There is no such thing as peer-pressure.

People who claim to be victims of that are idiots and immature.

They take zero responsibility for their actions and decisions.

You didn't get "peer-pressured"; you tried to fit.

Nuance.

You want to get socially validated; you wanted to become part of them.

No matter of hard they insisted; it wouldn't have happened if you didn't agree.

Pressure is not the problem.

The problem is that you broke and conceded to said pressure.

It's not on them.

It's on you.

Again:

No such thing as peer-pressure.

It's called seeking validation.

Get it together, take responsibility.

FIRST STEP OF GETTING YOUR SHIT TOGETHER:

Getting rid of everyone that doesn't share your ambition.

Those people will drag you down to their level and keep you there.

You're worth more than that.

How do I know?

You're here reading this.

You want to get better at life; you want to become a superior person to what you are now.

I know it because I feel the same way and it's what drives me in everything I do.

Now, some of you might say:

"That's rude dude, you can't give up on your friends"

To those people I say:

Keep being a loser.

To those who want to listen to my advice; here is why you should get rid of such people:

They're a burden to themselves and you can't save everyone.

The best you can do FOR THEM AND FOR YOU; is to take distance and work on yourself.

MAYBE, if they're worth it, they'll get inspired.

If they don't? No loss.

You're not responsible of your friends, but they do influence you in many ways.

Surround yourself with people with similar or higher levels of ambition.

Do it.

If you think about it:

Everything is a cope.

Everything we do has an underlying intention to act as a defense mechanism or a way to reassure oneself.

Taking risk? Defense mechanism.
Playing it safe? Seeking reassurance.

Taking risk is often due to prior missed opportunities.

Playing it safe is often due to past failures.

The thing is, what happens to any of us undoubtedly affects us. That's a fact.

The other side of this fact is that we always decide of how it will affect us.

How we'll cope with it.

And btw, not deciding and just letting your emotions take over is also a decision.

The decision to give up.

The thing is:

You'd rather your defense mechanisms be properly thought of.

You'd rather know why you're doing what you're doing rather than letting your subconscious decide what's the best thing to do.


If you do the latter, you're no different than AI. No soul inside.

Thats probably how you'll feel anyway.

Instead, it's important to take decisions to change when random events happen.


Decide exactly how shit affects you.

Don't let your subconscious do the work, thats not what you want.

You can only achieve emotional detachment when you achieve balance between socializing and isolation.

It's only when you enjoy both your time alone and around people that you fully grasp how powerful you are and how independent you can be.

There is a perfect balance between being fulfilled on your own and comfortable around people.

Strive for that.

Work on yourself on your own and sharpen your social skills.

This is what it's about.

Using Stories To Catch A Lie

If you doubt the narrative someone is selling you, there are ways of catching them in their lie without being directly confrontational.

Direct confrontation will lead to denial, and then you won't be able to know whether they were telling the truth or not.

And you achieve nothing as well. You also stir ill feelings and end up looking like the petty one.

So, how do you use stories to catch a lie?

Imagine someone tells you about something that happened yesterday, which was the reason why they couldn't do xyz. But you doubt this.

You can just let it slide and a few minutes later tell them about this story of something that happened a year ago or so.

Make the story about someone who lied to you about something similar enough to trigger their mind to associate it with what they said previously, but not too alike that it seems inauthentic.

Then tell them about how you dealt with it. Exaggerate your reaction, let the consequences be huge, but say it in s humorous manner.

Here's an example:

Sam tells me he had to take his grandma to the hospital, that's why he couldn't finish his part of a group project. I think he's lying and was actually partying.

So after a few minutes, I tell Sam about that one time my girlfriend lied to me that she was sick and couldn't come over. But when I found out she wasn't sick, I broke up with her because I value honesty above all.

You can come up with so many different stories.

If they seem bothered, then they were in fact lying. Otherwise, they may or may not be lying.

If they seem very curious to know why you reacted the way you did, high probability they were lying.

Seize Control. E R.

