Only a moment exists between the past and the future, but it is called life.
Normally, a person spends a lot of resources making predictions about what is going to happen and how it is going to happen.
Give up global predictions of the future, live right now. You can roughly know your general vector of movement, and even have a clear plan.
❗️ But it's absolutely useless to think about it all the time without giving yourself the space of freedom.
Don't look for your happiness in some distant future so that you will very seldom be satisfied with what you have today.
Normally, a person spends a lot of resources making predictions about what is going to happen and how it is going to happen.
Give up global predictions of the future, live right now. You can roughly know your general vector of movement, and even have a clear plan.
❗️ But it's absolutely useless to think about it all the time without giving yourself the space of freedom.
Don't look for your happiness in some distant future so that you will very seldom be satisfied with what you have today.
The ability to listen
One more feature that attracts the opposite sex👌🏻
In fact, listening is easy, no talent is even needed here, even in boring classes we were perfectly taught to pretend that we are listening👌🏻
But listening and giving the person minimal feedback is a different story, almost a lost art. Agree, when the topic is very interesting you wait for your turn to speak, but it only makes you feel like you're shutting him up🥀
What to do.
Have a conversation with someone for 5 minutes without interrupting them once (pick a more talkative person to speak in monologues).
During the conversation demonstrate your interest through looks, facial expressions, and other non-verbal gestures (sometimes nodding, raising your eyebrows at the right moment, and other little things that add to the confidence of your conversation partner)
✅ Pretty simple and very effective!
One more feature that attracts the opposite sex👌🏻
In fact, listening is easy, no talent is even needed here, even in boring classes we were perfectly taught to pretend that we are listening👌🏻
But listening and giving the person minimal feedback is a different story, almost a lost art. Agree, when the topic is very interesting you wait for your turn to speak, but it only makes you feel like you're shutting him up🥀
What to do.
Have a conversation with someone for 5 minutes without interrupting them once (pick a more talkative person to speak in monologues).
During the conversation demonstrate your interest through looks, facial expressions, and other non-verbal gestures (sometimes nodding, raising your eyebrows at the right moment, and other little things that add to the confidence of your conversation partner)
✅ Pretty simple and very effective!
Acting on the ramp up
Motivation, of course, is nice, but you'll get tired of constantly searching for its source, but self-discipline will always save and back you up in any endeavors☝🏻
You, as a true male, want everything at once, but that's a losing tactic - and in order to learn self-discipline, and basically any quality, you need to leave your comfort zone ONLY in small steps🏆
Use your fears to cultivate a steel rod in yourself. Challenge yourself in small ways and it will show you that nothing is impossible!
A little discomfort won't make you suffer much, and later on you won't snap and keep building your strength!
I suggest the following exercise:
Put your favorite treat in a prominent place and during the day do not touch it once.
After that, all your problems will be a squeak😄
Motivation, of course, is nice, but you'll get tired of constantly searching for its source, but self-discipline will always save and back you up in any endeavors☝🏻
You, as a true male, want everything at once, but that's a losing tactic - and in order to learn self-discipline, and basically any quality, you need to leave your comfort zone ONLY in small steps🏆
Use your fears to cultivate a steel rod in yourself. Challenge yourself in small ways and it will show you that nothing is impossible!
A little discomfort won't make you suffer much, and later on you won't snap and keep building your strength!
I suggest the following exercise:
Put your favorite treat in a prominent place and during the day do not touch it once.
After that, all your problems will be a squeak😄
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Solving small things in bulk
Instead of getting distracted by small things, it's better to set aside a separate evening for them.
This easy rule will not only allow you to stay focused on the important stuff, but you won't have to worry about forgetting or missing something👌🏻
🔺Keep in mind: to get rid of piles of small things quickly, you should combine them into common blocks to "tackle them in bulk," spending no more than 3 hours to do so.
Instead of getting distracted by small things, it's better to set aside a separate evening for them.
This easy rule will not only allow you to stay focused on the important stuff, but you won't have to worry about forgetting or missing something👌🏻
🔺Keep in mind: to get rid of piles of small things quickly, you should combine them into common blocks to "tackle them in bulk," spending no more than 3 hours to do so.
Keep in mind: the similar attracts the similar
All people are different. So are their preferences. But how does your brain determine what you like and what you don't like?
Well, it starts with you. You are automatically attracted to people who look like you.
If you have glasses, and the person wearing glasses asks you to do something, there's a good chance you'll comply with the request.
This property helps to create strong relationships between people.
And at the same time it limits the one who does not make an effort to understand something different from himself.
What to do with this information?
