I do not trust people who get along with everyone too easily.
Because that means they have no boundaries themselves, they simply adapt to who they're dealing with.
Don't get me wrong.
Those are VERY intelligent people with a high capacity to adapt.
But.
Not having your own boundaries means you'll cross other people's boundaries if that means getting to your desired results.
As such, those people are usually extremely friendly at the beginning, but end up fucking up with you if you let them too close.
Not because they want you harm, but because they do not conceive your relationship with them the say way you do.
Because that means they have no boundaries themselves, they simply adapt to who they're dealing with.
Don't get me wrong.
Those are VERY intelligent people with a high capacity to adapt.
But.
Not having your own boundaries means you'll cross other people's boundaries if that means getting to your desired results.
As such, those people are usually extremely friendly at the beginning, but end up fucking up with you if you let them too close.
Not because they want you harm, but because they do not conceive your relationship with them the say way you do.
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Forwarded from Atlas' Majliss (۞ Atlas ۞)
You can know within seconds how a human being operates:
Look at the following math problem and see if you can work out the answer in your head,
without using paper and pen. Really, stop reading and try to work out the answer in your head at least
for 30 seconds.
18 × 26 = ?
.
.
.
.
I hope you really tried, but I’m willing to bet you didn’t finish the task.
You probably gave up.
This is an example of System 2 thinking.
It’s hard.
It takes effort.
It’s not automatic.
It requires conscious thought as well as effort.
In his book Thinking, Fast and Slow (Kahneman 2011), Daniel Kahneman describes two different systems of how the brain
thinks.
He calls these System 1 and System 2, or “automatic” and “effortful” thinking.
It’s quick, intuitive, and automatic.
Kahneman describes the research that shows that as we work hard at a System 2 task, our pupils dilate.
You can tell when people are engaged in System 2 thinking if you look closely at their eyes.
Look at the following math problem and see if you can work out the answer in your head,
without using paper and pen. Really, stop reading and try to work out the answer in your head at least
for 30 seconds.
18 × 26 = ?
.
.
.
.
I hope you really tried, but I’m willing to bet you didn’t finish the task.
You probably gave up.
This is an example of System 2 thinking.
It’s hard.
It takes effort.
It’s not automatic.
It requires conscious thought as well as effort.
In his book Thinking, Fast and Slow (Kahneman 2011), Daniel Kahneman describes two different systems of how the brain
thinks.
He calls these System 1 and System 2, or “automatic” and “effortful” thinking.
It’s quick, intuitive, and automatic.
Kahneman describes the research that shows that as we work hard at a System 2 task, our pupils dilate.
You can tell when people are engaged in System 2 thinking if you look closely at their eyes.
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Small confession :
Sometimes I start overthinking things, I start overestimating people's complexity.
Then I remember that most people don't see as far as I do.
Truth is; people are very shortsighted.
And most of the time:
They do things from instincts rather than thoughts.
People overthink other people's actions.
They don't overthink their own actions.
They just do.
Do first, think later.
But I'm more of a think then do.
So it happens that I overestimate people's thought processing abilities.
Sometimes I start overthinking things, I start overestimating people's complexity.
Then I remember that most people don't see as far as I do.
Truth is; people are very shortsighted.
And most of the time:
They do things from instincts rather than thoughts.
People overthink other people's actions.
They don't overthink their own actions.
They just do.
Do first, think later.
But I'm more of a think then do.
So it happens that I overestimate people's thought processing abilities.
As promised; our first Basedonia Masterclass will take place next Sunday.
More information tomorrow.
More information tomorrow.
Do NOT stop enjoying yourself.
If you do; you lose at life.
If your life gets boring: you're not living it.
You HAVE TO compile and collect intense experiences.
You HAVE TO go out there and enjoy yourself.
You HAVE TO keep discovering new things.
Don't get stuck in your own mind and thoughts.
Don't get stuck in a life you don't want to have.
Those who properly live their lives are risk takers.
Fuck your comfort zone.
Learn to be comfortable everywhere instead.
If you do; you lose at life.
If your life gets boring: you're not living it.
You HAVE TO compile and collect intense experiences.
You HAVE TO go out there and enjoy yourself.
You HAVE TO keep discovering new things.
Don't get stuck in your own mind and thoughts.
Don't get stuck in a life you don't want to have.
Those who properly live their lives are risk takers.
