of adrenaline in their blood routinely take part in extreme sports despite injuries and other negative consequences of their hobby.
When stressed, the "fight or flight" reaction is triggered in the mind.
But what good is that? In moments of stress, not only adrenaline is released, but also norepinephrine, which causes feelings of euphoria and happiness.
Thus, an adrenaline junkie may even put his life in danger to provoke stress.
People addicted to high levels of adrenaline in their blood routinely take part in extreme sports despite injuries and other negative consequences of their hobby.
When stressed, the "fight or flight" reaction is triggered in the mind.
But what good is that? In moments of stress, not only adrenaline is released, but also norepinephrine, which causes feelings of euphoria and happiness.
Thus, an adrenaline junkie may even put his life in danger to provoke stress.
Discovering yourself means hearing all your little idiosyncrasies
Finding out that you like espresso and you don't like cappuccino, even though both contain caffeine. Realize, for instance, that you cannot work in an office due to your character and must seek freelance work.
Get a taste for people and find out that you don't like everyone. Figure out and let yourself practice what makes you happy. Realize that you don't feel great in November, but April is a time of renewal for you.
This process is like constantly building a house, brick by brick, tile by tile. The more different materials, the bigger, more interesting and more beautiful your house is. Your home features an entrance and windows, and not everyone you'll let in.
Life is given to us to recognize ourselves, every year, every step, as a revelation and discovery of ourselves.
Finding out that you like espresso and you don't like cappuccino, even though both contain caffeine. Realize, for instance, that you cannot work in an office due to your character and must seek freelance work.
Get a taste for people and find out that you don't like everyone. Figure out and let yourself practice what makes you happy. Realize that you don't feel great in November, but April is a time of renewal for you.
This process is like constantly building a house, brick by brick, tile by tile. The more different materials, the bigger, more interesting and more beautiful your house is. Your home features an entrance and windows, and not everyone you'll let in.
Life is given to us to recognize ourselves, every year, every step, as a revelation and discovery of ourselves.
How to make people reach out to you
First of all, find out who YOU are.
Self that can and loves to be alone for a long time. The one who appreciates freedom and solitude and knows what to do there. Someone who approaches and leaves without being attached to the result. That person who can leave at any moment without feeling guilty. One who knows what his fillings are. Someone who can easily be in the spotlight, and just as easily get out of it.
Someone who will gladly watch those dancing, with no desire to dance, just enjoying what is being seen. Someone who recognizes other people's talents without envy. Someone who hears himself and develops what he wants to.
When a person is self-explanatory, interesting, when he is filled with love and comprehension, people reach out to such a person. After all, this kind of a person is happy to see who is coming and who is going. He respects other people's space and doesn't grasp at people...
First of all, find out who YOU are.
Self that can and loves to be alone for a long time. The one who appreciates freedom and solitude and knows what to do there. Someone who approaches and leaves without being attached to the result. That person who can leave at any moment without feeling guilty. One who knows what his fillings are. Someone who can easily be in the spotlight, and just as easily get out of it.
Someone who will gladly watch those dancing, with no desire to dance, just enjoying what is being seen. Someone who recognizes other people's talents without envy. Someone who hears himself and develops what he wants to.
When a person is self-explanatory, interesting, when he is filled with love and comprehension, people reach out to such a person. After all, this kind of a person is happy to see who is coming and who is going. He respects other people's space and doesn't grasp at people...
About the value and devaluation of life experiences
When people break up by rejecting, devaluing and demeaning each other, they are perhaps a little less hurt as it is easier to part with something that is not very valuable or generally harmful.
But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is a waste of a resource. When we reject a person and the value of a relationship with that person, we reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted.
How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all"?
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After all, what are we left with after the breakups that inevitably happen in lifeβ
We are left with the experience of life and the ability to apply it.
When people break up by rejecting, devaluing and demeaning each other, they are perhaps a little less hurt as it is easier to part with something that is not very valuable or generally harmful.
But as part of a life strategy, devaluing is a waste of a resource. When we reject a person and the value of a relationship with that person, we reject the life experience gained in that relationship. And so life's time is wasted.
How often do you hear: "I wasted so much time on that fool" or "I gave it my all"?
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After all, what are we left with after the breakups that inevitably happen in lifeβ
We are left with the experience of life and the ability to apply it.
How to develop intuition
Intuition lies in our unconscious, so, in order to develop it, we need to work it out.