Start thinking positively and acting productively to attract people like you 👍🏼
All people are different. So are their preferences. But how does your brain determine what you like and what you don't like?
Well, it starts with you. You are automatically attracted to people who look like you.
If you have glasses, and the person wearing glasses asks you to do something, there's a good chance you'll comply with the request.
This property helps to create strong relationships between people.
And at the same time it limits the one who does not make an effort to understand something different from himself.
What to do with this information?
Start thinking positively and acting productively to attract people like you 👍🏼
All it takes to succeed is a positive mindset, huh?
If you focus your thoughts on making money, your brain will tune in to look for earning opportunities. And it will find them.
If you concentrate on meeting interesting people, you'll start seeing them everywhere.
👆🏽You've thought about this before, but now your brain is actively searching for these things in the background. And it finds what may seem like a miraculous coincidence.
But it's not magic, it's just a function of your brain. Rely on it to solve any problem or task.
If you focus your thoughts on making money, your brain will tune in to look for earning opportunities. And it will find them.
If you concentrate on meeting interesting people, you'll start seeing them everywhere.
👆🏽You've thought about this before, but now your brain is actively searching for these things in the background. And it finds what may seem like a miraculous coincidence.
But it's not magic, it's just a function of your brain. Rely on it to solve any problem or task.
Take your fears by the horns
The world of our fantasies is much unlike reality. We constantly need those things that are in short supply (happiness, money, love...).
But what keeps us from fulfilling our deepest desires?
The only obstacle that can prevent this is inner fears. They are the blockade between the world of fantasies and reality.
A way to fight it! In order to get rid of internal fears, you need to openly face them.
Yeah, it sounds trivial, but it helps. Any fear eventually disappears if you look at it for a long time and go towards it.
As soon as you take your fears in your hands, you immediately get the opportunity to realize your dreams and become truly happy.
The world of our fantasies is much unlike reality. We constantly need those things that are in short supply (happiness, money, love...).
But what keeps us from fulfilling our deepest desires?
The only obstacle that can prevent this is inner fears. They are the blockade between the world of fantasies and reality.
A way to fight it! In order to get rid of internal fears, you need to openly face them.
Yeah, it sounds trivial, but it helps. Any fear eventually disappears if you look at it for a long time and go towards it.
As soon as you take your fears in your hands, you immediately get the opportunity to realize your dreams and become truly happy.
Let's talk about the forbidden.
About women's age, my friend😁
More precisely about women's views and preferences about men! I'll tell you right away that it's all stated in general terms and your chosen one may have other values!
🌺 18-25 years: young creatures pay the most attention to appearance, sense of humor and self-confidence! This is where interesting communication is important, not the creation of a family.
🌺25-35 years: This period is marked by the question, "How much money do you make?" But this is not mercantilism, but a desire to assess the partner's ability to provide for the family, to feed the children.
🌺35-45 years: gallantry, upbringing, personal charm. Stability and financial security are also attractive, naturally. Appearance and charm of the partner almost do not play a role anymore.
About women's age, my friend😁
More precisely about women's views and preferences about men! I'll tell you right away that it's all stated in general terms and your chosen one may have other values!
🌺 18-25 years: young creatures pay the most attention to appearance, sense of humor and self-confidence! This is where interesting communication is important, not the creation of a family.
🌺25-35 years: This period is marked by the question, "How much money do you make?" But this is not mercantilism, but a desire to assess the partner's ability to provide for the family, to feed the children.
🌺35-45 years: gallantry, upbringing, personal charm. Stability and financial security are also attractive, naturally. Appearance and charm of the partner almost do not play a role anymore.
Control yourself
🚫 Never let your slackness sprout!
If you wish to give the impression of a successful and confident person, the most important thing you should develop is self-control.
And this concerns absolutely everything: what you do, how you stand, how you talk, what you distract yourself with and how often, how you walk - control yourself TOTALLY.
And first and foremost, pay attention to your body posture: posture, arms, legs, smile. And even when you're alone, don't let it get you down!
And to learn to control yourself and your posture a simple exercise will help you - Marine's pose.
Walk up to the wall, press against it with heels, buttocks, shoulder blades, back of the head and elbows. Stand in this pose for at least 10 minutes EVERY day.
You'll soon notice women's eyes on you😏
🚫 Never let your slackness sprout!
If you wish to give the impression of a successful and confident person, the most important thing you should develop is self-control.
And this concerns absolutely everything: what you do, how you stand, how you talk, what you distract yourself with and how often, how you walk - control yourself TOTALLY.
And first and foremost, pay attention to your body posture: posture, arms, legs, smile. And even when you're alone, don't let it get you down!
