Psychological Aikido
Destroy any asshole morally😏
Equanimity, dignity and a sense of humor are the qualities you will demonstrate using this method👌🏻
Why try to respond at least something in anger and still look pathetic when you can easily guffaw at any rebuke from others and remain the audience's favorite?
Example:
- Why are you standing in line?!
- Well, yes, everyone is standing, and I'm the smartest one here, and you're so attentive, you noticed it right away!
Or something like that!
✅ On the one hand self-irony, but on the other hand it emphasizes the excessive negativity of your interlocutor, he will quickly shut up.
This way you won't get on your nerves, and you'll look at the situation with humor, as a grown-up and wise man should!
Destroy any asshole morally😏
Equanimity, dignity and a sense of humor are the qualities you will demonstrate using this method👌🏻
Why try to respond at least something in anger and still look pathetic when you can easily guffaw at any rebuke from others and remain the audience's favorite?
Example:
- Why are you standing in line?!
- Well, yes, everyone is standing, and I'm the smartest one here, and you're so attentive, you noticed it right away!
Or something like that!
✅ On the one hand self-irony, but on the other hand it emphasizes the excessive negativity of your interlocutor, he will quickly shut up.
This way you won't get on your nerves, and you'll look at the situation with humor, as a grown-up and wise man should!
Shift your attention to something pleasant
Catch a depressing thought, step away from it, and quickly switch to something positive.
Say, for example, if you had a meeting with ten clients, and four of them didn't even smile at you, focus on the six do-gooders. Then you will have a pleasant memory of the event, and about a sullen four you will forget immediately.
Every time another negative thought creeps up on you, know that you are at a fork and it is in your power to choose a different path.
Catch a depressing thought, step away from it, and quickly switch to something positive.
Say, for example, if you had a meeting with ten clients, and four of them didn't even smile at you, focus on the six do-gooders. Then you will have a pleasant memory of the event, and about a sullen four you will forget immediately.
Every time another negative thought creeps up on you, know that you are at a fork and it is in your power to choose a different path.
Mind the pin
A mother rocking a crying baby is unlikely to realize that he is not screaming for his own pleasure, but because of a pin in his blanket, which pricks and makes him uneasy. And, until the woman finds it, the baby's anxiety will grow.
If you, as well, find your "pin," you will become more aware of what is going on.
Stop worrying about someone else's inappropriate behavior toward you. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance if you see that the main source of stress is just the pin.
A mother rocking a crying baby is unlikely to realize that he is not screaming for his own pleasure, but because of a pin in his blanket, which pricks and makes him uneasy. And, until the woman finds it, the baby's anxiety will grow.
If you, as well, find your "pin," you will become more aware of what is going on.
Stop worrying about someone else's inappropriate behavior toward you. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance if you see that the main source of stress is just the pin.
Do not compare yourself to anyone
You can take a peek into the lives of the rich and famous. The main goal is to get angry in a good way, to get a motivational kick and to start the mechanism of development. But you can't always chase someone else's successes.
It is more correct to compare yourself with yourself in the past, noting the positive dynamics.
No to plagiarism. Everyone has their own way. It's not worth stealing other people's ideas. It's wiser to take them on, to be inspired by them.
In order not to lose yourself, you should not copy anyone. It is better to be yourself.
You can take a peek into the lives of the rich and famous. The main goal is to get angry in a good way, to get a motivational kick and to start the mechanism of development. But you can't always chase someone else's successes.
It is more correct to compare yourself with yourself in the past, noting the positive dynamics.
No to plagiarism. Everyone has their own way. It's not worth stealing other people's ideas. It's wiser to take them on, to be inspired by them.
In order not to lose yourself, you should not copy anyone. It is better to be yourself.
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Classic in the world of finance
Which has made me, and now you, resilient to any problems🔥
No doubt I won't reveal anything supernatural to you now, BUT this good old rule of thumb will create a financial cushion and in our unstable world, it will give you confidence and make you invulnerable!
💵No matter how much you make, start saving 10-15% of the money you get.
The problem with most people is spending all of their money at once and being left with nothing.
Agree that 10% is not a very tangible amount, but over time it will make your savings weighty🏆
Which has made me, and now you, resilient to any problems🔥
No doubt I won't reveal anything supernatural to you now, BUT this good old rule of thumb will create a financial cushion and in our unstable world, it will give you confidence and make you invulnerable!
