No judging anyone
If you are wondering how to start living in harmony, first stop judging yourself (first of all) for mistakes and bad actions.
Feeling guilty for what you've done won't help you change, it will only make you worry. If you have made a mistake, admit your mistake and try not to repeat it.
Never compare yourself with other people, everyone has his own way in this world.
Do not judge the actions of others, because you can not know all the subtleties and details.
If you are wondering how to start living in harmony, first stop judging yourself (first of all) for mistakes and bad actions.
Feeling guilty for what you've done won't help you change, it will only make you worry. If you have made a mistake, admit your mistake and try not to repeat it.
Never compare yourself with other people, everyone has his own way in this world.
Do not judge the actions of others, because you can not know all the subtleties and details.
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The strength is in your character.
If a man looks timid and pitiful, he will only be noticed by grannies.
❗️ And girls need a strong protector! And it's not just physically!
Nah, that doesn't mean you have to stand in front of the mirror looking for facial expressions that will make you more formidable, for starters you have to learn to look any abuser in the eye with confidence!
✅ Look into your opponent's eyes for a few seconds. Then look at his feet and now into his eyes again. This will demonstrate that you don't recognize him as a threat and that you're not afraid of him.
And if you keep a straight posture and don't fidget and fidget with your smartphone, you can not only look confident, but you can solve any problem🏆
If a man looks timid and pitiful, he will only be noticed by grannies.
❗️ And girls need a strong protector! And it's not just physically!
Nah, that doesn't mean you have to stand in front of the mirror looking for facial expressions that will make you more formidable, for starters you have to learn to look any abuser in the eye with confidence!
✅ Look into your opponent's eyes for a few seconds. Then look at his feet and now into his eyes again. This will demonstrate that you don't recognize him as a threat and that you're not afraid of him.
And if you keep a straight posture and don't fidget and fidget with your smartphone, you can not only look confident, but you can solve any problem🏆
"Uh," "well," "in a nutshell"
And that's an incomplete arsenal that sets you apart from a charismatic man.
✅With a huge vocabulary you can easily show your intelligence, put an asshole in his place or charm any beauty!
That’s a must-have for a man with big plans for his future! So, do the following:
1. Get rid of all the parasitic words! Up to the point that you put a rubber band on your hand and beat yourself painfully at every unnecessary word. This is my personal method of getting rid of the dreaded "well, like."
2. Use your smartphone: install the Word of the Day app and try to memorize the words it suggests.
💡A little trick: to memorize the word sooner, make 5-10 sentences with it, so it will be memorized quickly! It also works with foreign words.
And that's an incomplete arsenal that sets you apart from a charismatic man.
✅With a huge vocabulary you can easily show your intelligence, put an asshole in his place or charm any beauty!
That’s a must-have for a man with big plans for his future! So, do the following:
1. Get rid of all the parasitic words! Up to the point that you put a rubber band on your hand and beat yourself painfully at every unnecessary word. This is my personal method of getting rid of the dreaded "well, like."
2. Use your smartphone: install the Word of the Day app and try to memorize the words it suggests.
💡A little trick: to memorize the word sooner, make 5-10 sentences with it, so it will be memorized quickly! It also works with foreign words.
Key question for a strong relationship
For me, it is as vital as "How do we build a family budget?”
❕Nothing causes conflicts in a couple as much as a simple lack of communication.
That’s why it is important to discuss all issues, including unpleasant moments, such as cheating.
Why am I highlighting this issue? As this concept is controversial for many people.
👉🏻For some, cheating is exclusively about sex with another person, and for some, flirting or sweet communication is already taboo.
✔️When it comes to a serious relationship, you need to formulate limits beforehand and try not to go beyond them.
Talk about it to see what kind of fish you've got in your net!
For me, it is as vital as "How do we build a family budget?”
❕Nothing causes conflicts in a couple as much as a simple lack of communication.
That’s why it is important to discuss all issues, including unpleasant moments, such as cheating.