And to learn to control yourself and your posture a simple exercise will help you - Marine's pose.
Walk up to the wall, press against it with heels, buttocks, shoulder blades, back of the head and elbows. Stand in this pose for at least 10 minutes EVERY day.
You'll soon notice women's eyes on you😏
More courage
It's directly proportional to your victories, champ🏆
In the old movie tradition: the bravest guys get the best of everything: high positions, the best girls and the respect of those around them?
Now I'm going to convince with scientific data!
Researchers have proven: 90% of the result is in our heads in the form of expectations and attitude, and only for the remaining 10% are responsible skills.
Conclusion: The winner is not the one who took the super-prize, but the one who feels like a winner. Within reason, of course!
✅Distinguish between brashness, determination, courage, bravery. And let you do what you've wanted to do for a long time.
In other words, it's all in your head👌🏻
It's directly proportional to your victories, champ🏆
In the old movie tradition: the bravest guys get the best of everything: high positions, the best girls and the respect of those around them?
Now I'm going to convince with scientific data!
Researchers have proven: 90% of the result is in our heads in the form of expectations and attitude, and only for the remaining 10% are responsible skills.
Conclusion: The winner is not the one who took the super-prize, but the one who feels like a winner. Within reason, of course!
✅Distinguish between brashness, determination, courage, bravery. And let you do what you've wanted to do for a long time.
In other words, it's all in your head👌🏻
Avoid procrastination - take action!
Behind another episode of your favorite soap opera or a cup of tea before work are usually the real procrastinators!
If you suffer from this stuff, I'll get you out of it fast👌🏻
You won't suffer and force yourself, you'll just do the task for a few minutes at a time!
Scientists have proven: it's important to feel in control to combat procrastination, spend a few minutes doing it, knowing you can stop at any time.
👉🏻Start with five minutes and build up the pace little by little!
Your challenge is to beat your brain so that you don't suffer from work anymore🏆
Behind another episode of your favorite soap opera or a cup of tea before work are usually the real procrastinators!
If you suffer from this stuff, I'll get you out of it fast👌🏻
You won't suffer and force yourself, you'll just do the task for a few minutes at a time!
Scientists have proven: it's important to feel in control to combat procrastination, spend a few minutes doing it, knowing you can stop at any time.
👉🏻Start with five minutes and build up the pace little by little!
Your challenge is to beat your brain so that you don't suffer from work anymore🏆
Should you carry her bag?
Courtship is courtship, but there are times when you have to back off💁🏻♀️
You can now feel free to cover yourself with etiquette if you're having trouble in certain instances!
And now we're going to look at a special case - a small woman's purse! Or not insignificant...considering how much stuff is usually in there😮
Agree, a brutal and statuesque man looks very dumb with a woman's clutch.
❕Remember: a bag, a backpack, a suitcase is your battlefield, and a small woman's purse should not make her uncomfortable and be an addition to her some kind of super image.
Instead of taking her purse, give her a sincere compliment. That'll get you more credit!
Courtship is courtship, but there are times when you have to back off💁🏻♀️
You can now feel free to cover yourself with etiquette if you're having trouble in certain instances!
And now we're going to look at a special case - a small woman's purse! Or not insignificant...considering how much stuff is usually in there😮
Agree, a brutal and statuesque man looks very dumb with a woman's clutch.
❕Remember: a bag, a backpack, a suitcase is your battlefield, and a small woman's purse should not make her uncomfortable and be an addition to her some kind of super image.
Instead of taking her purse, give her a sincere compliment. That'll get you more credit!
The secret to a healthy relationship
No matter how stunning and interesting your girlfriend is, remember to be self-sufficient!
✅ Note: the most advantageous approach to a healthy relationship is realizing that you are responsible for your own happiness.
Typically, there are couples with the partner literally dissolving in their beloved. And this brings negativity to both of them, because the person gives up his or her hobbies, friends, etc.
Relationships are just a part of your life! And it's important to stop at an approach where you bring joy from other areas into the relationship, not the other way around! That's the only way your relationship will always be warm and strong!
As a bonus, as you constantly evolve, you'll start to enjoy yourself, and your loved one as well 🙃
No matter how stunning and interesting your girlfriend is, remember to be self-sufficient!
✅ Note: the most advantageous approach to a healthy relationship is realizing that you are responsible for your own happiness.
Typically, there are couples with the partner literally dissolving in their beloved. And this brings negativity to both of them, because the person gives up his or her hobbies, friends, etc.
Relationships are just a part of your life! And it's important to stop at an approach where you bring joy from other areas into the relationship, not the other way around! That's the only way your relationship will always be warm and strong!
