The secret to a healthy relationship

No matter how stunning and interesting your girlfriend is, remember to be self-sufficient!

✅ Note: the most advantageous approach to a healthy relationship is realizing that you are responsible for your own happiness.

Typically, there are couples with the partner literally dissolving in their beloved. And this brings negativity to both of them, because the person gives up his or her hobbies, friends, etc.

Relationships are just a part of your life! And it's important to stop at an approach where you bring joy from other areas into the relationship, not the other way around! That's the only way your relationship will always be warm and strong!

As a bonus, as you constantly evolve, you'll start to enjoy yourself, and your loved one as well 🙃

For champions to recharge

If you're halfway through the day and you're already dreaming of going to bed like a lemon, but you obviously can't get it yet and your bosses want you to be productive, then there's my favorite method👌🏻

Since I don't like to bother, and some time-consuming smart tricks are not very invigorating at the moment of lethargy, so my advice is the following - have a cup of tea🌱

What will it do?

It will help you catch your breath and cheer up quickly. And a piece of dark chocolate will help you get a burst of energy, not only for your body, but also for your mind.

And tea and chocolate are an explosive couple and I'm not talking about gastronomic pleasure😏

Solve problems with the girl through the bed

Surely, a picture immediately flashes up: in a fit of passion after a long quarrel, you tear each other's clothes off and all the problems recede into the background🔥

And at the end everyone is happy and the problem evaporates on its own. I thought for a long time that this was the perfect way to erase any conflict, yep, as if it wasn't!

Yeah, sure it is, my friend. This problem is already lodged in her head, from where it will break out at the first opportunity.

So what's the solution? Rethink the complexity of the phrase "we need to talk," as you can't get away from those hard conversations, but you can't build a relationship without them.

🚫 Turning problems into jokes or sex is great, but these problems will accumulate and eventually a huge clump of problems will fall on your couple.

Emotion or Mind?

Further discussing the theme of developing mindfulness and for me it is a trait that is directly responsible for the evolving of a person and their thinking! And new thinking = new life, right?

So, getting to the point, my friend, if an unpleasant situation has made you angry, anxious or sad, you can always CONTROL your behavior.

Strong people have an emotional flexibility that keeps their minds from drowning in negative crap.

🚫 The biggest mistake is to force yourself to think positively. Forcing is extremely touch, if not impossible.

So you will often catch yourself in the negative, blame yourself for it and lose motivation. So it is best to accept your anger or irritation and try to understand where it came from and whether this emotion is good for you!

Listen to yourself and you will already start to change🏆

Win people over

Remember that everyone is selfish in his or her own way, and from that it's too simple to take an interest in them✨

❌Talk about yourself and your accomplishments

✅ Asking questions and being interested in your communication partner's opinion.

And my personal trick is to memorize some little thing: a situation or a problem, and the next time you meet, be sure to ask how it went or how it was resolved.

Here’s the surest way to anyone's heart! I assure you: there is not a single person who does not like to tell about himself🙃

You are incomparable and inimitable

Get it into your head! Many of your problems will evaporate if you just turn off your inner critic!

Comparisons let demotivation into your world and a willingness to give up in any endeavor! Do you need that? I don't think so.

Does your inner dialogue or inner narrative compare your every move with the actions of others?
👉🏻If the answer is yes, self-discipline will have a huge impact from this, paralyzing you because of delusion.

✅The only thing that should matter to you as a leader of your life is your way of thinking, whether it's positive or negative.

Scientists have proven: low self-discipline is a negative dialogue with yourself, and a negative conversation with yourself discourages great things🥀

What to do.

Train yourself to positive inner self-reflection, such as: "I can do this" or "I'm going to start this 5-minute task right now."

That way you'll move 100% from your point of view, just stop berating yourself, because you're the big winner in your life🏆

Psychological Aikido

Destroy any asshole morally😏

Equanimity, dignity and a sense of humor are the qualities you will demonstrate using this method👌🏻

Why try to respond at least something in anger and still look pathetic when you can easily guffaw at any rebuke from others and remain the audience's favorite?

