When you declare that you’ll never find love because you just went through a breakup, or consider yourself fundamentally awful looking because you’re not loving your outfit today, or you’re sinking in the feeling that you’ll never find your way in life because you feel lost right now — what you’re doing is extrapolating.

Extrapolation is the projection of a single experience into a long-term assumption about life.

“This moment is not your life, this is a moment in your life.” — Ryan Holiday

Just because you’re temporarily having a negative experience does not mean it will define the rest of your life.

What you’re really saying is that you can’t see a way out of your current circumstances — because in some way, you don’t completely control them.

Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. This is but saying that nothing can come from corn but corn, nothing from nettles but nettles. Men understand this law in the natural world and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world (though its operation there is just as simple and undeviating), and they, therefore, do not co-operate with it.

Perhaps you are familiar with an arresting, provocative image known as Your Life in Weeks. The visualization, popularized by blogger Tim Urban in 2014, is still in wide circulation a decade later. Here it is, in case you missed it:

How small and finite life feels when you see it represented like this, as a series of identical squares that can easily fit on one page.

It’s a visual reminder that our time is limited — and incredibly precious.

“There is no evil in things changing, just as there is no good in persisting in a new state.”
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.42

When people say change is good, they’re usually trying to reassure someone (or themselves). Because instinctively we view change as bad — or at least we’re suspicious of it.

The Stoics want you to do away with those labels altogether. Change isn’t good. The status quo isn’t bad. They just are.

Remember, events are objective. It’s only our opinion that says something is good or bad (and thus worth fighting against or fighting for). A better attitude? To decide to make the most of everything. But to do that you must first cease fighting.

“What’s the difference between the best athletes and everyone else?” I asked. “What do the really successful people do that most don’t?”

He mentioned the factors you might expect: genetics, luck, talent.
But then he said something I wasn’t expecting:
“At some point, it comes down to who can handle the boredom of training every day, doing the same lifts over and over and over.”

His answer surprised me because it’s a different way of thinking about work ethic.
People talk about getting “amped up” to work on their goals.
Whether it’s business or sports or art, you hear people say things like,
“It all comes down to passion.”
Or, “You have to really want it.”

As a result, many of us get depressed when we lose focus or motivation because we think that successful people have some bottomless reserve of passion.
But this coach said that really successful people feel the same lack of motivation as everyone else.
The difference is that they still find a way to show up despite the feelings of boredom.

The future is not something we enter. The future is something we create.
— Leonard I. Sweet, author and theologian

Entrepreneurship is one of the most powerful expressions of the Human Edge. At its core, it’s about imagination, initiative and impact. It’s the ability to see possibilities where others see problems, to take risks and shape new realities. As we step into the AI age, entrepreneurship is no longer just for startup founders or business elites—it is a mindset and skill set that every individual needs.

The AI age is not just disrupting jobs; it is reshaping the very idea of what a career looks like. Many traditional roles are disappearing, but in their place lies the rise of something exciting—the Age of Entrepreneurs.

Whether it’s an argument, a heated discussion, or slight friction in conversation, your goal isn’t to “win.” It’s to unravel. Start at the loose ends until you understand the heart of the matter. There you’ll find the knot.

This is a book of knots. The hard stuff in social relationships that, admit it, you’d rather skip over. Untying crossed wires takes time, takes emotion, takes effort. That’s what conflict in communication represents: a struggle.

An argument is a window into another person’s struggle. In every difficult conversation, there’s a moment when someone—whether it’s you or the other person—hits a snag. Maybe you don’t understand what they’re trying to say. Maybe you’re in a bad mood. Maybe you disagree. It’s not the clash of opinions; it’s the clash of worlds, of the very way you see things.

In fact, it is very easy to kill time. We honestly believe we’re the ones causing the harm, but as playwright Dion Boucicault pointed out: “Men talk of killing time, while time quietly kills them.” It has been rephrased in many ways since, but the sentiment is the same. I think about it all the time. We can master so much — we feel we are in control of our time — but in this case it is to no avail.

Here are the words of the poet Henry Austin Dobson:

Time goes, you say? Ah, no.
Alas, time stays, we go.

Discipline and freedom are often seen as conflicting ideas. Many people think discipline means restricting yourself, following rigid rules, and sacrificing enjoyment. But the truth is, discipline is the key to achieving genuine freedom in life.