Why am I highlighting this issue? As this concept is controversial for many people.
👉🏻For some, cheating is exclusively about sex with another person, and for some, flirting or sweet communication is already taboo.
✔️When it comes to a serious relationship, you need to formulate limits beforehand and try not to go beyond them.
Talk about it to see what kind of fish you've got in your net!
Solve problems easily
As you chew on the problem: enjoying all the facets of negative emotion, constructing situations of "what if I had done otherwise, it wouldn't have happened," the problem takes on the features of disaster🚫
And my oft-used practice that is guaranteed to erase any problem from my life is to "change focus" or look at the problem from the outside.
What to do.
Briefly "escape" from the problem both physically and emotionally: go for a walk, a workout, a concert, somewhere where you are guaranteed a light physical and positive emotional load.
Such a simple action will help to reset your brain and assess everything with fresh eyes🚀
As you chew on the problem: enjoying all the facets of negative emotion, constructing situations of "what if I had done otherwise, it wouldn't have happened," the problem takes on the features of disaster🚫
And my oft-used practice that is guaranteed to erase any problem from my life is to "change focus" or look at the problem from the outside.
What to do.
Briefly "escape" from the problem both physically and emotionally: go for a walk, a workout, a concert, somewhere where you are guaranteed a light physical and positive emotional load.
Such a simple action will help to reset your brain and assess everything with fresh eyes🚀
Train your concentration
I say no matter how hard you try, it won't be successful unless you can concentrate on it properly!
Solve your problems quickly and easily by turning your attention away from other things, and the following method will help you:
✅Take an ordinary watch and watch the second hand move for 5 minutes.
Think ONLY about that hand and nothing else. If you get distracted, start over.
Developing this quality will begin to pay off very quickly - you'll stop making mistakes and waste less time solving problems🏆
I say no matter how hard you try, it won't be successful unless you can concentrate on it properly!
Solve your problems quickly and easily by turning your attention away from other things, and the following method will help you:
✅Take an ordinary watch and watch the second hand move for 5 minutes.
Think ONLY about that hand and nothing else. If you get distracted, start over.
Developing this quality will begin to pay off very quickly - you'll stop making mistakes and waste less time solving problems🏆
Common female manipulation.
No matter how pretty a woman is standing in front of you, don't let yourself be twisted🚫
Ever heard the phrases: "You're a man, so take me to a restaurant" or "Be a man and influence the situation”.
Bear in mind the truth, friend: such utterances are told to you to act the way SHE wants you to and drive you under👠
What to do.
Convince yourself and her, "I, as a real man, am doing the right thing." Yes, you can listen to your beloved, but always do what you think is right.
✅Then you yourself will feel like a real man and become more confident.
✅ She will feel your masculine strength too, even if over time, and she will reckon with it.
No matter how pretty a woman is standing in front of you, don't let yourself be twisted🚫
Ever heard the phrases: "You're a man, so take me to a restaurant" or "Be a man and influence the situation”.
Bear in mind the truth, friend: such utterances are told to you to act the way SHE wants you to and drive you under👠
What to do.
Convince yourself and her, "I, as a real man, am doing the right thing." Yes, you can listen to your beloved, but always do what you think is right.
✅Then you yourself will feel like a real man and become more confident.
✅ She will feel your masculine strength too, even if over time, and she will reckon with it.
Adding more "here and now"
Wish to add mindfulness to your life right now?
Try a little exercise: look at your right hand and try to feel your fingertips, your phalangeal area, your palm.
Feel the blood pulsing in your hand; if you can, try to feel subtle vibrations, as if pressing lightly on your fingers and palm.
👆🏻Take 3-5 minutes to do this activity. That way you can practice mindfulness anywhere!
✔️ Now imagine what would happen if you were as mindful of your thoughts and emotions!