Example:

- Why are you standing in line?!
- Well, yes, everyone is standing, and I'm the smartest one here, and you're so attentive, you noticed it right away!

Or something like that!

✅ On the one hand self-irony, but on the other hand it emphasizes the excessive negativity of your interlocutor, he will quickly shut up.

This way you won't get on your nerves, and you'll look at the situation with humor, as a grown-up and wise man should!

Shift your attention to something pleasant

Catch a depressing thought, step away from it, and quickly switch to something positive.

Say, for example, if you had a meeting with ten clients, and four of them didn't even smile at you, focus on the six do-gooders. Then you will have a pleasant memory of the event, and about a sullen four you will forget immediately.

Every time another negative thought creeps up on you, know that you are at a fork and it is in your power to choose a different path.

Mind the pin

A mother rocking a crying baby is unlikely to realize that he is not screaming for his own pleasure, but because of a pin in his blanket, which pricks and makes him uneasy. And, until the woman finds it, the baby's anxiety will grow.

If you, as well, find your "pin," you will become more aware of what is going on.

Stop worrying about someone else's inappropriate behavior toward you. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance if you see that the main source of stress is just the pin.

Do not compare yourself to anyone

You can take a peek into the lives of the rich and famous. The main goal is to get angry in a good way, to get a motivational kick and to start the mechanism of development. But you can't always chase someone else's successes.

It is more correct to compare yourself with yourself in the past, noting the positive dynamics.

No to plagiarism. Everyone has their own way. It's not worth stealing other people's ideas. It's wiser to take them on, to be inspired by them.

In order not to lose yourself, you should not copy anyone. It is better to be yourself.

Classic in the world of finance

Which has made me, and now you, resilient to any problems🔥

No doubt I won't reveal anything supernatural to you now, BUT this good old rule of thumb will create a financial cushion and in our unstable world, it will give you confidence and make you invulnerable!

💵No matter how much you make, start saving 10-15% of the money you get.

The problem with most people is spending all of their money at once and being left with nothing.

Agree that 10% is not a very tangible amount, but over time it will make your savings weighty🏆

Out-of-the-box thinking

Stand out from the herd and climb the career ladder will help you: self-discipline, patience and creativity🏆

With the first two is clear, but the benefit of thinking outside the box now reveal!

It is creativity that often helps to get out of any situation, and it is not unimportant if you want to bite these problems like seeds👌🏻

✔️The "Blending the Incongruous" exercise.
Take a couple of words with opposite meanings and combine them in sentences. For example, hot ice, hard absorbent cotton, dark day. Such a game of association will shake your gears.

✔️ Learning a foreign language.
If you've already learned a foreign language, start learning a second one. Try that languages do not have a similar structure (e.g. German, Chinese). This knowledge will always come in handy, and your brain will be toned to solve any problem👌🏻

She will adore you

Nothing brings a couple closer together than being involved in each other's lives! Let's work with that👌🏻

It's important for the beautiful half to feel a deep emotional connection with her man. This will make your lady more liberated and she'll have confidence that you really love her. And she will bloom like a rose in your hands😏

❌ Pretend to listen to her, sometimes nodding along with your social media feed.

✅ Put your phone/book aside and give her all your attention.

Even if you're not particularly hooked on the story where she bought the latest sweater at a discount! Be happy for her.

It will help you strengthen your relationship and make it really warm and easy🔥

What do you need it for?

Ask yourself that question every time you have doubts about your goal or are lolling on your bed!

I love all kinds of stories from successful people that show you how to think right in order to get everything you want out of this life!

In 1983, Steve Jobs convinced future Apple CEO John Scully to leave his job at PepsiCo with just one question: "Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling lemonade, or do you want to change the world?"

Who says you can't dream? Just the opposite, many people go after their dreams!

