WHY THE NEW YEAR DOES’NT STAY NEW FOR LONG
Has it occurred to you that it seemed like a big deal a few days ago when 2024 was not here, but now that it is, it seems no different from 2023.

The year may be new, but the days feel the same.

My new year has certainly rolled in and started unfolding without much excitement.

To add to my disappointment, and yours too I’m sure, the visions of radically healthy changes we had anticipated and resolved to effect in the new year, have all but evaporated amidst the flow of everyday life and our pre-set habit-patterns.

The diet or the study plan you may have committed to, is now seeming harder and harder to maintain. I know mine is.

Why do we so effortlessly over-anticipate our potential for change? Why do so effortfully resist change when it is in fact, what we desire?

Perhaps we do so unconsciously to preserve our ego or self-esteem. The ego is deeply sensitive to criticism and the buoyant expectations we have from ourselves could be a defence mechanism to buffer against a harsh reality-

what we desire is very different from what we are willing to do to obtain it.

The improved body or new habit or higher productivity that we desire is not commensurate with the efforts required to obtain it. And yet the real self must never be too distant from the ideal self, or else pain ensues.

But something deeper is at work here that makes the going even tougher-

we think we are in complete control of our future behavior when we are not. We assume that what we desire now is what we will continue to desire just as strongly tomorrow.

So, if a new year’s resolution is just a whiff of momentary wishful thinking, what sustains long term behavior change?

We are all creatures of habit. Forces deeply seated in the subconscious mind dictate our long-term behavior. There are sub-conscious commands which set the undertone for all our decisions, mistakes and values. These commands are seated in the sub-conscious mind which is much like the operating system in your phone- unnoticed but ever-present, it is buried underneath layers of applications and interface silently issuing the commands that make the phone do its magic. Only in this case, when you convey your desire to your phone, say type a text message, the operating system responds with loyalty and fidelity to show you exactly what you want to see on the screen.

In the case of the mind, the loyalty and fidelity is not to be taken for granted. If you wish to see your desires manifested, you must speak to it in the language that the operating system of the mind understands. Just like you must use the machine language of coding (C+, Python, Java etc) to alter the design of an operating system of your computer, you need psychological language to alter the sub-conscious programming of your mind.

While there much ado about the power of the sub-conscious mind, there is little to suggest how exactly that power can be harnessed. If you can harness it, you can expect your resolutions and commitments to have a longer shelf life.

But to do this, you need a language that can sink deeper into the mind’s unconscious recesses and stay there embedded, and not merely ricocheting off the conscious mind, leaving no more than a faint memory of regret for the wish unfulfilled, only to be put-off into the future for another year’s resolution.

Such a command would have to installed in the sub-conscious mind by repetition, hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming, to name just a few techniques. Thoughtful wordings, cadence, rhythm, ambient music all play a key role in achieving this objective.

Which brings me to my new year’s resolution. As a professional mentor and psychologist, it will be my endeavor to create such a psychological-coding language to bring about long-term behavior change. The task I have set for myself will serve as proof of concept, or proof of failure of these ideas as it will only come to pass if the idea themselves are powerful enough to bring it into existence. Otherwise, they too will become a faint memory of regret for the wish unfulfilled, only to be put-off into the future for another year’s resolution.

In the meantime, if the new year seems less new each day, neither fret nor regret.

Realize that the mind often understands a different language than the one you speak.

And taming it is no small task. But there is much to be gained from what’s to come in the future. As you will learn to reprogram your mind, you wield the power to make your destiny the way you desire.

What the new year brings to you depends a lot on what you bring to the new year, So lets bring our best.

Ravi Kapoor IRS (R) https://becomingias.com/what-we-desire-is-very-different-from-what-we-are-willing-to-do-to-obtain-it/

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How does the UPSC panel think behind the scenes? What do they expect from a candidate? Who are the people on the other side of the table?

We dwell into this in the upcoming session in a revelatory conversation with 3 distinguished personalties who form the UPSC interview panel. We will hear from a decorated military veteran, a dynamic principal commissioner and the erstwhile chief of the Indian Postal services.

There is more than 100 years of experience in the services amongst the four people you will encounter in this session.

All that you imagined the UPSC interview was like will stand answered along with a few things you didn't even know you needed to know.

Watch it carefully, absorb the officer like air that these personalities exude, try to familiarize yourself with their way of thinking.

This session is the equivalent of decoding PYQs like we do for Prelims and Mains, only in this case the context is upsc interviews and the paper setters are sharing their thoughts and expectations openly for your benefit.

It will go LIVE at 8 PM.

This is not one to be missed.

Tc

Ravi Kapoor IRS (R)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LNXPIebo6dQ

Ladies and gentlemen, it's been a while since I posted on telegram because I've been building things for the coming year.

One of those things is new additions to the Free Mentorship Program and I'm happy to share big news with you-

Capt Sanjay Gahlot IRS will now ALSO be your mentor in this program. He has wide experience and a dazzling personality. He is someone who can teach you a lot

With his help we'll focus on developing officer like qualities and grooming which is an extremely important but often ignored aspect.

This session is his introduction and you're invited to attend.

I'll share more updates via email as well.

2024 will see many major upgrades in this program and Im excited to reveal them one by one :)

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Ravi Kapoor IRS (R)

LIVE SESSION ALERT Discipline is paramount. It is what distinguishes the serious players from the riff-raff. And to inculcate it, you need to be harsh with yourself.

It is often ignored but you know it as well as I do, that most of the times it is not strategy we lack, but the discipline to pursue it consistently.

I had announced that Capt Gahlot IRS principal Commissioner will be your mentor along with me in the Free Mentorship program and he will be LIVE today on You tube, addressing you on a topic which is SUPER important i.e Discipline.

I think because of his background and mind-set he is the best person to address you on military type discipline and how to use it in UPSC preparation. Don't miss the session and gauge what he has to say. I am sure that there will be many striking metaphors from the military POV and you will enjoy and learn simultaneously.

All the best, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-J3oXS86iIY

I'm happy to announce a special session on the Interim budget, tailored specifically for the UPSC exam.



The panel consists of myself, Capt Sanjay Gahlot- both veterans of the Ministry of Finance along with Mrs Nanki Baweja, Economy Expert.



It is structured such that all basic concepts of Economy are clarified along with the discussion on the budget



This session is critical not only for the upcoming Prelims but for the overall understanding of macroeconomics.



You're cordially invited to attend it LIVE and to participate in the LIVE Chat during the session.

7 pm today

https://www.youtube.com/live/vAZUeCIpybE?si=ifYJ0G2md-tXzsyX

Don't be late!

Going LIVE !

I've decided to dedicate this award to all students of the Free Mentorship Program.... Creating and running it has taught me more than I ever thought possible. It lasted because of your support and it will continue because of the same...

All of this has happened because of you.

with deep gratitude 🙏

Ravi Kapoor IRS (R)

Hello everyone, Im going to be taking a LIVE session on Using ChatGPT AI for UPSC preparation on Wednesday evening. Timing and link will soon follow.....I think its about time we spoke about it openly and discovered what AI really is worth to you, if at all. See you soon...