Fuck your comfort zone.
Learn to be comfortable everywhere instead.
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Assertive Ultimatums
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PS: I am in no way inciting you to manipulate people, I am simply giving you tools to use to get what you want. I am in no way liable for how you use the below mentioned information.
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There comes a point in some conversations where you see yourself forced to leave no choice to your interlocutor.
Especially if your opinions on the next best course of action is diverging.
Be it at work, in your relationship or with friends on a project of yours.
You will find yourself in a situation where the people in front of you have a diverging opinion from yours.
A recurring and frequent method used to force people into giving up their stance is the use of ultimatums.
Let me give you two radically opposed examples then break down which is best and why.
1. "We either do *this* or we do lose everything"
2. "Do you want to make it happen or not?"
Number 1:
This first one is fear oriented and almost feels like a threat.
This is how most people phrase their ultimatums.
This is not what you want to say and do (most of the time)
Here is why:
The use of fear triggers two possible responses:
Fight or flight.
By using this type of ultimatums you leave no choice to your interlocutor, they will either get defensive or give up.
But the thing is:
If you've reached this stage of the conversation, there are higher chances for them to keep fighting than giving up.
They've already been defending their point and triggering fear will only lead to them getting aggressive and get them too emotional, sometimes even angry.
This is a failed ultimatum.
It will create more new and useless conflict than it will solve already existing problems.
As for Number 2:
This one is phrased in a way that implies responsibility.
It gives you an edge where you offer your interlocutor the opportunity to see that both of you have the same goal in mind.
It also suggests that what they are proposing is unlikely to get you both to your desired results.
It is, in a way, a blame game technique. One where you target their compassion rather than fear.
You're putting the blame on them while putting yourself on their side.
That's how ultimatums should sound.
It should almost sound like:
It's not that I'm leaving you no choice but what you're saying isn't what we both want.
A smooth way to make them believe that they're wrong, a smooth way to induce doubt in their minds.
Don't let your ultimatums be threats.
Make sure your ultimatums are confusing and can only be answered by a yes.
By breaking the conflict pattern and making your interlocutor agree with you on something (no matter how small that thing is) you get the conversation going in another direction.
An opposing direction, where there is an underlying assumption that both of you seek the same results.
That's how you defuse a diverging opinion.
That's how you properly appeal to your interlocutor's emotion without scaring them.
Disclaimer:
This is to be used very wisely and not with excess.
Timing of your ultimatums is of paramount importance as they become useless once a certain degree of conflict is reached.
This is not a last resort option, this is something you should use in the early stages of disagreement to defuse potential fight mode.
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PS: I am in no way inciting you to manipulate people, I am simply giving you tools to use to get what you want. I am in no way liable for how you use the below mentioned information.
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There comes a point in some conversations where you see yourself forced to leave no choice to your interlocutor.
Especially if your opinions on the next best course of action is diverging.
Be it at work, in your relationship or with friends on a project of yours.
You will find yourself in a situation where the people in front of you have a diverging opinion from yours.
A recurring and frequent method used to force people into giving up their stance is the use of ultimatums.
Let me give you two radically opposed examples then break down which is best and why.
1. "We either do *this* or we do lose everything"
2. "Do you want to make it happen or not?"
Number 1:
This first one is fear oriented and almost feels like a threat.
This is how most people phrase their ultimatums.
This is not what you want to say and do (most of the time)
Here is why:
The use of fear triggers two possible responses:
Fight or flight.
By using this type of ultimatums you leave no choice to your interlocutor, they will either get defensive or give up.
But the thing is:
If you've reached this stage of the conversation, there are higher chances for them to keep fighting than giving up.
They've already been defending their point and triggering fear will only lead to them getting aggressive and get them too emotional, sometimes even angry.
This is a failed ultimatum.
It will create more new and useless conflict than it will solve already existing problems.
As for Number 2:
This one is phrased in a way that implies responsibility.
It gives you an edge where you offer your interlocutor the opportunity to see that both of you have the same goal in mind.
It also suggests that what they are proposing is unlikely to get you both to your desired results.
It is, in a way, a blame game technique. One where you target their compassion rather than fear.
You're putting the blame on them while putting yourself on their side.
That's how ultimatums should sound.
It should almost sound like:
It's not that I'm leaving you no choice but what you're saying isn't what we both want.