I practiced mindfulness in the most pleasant ways: the subject of my mindfulness was the wind and the rustling of leaves, the raindrops on the glass, the movements of my hands, the sound of tapping keys, etc.
You can think of it as a little meditation. It will help you relax and tune yourself out🌿
Wish to add mindfulness to your life right now?
Try a little exercise: look at your right hand and try to feel your fingertips, your phalangeal area, your palm.
Feel the blood pulsing in your hand; if you can, try to feel subtle vibrations, as if pressing lightly on your fingers and palm.
👆🏻Take 3-5 minutes to do this activity. That way you can practice mindfulness anywhere!
✔️ Now imagine what would happen if you were as mindful of your thoughts and emotions!
I practiced mindfulness in the most pleasant ways: the subject of my mindfulness was the wind and the rustling of leaves, the raindrops on the glass, the movements of my hands, the sound of tapping keys, etc.
You can think of it as a little meditation. It will help you relax and tune yourself out🌿
Break down your mindset
It's normal to be nervous before an important event; it's normal to tremble and crumple because of excitement, losing the opportunity to do the task well - NO🚫
In order to grasp the nature of our fear, I want to turn to the history of our evolution. It was ONLY through emotion that our ancestors were able to survive! As due to the adrenaline produced, they started to run and assess the situation faster!
The main sign of adrenaline is excitement, which means that your body is in a perfect fighting state. The trick is to use this critical state for good, not evil.
To begin with, it is enough to simply interpret anxiety as something positive. As strange as that may sound.
🏆Think of it as your charge to perform at your highest level, don't blame yourself for your nerves, that way you'll drive yourself even more and you'll definitely screw up!
It's normal to be nervous before an important event; it's normal to tremble and crumple because of excitement, losing the opportunity to do the task well - NO🚫
In order to grasp the nature of our fear, I want to turn to the history of our evolution. It was ONLY through emotion that our ancestors were able to survive! As due to the adrenaline produced, they started to run and assess the situation faster!
The main sign of adrenaline is excitement, which means that your body is in a perfect fighting state. The trick is to use this critical state for good, not evil.
To begin with, it is enough to simply interpret anxiety as something positive. As strange as that may sound.
🏆Think of it as your charge to perform at your highest level, don't blame yourself for your nerves, that way you'll drive yourself even more and you'll definitely screw up!
Course in "I-Position”
And it's not about inflated self-esteem, but about the ability to correctly and without aggression communicate your discomfort to others!
Frequently criticism hurts and alienates people from you, but if you want to take leadership positions - it must be done in a certain way!
Take the phrases "You never" out of your speech in conflict situations. "You always" and replace it with "I feel", "I feel hurt."
Example:
🚫"You're holding up the whole team."
✅"I feel tense because I don't have your presentation yet."
That way you'll avoid a lot of resentment and keep a warm relationship with everyone!
And it's not about inflated self-esteem, but about the ability to correctly and without aggression communicate your discomfort to others!
Frequently criticism hurts and alienates people from you, but if you want to take leadership positions - it must be done in a certain way!
Take the phrases "You never" out of your speech in conflict situations. "You always" and replace it with "I feel", "I feel hurt."
Example:
🚫"You're holding up the whole team."
✅"I feel tense because I don't have your presentation yet."
That way you'll avoid a lot of resentment and keep a warm relationship with everyone!
Sports and vitamins
Here are your main helpers not only in building a healthy body, but also in tempering your inner core, and even your brain🧠✨
Exercise increases blood flow and protein production, which improves gray matter function. Even a regular exercise or a walk in the fresh air can have a beneficial effect on mental activity.
Try to give it at least 20 minutes every day. That's one.
Two, watch your diet. Our brains need nutrients, so it's necessary to consume them daily.
It is better to get minerals and vitamins from food, as they have more benefits than man-made pills. Include plant foods, fruits and vegetables in your diet.
These two steps will kill three birds with one stone:
✅ you'll improve your physical fitness.