It's this approach that will help you get caught up in fantasies about a future that may never come if you don't take action🏆

Perseverance or the inability to learn lessons?

There's a big difference between being assertive and simply not being able to see the error in your actions that keeps you from growing.

✅ Remember, champ:

- acting clearly on a plan - persistence, refusing to correct it when circumstances change - inflexibility.

- standing up for what is right is a virtue, believing one's own infallibility is foolishness.

Flexibility is one of the main qualities of a successful person of the 21st century. If you always want to be afloat, be able to correctly analyze the circumstances and change your tactics⚡️

A person acts and thinks as he or she is used to in the new circumstances and stays behind the lines of success.

⚠️That’s how creativity and the ability to solve problems fade away. And with it, the chances of making a difference in your life. I don't think that's what you want.

Let's talk about the fundamentals

As you've guessed by now, I don't ask these questions for nothing!

So, it is proper sleep that is responsible for your well-being and zeal for a better life.

- Sleep and your well-being are closely linked.

My main problem is that I often can't sleep because of anxiety about problems at work or some drastic idea, which makes me feel sluggish and sluggish afterwards.

But I found a way out, and now I fall asleep very quickly and feel very awake!

So, the Indian yogi 4-7-8 method:

✨ 4 seconds, breathe in through your nose.
✨ hold your breath for seven seconds.
Breathe out slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds.

Concentrate on your breathing and it will give you a good and healthy sleep🌿

Come out victorious in any situation

You can spend hours rehearsing a menacing facial expression in front of the mirror or watching the behavior of tough guys from movies, but it's nothing compared to your main weapon - self-irony👌🏻

🚫Trashing and blushing after every mistake is not the best idea, such mumblers are always left out of a successful life

And self-irony will erase unpleasant feelings like tension and awkwardness from your life.

And the first step in mastering this weapon is learning to see the upside in every situation!

✅ For example: your car broke down - it's a good opportunity to start walking more and improve your physical fitness👌🏻

"Joy, get unlost"

Once you succumb to the routine of chronic stress, the desire to do something that used to bring joy is gone. Life seems like a series of obstacles. This blocks motivation.

If you stop doing the things you enjoy, you will finally get bogged down in the swamp of despondency.
✔️ Enjoyment should be taken as seriously as going to work.

Never neglect pleasures or sacrifice them for "more important" things.
Try to look for moments of pleasure in everyday life and find them.

Wanna be a leader? Then, be!

Just keep in mind that a leader's speech does not contain words expressing doubt.

❌ "Maybe", "well, guess", "I think", "I'm not sure"...
Instead of such parasitic words, it is better to use categorical clear statements.

Surely, you have to own a certain amount of courage to do this. Such a change in vocabulary will give really interesting feedback.

Speech can be quite quiet or ringing. The main thing is to have more categorical hard turns.

The catchiness of the speech is not unimportant. It is a mistake to speak boringly and monotonously. Speak clearly every sound.

Take care of yourself

And, nah, you're not on the beauty channel. You have to take care of yourself to be confident.

Think about which people you particularly like. Surely they are psychologically healthy, happy and interesting.

Now think about how you feel about yourself. Often, when tired, people stop taking care of themselves, and begin to devote time to things that spoil their mood.

You can start taking care of yourself with simple steps: make a proper menu, take regular walks and exercise.

Every time you find it hard to take care of yourself, remind yourself that you're doing it for your future and for YOU.

Slow and steady

Putting your opponent down in an argument with just the right tone of voice.

Switching to an exasperated squeak in an attempt to find a phrase that can sting the other person - what could seem worse?

🔺Anxious people tend to speak faster and louder, causing the other person to raise their voice.

✅Make your sentences as calm and thoughtful as possible.

The reason I want to pay special attention to this is that subconsciously the person senses your confidence and cannot find the weak side.

The faster the speech, the less thought is in it and the more likely it is that something irreparable will be said. Balance your words or take time out if you feel like you're going off🏆