Create an Attractive Image
If you wanna stop squirming in company and keeping quiet for fear of looking silly, use this exercise!
Just read out loud to do it!
Ever notice that insecurity comes over you just when you're trying to start talking?
Not everyone is born a speaker, but there's no skill you can't learnππ»
Taking a class like this not only will make you more well-read, but I'd even say, it will get the accent right in your speech!
That way you'll be pleasant to listen to, and that's already 50% of your great image
If you wanna stop squirming in company and keeping quiet for fear of looking silly, use this exercise!
Just read out loud to do it!
Ever notice that insecurity comes over you just when you're trying to start talking?
Not everyone is born a speaker, but there's no skill you can't learnππ»
Taking a class like this not only will make you more well-read, but I'd even say, it will get the accent right in your speech!
That way you'll be pleasant to listen to, and that's already 50% of your great image
Major Mistake
Another "gift" of procrastination is your frayed nerves! I mean, how often do you stress out about a thing you'll end up doing in 3 minutes?
And that's not about productivity anymore, it's about burnoutβπ»
Whether you're nervous before an important phone call or afraid to clarify something with your boss, don't procrastinate. Cause it's these thoughts that distract you from your work and reduce your concentrationπ₯
The faster you do it, the faster you will calm downπΏ
Another "gift" of procrastination is your frayed nerves! I mean, how often do you stress out about a thing you'll end up doing in 3 minutes?
And that's not about productivity anymore, it's about burnoutβπ»
Whether you're nervous before an important phone call or afraid to clarify something with your boss, don't procrastinate. Cause it's these thoughts that distract you from your work and reduce your concentrationπ₯
The faster you do it, the faster you will calm downπΏ
What is a "persuasive stare"?
What if I told you that a steady look is one of your main weapons?
β It's useful in confrontations, conflict situations, or important negotiations.
πScientists have found that two strangers only need 3 to 4 seconds of a steady gaze to feel uncomfortable.
When two opponents meet, an unspoken competition in the persistence of eye contact begins.
Achieve a piercing stare if you want to appear dangerous and confident!
π Look at the bridge of a man's nose. That way he will feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable.
What if I told you that a steady look is one of your main weapons?
β It's useful in confrontations, conflict situations, or important negotiations.
πScientists have found that two strangers only need 3 to 4 seconds of a steady gaze to feel uncomfortable.
When two opponents meet, an unspoken competition in the persistence of eye contact begins.
Achieve a piercing stare if you want to appear dangerous and confident!
π Look at the bridge of a man's nose. That way he will feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable.
See the person the way he or she wants you to
If you need to establish contact quickly: fall into the nets that your interlocutor has set up!
Researchers at Stanford University conducted an experiment. It involved people with adequate and low self-esteem. Their task was to talk to strangers. The subject of the conversation was the personality of the subjects.
πΉThe result: people with a positive self-perception expressed a desire to be friends with those who praised them. And participants with low self-esteem preferred critics.
Researchers attribute this to the fact that we always want predictable feedback. But be careful, every rule has its exceptionsππ»
If you need to establish contact quickly: fall into the nets that your interlocutor has set up!
Researchers at Stanford University conducted an experiment. It involved people with adequate and low self-esteem. Their task was to talk to strangers. The subject of the conversation was the personality of the subjects.
πΉThe result: people with a positive self-perception expressed a desire to be friends with those who praised them. And participants with low self-esteem preferred critics.
Researchers attribute this to the fact that we always want predictable feedback. But be careful, every rule has its exceptionsππ»
"What do you mean?"
Oh, I recall with sadness the days of my youth just from how much I used to get upset over the petty remarks of those around me! I just didn't know how to respond to themπ
What to do in such situations? Ask your interlocutor to clarify the meaning of the remark:
- "What do you mean?" or "I mean to check if I get you right?".
Don't forget to complete that sentence with some scathing response at the end!
Once your critic feels his game is solved, he's likely to leave you alone.
Consider that you've "caught him red-handed," and that's always embarrassingπ
Oh, I recall with sadness the days of my youth just from how much I used to get upset over the petty remarks of those around me! I just didn't know how to respond to themπ
What to do in such situations? Ask your interlocutor to clarify the meaning of the remark:
- "What do you mean?" or "I mean to check if I get you right?".
Don't forget to complete that sentence with some scathing response at the end!
Once your critic feels his game is solved, he's likely to leave you alone.
Consider that you've "caught him red-handed," and that's always embarrassingπ
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Develop your facial expressions.
Nah, it doesn't mean you have to wriggle like in Jim Carrey movies, just embellish your speech a little bitπ
π« People with poor facial expressions seem boring and dull and uninteresting.
Just imagine an interlocutor who tells a funny story with a look like he's reading an annual report to an executive.