Start around min 29, that's the point I want to make.

If you want to watch all of it, go ahead.

https://youtu.be/AkcC84AKVBU

A defense mechanism that people use to avoid confrontation is faking misunderstanding.

They'll try and deviate from the core point as if they're not fully getting what you're saying.

But what they're really doing is dragging you to another topic.

Bring you to an area they know they'll win the argument through.

It's not that people don't understand.

They do.

It's that they'd rather not talk about being wrong.

It's that they'd rather make you believe that you're at fault.

Don't fall for this shit.

Don't let them deviate.

Repeat your point as many times as it takes.

If they don't get it, then they dont want to.

Time to think if you want to keep wasting your time with such person.

Direct accusations never work.

Never accuse someone of anything directly, even with evidence.

IF you have evidence, let the evidence speak for you. If you have no concrete evidence, use subtle signaling to let them know you KNOW.

But NEVER accuse directly.

Never take loyalty for granted.

Loyalty is groomed and maintained. Like a plant, if it's not watered it will die and fade away.

Find those who are loyal to you and make sure to keep them around.

BUT always be ready for betrayal.

Take your precautions, never allow people too close to you because they'll be tempted to leverage your weaknesses once they find out about them.

Don't bet on people's self-control because most don't have any.

The only people I trust are those with whom I've never had an issue and known for over 10 years.


Stay good to me for 10 years and you'll get my absolute trust.


Before that, you'll have to prove yourself.


And this is very important:

I often talk about double standards.

This is what I mean

Make people prove their worth to you, never consider that you have to prove yourself to anyone.

Very important thread.

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1486006260826886153

The Art of Walking Away:

Okay here is fact slap:

If you don't walk away from most things, most things will walk away from you.

There are red flags for a reason, there always are.

But the thing is when faced with red flags, most will either ignore them or rationalize them and keep going in the wrong direction.

Walking away from detrimental situations is not giving up, it's fixing your direction.

It's the opposite of giving up, it means getting back control.

Because let's face it:

You will make mistakes and go in the wrong direction.

You will trust people that aren't trustworthy.

You will get disappointed.

Those inevitable.

But it stops there if you smart enough to know when to walk away.

When you realize that it's not what you were expecting, it's better to walk away and save your time and energy for what's worth it.

Never consider that you're stuck.

You can always start over, you can always walk away.

Stop chasing what's not there.
Stop chasing, period.

The only thing you should be chasing is your own dreams and objectives.

I URGE you to watch this.

Please do.

https://youtu.be/e-k7b8Zmh70

Pavlovian Method - Programming an Individual

According to the pavlovian concept, A human can be programmed the same way as a dog - that is by Isolating, Stressing, Compliance, and Rewarding the behavior. Let’s look at how this can be possible

Isolation - Isolating an individual from his community helps in instilling doubt, and a question in sense of self-worth. Every human needs someone to fall back onto, isolation is a death sentence for a person. So, when they don’t have someone to rely upon you demand that support in exchange for compliance.

Addendum: Man derives his sense of worth and beliefs from his community, man thrives on the positive affirmations he gets for his worth. When isolated there’s no one testifying to him his worth, therefore he begins to doubt himself, he starts to wonder they aren’t cheering - maybe something is wrong, “have I done something wrong”, “Why are ostracizing me?”

Stress - It’s very easy to program the mind when it’s under stress because it’s in a state of confusion. When in confusion we lose our ability to rationalize and reason, anything that can get rid of this stress can be considered reasonable. To put it in context we will comply with anything that gets rids of this stress.

For example - Some people are annoyed by the screeching of chalk on the board, the teacher can use this screeching to stress students until they comply with complete attention. This is a vague example.

Compliance & Reward - Note that in the above cases we are punishing the undesired behavior by isolation and stress. So to propagate more of desired behavior you must make the subject subconsciously note that ‘good behavior is rewarded and not punished.’ The way would treat a dog when it follows commands is the way you reward the desired behavior, by giving the person
something they hold dear.