💵No matter how much you make, start saving 10-15% of the money you get.
The problem with most people is spending all of their money at once and being left with nothing.
Agree that 10% is not a very tangible amount, but over time it will make your savings weighty🏆
Out-of-the-box thinking
Stand out from the herd and climb the career ladder will help you: self-discipline, patience and creativity🏆
With the first two is clear, but the benefit of thinking outside the box now reveal!
It is creativity that often helps to get out of any situation, and it is not unimportant if you want to bite these problems like seeds👌🏻
✔️The "Blending the Incongruous" exercise.
Take a couple of words with opposite meanings and combine them in sentences. For example, hot ice, hard absorbent cotton, dark day. Such a game of association will shake your gears.
✔️ Learning a foreign language.
If you've already learned a foreign language, start learning a second one. Try that languages do not have a similar structure (e.g. German, Chinese). This knowledge will always come in handy, and your brain will be toned to solve any problem👌🏻
Stand out from the herd and climb the career ladder will help you: self-discipline, patience and creativity🏆
With the first two is clear, but the benefit of thinking outside the box now reveal!
It is creativity that often helps to get out of any situation, and it is not unimportant if you want to bite these problems like seeds👌🏻
✔️The "Blending the Incongruous" exercise.
Take a couple of words with opposite meanings and combine them in sentences. For example, hot ice, hard absorbent cotton, dark day. Such a game of association will shake your gears.
✔️ Learning a foreign language.
If you've already learned a foreign language, start learning a second one. Try that languages do not have a similar structure (e.g. German, Chinese). This knowledge will always come in handy, and your brain will be toned to solve any problem👌🏻
She will adore you
Nothing brings a couple closer together than being involved in each other's lives! Let's work with that👌🏻
It's important for the beautiful half to feel a deep emotional connection with her man. This will make your lady more liberated and she'll have confidence that you really love her. And she will bloom like a rose in your hands😏
❌ Pretend to listen to her, sometimes nodding along with your social media feed.
✅ Put your phone/book aside and give her all your attention.
Even if you're not particularly hooked on the story where she bought the latest sweater at a discount! Be happy for her.
It will help you strengthen your relationship and make it really warm and easy🔥
Nothing brings a couple closer together than being involved in each other's lives! Let's work with that👌🏻
It's important for the beautiful half to feel a deep emotional connection with her man. This will make your lady more liberated and she'll have confidence that you really love her. And she will bloom like a rose in your hands😏
❌ Pretend to listen to her, sometimes nodding along with your social media feed.
✅ Put your phone/book aside and give her all your attention.
Even if you're not particularly hooked on the story where she bought the latest sweater at a discount! Be happy for her.
It will help you strengthen your relationship and make it really warm and easy🔥
What do you need it for?
Ask yourself that question every time you have doubts about your goal or are lolling on your bed!
I love all kinds of stories from successful people that show you how to think right in order to get everything you want out of this life!
In 1983, Steve Jobs convinced future Apple CEO John Scully to leave his job at PepsiCo with just one question: "Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling lemonade, or do you want to change the world?"
Who says you can't dream? Just the opposite, many people go after their dreams!
It's this approach that will help you get caught up in fantasies about a future that may never come if you don't take action🏆
Ask yourself that question every time you have doubts about your goal or are lolling on your bed!
I love all kinds of stories from successful people that show you how to think right in order to get everything you want out of this life!
In 1983, Steve Jobs convinced future Apple CEO John Scully to leave his job at PepsiCo with just one question: "Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling lemonade, or do you want to change the world?"
Who says you can't dream? Just the opposite, many people go after their dreams!
It's this approach that will help you get caught up in fantasies about a future that may never come if you don't take action🏆
Perseverance or the inability to learn lessons?
There's a big difference between being assertive and simply not being able to see the error in your actions that keeps you from growing.
✅ Remember, champ:
- acting clearly on a plan - persistence, refusing to correct it when circumstances change - inflexibility.
- standing up for what is right is a virtue, believing one's own infallibility is foolishness.
Flexibility is one of the main qualities of a successful person of the 21st century. If you always want to be afloat, be able to correctly analyze the circumstances and change your tactics⚡️
A person acts and thinks as he or she is used to in the new circumstances and stays behind the lines of success.