✅ improve your stamina, thus increasing your self-discipline
✅ and improve your intelligence.
And you'll be happy, champ🏆
Here are your main helpers not only in building a healthy body, but also in tempering your inner core, and even your brain🧠✨
Exercise increases blood flow and protein production, which improves gray matter function. Even a regular exercise or a walk in the fresh air can have a beneficial effect on mental activity.
Try to give it at least 20 minutes every day. That's one.
Two, watch your diet. Our brains need nutrients, so it's necessary to consume them daily.
It is better to get minerals and vitamins from food, as they have more benefits than man-made pills. Include plant foods, fruits and vegetables in your diet.
These two steps will kill three birds with one stone:
✅ you'll improve your physical fitness.
✅ improve your stamina, thus increasing your self-discipline
✅ and improve your intelligence.
And you'll be happy, champ🏆
Motivation and desire for action
I tend to notice with myself that the more I do well, the more I feel like doing! I bet you feel the same😏
There it is, the magic power of motivation! And it's not for wimps!
It's a vicious circle that you need to enter if you intend to change your life: that way you'll get money, girls, and prestige!
And to do that you need:
1. Set achievable goals for yourself, so that you don't idle your progress
2. Evaluate your progress and be sure to reward yourself for them as often as possible.
I tend to notice with myself that the more I do well, the more I feel like doing! I bet you feel the same😏
There it is, the magic power of motivation! And it's not for wimps!
It's a vicious circle that you need to enter if you intend to change your life: that way you'll get money, girls, and prestige!
And to do that you need:
1. Set achievable goals for yourself, so that you don't idle your progress
2. Evaluate your progress and be sure to reward yourself for them as often as possible.
Hands are your main tool
And not only to hammer a nail or open a door in front of a crumb, but also to develop your intellect!
✅ If you want your brain to make lightning-fast decisions and forget about forgetfulness and absent-mindedness forever, don't forget to train it!
What to do?
The fingers on your right hand show the "peace" sign, the fingers on your left hand show the "ok" sign. Synchronously change the signs on your hands. Free, quick, and most importantly, beneficial👌🏻
What benefits result:
- formation of new neural connections
- increased concentration and attention
- better intelligence
- prevention of many diseases of the brain.
And not only to hammer a nail or open a door in front of a crumb, but also to develop your intellect!
✅ If you want your brain to make lightning-fast decisions and forget about forgetfulness and absent-mindedness forever, don't forget to train it!
What to do?
The fingers on your right hand show the "peace" sign, the fingers on your left hand show the "ok" sign. Synchronously change the signs on your hands. Free, quick, and most importantly, beneficial👌🏻
What benefits result:
- formation of new neural connections
- increased concentration and attention
- better intelligence
- prevention of many diseases of the brain.
Brutality is not a vice
Just a huge plus in the eyes of the girls! Someone from the female sex even told me that brutal men smell like sex! That's how girls are!
So, a picture comes immediately to mind - leather jacket, glasses and shabby hair. But that's not it🚫
You can walk at least in a sweater with deer (better not:) here it's your actions and character that's important!
And one of the indicators of your brutality is showing loyalty to principles. Even the most delusional. Any!
Like, you don't sleep with women twice - and don't back down from that! She'll try to check it out and see if she's special. And you already drag and the third and tenth time, the main thing - not twice😏
Remember: any beauty is by nature a terrible provocateur. Your iron stubbornness will only emphasize your brutality🏆
Just a huge plus in the eyes of the girls! Someone from the female sex even told me that brutal men smell like sex! That's how girls are!
So, a picture comes immediately to mind - leather jacket, glasses and shabby hair. But that's not it🚫
You can walk at least in a sweater with deer (better not:) here it's your actions and character that's important!
And one of the indicators of your brutality is showing loyalty to principles. Even the most delusional. Any!