A smooth way to make them believe that they're wrong, a smooth way to induce doubt in their minds.
Don't let your ultimatums be threats.
Make sure your ultimatums are confusing and can only be answered by a yes.
By breaking the conflict pattern and making your interlocutor agree with you on something (no matter how small that thing is) you get the conversation going in another direction.
An opposing direction, where there is an underlying assumption that both of you seek the same results.
That's how you defuse a diverging opinion.
That's how you properly appeal to your interlocutor's emotion without scaring them.
Disclaimer:
This is to be used very wisely and not with excess.
Timing of your ultimatums is of paramount importance as they become useless once a certain degree of conflict is reached.
This is not a last resort option, this is something you should use in the early stages of disagreement to defuse potential fight mode.
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Notice how everyone claims to be emotionally detached but get emotional whenever something happens.
It made me think.
So I figured it out and it's pretty simple.
People want to be emotionally detached but they do it the wrong way.
Instead of understanding and rationalizing their emotions, they try and suppress them.
Result? Those denied emotions kick in harder.
Truth is, the best way to control your emotions and become truly detached is by asking yourself questions and allow yourself time before you react.
But there is a direction to the question you should ask yourself:
- Is this important to my future?
- Can it be fixed?
- How do I make it play in my favor?
Questions should be solution and future consequences oriented.
You'll soon come to find out, by doing this, that most or the time, things are really meaningless and have no real impact on who you are unless you allow them to.
Notice how there is no "Why".
Because finding reasons is looking back.
It's not being actively solving anything, it's dwelling on what is no more.
And that, is useless.
It made me think.
So I figured it out and it's pretty simple.
People want to be emotionally detached but they do it the wrong way.
Instead of understanding and rationalizing their emotions, they try and suppress them.
Result? Those denied emotions kick in harder.
Truth is, the best way to control your emotions and become truly detached is by asking yourself questions and allow yourself time before you react.
But there is a direction to the question you should ask yourself:
- Is this important to my future?
- Can it be fixed?
- How do I make it play in my favor?
Questions should be solution and future consequences oriented.
You'll soon come to find out, by doing this, that most or the time, things are really meaningless and have no real impact on who you are unless you allow them to.
Notice how there is no "Why".
Because finding reasons is looking back.
It's not being actively solving anything, it's dwelling on what is no more.
And that, is useless.
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Sometimes, and it will happen, you'll feel like you've lost direction.
In those moments, you need to realize that you're either getting impatient or not putting enough efforts in.
The thing is we all know exactly what we want, but it's of paramount importance not to lose sight of it.
Routine and repetitive actions might feel boring but you only see their positive impact on the long run. Meaning if you give up, you won't sense any change and will probably feel like you wasted your energy and time for nothing.
Even if you're doing it wrong, you'd rather get the negative results and learn from it rather never seeing any result and not even knowing what was going wrong.
Don't forget why you started just because you faced a few setbacks. It's a lame excuse.
Whenever you start something, go through it until the end.
Don't half-ass anything.
In those moments, you need to realize that you're either getting impatient or not putting enough efforts in.
The thing is we all know exactly what we want, but it's of paramount importance not to lose sight of it.
Routine and repetitive actions might feel boring but you only see their positive impact on the long run. Meaning if you give up, you won't sense any change and will probably feel like you wasted your energy and time for nothing.
Even if you're doing it wrong, you'd rather get the negative results and learn from it rather never seeing any result and not even knowing what was going wrong.
Don't forget why you started just because you faced a few setbacks. It's a lame excuse.
Whenever you start something, go through it until the end.
Don't half-ass anything.
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Reverse engineering Ego creation process
This should not be free but fuck it.
"Ego is the enemy"
"Ego is pride"
"Ego should be tamed"
All wrong.
Your Ego is 10000% under your control.
Your Ego is a byproduct of your own thoughts and actions.
Your Ego is what you decide to be o a daily basis, every minute and second of the day.
Mastering the process and information I'm about to tell you will get you to what everyone is chasing:
Happiness and peace of mind.
Let's start.
First things first, ditch every pre-conceived idea you have about Ego.
Second, stop considering that it's an external and uncontrollable force.
Third and last, realize that you make and define your Ego, nothing else.
Print those ideas in your mind.
Next step is taking a piece of paper or your personal journaling notebook.
