Leave your parents alone.

Leave them alone with their crap and stop blaming them for your own misery, unless you really want to continue miserable as you are miserable now.

Stop assuming, even in your dreams, that your parents still owe you something or can keep you from something if you are 18+.

If someone is "holding you back" from something, it's you. Your fear of growing up, making choices, and taking full responsibility for your decisions.

When you condemn other people for something, you also condemn yourself for it.

So, for example, if you're used to treating "fat people" with disdain, you'll be afraid to be the same way. After all, then you'll find yourself in the position of being judged.

Judgment will eventually turn you into a neurotic. As an example, going to the gym will be more out of fear and rejection than out of creative desires.

With this approach, true happiness is out of the question.

Along with this, we are constantly judging other people and ourselves. Consciously and unconsciously.

But when you stop doing this, your quality of life and your emotional well-being increase significantly.

What to do if a wave of negative emotions overwhelms you?

Try an alternative method - clenching and unclenching your fists.

Maximum clench and unclench your fists alternately on the right and left hand, alternating with their simultaneous clenching. Feel the muscles tense.

For greater effectiveness, combine the contraction with inhalations and exhalations.

In order to become stronger psychologically and mentally, you need not only to overcome yourself, but also to remind yourself of victories more often.

Record in your notebook or smartphone notes a few things you're thankful for today.

That way, after a while, you'll be able to figure out what brings you the most positive feelings and what you should focus on.

I associate such action with improvement of the general psychological state, better quality of sleep and reduction of stress, because meaningful positive emotions relax the psyche.

Solidity as a character trait

Not shaking and not shrinking is also a skill called confidence🏆

Solidity is not a formal suit with a bowtie, but your inner state, which needs to be nurtured.

And we'll start with your speaking skills.

Speak leisurely, based on ironclad and irrefutable arguments, express your point of view and thoughts.

🚫 No doubts, much less hesitation in your voice. Just imagine a cowardly Hitler. Nah? That doesn't sit right with you either.

The easiest way to become productive

Every person, who wonders how to succeed in life, which was once the case with me, faces the problem of lack of time or inability to build their schedule.

Any successful businessman is at least somewhat familiar with time management. And you will too!

I don't like to bore you with complicated techniques, so remember one simple rule:

- If you can do a thing in two minutes, do it IMMEDIATELY. Don't put it off until later.

That way you won't forget any little thing and change your life thanks to just such an easy rule.

The Proven Paths

The first thought that led me to success in my early days is that any goal has already been accomplished by someone else before you. Unless you're planning a flight to Mars, of course👌🏻

So feel free to google and look for people who have achieved your dream. Apparently they gave interviews or even wrote books describing the whole algorithm to achieve it.

Use other people's experience, rather than racking up your own bumps, that way you'll save time and not lose motivation🏆

If a meaningless conversation drags on

Yeah, I've seen a lot of talkative birdies along the way and you know - there's a trick that will end any meaningless conversation without resentment👌🏻

There's no polite way to tell a person to shut up, but you can try this: drop something on the floor, any thing you have on hand (preferably not the phone).

👉🏻This will make even the most chatty person realize that he has been talking too long. Chances are he'll be ashamed and shut up.

If not, I'll drop some more ideas😉

Interesting = versatile

Every man solves a bunch of problems every day, and that requires a rich knowledge base. And to expand it and the bonus of being an interesting and well-read conversationalist, it's important to use books/videos/podcasts.

Just imagine how your knowledge will expand if you just watch one informative video a day?

The plus side of this format is that you can make it an addition to your routine. If you don't have time, at least watch ONE TED video while you're driving on transportation or eating breakfast.

It's really helpful to watch videos on topics you're not familiar with. Any knowledge is useful✅

Have patience and a couple of chewing gums.

This way you'll kill two birds with one stone: your breath will always be fresh and you won't be nervous about nothing👌🏻

- Every time you start to feel anxious, chew some gum.

🧠All it comes down to is that our brains believe that when we eat, it means everything is okay.

And if you take the time to eat, you're safe, and you're not in trouble.

Use this to trick your brain into forgetting about worry. Perfect before important events: during nervous negotiations, before a job interview, and in other stressful situations.

Self-Sufficiency in Men

This goes with the ability to defend your opinion, respect for personal boundaries, no fear of loneliness, the ability to admit your mistakes, etc.

Basically, a magical quality that will turn you from an indecisive youngster into a mature and wealthy man who easily solves any problems👌🏻

What to do?

Hold yourself accountable for everything that happens in your life. It's much easier to blame all your troubles on circumstances, other people, life, etc. Whiners usually achieve only one thing: pity. Is that what you want?

Accept that you are the only person who allowed this problem to happen and you are the one who is going to solve it.

🏆Such seriousness in all things is the foundation of self-sufficiency.

The Perfect Compliment Formula

That's my main trick for subduing any babe, and it's based on really emphasizing individuality.

"Your eyes are like two oceans I'm drowning in" and blah blah. They won't even listen to you, man.

🚫 Don't say trite compliments that suit any girl-"How adorable you are!", "You look beautiful!" etc. So it's not like in the pic😄

✅Turn on your mindfulness. Even if you appreciate the fact that her pinky is not the same color as everyone else's, and you like it, will give you more points than any other soap opera phrase.

You gotta have an opinion on everything

An empty-headed herd is easy to manage. You shouldn't be in that herd.

We are deceived every day: by advertising, by someone else's reviews, by subjective evaluations, etc.