Like, you don't sleep with women twice - and don't back down from that! She'll try to check it out and see if she's special. And you already drag and the third and tenth time, the main thing - not twice😏
Remember: any beauty is by nature a terrible provocateur. Your iron stubbornness will only emphasize your brutality🏆
Count in your mind to count your future victories
It's easy to speed up your brain to the speed of light - just put away the "Calculator" app!
It's mathematical calculations that develop your memory and even help you think more logically🧠
✅You can count the total amount of purchases in the store by yourself without waiting for the cashier's verdict👌🏻
✅ In your spare time, play number games like Sudoku or nonograms. More games like "take away pairs" are also suitable, because the main skill involved will be your memory, champ.
It's easy to speed up your brain to the speed of light - just put away the "Calculator" app!
It's mathematical calculations that develop your memory and even help you think more logically🧠
✅You can count the total amount of purchases in the store by yourself without waiting for the cashier's verdict👌🏻
✅ In your spare time, play number games like Sudoku or nonograms. More games like "take away pairs" are also suitable, because the main skill involved will be your memory, champ.
Eliminate Time Eaters
These habits are hard to weed out, and they do gobble up lots of time. That's why it's important to make a schedule for your time stealers to get them under control.
✅The good thing about this method is that gradually the time eaters will be replaced by new, useful habits, and you'll start to get more done.
And you won't get frustrated with them, because you haven't just eliminated them, you've set aside a separate time for them!
Bonus, when you see how much your life has changed without these time eaters, you won't wanna go back to them!
These habits are hard to weed out, and they do gobble up lots of time. That's why it's important to make a schedule for your time stealers to get them under control.
✅The good thing about this method is that gradually the time eaters will be replaced by new, useful habits, and you'll start to get more done.
And you won't get frustrated with them, because you haven't just eliminated them, you've set aside a separate time for them!
Bonus, when you see how much your life has changed without these time eaters, you won't wanna go back to them!
"You won't make it"
"What do you need?" or "Do something normal already."
👆🏻 These were the three phrases I was told by my parents, who thought my psychology studies were nonsense and insisted on going to law school. I think it's a trivial story of different views of the future of a child and parents.
❗️NO! I didn't break down and I won't let you either! Even if you ever hear something like this, don't take it personally! At all!
Only you know your strengths and weaknesses. Only you can be sure of your strengths.
Do not dance to someone else's tune and act only on the basis of your own desires, so motivation and interest in your work will appear, and this is a guarantee of achieving the highest skill in your profession.
Bend your line and rub everybody's nose in it, champ🏆
"What do you need?" or "Do something normal already."
👆🏻 These were the three phrases I was told by my parents, who thought my psychology studies were nonsense and insisted on going to law school. I think it's a trivial story of different views of the future of a child and parents.
❗️NO! I didn't break down and I won't let you either! Even if you ever hear something like this, don't take it personally! At all!
Only you know your strengths and weaknesses. Only you can be sure of your strengths.
Do not dance to someone else's tune and act only on the basis of your own desires, so motivation and interest in your work will appear, and this is a guarantee of achieving the highest skill in your profession.
Bend your line and rub everybody's nose in it, champ🏆
Confidence is...
Confidence is not about winning, it's about accepting yourself🏆
Think of at least one confident and successful man and you'll immediately know what I mean!
He's clearly aware of his strengths and weaknesses and calmly jokes about his shortcomings, instead of beating himself up and looking like a hunted mouse!
👉🏻Hence the conclusion: confident person = well-informed and accepting of all his sides, personality.
Plus it's important to ALWAYS act from a position of self-love:
🚫 I'm so fat and ugly, I need to go to the gym immediately.
✅ I'm a chubby girl, now I'll go to the gym and everything will be fixed, because I'll try there.
It is this approach that will provide you with a long and regular growth over yourself without breakdowns and depression🚀
Confidence is not about winning, it's about accepting yourself🏆
Think of at least one confident and successful man and you'll immediately know what I mean!