For a long-term effect, meditation, trance, and self-hypnosis (autogenic training) are the best. These practices allow us to temporarily disconnect (weaken) the conscious, the intellect, and other superstructures over the unconscious, giving it an outlet. In addition, meditation and similar practices harmonize internal processes, allow you to listen to your body, your sensations, i.e., to your inner voice.
Hereβs an effective technique for getting insightsππ»
βͺοΈ Step 1. Formulate a task for intuition (write it down, draw it, speak it out).
β«οΈ Step 2. Change the focus of your attention to matters and experiences unrelated to your task.
βͺοΈ Step 3. Turn off your mind - sleep, meditate.
β«οΈ Step 4. Go back to the original task, the inner voice will tell you the right direction.
Pumping your intuition is most effective with a comprehensive approach.
Intuition lies in our unconscious, so, in order to develop it, we need to work it out.
For a long-term effect, meditation, trance, and self-hypnosis (autogenic training) are the best. These practices allow us to temporarily disconnect (weaken) the conscious, the intellect, and other superstructures over the unconscious, giving it an outlet. In addition, meditation and similar practices harmonize internal processes, allow you to listen to your body, your sensations, i.e., to your inner voice.
Hereβs an effective technique for getting insightsππ»
βͺοΈ Step 1. Formulate a task for intuition (write it down, draw it, speak it out).
β«οΈ Step 2. Change the focus of your attention to matters and experiences unrelated to your task.
βͺοΈ Step 3. Turn off your mind - sleep, meditate.
β«οΈ Step 4. Go back to the original task, the inner voice will tell you the right direction.
Pumping your intuition is most effective with a comprehensive approach.
Fear of public speaking and how to deal with it
Shaking hands, confused speech, dry throat - familiar sensations?
Today we're about to mention some simple and effective tricks to help you feel more confident and perform great in publicππ»
π» Write out a detailed speech plan for yourself, so you stick to structure and save time on the speech itself.
π»Remember 2 simple numbers - 80 and 20. Women look more feminine if they use more facial expressions than gestures in their non-verbal communication. Men, on the contrary, should have more gestures. Observing this simple proportion, you will appear more harmonious and confident, and the audience will like you more.
π» To speak confidently and beautifully - learn how to breathe correctly. There is a special technique of breathing "diaphragm", it allows you to make your voice more voluminous and less tired during long speeches.
The main advice is to adopt the experience of the best speakers.
Shaking hands, confused speech, dry throat - familiar sensations?
Today we're about to mention some simple and effective tricks to help you feel more confident and perform great in publicππ»
π» Write out a detailed speech plan for yourself, so you stick to structure and save time on the speech itself.
π»Remember 2 simple numbers - 80 and 20. Women look more feminine if they use more facial expressions than gestures in their non-verbal communication. Men, on the contrary, should have more gestures. Observing this simple proportion, you will appear more harmonious and confident, and the audience will like you more.
π» To speak confidently and beautifully - learn how to breathe correctly. There is a special technique of breathing "diaphragm", it allows you to make your voice more voluminous and less tired during long speeches.
The main advice is to adopt the experience of the best speakers.
Life is teaching you to combine extremes
βοΈ love people, but be indifferent
βοΈ do good and wait for evil
βοΈ hope for the best, but expect the worst
βοΈ believe in people and trust no one
βοΈ be optimistic with a realistic outlook
βοΈ live with an open heart and let no one in
βοΈ part of you should love the world and admire it, while the other part should wait to strike and be ready for war
βοΈ love people, but be indifferent
βοΈ do good and wait for evil
βοΈ hope for the best, but expect the worst
βοΈ believe in people and trust no one
βοΈ be optimistic with a realistic outlook
βοΈ live with an open heart and let no one in
βοΈ part of you should love the world and admire it, while the other part should wait to strike and be ready for war
Affirmations for personal growth
β«οΈ I succeed in everything I do.
β«οΈ I am immensely grateful for the life I have.
β«οΈ I love myself inside and out.
β«οΈ I love myself, no matter what others think.
β«οΈ I am the only one who can define my self-worth, and I am worthy of my dreams.
β«οΈ I free myself from negative thoughts, especially negative thoughts about myself.
β«οΈ I am healthy and full of energy.
β«οΈ I accept myself as I am.
β«οΈ I succeed in everything I do.
β«οΈ I am immensely grateful for the life I have.
β«οΈ I love myself inside and out.