⚠️That’s how creativity and the ability to solve problems fade away. And with it, the chances of making a difference in your life. I don't think that's what you want.
There's a big difference between being assertive and simply not being able to see the error in your actions that keeps you from growing.
✅ Remember, champ:
- acting clearly on a plan - persistence, refusing to correct it when circumstances change - inflexibility.
- standing up for what is right is a virtue, believing one's own infallibility is foolishness.
Flexibility is one of the main qualities of a successful person of the 21st century. If you always want to be afloat, be able to correctly analyze the circumstances and change your tactics⚡️
A person acts and thinks as he or she is used to in the new circumstances and stays behind the lines of success.
⚠️That’s how creativity and the ability to solve problems fade away. And with it, the chances of making a difference in your life. I don't think that's what you want.
Let's talk about the fundamentals
As you've guessed by now, I don't ask these questions for nothing!
So, it is proper sleep that is responsible for your well-being and zeal for a better life.
- Sleep and your well-being are closely linked.
My main problem is that I often can't sleep because of anxiety about problems at work or some drastic idea, which makes me feel sluggish and sluggish afterwards.
But I found a way out, and now I fall asleep very quickly and feel very awake!
So, the Indian yogi 4-7-8 method:
✨ 4 seconds, breathe in through your nose.
✨ hold your breath for seven seconds.
Breathe out slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds.
Concentrate on your breathing and it will give you a good and healthy sleep🌿
As you've guessed by now, I don't ask these questions for nothing!
So, it is proper sleep that is responsible for your well-being and zeal for a better life.
- Sleep and your well-being are closely linked.
My main problem is that I often can't sleep because of anxiety about problems at work or some drastic idea, which makes me feel sluggish and sluggish afterwards.
But I found a way out, and now I fall asleep very quickly and feel very awake!
So, the Indian yogi 4-7-8 method:
✨ 4 seconds, breathe in through your nose.
✨ hold your breath for seven seconds.
Breathe out slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds.
Concentrate on your breathing and it will give you a good and healthy sleep🌿
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Come out victorious in any situation
You can spend hours rehearsing a menacing facial expression in front of the mirror or watching the behavior of tough guys from movies, but it's nothing compared to your main weapon - self-irony👌🏻
🚫Trashing and blushing after every mistake is not the best idea, such mumblers are always left out of a successful life
And self-irony will erase unpleasant feelings like tension and awkwardness from your life.
And the first step in mastering this weapon is learning to see the upside in every situation!
✅ For example: your car broke down - it's a good opportunity to start walking more and improve your physical fitness👌🏻
You can spend hours rehearsing a menacing facial expression in front of the mirror or watching the behavior of tough guys from movies, but it's nothing compared to your main weapon - self-irony👌🏻
🚫Trashing and blushing after every mistake is not the best idea, such mumblers are always left out of a successful life
And self-irony will erase unpleasant feelings like tension and awkwardness from your life.
And the first step in mastering this weapon is learning to see the upside in every situation!
✅ For example: your car broke down - it's a good opportunity to start walking more and improve your physical fitness👌🏻
"Joy, get unlost"
Once you succumb to the routine of chronic stress, the desire to do something that used to bring joy is gone. Life seems like a series of obstacles. This blocks motivation.
If you stop doing the things you enjoy, you will finally get bogged down in the swamp of despondency.
✔️ Enjoyment should be taken as seriously as going to work.
Never neglect pleasures or sacrifice them for "more important" things.
Try to look for moments of pleasure in everyday life and find them.
Once you succumb to the routine of chronic stress, the desire to do something that used to bring joy is gone. Life seems like a series of obstacles. This blocks motivation.
If you stop doing the things you enjoy, you will finally get bogged down in the swamp of despondency.
✔️ Enjoyment should be taken as seriously as going to work.
Never neglect pleasures or sacrifice them for "more important" things.
Try to look for moments of pleasure in everyday life and find them.
Wanna be a leader? Then, be!
Just keep in mind that a leader's speech does not contain words expressing doubt.
❌ "Maybe", "well, guess", "I think", "I'm not sure"...
Instead of such parasitic words, it is better to use categorical clear statements.
