The Invisible Wall
No need to summon the spirit of history's best orators or take a bunch of sedatives to stand up to a tough argument, just mark your boundaries!
✅ Imagine there's a thick glass wall between you and your abuser. He says something, but you only see him, you do not hear the words, they are absorbed by the water and only bubble up with foam on the surface.
And you, without losing your composure and composure of spirit, do not give in to provocation, do not react to hurtful words. And thanks to this, turn the situation in your favor.
An old and effective technique without the use of unnecessary inventory👌🏻
No need to summon the spirit of history's best orators or take a bunch of sedatives to stand up to a tough argument, just mark your boundaries!
✅ Imagine there's a thick glass wall between you and your abuser. He says something, but you only see him, you do not hear the words, they are absorbed by the water and only bubble up with foam on the surface.
And you, without losing your composure and composure of spirit, do not give in to provocation, do not react to hurtful words. And thanks to this, turn the situation in your favor.
An old and effective technique without the use of unnecessary inventory👌🏻
🤔 Theories of panic attacks
Popular theories and hypotheses for the development of the disease include:
▫️ Catecholamine theory - based on the fact that panic attacks are linked with elevated levels of catecholamines, namely adrenaline. It acts as a stimulant that causes vasoconstriction, rapid heart rate, and stimulation of the nervous system.
▫️Genetic hypothesis - people, whose relatives had experienced panic attacks, had a 10% risk of developing the disorder, compared to 2.1% in people in the control group.
▫️Psychoanalytic theory - based on the assumption that anxiety and panic attacks are caused by a person's conflict with themselves, with their needs.
▫️Behavioral theory - assumes that panic attacks are initially caused by external causes. For example, a fast heartbeat is provoked by a life-threatening situation. Subsequently, the reaction solidifies and occurs when there is no longer a threat.
Popular theories and hypotheses for the development of the disease include:
▫️ Catecholamine theory - based on the fact that panic attacks are linked with elevated levels of catecholamines, namely adrenaline. It acts as a stimulant that causes vasoconstriction, rapid heart rate, and stimulation of the nervous system.
▫️Genetic hypothesis - people, whose relatives had experienced panic attacks, had a 10% risk of developing the disorder, compared to 2.1% in people in the control group.
▫️Psychoanalytic theory - based on the assumption that anxiety and panic attacks are caused by a person's conflict with themselves, with their needs.
▫️Behavioral theory - assumes that panic attacks are initially caused by external causes. For example, a fast heartbeat is provoked by a life-threatening situation. Subsequently, the reaction solidifies and occurs when there is no longer a threat.
Stuck in place?
There are days when you can solve all your problems at breakneck speed and fly victoriously toward your goal, and other days when going to the store is nothing but an obstacle!
And I know how to make sure that most of your days are from the first column! Unless, of course, you wanna watch someone else achieve your dreams:
Instill in yourself a sense of urgency!
Think about how important it is for you to get what you want and if you don't start now, you'll never get it🥀
That's the leverage to keep you from turning into a laid back procrastinator👌🏻
There are days when you can solve all your problems at breakneck speed and fly victoriously toward your goal, and other days when going to the store is nothing but an obstacle!
And I know how to make sure that most of your days are from the first column! Unless, of course, you wanna watch someone else achieve your dreams:
Instill in yourself a sense of urgency!
Think about how important it is for you to get what you want and if you don't start now, you'll never get it🥀
That's the leverage to keep you from turning into a laid back procrastinator👌🏻
If you control yourself, you control the world!
The main thing I learned as a youth is that you choose who you want to be! Any emotion or quality can be eradicated or nurtured, if you really want it!
But now let's talk about emotions☺️
In order to get the emotion under control, the moment you start to snap, transform it into the exact opposite.
If something unfortunate and very unpleasant has happened and you want to "burst into thunder," make an effort and smile or laugh.
Think about the good things you can learn from the situation, because that's YOUR baggage!
🔥 Do the same with other negative emotions.
The main thing I learned as a youth is that you choose who you want to be! Any emotion or quality can be eradicated or nurtured, if you really want it!