As a bonus, as you constantly evolve, you'll start to enjoy yourself, and your loved one as well 🙃
For champions to recharge
If you're halfway through the day and you're already dreaming of going to bed like a lemon, but you obviously can't get it yet and your bosses want you to be productive, then there's my favorite method👌🏻
Since I don't like to bother, and some time-consuming smart tricks are not very invigorating at the moment of lethargy, so my advice is the following - have a cup of tea🌱
What will it do?
It will help you catch your breath and cheer up quickly. And a piece of dark chocolate will help you get a burst of energy, not only for your body, but also for your mind.
And tea and chocolate are an explosive couple and I'm not talking about gastronomic pleasure😏
If you're halfway through the day and you're already dreaming of going to bed like a lemon, but you obviously can't get it yet and your bosses want you to be productive, then there's my favorite method👌🏻
Since I don't like to bother, and some time-consuming smart tricks are not very invigorating at the moment of lethargy, so my advice is the following - have a cup of tea🌱
What will it do?
It will help you catch your breath and cheer up quickly. And a piece of dark chocolate will help you get a burst of energy, not only for your body, but also for your mind.
And tea and chocolate are an explosive couple and I'm not talking about gastronomic pleasure😏
Solve problems with the girl through the bed
Surely, a picture immediately flashes up: in a fit of passion after a long quarrel, you tear each other's clothes off and all the problems recede into the background🔥
And at the end everyone is happy and the problem evaporates on its own. I thought for a long time that this was the perfect way to erase any conflict, yep, as if it wasn't!
Yeah, sure it is, my friend. This problem is already lodged in her head, from where it will break out at the first opportunity.
So what's the solution? Rethink the complexity of the phrase "we need to talk," as you can't get away from those hard conversations, but you can't build a relationship without them.
🚫 Turning problems into jokes or sex is great, but these problems will accumulate and eventually a huge clump of problems will fall on your couple.
Surely, a picture immediately flashes up: in a fit of passion after a long quarrel, you tear each other's clothes off and all the problems recede into the background🔥
And at the end everyone is happy and the problem evaporates on its own. I thought for a long time that this was the perfect way to erase any conflict, yep, as if it wasn't!
Yeah, sure it is, my friend. This problem is already lodged in her head, from where it will break out at the first opportunity.
So what's the solution? Rethink the complexity of the phrase "we need to talk," as you can't get away from those hard conversations, but you can't build a relationship without them.
🚫 Turning problems into jokes or sex is great, but these problems will accumulate and eventually a huge clump of problems will fall on your couple.
Emotion or Mind?
Further discussing the theme of developing mindfulness and for me it is a trait that is directly responsible for the evolving of a person and their thinking! And new thinking = new life, right?
So, getting to the point, my friend, if an unpleasant situation has made you angry, anxious or sad, you can always CONTROL your behavior.
Strong people have an emotional flexibility that keeps their minds from drowning in negative crap.
🚫 The biggest mistake is to force yourself to think positively. Forcing is extremely touch, if not impossible.
So you will often catch yourself in the negative, blame yourself for it and lose motivation. So it is best to accept your anger or irritation and try to understand where it came from and whether this emotion is good for you!
Listen to yourself and you will already start to change🏆
Further discussing the theme of developing mindfulness and for me it is a trait that is directly responsible for the evolving of a person and their thinking! And new thinking = new life, right?
So, getting to the point, my friend, if an unpleasant situation has made you angry, anxious or sad, you can always CONTROL your behavior.
Strong people have an emotional flexibility that keeps their minds from drowning in negative crap.
🚫 The biggest mistake is to force yourself to think positively. Forcing is extremely touch, if not impossible.
So you will often catch yourself in the negative, blame yourself for it and lose motivation. So it is best to accept your anger or irritation and try to understand where it came from and whether this emotion is good for you!
Listen to yourself and you will already start to change🏆
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Win people over
Remember that everyone is selfish in his or her own way, and from that it's too simple to take an interest in them✨
❌Talk about yourself and your accomplishments
✅ Asking questions and being interested in your communication partner's opinion.
And my personal trick is to memorize some little thing: a situation or a problem, and the next time you meet, be sure to ask how it went or how it was resolved.
Here’s the surest way to anyone's heart! I assure you: there is not a single person who does not like to tell about himself🙃
Remember that everyone is selfish in his or her own way, and from that it's too simple to take an interest in them✨
❌Talk about yourself and your accomplishments
✅ Asking questions and being interested in your communication partner's opinion.