It couldn't be easier: just practice your facial expressions in front of the mirror and you can count on the favor of those around youπ
Nah, it doesn't mean you have to wriggle like in Jim Carrey movies, just embellish your speech a little bitπ
π« People with poor facial expressions seem boring and dull and uninteresting.
Just imagine an interlocutor who tells a funny story with a look like he's reading an annual report to an executive.
It couldn't be easier: just practice your facial expressions in front of the mirror and you can count on the favor of those around youπ
Exercise "10 pluses"
If you see the best parts of people, you compliment them, if you praise them, by and large, you start to like themππ»
πΉHow to enter this vicious circle?
1. First, pump up your self-esteem! One who doesn't love himself or herself can't love othersπ₯
List your 10 pluses in 15 seconds. They can be anything from a nice shaped nose to your speed-reading skills. Say it again to reinforce it! It never hurts to praise yourself.
2. Move on to those around you. Emphasize the people about whom you already have a bad opinion - find 10 pluses in a grumpy cleaning lady or an authoritarian boss.
This eliminates unnecessary irritation and gives you a boost in communication with anyone!
If you see the best parts of people, you compliment them, if you praise them, by and large, you start to like themππ»
πΉHow to enter this vicious circle?
1. First, pump up your self-esteem! One who doesn't love himself or herself can't love othersπ₯
List your 10 pluses in 15 seconds. They can be anything from a nice shaped nose to your speed-reading skills. Say it again to reinforce it! It never hurts to praise yourself.
2. Move on to those around you. Emphasize the people about whom you already have a bad opinion - find 10 pluses in a grumpy cleaning lady or an authoritarian boss.
This eliminates unnecessary irritation and gives you a boost in communication with anyone!
Girl as an additional source of motivation
How many times have I heard from men, who achieved a lot in life, that they were inspired by a woman.
πΉ They motivate you and cheer you up if you build a relationship correctly. And without them, it's boring, gray, without any desire to change anything.
β Build a relationship comforting for both, the main thing is to find a constant source of motivation, not quarrels and depression!
It's a great work, which yields huge fruit if you approach it wiselyπΏ
How many times have I heard from men, who achieved a lot in life, that they were inspired by a woman.
πΉ They motivate you and cheer you up if you build a relationship correctly. And without them, it's boring, gray, without any desire to change anything.
β Build a relationship comforting for both, the main thing is to find a constant source of motivation, not quarrels and depression!
It's a great work, which yields huge fruit if you approach it wiselyπΏ
You are NOT worse than others.
"Never underestimate yourself. Everything that others do, you can do"
Β© Brian Tracy
It's ALWAYS difficult at the beginning of any journey. And if you're constantly looking back at the successes of those, who are close to perfection in what you need to do, you might as well sit down and cry about how bad it is!
But I'll tell you, gaining experience is a realistic task, not a dream of the clouds.
Arm yourself with patience and the right information, and consider that you are already the king of this world!
β‘οΈ NEVER give up right away and then you can conquer any peakβ‘οΈ
"Never underestimate yourself. Everything that others do, you can do"
Β© Brian Tracy
It's ALWAYS difficult at the beginning of any journey. And if you're constantly looking back at the successes of those, who are close to perfection in what you need to do, you might as well sit down and cry about how bad it is!
But I'll tell you, gaining experience is a realistic task, not a dream of the clouds.
Arm yourself with patience and the right information, and consider that you are already the king of this world!
β‘οΈ NEVER give up right away and then you can conquer any peakβ‘οΈ
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Persuasion Techniques
If you wish to change a person's point of view, approach it delicately.
βΌοΈ Deny everything your opponent says = defeat!
Even if you're faced with a loser who whines and blames everyone else but himself for his troubles, you shouldn't shout it in his face.
β Agree with him at the moment and gradually change his point of view with the right questions. Otherwise you'll just make an enemy.
If you wish to change a person's point of view, approach it delicately.
βΌοΈ Deny everything your opponent says = defeat!
Even if you're faced with a loser who whines and blames everyone else but himself for his troubles, you shouldn't shout it in his face.
β Agree with him at the moment and gradually change his point of view with the right questions. Otherwise you'll just make an enemy.
Self-sufficiency as an element of success
Sounds like the title of a textbook paragraph, but this stuff you'll actually use, as opposed to unnecessary tangents and useless cotangentsππ»
So, no one owes you anything!
If you want something, take the initiative to achieve it. Accept the fact that life isn't always fair and everyone's starting conditions are different.
But it doesn't follow that it's okay to treat others unfairly, in fact, it kills your credibilityπ₯
β‘οΈ Only YOU can change the game and come to a winning finish in your life!
Sounds like the title of a textbook paragraph, but this stuff you'll actually use, as opposed to unnecessary tangents and useless cotangentsππ»
So, no one owes you anything!
If you want something, take the initiative to achieve it. Accept the fact that life isn't always fair and everyone's starting conditions are different.