Split the page in two:
Current me (actual ego)
Ideal me (alter ego)
Describe yourself for each of the following areas:
-Insecurities
-Emotional tendencies
-Social skills
-Ambition level
-Core character
Do this for your current self.
Be ruthless and brutally honest.
Once done, move to your alter Ego and fill those for who you'd like to be.
The person who you'd ideally see yourself becoming.
Done? Perfect.
You now have your starting point and your end point.
Your whole work is now to go from who you think you are to who you want to be.
Having defined yourself and your ideal self, you now know exactly what needs to be fixed and what needs to be leveraged to reached your desired results.
This gives you purpose.
This makes you stop chasing something you don't know and puts you on track to reach your potential.
This is how you build a healthy Ego.
This is the very first step of it all.
If you'd like me to help you in this process, shoot me an email to Basedonian@protonmail.com
This should not be free but fuck it.
"Ego is the enemy"
"Ego is pride"
"Ego should be tamed"
All wrong.
Your Ego is 10000% under your control.
Your Ego is a byproduct of your own thoughts and actions.
Your Ego is what you decide to be o a daily basis, every minute and second of the day.
Mastering the process and information I'm about to tell you will get you to what everyone is chasing:
Happiness and peace of mind.
Let's start.
First things first, ditch every pre-conceived idea you have about Ego.
Second, stop considering that it's an external and uncontrollable force.
Third and last, realize that you make and define your Ego, nothing else.
Print those ideas in your mind.
Next step is taking a piece of paper or your personal journaling notebook.
Split the page in two:
Current me (actual ego)
Ideal me (alter ego)
Describe yourself for each of the following areas:
-Insecurities
-Emotional tendencies
-Social skills
-Ambition level
-Core character
Do this for your current self.
Be ruthless and brutally honest.
Once done, move to your alter Ego and fill those for who you'd like to be.
The person who you'd ideally see yourself becoming.
Done? Perfect.
You now have your starting point and your end point.
Your whole work is now to go from who you think you are to who you want to be.
Having defined yourself and your ideal self, you now know exactly what needs to be fixed and what needs to be leveraged to reached your desired results.
This gives you purpose.
This makes you stop chasing something you don't know and puts you on track to reach your potential.
This is how you build a healthy Ego.
This is the very first step of it all.
If you'd like me to help you in this process, shoot me an email to Basedonian@protonmail.com
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Posted a thread that defines everything I stand for.
RT if you get it.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1480641638313701376
RT if you get it.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1480641638313701376
Twitter
E-go Driven
The 7 rules of a healthy Ego This is far from your negative depictions of ego, let's show you what Ego is all about. -Thread-
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I've said it many times and it's time to explain:
I do not believe in extraversion vs introversion.
For many reasons.
1. Labels are limiting beliefs:
They condition you into thinking you're either one way or another. As such, you will subconsciously let what how people describe your label become part of you, even when it's not.
That's called getting influenced.
2. There are tendencies but nobody is completely extraverted nor introverted:
If that was the case, "extroverts" would literally die if they didn't mean anyone.
If that was the case, "introverts" would literally die every time they meet someone.
Which is not the case.
3. Anyone can be both and should be both:
The thing is finding the right balance between isolation and socializing.
Too much socializing deprives you from your own thoughts as you're always sharing and getting external feedback.
It doesn't allow you to reflect and you're more into a responsive mode than a creative one.
But.
It brings you experiences and sharpens your social skills.
Isolation is the exact opposite.
As much as it is a powerful tool for self-reflection and assessment, it harms your social skills and ability to adapt to situations.
This is why your day MUST have both.
Every day.
That's what balance is.
Don't let a stupid label dictate how you should live your life.
Make the most out of all your aspects.
I do not believe in extraversion vs introversion.
For many reasons.
1. Labels are limiting beliefs:
They condition you into thinking you're either one way or another. As such, you will subconsciously let what how people describe your label become part of you, even when it's not.
That's called getting influenced.
2. There are tendencies but nobody is completely extraverted nor introverted:
If that was the case, "extroverts" would literally die if they didn't mean anyone.
If that was the case, "introverts" would literally die every time they meet someone.
Which is not the case.
3. Anyone can be both and should be both:
The thing is finding the right balance between isolation and socializing.
Too much socializing deprives you from your own thoughts as you're always sharing and getting external feedback.