But now let's talk about emotions☺️
In order to get the emotion under control, the moment you start to snap, transform it into the exact opposite.
If something unfortunate and very unpleasant has happened and you want to "burst into thunder," make an effort and smile or laugh.
Think about the good things you can learn from the situation, because that's YOUR baggage!
🔥 Do the same with other negative emotions.
Demonstrate confidence
Arguments are always surprising, but you shouldn't run away from them like a dog with its tail between its legs. The key is to show your interlocutor that you are on equal footing.
Any display of insecurity adds points to your opponent's rightness. In such a case the pressure increases, and the search for compromise is doomed to failure.
✅Use real facts and be confident and calm, that way even the most turbulent wind won't blow your nerves away and raise your credibility with dignity.
But don't back your interlocutor into a corner. He may be wrong, but it's unlikely he's ready to admit it now. Give him time. Let his emotions die down.
Arguments are always surprising, but you shouldn't run away from them like a dog with its tail between its legs. The key is to show your interlocutor that you are on equal footing.
Any display of insecurity adds points to your opponent's rightness. In such a case the pressure increases, and the search for compromise is doomed to failure.
✅Use real facts and be confident and calm, that way even the most turbulent wind won't blow your nerves away and raise your credibility with dignity.
But don't back your interlocutor into a corner. He may be wrong, but it's unlikely he's ready to admit it now. Give him time. Let his emotions die down.
How to regularly stir a girl's imagination?
Reliability and correctness are good, of course, but how to make sure that your girlfriend doesn't die of boredom next to you?
👉🏻An example: Zeus has always had success with women due to his spectacular appearance in the glitter of lightning and tongues of flame.
As for you and me, we're not so lucky, so we'll use other tricks:
✅Put phrases in your speeches that will make her believe you're not so simple.
For example: "Such losses our family hasn't suffered since the time of Ivan the Terrible...", "Just before I took part in a six-day bicycle crossing..."
And put more facts on it! The main thing is not to fly to the Moon in your stories. In the pursuit of making an impression, it's best never to lie!
Reliability and correctness are good, of course, but how to make sure that your girlfriend doesn't die of boredom next to you?
👉🏻An example: Zeus has always had success with women due to his spectacular appearance in the glitter of lightning and tongues of flame.
As for you and me, we're not so lucky, so we'll use other tricks:
✅Put phrases in your speeches that will make her believe you're not so simple.
For example: "Such losses our family hasn't suffered since the time of Ivan the Terrible...", "Just before I took part in a six-day bicycle crossing..."
And put more facts on it! The main thing is not to fly to the Moon in your stories. In the pursuit of making an impression, it's best never to lie!
Habit of Action
Any hottie, position at work, and the best car will be yours if only you habituate yourself to action, champ🏆
✅Place some visible object near your workplace that will remind you to move forward.
Up to and including putting a photo mounted in photoshop with your dream come true!
⚡️It's important: When you see it, you should definitely light up and start working!
That way, when you come across your reminder, you'll wake up in time from the stickiness and get to work🚀
Any hottie, position at work, and the best car will be yours if only you habituate yourself to action, champ🏆
✅Place some visible object near your workplace that will remind you to move forward.
Up to and including putting a photo mounted in photoshop with your dream come true!
⚡️It's important: When you see it, you should definitely light up and start working!
That way, when you come across your reminder, you'll wake up in time from the stickiness and get to work🚀
Create an Attractive Image
If you wanna stop squirming in company and keeping quiet for fear of looking silly, use this exercise!
Just read out loud to do it!
Ever notice that insecurity comes over you just when you're trying to start talking?
Not everyone is born a speaker, but there's no skill you can't learn👌🏻
Taking a class like this not only will make you more well-read, but I'd even say, it will get the accent right in your speech!
That way you'll be pleasant to listen to, and that's already 50% of your great image
If you wanna stop squirming in company and keeping quiet for fear of looking silly, use this exercise!
Just read out loud to do it!
Ever notice that insecurity comes over you just when you're trying to start talking?
Not everyone is born a speaker, but there's no skill you can't learn👌🏻
Taking a class like this not only will make you more well-read, but I'd even say, it will get the accent right in your speech!