He's clearly aware of his strengths and weaknesses and calmly jokes about his shortcomings, instead of beating himself up and looking like a hunted mouse!
👉🏻Hence the conclusion: confident person = well-informed and accepting of all his sides, personality.
Plus it's important to ALWAYS act from a position of self-love:
🚫 I'm so fat and ugly, I need to go to the gym immediately.
✅ I'm a chubby girl, now I'll go to the gym and everything will be fixed, because I'll try there.
It is this approach that will provide you with a long and regular growth over yourself without breakdowns and depression🚀
Making mistakes is imperative
Only as a result of "failure" do we form new neural connections and move forward.
I immediately think of a child who makes mistakes hundreds of times before he takes his first steps.
What should we do so that we are not afraid of the fear of "what if we fail"?
First, try to re-experience the emotions that you experienced as a result of the mistake. Feelings of shame, guilt, despair - that's what I mean.
How was it? Nothing catastrophic happened? Of course not.
You move on with your life, and I'm sure you'll do well in what you're doing.
Only as a result of "failure" do we form new neural connections and move forward.
I immediately think of a child who makes mistakes hundreds of times before he takes his first steps.
What should we do so that we are not afraid of the fear of "what if we fail"?
First, try to re-experience the emotions that you experienced as a result of the mistake. Feelings of shame, guilt, despair - that's what I mean.
How was it? Nothing catastrophic happened? Of course not.
You move on with your life, and I'm sure you'll do well in what you're doing.
How to bring emotions back to normal?
In the past, when I experienced "emotional storms," I had an urgent urge to do something, to release all the tension. It was in this state that I did rash things.
In order to bring my emotions back to normal, I learned how to make a distraction.
During a scandal, in order to relieve my growing anger, I discreetly pinch myself painfully. My body automatically reduces the heat of the aggression and directs the energy to the painful point.
I also do a lot of breathing exercises. I sit down comfortably and relax as much as possible. I take a deep breath in through my nose and slowly exhale through my mouth.
Ten breaths are enough for me to relieve the peak of tension.
In the past, when I experienced "emotional storms," I had an urgent urge to do something, to release all the tension. It was in this state that I did rash things.
In order to bring my emotions back to normal, I learned how to make a distraction.
During a scandal, in order to relieve my growing anger, I discreetly pinch myself painfully. My body automatically reduces the heat of the aggression and directs the energy to the painful point.
I also do a lot of breathing exercises. I sit down comfortably and relax as much as possible. I take a deep breath in through my nose and slowly exhale through my mouth.
Ten breaths are enough for me to relieve the peak of tension.
How to connect with a stranger
Stop being a lonely branch of lilacs when there are millions of people you can and should connect with!
Learning how to make friends and connect with people is an important skill that needs to be developed!
And for that, start using opening phrases💬
You've already said hello to a person and exchanged handshakes with them. And then... total silence? Start a casual conversation to turn this stranger from a stranger into a friend.
✅ Look around and find something to make conversation about. Any phrase about what's going on around here will be a good introduction to casual conversation:
- "This is the new chairman of the PTA, isn't it?"
- "Best speech I've ever heard!"
- "And the title of the slowest elevator in the world goes to...ours!"
❗️ Notice that all statements are impersonal. That's the point: with topics like this, you can easily make a connection.
Stop being a lonely branch of lilacs when there are millions of people you can and should connect with!
Learning how to make friends and connect with people is an important skill that needs to be developed!
And for that, start using opening phrases💬
You've already said hello to a person and exchanged handshakes with them. And then... total silence? Start a casual conversation to turn this stranger from a stranger into a friend.
✅ Look around and find something to make conversation about. Any phrase about what's going on around here will be a good introduction to casual conversation:
- "This is the new chairman of the PTA, isn't it?"
- "Best speech I've ever heard!"
- "And the title of the slowest elevator in the world goes to...ours!"
❗️ Notice that all statements are impersonal. That's the point: with topics like this, you can easily make a connection.