Surely, you have to own a certain amount of courage to do this. Such a change in vocabulary will give really interesting feedback.
Speech can be quite quiet or ringing. The main thing is to have more categorical hard turns.
The catchiness of the speech is not unimportant. It is a mistake to speak boringly and monotonously. Speak clearly every sound.
Just keep in mind that a leader's speech does not contain words expressing doubt.
❌ "Maybe", "well, guess", "I think", "I'm not sure"...
Instead of such parasitic words, it is better to use categorical clear statements.
Surely, you have to own a certain amount of courage to do this. Such a change in vocabulary will give really interesting feedback.
Speech can be quite quiet or ringing. The main thing is to have more categorical hard turns.
The catchiness of the speech is not unimportant. It is a mistake to speak boringly and monotonously. Speak clearly every sound.
Take care of yourself
And, nah, you're not on the beauty channel. You have to take care of yourself to be confident.
Think about which people you particularly like. Surely they are psychologically healthy, happy and interesting.
Now think about how you feel about yourself. Often, when tired, people stop taking care of themselves, and begin to devote time to things that spoil their mood.
You can start taking care of yourself with simple steps: make a proper menu, take regular walks and exercise.
Every time you find it hard to take care of yourself, remind yourself that you're doing it for your future and for YOU.
And, nah, you're not on the beauty channel. You have to take care of yourself to be confident.
Think about which people you particularly like. Surely they are psychologically healthy, happy and interesting.
Now think about how you feel about yourself. Often, when tired, people stop taking care of themselves, and begin to devote time to things that spoil their mood.
You can start taking care of yourself with simple steps: make a proper menu, take regular walks and exercise.
Every time you find it hard to take care of yourself, remind yourself that you're doing it for your future and for YOU.
Slow and steady
Putting your opponent down in an argument with just the right tone of voice.
Switching to an exasperated squeak in an attempt to find a phrase that can sting the other person - what could seem worse?
🔺Anxious people tend to speak faster and louder, causing the other person to raise their voice.
✅Make your sentences as calm and thoughtful as possible.
The reason I want to pay special attention to this is that subconsciously the person senses your confidence and cannot find the weak side.
The faster the speech, the less thought is in it and the more likely it is that something irreparable will be said. Balance your words or take time out if you feel like you're going off🏆
Putting your opponent down in an argument with just the right tone of voice.
Switching to an exasperated squeak in an attempt to find a phrase that can sting the other person - what could seem worse?
🔺Anxious people tend to speak faster and louder, causing the other person to raise their voice.
✅Make your sentences as calm and thoughtful as possible.
The reason I want to pay special attention to this is that subconsciously the person senses your confidence and cannot find the weak side.
The faster the speech, the less thought is in it and the more likely it is that something irreparable will be said. Balance your words or take time out if you feel like you're going off🏆
Well, what else is there to do slowly?
Increase self-discipline, my friend!
You won't accomplish anything with a quick jerk! You can start total self-discipline, but what guarantee is there that you won't fall off?
The easiest way: if you want to eat, you have to be patient for an extra 30 minutes, that way the food will taste better and your character will be stronger🔥
🏆The biggest victory is winning at yourself. Who says this victory is quick?
It is a calm attitude towards a little discomfort that will turn your dreams into reality✨🚀
Increase self-discipline, my friend!
You won't accomplish anything with a quick jerk! You can start total self-discipline, but what guarantee is there that you won't fall off?
The easiest way: if you want to eat, you have to be patient for an extra 30 minutes, that way the food will taste better and your character will be stronger🔥
🏆The biggest victory is winning at yourself. Who says this victory is quick?
It is a calm attitude towards a little discomfort that will turn your dreams into reality✨🚀
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Tell her how you feel.
That "Girls love with their ears" thing should be in your head forever!
It's a really simple rule that will help you convey to her that she's special to you, and there will be less fighting and a lot more passion and understanding in your relationship. Isn't that happiness?
It will cost you absolutely nothing, but your girlfriend will be happy and your relationship will change🔥
That "Girls love with their ears" thing should be in your head forever!
It's a really simple rule that will help you convey to her that she's special to you, and there will be less fighting and a lot more passion and understanding in your relationship. Isn't that happiness?