✅ It's important to clearly define your position in life, to have your own opinion, which you can prove with clear facts about anything. You shouldn't talk about things you don't know. That way your opinion will be valued.

How to do it? Rely on facts. If you want to study an issue, find a study where the information is laid out with dry facts without anyone else's assessment. And little by little overlay one piece of information on top of another. That's where reading and reasoned opinion come from.

It's not scary to be wrong, you can always change your opinion - it's scary to live in ignorance and get caught up in all kinds of bullshit.

How to do your work with quality

Since not only quantity but also quality are important in the work, you shouldn’t put an infinite number of cases in your schedule. It's a shortcut to burnout.

At the beginning of each day, before you get to work, decide what three tasks you want to accomplish by the end of the day.

Your working hours include many urgent tasks. The rule of threes allows you to prioritize and deal first with what is of most value.

It also helps to weed out unnecessary tasks, for example, if a task hasn't been in your top three for a week, you probably shouldn't do it and you won't waste time!

Promises to yourself

"And from this Monday I'll start...", "After this situation I'll stop..." I myself was on the hook for these fervent communications that lasted two days at most👎🏻

🔺A man should always be honest with himself and l take responsibility for his words. And that shows up everywhere.

A firmness of character should be felt in every attitude, and especially in his attitude toward himself.

❗️ Now think about this: every time you break your word, you increase the difficulty of the first step in a new endeavor. And that's because our brains fixate on failure as the natural result of any endeavor.

So be patient and don't give up quickly. Ever. To succeed - it's important to create your own rules and be sure to follow them🏆

Quality to Achieve the Goal

Undoubtedly, all of the qualities in the survey play a significant role in winning, but I would like to highlight just one - patience.

Motivation, of course, is good, and I often fall under its tide, but it is important not to overdo it.

Remember, friend: in any case, as well as in sports, the main thing is regularity.

🚫 Watching motivational videos, believing in yourself so much and doing so much in a day as you did in a week, and then just at the thought of continuing the action feel nauseous.

✅The best strategy is to wait for the first results, and then you yourself will feel a great desire to reach the top and understand that you act correctly.

It's hard to find the strength and not give up. But this path is always rewarding.

Self-love as an investment in the future

Since childhood we are taught to share and suppress any initiative to do something for ourselves. You're supposed to give and concede, but you cannot refuse, take and ask.

And is that the norm? No, I don't urge you to be rude to old people and take candy from children, BUT to have some benefit from every day you live, you must. Simply because there is nothing more reliable than you.

I'll tell you one thing: Forget your inner critic. It makes you procrastinate and sting before solving your problems and showing yourself as a person.

🚫 You can dabble with affirmations, sit in meditation for hours, but it's all for naught if you're constantly berating and angry with yourself.

The more you invest in yourself, the more you love yourself. Invest in your knowledge, in your body, in your health, and in your appearance. This will give you a tremendous amount of motivation.

Awareness

This is a trait of a truly mature and wise person, but, unfortunately, many people miss it, relying on emotionality or circumstances🥀

What gives this quality:
- You give maximum accountability to your actions, no emotion or situation will take you out of yourself.

- You clearly realize your feelings and immediately understand and eliminate the cause of your bad feeling

- You rejoice in the little things. That’s really important. You can walk across the bridge every day with a beautiful view, thinking about your problems, or you can stop for a moment and get a charge of positivity. Which will save you from the stress that is at every turn now!

Self-pity and self-criticism head to the trash 🗑

Why do I bring up failure so often? As the fear of them kills ANY desire to act.

And until you understand that it takes a little patience and the ability to learn lessons, you won't get ahead.

And most importantly, understand that self-criticism does no good.

Nah, I'm not saying that if you don't sing very well, but you really like it, you have to go to some casting and make yourself look like a total jerk, here it's more about objectively assessing your weaknesses and strengths, but about that later.

Notice and record your desire to complain, to criticize yourself. Find something positive about the situation. Think about how to fix it. Anything but complain🚫

Once you realize that criticism is not fruitful, but only robs you of your self-confidence, the need for it disappears on its own.

🏆New thinking - new thoughts - new life!

Ability to Listen

Here's what else attracts the opposite sex👌🏻

In fact, listening is easy, no talent is even needed here, even in boring classes we were perfectly taught to pretend that we are listening👌🏻

But listening and giving the person minimal feedback is a different story, almost a lost art.Agree, when the topic is very interesting you wait for your turn to speak, but it only makes you feel like you're shutting him up🥀

What to do.

Have a chat with someone for 5 minutes without interrupting them once (pick a more talkative person to speak in monologues).

During the process of talking show your interest through looks, facial expressions, and other non-verbal gestures (sometimes nodding, raising your eyebrows at the right moment, and other little things that will add to the confidence of your conversation partner)

✅ Simple and powerful!

Stress Resistance

Are tantrums and tears the actions of a person seeking to reach many heights in this life? The answer is obvious. So, developing this quality, you will already be closer than others to your goals and desires🏆

And now let's talk about something nice - food!

There's nothing easier than just starting to eat some fruit for a change in your life, right? And here's a little list with which you can easily beat stress:

🍌Bananas - promote the production of the happiness hormone. It's also high in vitamins that regulate the nervous system.

🍅The vegetables have antioxidants that help you recover from nervous disorders. They also help increase stress tolerance💪🏻

🌾Flakes are rich in B vitamins, which are essential for replenishing vitality and strength.

‼️ The important thing is not to pile on the sweets, something many people do! But that's a direct path to obesity, diabetes, peptic ulcers and other human "friends".