It doesn't allow you to reflect and you're more into a responsive mode than a creative one.
But.
It brings you experiences and sharpens your social skills.
Isolation is the exact opposite.
As much as it is a powerful tool for self-reflection and assessment, it harms your social skills and ability to adapt to situations.
This is why your day MUST have both.
Every day.
That's what balance is.
Don't let a stupid label dictate how you should live your life.
Make the most out of all your aspects.
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Perceived arrogance is far more harmful than delusional self belief.
What I mean is that the one that gets hurt the most isn't the one acting cocky but rather the one that is bothered by them.
Notice this (it probably happens to you):
When someone is being arrogant and overly confident, the thing that they'll be told the most is
"Who do you think you are"
Meaning:
I don't think you're what you pretend to be.
What is that called?
A projection.
Dont let people's insecurity projections limit your confidence.
If they're bothered by it:
THEY have work to do.
Because for your case, you'll fail and learn where your limits are.
You will define yourself through your experiences not through how people think of you.
Think about it.
What I mean is that the one that gets hurt the most isn't the one acting cocky but rather the one that is bothered by them.
Notice this (it probably happens to you):
When someone is being arrogant and overly confident, the thing that they'll be told the most is
"Who do you think you are"
Meaning:
I don't think you're what you pretend to be.
What is that called?
A projection.
Dont let people's insecurity projections limit your confidence.
If they're bothered by it:
THEY have work to do.
Because for your case, you'll fail and learn where your limits are.
You will define yourself through your experiences not through how people think of you.
Think about it.
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Forwarded from Symposium (Nishmeet.eth)
As promised, here's a crash course on DeFi (Decentralized Finance)
I recommend you to watch them in Chronological Order:
Smart Contracts in DeFi
https://youtu.be/pWGLtjG-F5c
What is DeFi?
https://youtu.be/k9HYC0EJU6E
What is Yield Farming?
https://youtu.be/ClnnLI1SClA
How do Liquidity Pools work?
https://youtu.be/cizLhxSKrAc
What is Impermanent Loss?
https://youtu.be/8XJ1MSTEuU0
Ethereum Layer 2 explained
https://youtu.be/BgCgauWVTs0
Lending and Borrowing in DeFi
https://youtu.be/aTp9er6S73M
What is Ethereum 2.0?
https://youtu.be/ctzGr58_jeI
What are Gas Fees?
https://youtu.be/Yh8cHUB-KoU
About Matic
https://youtu.be/IijtdpAtOt0
Hope you learn something new from this
Until next time,
Nishmeet
I recommend you to watch them in Chronological Order:
Smart Contracts in DeFi
https://youtu.be/pWGLtjG-F5c
What is DeFi?
https://youtu.be/k9HYC0EJU6E
What is Yield Farming?
https://youtu.be/ClnnLI1SClA
How do Liquidity Pools work?
https://youtu.be/cizLhxSKrAc
What is Impermanent Loss?
https://youtu.be/8XJ1MSTEuU0
Ethereum Layer 2 explained
https://youtu.be/BgCgauWVTs0
Lending and Borrowing in DeFi
https://youtu.be/aTp9er6S73M
What is Ethereum 2.0?
https://youtu.be/ctzGr58_jeI
What are Gas Fees?
https://youtu.be/Yh8cHUB-KoU
About Matic
https://youtu.be/IijtdpAtOt0
Hope you learn something new from this
Until next time,
Nishmeet
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If you liked Mental Warfare Strategies, you gotta read this.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1481334066645458951
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1481334066645458951
Twitter
E-go Driven
The weak link manipulation strategy -Short Thread- twitter.com/colin_korol/st…
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Apologies for being inactive these past few days.
We will be starting applications for Basedonia's community today.
If you're wondering:
Yes it will be free (for now).
I will only be opening 25 spots for the time being.
More info in a couple hours.
We will be starting applications for Basedonia's community today.
If you're wondering:
Yes it will be free (for now).
I will only be opening 25 spots for the time being.
More info in a couple hours.
Alright let's go!
Once you fill this form, I'll contact you in the next 24h.
I will not be taking everyone.
Again: it's free.
https://forms.gle/JgXir4Ha9dgMKZvTA
Once you fill this form, I'll contact you in the next 24h.
I will not be taking everyone.
Again: it's free.
https://forms.gle/JgXir4Ha9dgMKZvTA
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