But it doesn't follow that it's okay to treat others unfairly, in fact, it kills your credibilityπ₯
β‘οΈ Only YOU can change the game and come to a winning finish in your life!
Cure for all problems
Failure, lack of motivation, long-ago goal attainment, and everything that is antonym to the word "success" you can cut out of your life with just one quality - self-discipline!
And the easiest thing you can do is to make sure that all things are in their proper place!
Right now, it sounds like I'm a mom telling off a kid for making a mess, but it will actually play a very important role in strengthening your inner core!
βοΈThen you can learn to automatically take/place things in the right place, thus getting your house in order as well!
The most essential skills for success start with the little things, champπ₯
Failure, lack of motivation, long-ago goal attainment, and everything that is antonym to the word "success" you can cut out of your life with just one quality - self-discipline!
And the easiest thing you can do is to make sure that all things are in their proper place!
Right now, it sounds like I'm a mom telling off a kid for making a mess, but it will actually play a very important role in strengthening your inner core!
βοΈThen you can learn to automatically take/place things in the right place, thus getting your house in order as well!
The most essential skills for success start with the little things, champπ₯
The "broken windows" theory
Or another cautionary tale for you, my friendπ
In the 90's, New York was an extremely unsafe place, as murders and robberies were regularly committed!
And the reason was this: society's disregard for minor offenses (throwing trash in the wrong places, vandalism, drinking in public places, jumping turnstiles at subway entrances) increased the likelihood of people committing similar or more serious unlawful acts.
And as soon as the city began to clean up, clear out and fix windows, the crime rate dropped drastically.
β‘οΈ Why this story? It's about the fact that you have to watch your habits carefully and not even give yourself the right to slack off.
Get it? π
Or another cautionary tale for you, my friendπ
In the 90's, New York was an extremely unsafe place, as murders and robberies were regularly committed!
And the reason was this: society's disregard for minor offenses (throwing trash in the wrong places, vandalism, drinking in public places, jumping turnstiles at subway entrances) increased the likelihood of people committing similar or more serious unlawful acts.
And as soon as the city began to clean up, clear out and fix windows, the crime rate dropped drastically.
β‘οΈ Why this story? It's about the fact that you have to watch your habits carefully and not even give yourself the right to slack off.
Get it? π
The main key to success is persistence
Truth I've come to know: the more and more often we realize our own success after achieving a goal, the more persistent we becomeπ
Make the most of everything you do, and in that way you gain experience. To do so, you need to increase your faith in yourself! First in your own eyes, so everyone can see it later:ππ»
β Write down on a sheet of paper what you've learned from your last failure to today. Every detail is important, praise yourself thoroughly, don't be shyππ»
Now revisit the resulting list.
ππ» You are capable of many accomplishments, the main thing is not to backtrack on your plans!
Truth I've come to know: the more and more often we realize our own success after achieving a goal, the more persistent we becomeπ
Make the most of everything you do, and in that way you gain experience. To do so, you need to increase your faith in yourself! First in your own eyes, so everyone can see it later:ππ»
β Write down on a sheet of paper what you've learned from your last failure to today. Every detail is important, praise yourself thoroughly, don't be shyππ»
Now revisit the resulting list.
ππ» You are capable of many accomplishments, the main thing is not to backtrack on your plans!
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Add points in her eyes
With the surprise effectπ₯
Getting gifts is always nice, and if you get them in an unusual way, you'll quickly turn any hottie's head!
Just shoving a present in your hands and muttering "this is for you" is fine, but that's what everyone does.
Turn this moment into a game, for example, inconspicuously put the gift in her pocket or purse?
Just try to do it really inconspicuously, so she won't think you're poking aroundπ
With the surprise effectπ₯
Getting gifts is always nice, and if you get them in an unusual way, you'll quickly turn any hottie's head!
Just shoving a present in your hands and muttering "this is for you" is fine, but that's what everyone does.
Turn this moment into a game, for example, inconspicuously put the gift in her pocket or purse?
Just try to do it really inconspicuously, so she won't think you're poking aroundπ
"Oh, dreamer, you used to call me..."
What if I told you that only the most successful men are named thatπ
β‘οΈAll because the more detailed you imagine what you will get out of solving a problem, the more motivated you will be!
A vivid fantasy acts on our psyche almost as much as an actual experience. Studies show that visualization stimulates the brain to work toward a goal.
What if I told you that only the most successful men are named thatπ
β‘οΈAll because the more detailed you imagine what you will get out of solving a problem, the more motivated you will be!
A vivid fantasy acts on our psyche almost as much as an actual experience. Studies show that visualization stimulates the brain to work toward a goal.
If you're not concentrating well at all
There are times when you are furiously solving tasks one after another, and there are times when you are distracted even by a spot on the wallpaperπ³
How to take away the second and forever stay in the first, not only to work productively, but also to have time in the evening to drink beer and relaxπ
Going for drastic measures: turn off pictures in your browser.