That way you'll be pleasant to listen to, and that's already 50% of your great image
Major Mistake
Another "gift" of procrastination is your frayed nerves! I mean, how often do you stress out about a thing you'll end up doing in 3 minutes?
And that's not about productivity anymore, it's about burnout☝🏻
Whether you're nervous before an important phone call or afraid to clarify something with your boss, don't procrastinate. Cause it's these thoughts that distract you from your work and reduce your concentration🥀
The faster you do it, the faster you will calm down🌿
Another "gift" of procrastination is your frayed nerves! I mean, how often do you stress out about a thing you'll end up doing in 3 minutes?
And that's not about productivity anymore, it's about burnout☝🏻
Whether you're nervous before an important phone call or afraid to clarify something with your boss, don't procrastinate. Cause it's these thoughts that distract you from your work and reduce your concentration🥀
The faster you do it, the faster you will calm down🌿
What is a "persuasive stare"?
What if I told you that a steady look is one of your main weapons?
✅ It's useful in confrontations, conflict situations, or important negotiations.
🔎Scientists have found that two strangers only need 3 to 4 seconds of a steady gaze to feel uncomfortable.
When two opponents meet, an unspoken competition in the persistence of eye contact begins.
Achieve a piercing stare if you want to appear dangerous and confident!
🏆 Look at the bridge of a man's nose. That way he will feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable.
What if I told you that a steady look is one of your main weapons?
✅ It's useful in confrontations, conflict situations, or important negotiations.
🔎Scientists have found that two strangers only need 3 to 4 seconds of a steady gaze to feel uncomfortable.
When two opponents meet, an unspoken competition in the persistence of eye contact begins.
Achieve a piercing stare if you want to appear dangerous and confident!
🏆 Look at the bridge of a man's nose. That way he will feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable.
See the person the way he or she wants you to
If you need to establish contact quickly: fall into the nets that your interlocutor has set up!
Researchers at Stanford University conducted an experiment. It involved people with adequate and low self-esteem. Their task was to talk to strangers. The subject of the conversation was the personality of the subjects.
🔹The result: people with a positive self-perception expressed a desire to be friends with those who praised them. And participants with low self-esteem preferred critics.
Researchers attribute this to the fact that we always want predictable feedback. But be careful, every rule has its exceptions👌🏻
If you need to establish contact quickly: fall into the nets that your interlocutor has set up!
Researchers at Stanford University conducted an experiment. It involved people with adequate and low self-esteem. Their task was to talk to strangers. The subject of the conversation was the personality of the subjects.
🔹The result: people with a positive self-perception expressed a desire to be friends with those who praised them. And participants with low self-esteem preferred critics.
Researchers attribute this to the fact that we always want predictable feedback. But be careful, every rule has its exceptions👌🏻
"What do you mean?"
Oh, I recall with sadness the days of my youth just from how much I used to get upset over the petty remarks of those around me! I just didn't know how to respond to them😄
What to do in such situations? Ask your interlocutor to clarify the meaning of the remark:
- "What do you mean?" or "I mean to check if I get you right?".
Don't forget to complete that sentence with some scathing response at the end!
Once your critic feels his game is solved, he's likely to leave you alone.
Consider that you've "caught him red-handed," and that's always embarrassing😏
Oh, I recall with sadness the days of my youth just from how much I used to get upset over the petty remarks of those around me! I just didn't know how to respond to them😄
What to do in such situations? Ask your interlocutor to clarify the meaning of the remark:
- "What do you mean?" or "I mean to check if I get you right?".
Don't forget to complete that sentence with some scathing response at the end!
Once your critic feels his game is solved, he's likely to leave you alone.
Consider that you've "caught him red-handed," and that's always embarrassing😏
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Develop your facial expressions.
Nah, it doesn't mean you have to wriggle like in Jim Carrey movies, just embellish your speech a little bit😏
🚫 People with poor facial expressions seem boring and dull and uninteresting.
Just imagine an interlocutor who tells a funny story with a look like he's reading an annual report to an executive.