When you’re disciplined with your time, you create a structure that ensures you complete your work efficiently. This leaves you with free time to pursue hobbies, spend with loved ones, or relax without guilt. On the other hand, if you lack discipline and waste time procrastinating, you’re left scrambling to meet deadlines, often sacrificing your personal time.

Freedom isn’t about doing whatever you want whenever you want; it’s about having the ability to make meaningful choices. Discipline gives you that ability. For instance, if you’re disciplined with your finances—saving consistently and avoiding unnecessary spending—you have the freedom to invest in opportunities, take vacations, or handle emergencies without stress. Conversely, a lack of financial discipline often leads to debt and dependency.

It reduces cancer, depression, insomnia, dementia, diabetes, hypertension, arthritis, and many other disabling conditions — and increases healthy longevity. If you have the personality, resources, and inclination for extensive physical activity, that’s great — you’ll be much more likely to avoid disability and live independently into old age.

I can only stick with activities I enjoy. I play squash — not well but enthusiastically; for the hour I’m on a squash court, that’s all I think about, and when I finish, drenched in sweat, endorphins and other beneficial neurochemicals coursing through my body, I can’t wait to play again. So, busy as my schedule is, I fit squash in.

Try to find vigorous activities you love doing. But if that’s not for you, you can still get a large dose of the miracle drug if you build physical activity into your daily routines — taking stairs instead of the elevator, walking farther to work or stores, bicycling whenever possible. A brisk walk, ideally outdoors, is the most accessible. Four brisk walks every week for at least thirty minutes, ideally in a refreshing natural space, can do wonders.

1. A lack of clarity about who you are—and what you should do—can hurt. If it lingers long enough, it leads to a chaotic mind.

2. When your heart knows what you should do but your mind isn’t willing to accept the consequences, a void begins to form inside you. You long for that void to be filled.

3. We lack clarity in our careers, relationships, and lives because we don’t know who we really are, what we want, what our core values are, and what purpose our souls should serve.

4. This inner turmoil can spill into our everyday lives. The first step is to acknowledge it, then understand and accept who we are.

5. It can be difficult to come to terms with who we are deep down and what we want. Society has conditioned us to function according to its expectations. We have forgotten our real selves.

Ask for advice
People love giving advice. So, start your small talk with a request for advice: ‘I want to buy a smartphone [or a cocktail or a book], but I can’t decide which one.’ Most people will happily open up. Then thank them for the tip and the other person will feel like a fireman who has successfully extinguished a fire. The psychology behind this: if you ask for advice, you create intimacy; intimacy makes rejection difficult. Therefore, if you want to influence someone, it is a good idea to ask that person for advice first.

Ask a second question
We often ask something and then wait for the other person to ask something back. This is not a conversation. Instead, use the old reporter trick and ask a second question. If you just asked ‘Where did you grow up?’, then a good follow-up question might be: ‘How has that place shaped you?’

The highest form of wealth is the ability to wake up every morning and say, “I can do whatever I want today.”

People want to become wealthier to make them happier. Happiness is a complicated subject because everyone’s different. But if there’s a common denominator in happiness—a universal fuel of joy—it’s that people want to control their lives.

The ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want, is priceless. It is the highest dividend money pays.

The mind without pauses is like a cluttered desk — no space to work, no room to breathe.
Stillness doesn’t throw everything away. It clears a little space so you can see what actually matters.

With even a little mental clarity, the impossible feels manageable.
The loud becomes softer.
The messy feels organised.
And sometimes, the question that haunted you finds its answer in the quiet.

Stillness is not wasting time — it is reclaiming it.

In any negotiation, neither side can see the whole picture. You know the cards you hold and the terms you are willing to accept. At the same time, you have no clear view of your opponent’s cards or the concessions they may be prepared to make.

This uncertainty makes negotiation similar to poker, a game in which part of the information is always hidden. A negotiator, like a poker player, tries to deduce the opponent’s hand by interpreting their moves rather than relying on complete knowledge.

As with any game of imperfect information, success depends heavily on position at the table.

Most of the time, we don’t consciously notice the thoughts that pass through our minds or realise the extent to which they shape our reality. The more deeply embedded these beliefs become, the harder they feel to challenge. You may begin to believe that “this is just who I am,” rather than recognising these beliefs as learned patterns — and, more importantly, patterns that can be unlearned.

Our beliefs determine how we perceive situations, how we interpret events, and ultimately how we define ourselves. They become self-fulfilling prophecies, for better or for worse.