π§ Our brains process images 60,000 times faster than text. Internet ads and social media exploit this property to draw us to content that only distracts us from what's important.
β Try installing the Wizmage Image Hider extension for Chrome. Or turn on read mode for all sites in Safari.
Overplayed and destroyedπ§¨
There are times when you are furiously solving tasks one after another, and there are times when you are distracted even by a spot on the wallpaperπ³
How to take away the second and forever stay in the first, not only to work productively, but also to have time in the evening to drink beer and relaxπ
Going for drastic measures: turn off pictures in your browser.
π§ Our brains process images 60,000 times faster than text. Internet ads and social media exploit this property to draw us to content that only distracts us from what's important.
β Try installing the Wizmage Image Hider extension for Chrome. Or turn on read mode for all sites in Safari.
Overplayed and destroyedπ§¨
The 72-Hour Rule
You can be overly motivated and even plan to achieve your goal, but still not act under the weight of fear of failure.
Stalling is the destiny of losers.
But if you have made an important decision or you have an interesting idea, you can not procrastinate! This is where I offer you the 72 hour rule:
πMust start implementing your decision within 72 hours!
If you don't, there's a very good chance you'll never get started, and that chance increases with each hour.
Decide - do it, only by doing it will you pave the way to a life filled with your happinessβ‘οΈ
You can be overly motivated and even plan to achieve your goal, but still not act under the weight of fear of failure.
Stalling is the destiny of losers.
But if you have made an important decision or you have an interesting idea, you can not procrastinate! This is where I offer you the 72 hour rule:
πMust start implementing your decision within 72 hours!
If you don't, there's a very good chance you'll never get started, and that chance increases with each hour.
Decide - do it, only by doing it will you pave the way to a life filled with your happinessβ‘οΈ
For emotional balance
If you desire a calm and measured life, it's important to jump off the emotional swingπΏ
The basis of my judgment, the reason I got my status as the dude with the balls of steel: don't dwell on problems, and keep your mind cool.
You can wear your nerves out, ask a lot of advice, or just sit and wait for it to work itself out, but that way you can hardly get a happy ending.
πΊThe main secret of all successful people: while solving problems, focus not on it, but on the actions that solve it.
Doing so, you won't exhaust yourself with nerves and will find the best way out of the situationπ
If you desire a calm and measured life, it's important to jump off the emotional swingπΏ
The basis of my judgment, the reason I got my status as the dude with the balls of steel: don't dwell on problems, and keep your mind cool.
You can wear your nerves out, ask a lot of advice, or just sit and wait for it to work itself out, but that way you can hardly get a happy ending.
πΊThe main secret of all successful people: while solving problems, focus not on it, but on the actions that solve it.
Doing so, you won't exhaust yourself with nerves and will find the best way out of the situationπ
My shadow and me...
All the things we don't want to be, don't want to have, don't want to live with and don't want to allow into our own lives - form our Shadowπ€
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Denial doesn't make it disappear, it just excludes it from view. β
The word "no/rejection" pushes the unwanted away from us, but it cannot make it cease to exist. From then on, the rejected lives in the shadow of our consciousness. β
Rememberππ»
Young children firmly believe that if you close your eyes, you can become invisible. In the same way, we believe that it is possible to free ourselves from half of our "kind of not my qualities" without noticing them in ourselves.
All the things we don't want to be, don't want to have, don't want to live with and don't want to allow into our own lives - form our Shadowπ€
β
Denial doesn't make it disappear, it just excludes it from view. β
The word "no/rejection" pushes the unwanted away from us, but it cannot make it cease to exist. From then on, the rejected lives in the shadow of our consciousness. β
Rememberππ»
Young children firmly believe that if you close your eyes, you can become invisible. In the same way, we believe that it is possible to free ourselves from half of our "kind of not my qualities" without noticing them in ourselves.
Keep in mind gratitude
A cosmic law has existed since ancient times: if a person is not grateful for the help or knowledge rendered, the energy of gratitude will be taken away from him in one way or another. The ungrateful person breaks the balance of energies, so it will be restored at the first opportunity. β
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Just as a lake, from which water has been taken for irrigation, will draw water from other places to restore its level and it does not matter whether that water comes in a downpour from the clouds or from nearby wells. β
So wrap things up with gratitude.
A cosmic law has existed since ancient times: if a person is not grateful for the help or knowledge rendered, the energy of gratitude will be taken away from him in one way or another. The ungrateful person breaks the balance of energies, so it will be restored at the first opportunity. β
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Just as a lake, from which water has been taken for irrigation, will draw water from other places to restore its level and it does not matter whether that water comes in a downpour from the clouds or from nearby wells. β
So wrap things up with gratitude.