It couldn't be easier: just practice your facial expressions in front of the mirror and you can count on the favor of those around you🏆
Nah, it doesn't mean you have to wriggle like in Jim Carrey movies, just embellish your speech a little bit😏
🚫 People with poor facial expressions seem boring and dull and uninteresting.
Just imagine an interlocutor who tells a funny story with a look like he's reading an annual report to an executive.
It couldn't be easier: just practice your facial expressions in front of the mirror and you can count on the favor of those around you🏆
Exercise "10 pluses"
If you see the best parts of people, you compliment them, if you praise them, by and large, you start to like them👌🏻
🔹How to enter this vicious circle?
1. First, pump up your self-esteem! One who doesn't love himself or herself can't love others🥀
List your 10 pluses in 15 seconds. They can be anything from a nice shaped nose to your speed-reading skills. Say it again to reinforce it! It never hurts to praise yourself.
2. Move on to those around you. Emphasize the people about whom you already have a bad opinion - find 10 pluses in a grumpy cleaning lady or an authoritarian boss.
This eliminates unnecessary irritation and gives you a boost in communication with anyone!
If you see the best parts of people, you compliment them, if you praise them, by and large, you start to like them👌🏻
🔹How to enter this vicious circle?
1. First, pump up your self-esteem! One who doesn't love himself or herself can't love others🥀
List your 10 pluses in 15 seconds. They can be anything from a nice shaped nose to your speed-reading skills. Say it again to reinforce it! It never hurts to praise yourself.
2. Move on to those around you. Emphasize the people about whom you already have a bad opinion - find 10 pluses in a grumpy cleaning lady or an authoritarian boss.
This eliminates unnecessary irritation and gives you a boost in communication with anyone!
Girl as an additional source of motivation
How many times have I heard from men, who achieved a lot in life, that they were inspired by a woman.
🌹 They motivate you and cheer you up if you build a relationship correctly. And without them, it's boring, gray, without any desire to change anything.
✅Build a relationship comforting for both, the main thing is to find a constant source of motivation, not quarrels and depression!
It's a great work, which yields huge fruit if you approach it wisely🌿
How many times have I heard from men, who achieved a lot in life, that they were inspired by a woman.
🌹 They motivate you and cheer you up if you build a relationship correctly. And without them, it's boring, gray, without any desire to change anything.
✅Build a relationship comforting for both, the main thing is to find a constant source of motivation, not quarrels and depression!
It's a great work, which yields huge fruit if you approach it wisely🌿
You are NOT worse than others.
"Never underestimate yourself. Everything that others do, you can do"
© Brian Tracy
It's ALWAYS difficult at the beginning of any journey. And if you're constantly looking back at the successes of those, who are close to perfection in what you need to do, you might as well sit down and cry about how bad it is!
But I'll tell you, gaining experience is a realistic task, not a dream of the clouds.
Arm yourself with patience and the right information, and consider that you are already the king of this world!
⚡️ NEVER give up right away and then you can conquer any peak⚡️
"Never underestimate yourself. Everything that others do, you can do"
© Brian Tracy
It's ALWAYS difficult at the beginning of any journey. And if you're constantly looking back at the successes of those, who are close to perfection in what you need to do, you might as well sit down and cry about how bad it is!
But I'll tell you, gaining experience is a realistic task, not a dream of the clouds.
Arm yourself with patience and the right information, and consider that you are already the king of this world!
⚡️ NEVER give up right away and then you can conquer any peak⚡️
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Persuasion Techniques
If you wish to change a person's point of view, approach it delicately.
‼️ Deny everything your opponent says = defeat!
Even if you're faced with a loser who whines and blames everyone else but himself for his troubles, you shouldn't shout it in his face.
✅ Agree with him at the moment and gradually change his point of view with the right questions. Otherwise you'll just make an enemy.
If you wish to change a person's point of view, approach it delicately.
‼️ Deny everything your opponent says = defeat!
Even if you're faced with a loser who whines and blames everyone else but himself for his troubles, you shouldn't shout it in his face.
✅ Agree with him at the moment and gradually change his point of view with the right questions. Otherwise you'll just make an enemy.