And my personal trick is to memorize some little thing: a situation or a problem, and the next time you meet, be sure to ask how it went or how it was resolved.
Here’s the surest way to anyone's heart! I assure you: there is not a single person who does not like to tell about himself🙃
You are incomparable and inimitable
Get it into your head! Many of your problems will evaporate if you just turn off your inner critic!
Comparisons let demotivation into your world and a willingness to give up in any endeavor! Do you need that? I don't think so.
Does your inner dialogue or inner narrative compare your every move with the actions of others?
👉🏻If the answer is yes, self-discipline will have a huge impact from this, paralyzing you because of delusion.
✅The only thing that should matter to you as a leader of your life is your way of thinking, whether it's positive or negative.
Scientists have proven: low self-discipline is a negative dialogue with yourself, and a negative conversation with yourself discourages great things🥀
What to do.
Train yourself to positive inner self-reflection, such as: "I can do this" or "I'm going to start this 5-minute task right now."
That way you'll move 100% from your point of view, just stop berating yourself, because you're the big winner in your life🏆
Get it into your head! Many of your problems will evaporate if you just turn off your inner critic!
Comparisons let demotivation into your world and a willingness to give up in any endeavor! Do you need that? I don't think so.
Does your inner dialogue or inner narrative compare your every move with the actions of others?
👉🏻If the answer is yes, self-discipline will have a huge impact from this, paralyzing you because of delusion.
✅The only thing that should matter to you as a leader of your life is your way of thinking, whether it's positive or negative.
Scientists have proven: low self-discipline is a negative dialogue with yourself, and a negative conversation with yourself discourages great things🥀
What to do.
Train yourself to positive inner self-reflection, such as: "I can do this" or "I'm going to start this 5-minute task right now."
That way you'll move 100% from your point of view, just stop berating yourself, because you're the big winner in your life🏆
Psychological Aikido
Destroy any asshole morally😏
Equanimity, dignity and a sense of humor are the qualities you will demonstrate using this method👌🏻
Why try to respond at least something in anger and still look pathetic when you can easily guffaw at any rebuke from others and remain the audience's favorite?
Example:
- Why are you standing in line?!
- Well, yes, everyone is standing, and I'm the smartest one here, and you're so attentive, you noticed it right away!
Or something like that!
✅ On the one hand self-irony, but on the other hand it emphasizes the excessive negativity of your interlocutor, he will quickly shut up.
This way you won't get on your nerves, and you'll look at the situation with humor, as a grown-up and wise man should!
Destroy any asshole morally😏
Equanimity, dignity and a sense of humor are the qualities you will demonstrate using this method👌🏻
Why try to respond at least something in anger and still look pathetic when you can easily guffaw at any rebuke from others and remain the audience's favorite?
Example:
- Why are you standing in line?!
- Well, yes, everyone is standing, and I'm the smartest one here, and you're so attentive, you noticed it right away!
Or something like that!
✅ On the one hand self-irony, but on the other hand it emphasizes the excessive negativity of your interlocutor, he will quickly shut up.
This way you won't get on your nerves, and you'll look at the situation with humor, as a grown-up and wise man should!
Shift your attention to something pleasant
Catch a depressing thought, step away from it, and quickly switch to something positive.
Say, for example, if you had a meeting with ten clients, and four of them didn't even smile at you, focus on the six do-gooders. Then you will have a pleasant memory of the event, and about a sullen four you will forget immediately.
Every time another negative thought creeps up on you, know that you are at a fork and it is in your power to choose a different path.
Catch a depressing thought, step away from it, and quickly switch to something positive.
Say, for example, if you had a meeting with ten clients, and four of them didn't even smile at you, focus on the six do-gooders. Then you will have a pleasant memory of the event, and about a sullen four you will forget immediately.
Every time another negative thought creeps up on you, know that you are at a fork and it is in your power to choose a different path.
Mind the pin
A mother rocking a crying baby is unlikely to realize that he is not screaming for his own pleasure, but because of a pin in his blanket, which pricks and makes him uneasy. And, until the woman finds it, the baby's anxiety will grow.
If you, as well, find your "pin," you will become more aware of what is going on.
Stop worrying about someone else's inappropriate behavior toward you. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance if you see that the main source of stress is just the pin.
A mother rocking a crying baby is unlikely to realize that he is not screaming for his own pleasure, but because of a pin in his blanket, which pricks and makes him uneasy. And, until the woman finds it, the baby's anxiety will grow.
If you, as well, find your "pin," you will become more aware of what is going on.
Stop worrying about someone else's inappropriate behavior toward you. You will no longer see yourself as a victim of circumstance if you see that the main source of stress is just the pin.