It will cost you absolutely nothing, but your girlfriend will be happy and your relationship will change🔥
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Be unfazed.
And for that you absolutely have to identify your weaknesses☝🏻
Imagine that the person who is trying to hurt you morally is now in front of you. Determine what kind of feeling you get from his attempts to hurt your feelings?
❔What happens: does a fever appear in your whole body, or does something clench inside, or maybe just interrupt your breathing?
🏆 Knowing your weak points will make you mentally prepared for any attack.
✅That’s the behavior of a mature person, you know your weaknesses and if you get your nose poked in them, you just don't care.
And for that you absolutely have to identify your weaknesses☝🏻
Imagine that the person who is trying to hurt you morally is now in front of you. Determine what kind of feeling you get from his attempts to hurt your feelings?
❔What happens: does a fever appear in your whole body, or does something clench inside, or maybe just interrupt your breathing?
🏆 Knowing your weak points will make you mentally prepared for any attack.
✅That’s the behavior of a mature person, you know your weaknesses and if you get your nose poked in them, you just don't care.
Give yourself the gift of freedom
Let me tell you a little secret: no one sees your shortcomings the way you do.
✅ Realizing this at one time untied my hands and allowed me to take action! Now it's your turn.
Just think about the fact that many shortcomings you have invented are not even noticed by others!
✅ People pay attention to behavior first, and if you get all the negative heresy out of your head, you'll stop squirming and stiffening, and that's the way to win the hearts of those around you!
It once changed my life and my insecurities receded with victories and success coming in their place🏆
Let me tell you a little secret: no one sees your shortcomings the way you do.
✅ Realizing this at one time untied my hands and allowed me to take action! Now it's your turn.
Just think about the fact that many shortcomings you have invented are not even noticed by others!
✅ People pay attention to behavior first, and if you get all the negative heresy out of your head, you'll stop squirming and stiffening, and that's the way to win the hearts of those around you!
It once changed my life and my insecurities receded with victories and success coming in their place🏆
The destructive power of negativity.
A man will take it all, a man will not shed a tear.
Okay, I don't advise you to cry over every bullshit, but it's not the best idea to keep all the negativity inside either.
❔Why? Blocking out your emotions is a lot of stress on your body. And where there's stress, there's plenty of disease🚫
The biggest mistake is to blame and berate yourself for your emotions!
You can't dismiss unpleasant feelings, but you shouldn't dwell on them either. There is a third approach: accept all your emotions openly, with interest and without criticism.
Don't cling to problems and don't build up their significance to catastrophic proportions, then you will be happy!
✅Find an outlet for negativity: my choice is sports, so your fitness improves and you are always calm.
A man will take it all, a man will not shed a tear.
Okay, I don't advise you to cry over every bullshit, but it's not the best idea to keep all the negativity inside either.
❔Why? Blocking out your emotions is a lot of stress on your body. And where there's stress, there's plenty of disease🚫
The biggest mistake is to blame and berate yourself for your emotions!
You can't dismiss unpleasant feelings, but you shouldn't dwell on them either. There is a third approach: accept all your emotions openly, with interest and without criticism.
Don't cling to problems and don't build up their significance to catastrophic proportions, then you will be happy!
✅Find an outlet for negativity: my choice is sports, so your fitness improves and you are always calm.
Create your image
You have to be consider everything, and then you'll always be successful everywhere.🏆
This also applies to the creation of your image.
Surely you often notice in others, or in famous people, the features that you like.
Now imagine a person you like very much! His style, hairstyle, shoes, manner of speaking, the timbre of his voice. In general, get to the smallest detail and fantasize properly.
❗️Compare that person to yourself. What's the difference?
Identify ten traits of that person that you would like to adopt for yourself. Even any traits from superheroes, as long as it's not a spiderweb shot, will do😀
You have to be consider everything, and then you'll always be successful everywhere.🏆
This also applies to the creation of your image.
Surely you often notice in others, or in famous people, the features that you like.
Now imagine a person you like very much! His style, hairstyle, shoes, manner of speaking, the timbre of his voice. In general, get to the smallest detail and fantasize properly.
❗️Compare that person to yourself. What's the difference?
Identify ten traits of that person that you would like to adopt for yourself. Even any traits from superheroes, as long as it's not a spiderweb shot, will do😀