Self-sufficiency as an element of success
Sounds like the title of a textbook paragraph, but this stuff you'll actually use, as opposed to unnecessary tangents and useless cotangents👌🏻
So, no one owes you anything!
If you want something, take the initiative to achieve it. Accept the fact that life isn't always fair and everyone's starting conditions are different.
But it doesn't follow that it's okay to treat others unfairly, in fact, it kills your credibility🥀
⚡️ Only YOU can change the game and come to a winning finish in your life!
Sounds like the title of a textbook paragraph, but this stuff you'll actually use, as opposed to unnecessary tangents and useless cotangents👌🏻
So, no one owes you anything!
If you want something, take the initiative to achieve it. Accept the fact that life isn't always fair and everyone's starting conditions are different.
But it doesn't follow that it's okay to treat others unfairly, in fact, it kills your credibility🥀
⚡️ Only YOU can change the game and come to a winning finish in your life!
Cure for all problems
Failure, lack of motivation, long-ago goal attainment, and everything that is antonym to the word "success" you can cut out of your life with just one quality - self-discipline!
And the easiest thing you can do is to make sure that all things are in their proper place!
Right now, it sounds like I'm a mom telling off a kid for making a mess, but it will actually play a very important role in strengthening your inner core!
✔️Then you can learn to automatically take/place things in the right place, thus getting your house in order as well!
The most essential skills for success start with the little things, champ🔥
Failure, lack of motivation, long-ago goal attainment, and everything that is antonym to the word "success" you can cut out of your life with just one quality - self-discipline!
And the easiest thing you can do is to make sure that all things are in their proper place!
Right now, it sounds like I'm a mom telling off a kid for making a mess, but it will actually play a very important role in strengthening your inner core!
✔️Then you can learn to automatically take/place things in the right place, thus getting your house in order as well!
The most essential skills for success start with the little things, champ🔥
The "broken windows" theory
Or another cautionary tale for you, my friend🏆
In the 90's, New York was an extremely unsafe place, as murders and robberies were regularly committed!
And the reason was this: society's disregard for minor offenses (throwing trash in the wrong places, vandalism, drinking in public places, jumping turnstiles at subway entrances) increased the likelihood of people committing similar or more serious unlawful acts.
And as soon as the city began to clean up, clear out and fix windows, the crime rate dropped drastically.
⚡️ Why this story? It's about the fact that you have to watch your habits carefully and not even give yourself the right to slack off.
Get it? 😏
Or another cautionary tale for you, my friend🏆
In the 90's, New York was an extremely unsafe place, as murders and robberies were regularly committed!
And the reason was this: society's disregard for minor offenses (throwing trash in the wrong places, vandalism, drinking in public places, jumping turnstiles at subway entrances) increased the likelihood of people committing similar or more serious unlawful acts.
And as soon as the city began to clean up, clear out and fix windows, the crime rate dropped drastically.
⚡️ Why this story? It's about the fact that you have to watch your habits carefully and not even give yourself the right to slack off.
Get it? 😏
The main key to success is persistence
Truth I've come to know: the more and more often we realize our own success after achieving a goal, the more persistent we become🏆
Make the most of everything you do, and in that way you gain experience. To do so, you need to increase your faith in yourself! First in your own eyes, so everyone can see it later:👇🏻
✅Write down on a sheet of paper what you've learned from your last failure to today. Every detail is important, praise yourself thoroughly, don't be shy👌🏻
Now revisit the resulting list.
👉🏻 You are capable of many accomplishments, the main thing is not to backtrack on your plans!
Truth I've come to know: the more and more often we realize our own success after achieving a goal, the more persistent we become🏆
Make the most of everything you do, and in that way you gain experience. To do so, you need to increase your faith in yourself! First in your own eyes, so everyone can see it later:👇🏻
✅Write down on a sheet of paper what you've learned from your last failure to today. Every detail is important, praise yourself thoroughly, don't be shy👌🏻
Now revisit the resulting list.
👉🏻 You are capable of many accomplishments, the main thing is not to backtrack on your plans!