β«οΈ I love myself, no matter what others think.
β«οΈ I am the only one who can define my self-worth, and I am worthy of my dreams.
β«οΈ I free myself from negative thoughts, especially negative thoughts about myself.
β«οΈ I am healthy and full of energy.
β«οΈ I accept myself as I am.
Read paper books
Well, I agree, a house full of books is a dust collector.
But numerous studies show that information from paper sources is remembered and analyzed much better than electronic or audiobooks.
Why?
The feature of our brain is that the information is better remembered, which is accepted by all the senses. We hold a book in our hands, flip through its pages, smell it, feel the roughness of the paper, look at the cover and illustrations, well, except for what we read.
Well, I agree, a house full of books is a dust collector.
But numerous studies show that information from paper sources is remembered and analyzed much better than electronic or audiobooks.
Why?
The feature of our brain is that the information is better remembered, which is accepted by all the senses. We hold a book in our hands, flip through its pages, smell it, feel the roughness of the paper, look at the cover and illustrations, well, except for what we read.
Where to get energy?
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Neither me, nor anyone else, has a single answer to this question. For each one of us, it is a different source.
How to find your source of energy?
Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever it is. When something makes your eyes light up. It's that real interest that connects everyone to their living creative part.
The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.
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Neither me, nor anyone else, has a single answer to this question. For each one of us, it is a different source.
How to find your source of energy?
Recognize the slightest glimmer of lively interest in whatever it is. When something makes your eyes light up. It's that real interest that connects everyone to their living creative part.
The habit of gathering these little lights will open up access to inner resources.
Prisoners of stereotypes
Making the decision to become the best version of himself, be prepared to face the condemnation of society, loved ones, partners.
The main mistake is a comparison with others, the desire not to stand out from the crowd, the fear of becoming strange. But the process of personal development and self-development does not assume a ready-made patterns by which you can achieve what you want.
You have to fight the imposed stereotypes, complexes and fear.
Making the decision to become the best version of himself, be prepared to face the condemnation of society, loved ones, partners.
The main mistake is a comparison with others, the desire not to stand out from the crowd, the fear of becoming strange. But the process of personal development and self-development does not assume a ready-made patterns by which you can achieve what you want.
You have to fight the imposed stereotypes, complexes and fear.
Boost your confidence
Feel calm and unwavering, as a true king of the situation is supposed to be. And to do this, raise your testosterone level, because the higher a man's testosterone level, the more calm and emotionally stable, determined, sexy, etc.
What you need for this:
- engage in forceful confrontations - personal victories, even in ordinary contests will add self-value and will not only boost your testosterone, but also your mood
- start eating oatmeal, it neutralizes the globulin that blocks the natural production of testosterone
- this also includes foods rich in zinc and magnesium, healthy fats
- cut down on beer and alcohol, as they lower testosterone production by 50%.
Feel calm and unwavering, as a true king of the situation is supposed to be. And to do this, raise your testosterone level, because the higher a man's testosterone level, the more calm and emotionally stable, determined, sexy, etc.
What you need for this:
- engage in forceful confrontations - personal victories, even in ordinary contests will add self-value and will not only boost your testosterone, but also your mood
- start eating oatmeal, it neutralizes the globulin that blocks the natural production of testosterone
- this also includes foods rich in zinc and magnesium, healthy fats
- cut down on beer and alcohol, as they lower testosterone production by 50%.
Solve any problem
Cease to be cowardly about every problem and don't let yourself be taken out by what you think are impossible tasks. Show your backbone with this technique:
β Break the problem into pieces and solve them gradually.
Break it down until you have an algorithm of simple tasks that won't cause you difficulty, and then act.
It's better to act slowly and confidently than to tremble before each action like a little girlπ
Cease to be cowardly about every problem and don't let yourself be taken out by what you think are impossible tasks. Show your backbone with this technique:
β Break the problem into pieces and solve them gradually.
Break it down until you have an algorithm of simple tasks that won't cause you difficulty, and then act.
It's better to act slowly and confidently than to tremble before each action like a little girlπ
Shut up any asshole
Calm is the difference between you and emotional girls. Don't turn into a barmaid and always respond with dignity.
Hold up any aggressor with just one tactic:
- Put your opponent in a position where he will only answer your questions with a strict "yes" or "no."
And twist those questions in your direction as much as possible. That way you'll easily lead him into a stalemate and, in fact, he'll shut himself up.
As an example, if you have to perform some duties, without stinting on expressions, ask if they are in the list of your job duties. In addition, ask if you are paid extra for them.
Calm is the difference between you and emotional girls. Don't turn into a barmaid and always respond with dignity.
Hold up any aggressor with just one tactic:
- Put your opponent in a position where he will only answer your questions with a strict "yes" or "no."
And twist those questions in your direction as much as possible. That way you'll easily lead him into a stalemate and, in fact, he'll shut himself up.
As an example, if you have to perform some duties, without stinting on expressions, ask if they are in the list of your job duties. In addition, ask if you are paid extra for them.
Information garbage
Television, the Internet, pseudo-specialists are not always relevant, reliable sources of information. The psychology of personal development is a science that must be learned with care:
Learn to find authoritative sources.
Rely on research, not misguided opinions.
Don't trust experts who are ready to solve all problems at once, lightning fast.
To avoid mistakes, read books, scholarly articles, and authoritative publications where psychologists argue a position.
Television, the Internet, pseudo-specialists are not always relevant, reliable sources of information. The psychology of personal development is a science that must be learned with care:
Learn to find authoritative sources.
Rely on research, not misguided opinions.
Don't trust experts who are ready to solve all problems at once, lightning fast.
To avoid mistakes, read books, scholarly articles, and authoritative publications where psychologists argue a position.
Fear of defeat
Condemnation in society, by loved ones, frightens a person, often forces him to give up radical changes.
But creative self-development, financial growth, external and internal transformations are impossible without mistakes, defeats. This is a normal process of movement, and a loss, a failed attempt - life experience, not a lost war.
How to get rid of fear: never blame yourself for mistakes, but learn to accept them, analyze, correct them.
Condemnation in society, by loved ones, frightens a person, often forces him to give up radical changes.
But creative self-development, financial growth, external and internal transformations are impossible without mistakes, defeats. This is a normal process of movement, and a loss, a failed attempt - life experience, not a lost war.
How to get rid of fear: never blame yourself for mistakes, but learn to accept them, analyze, correct them.
How to avoid emotional burnout?
Oh, I know that many people don't like to plan. And in vain.
β«οΈ You should plan your rest
Allocate time in your daily plan for reading, watching useful video content, talking to friends, taking walks, and so on. Follow the plan strictly and respect your personal time just as much as your work time.
β«οΈ Even your favorite coffee should be limited
Drinking too much coffee can lead to caffeine addiction, which is detrimental on a physiological and psycho-emotional level.
β«οΈTry new things
Make it a rule to try something new every month: sign up for a trial dance lesson, visit a trampoline center, go to a master class. So you'll get a boost of energy from new experiences, meet new people.
Oh, I know that many people don't like to plan. And in vain.
β«οΈ You should plan your rest
Allocate time in your daily plan for reading, watching useful video content, talking to friends, taking walks, and so on. Follow the plan strictly and respect your personal time just as much as your work time.
β«οΈ Even your favorite coffee should be limited
Drinking too much coffee can lead to caffeine addiction, which is detrimental on a physiological and psycho-emotional level.
β«οΈTry new things
Make it a rule to try something new every month: sign up for a trial dance lesson, visit a trampoline center, go to a master class. So you'll get a boost of energy from new experiences, meet new people.
What can keep you from self-development?
I mean, does something like that happen to you?
Like courses, trainings, smart books, and routines. And everything somehow remains at a standstill.
What's getting in the way?
β«οΈ Lack of motivation
Motivation drives a person to action and makes him move toward his goal. It is like the fuel in the gas tank of a car.
β«οΈ Debris in the head
Wrong attitudes, bad habits, other people's way of thinking, fear of evaluation, labels of the past... All this is garbage in one's head, which makes one not live one's life.
β«οΈ Fear of change
There are many kinds of fears. These include the fear of taking on extra responsibility, facing criticism, and failing.
I mean, does something like that happen to you?
Like courses, trainings, smart books, and routines. And everything somehow remains at a standstill.
What's getting in the way?
β«οΈ Lack of motivation
Motivation drives a person to action and makes him move toward his goal. It is like the fuel in the gas tank of a car.
β«οΈ Debris in the head
Wrong attitudes, bad habits, other people's way of thinking, fear of evaluation, labels of the past... All this is garbage in one's head, which makes one not live one's life.
β«οΈ Fear of change
There are many kinds of fears. These include the fear of taking on extra responsibility, facing criticism, and failing.