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I got sent off every single school I went to.

I've had "discipline issues" every year at school.

Know how I got away with everything?

Good grades. But not only.

I'm not going to lie to you:

My family had a network. I could never fail because even if I did, I knew I had backup.

So I tried shit where I could fail.

I went into what's out of my control.

Let's go for challenges.

Let's achieve what might not work out.

Enough about me...

What I'm trying to say:

People will envy you for your circumstances even if you believe your situation is shit.

They will do the same if you're comfortable.

That never stops.

And it's not about them.

It's about you.

You.
You.
You.

If you got an already traced path:

Challenge it.
Go out of it.

Do better.

On your own.

If nothing has been handed to you?

Do the same.

Leverage your privileges and draw your own fate.

Stop looking at people doing better than you, because they're not.

Nobody can be better than you at being yourself.

It might be easier to follow the easy road.

But where the fuck is your greatness if you're just another one.

In all transparency:

Some of you might see me as someone who's had it easy.

But to my eyes? I went to hell and I'm fucking back.

What people think of you matters very little.

Who you think you are is what defines you.

And I believe I'm destined to carve my own path so I will do exactly that.

I'm saying this because...

I'm honestly happy, I feel fulfillment although I'm not there yet.

So I'm telling you:

Follow your dreams. Even if you fail.

Life is about enjoying it not about succeeding in the eyes of others.

CHOICES AND YOUR ASCENSION

You are in the situation you’re in because of the choices YOU made in the past
YOU also have the strength and potential to figure out ANY situation you may be in

You are never too far away from salvation, you are never too far gone, no circumstance is unfixable

People have come back from being homeless to become multimillionaires with loving families
From the grasp of drug addiction to success… all is possible

The belief about your situation is always the defining feature about it, not the circumstances themselves. BELIEVE you can make it out, BELIEVE that any seemingly insurmountable hardship is just a stepping stone to your beautiful ascension.

What seems hopeless is just a temporary situation. What has happened in the past is done, now look forward and rewrite the story you tell yourself about your life.

Just as you made the decisions that got you to where you are now, so too can you make future decisions to create a new reality for yourself.

Who ate the food that gave you a fat body? You did.
Who didn’t study enough or didn’t pursue that opportunity? You.
Who didn’t talk to that cute girl that he saw? You.
Who wasn’t strong enough to vulnerably be themselves when it counted? We’ve all been there.

I’m not here to baby you, I’m here to tell you the truth about the reality of the world so that you can experience the best of it. Whatever is painful to hear probably means it is relevant and true to you.

If this is a wonderful confirmation of your hard work and progress you’ve made then all props to you.

The strategy is thus:
⁃ CONCEIVE, BELIEVE, ACHIEVE.

What type of life can you envision for yourself? Throw all previous experiences out the window - they are irrelevant to your future now. What do you want to create, NOW? Think about this daily and direct all your waking attention to it.

Pay no mind to the naysayers, the people that cling to a previous identity of assumptions about yourself.
You have your opinion yourself, other people have their opinions of you (irrelevant), the moment you start to live and make decisions for the approval of others is the moment you get on a route to mediocrity and limited potential.

Smooth and effective manipulation/influence/mind control (whatever you want to call it); is the one that cannot be seen or felt.

It is so well executed that sometimes:

Even the perpetrator doesn't know they're being manipulative.

Because highly effective manipulation isn't designed and systemized beforehand.

It's instinctive.

Manipulative people "prey" on emotions.

They are gifted for spotting weak points and emotional triggers in people; they instinctively identify your soft spots.

Which allows them to effortlessly play with them to get what they want.

Most of the time; it's not harming you that they're seeking but rather benefitting themselves.

It is so not about you; that it makes you blind to it.

As Aldous Houxley said in Brave New World:

“The victim of mind-manipulation does not know that he is a victim. To him, the walls of his prison are invisible, and he believes himself to be free.”

It is absolutely crucial and essential to maintain and enforce your boundaries.

There is no reason to give people a lease.

Most people are highly impulsive, the moment you give them a chance to cross their limits, they will.

This requires ruthlessness on your part. No sympathy.

Interro-negative Questions:

When I last posted about Diversion Questions, many of you asked me about what interro-negative questions meant and how can one formulate them.

So let me clear that out.

For context, these questions allow you two things:

- Avoiding a Yes/No answer and forcing your interlocutor to say more
- Building a stronger frame as it allows you to *always be right*

Let's first see how to formulate an interro-negative question:

1- Think of any question that could be answered by either Yes or No.

2- Add a negation to it.

That way:

"Do you want to go out?" becomes "Don't you want to go out?"

The implication here is to force the person to explain why they're not interested in going out.

The negation, as opposed to a straight affirmation invites your interlocutor to explain themselves.

What if they don't?

If they don't; you can simply answer by "That's what I thought"; which automatically destabilizes your interlocutor as it is not an answer they would've expected.

Thus picking their curiosity in further engaging with you.

"How did you guess?" they might ask.

These type of questions are used to frame people.

They allow you to take an ascendant position over the conversation and make your interlocutor let their guard down as you make them feel like you totally understand them.

And the beauty of it?

It's the fact that you do so without being overly intrusive or even asking for explanations.

Use this wisely.

I'm going to take a few days off.

Faced death yesterday and I need some me time; will be back on Monday.

Praise is more dangerous than criticism.

It is far easier to differentiate constructive criticism from hateful criticism. That being essentially in the way the remarks are made and formulated.

Hateful criticism always has that passive-aggressive or straight out aggressive tone to it.

But when it comes to praise...

It gets a bit harder.

Because, obviously, not all praise is genuine. Even praise can be malicious and manipulative.

The thing with praise is that it is mainly an diversion and illusion technique.

By praising you, the manipulator makes sure that you paint a positive picture of them in your mind. But that not the end goal, their end goal is to divert your attention from their malicious actions.

Here is the thing:

Malicious praise is always excessive.

To a point where you ask yourself:

Is this person idolizing me?

Malicious praise resembles admiration.

The process of it being making you feel superior to the person praising you.

Because that's what they want:

They want you to think that they're harmless and aspire to be like you.

Now how do you deal with this:

Trust no praise.
Expect no praise.
Take pride from nobody's praise.

And this, will also help you detach from external validation.

I will probably make another post in a couple hours.

Eh guess not

I do not trust people who get along with everyone too easily.

Because that means they have no boundaries themselves, they simply adapt to who they're dealing with.

Don't get me wrong.

Those are VERY intelligent people with a high capacity to adapt.

But.

Not having your own boundaries means you'll cross other people's boundaries if that means getting to your desired results.

As such, those people are usually extremely friendly at the beginning, but end up fucking up with you if you let them too close.


Not because they want you harm, but because they do not conceive your relationship with them the say way you do.

Happy New Year Basedonians 🥂

You can know within seconds how a human being operates:

Look at the following math problem and see if you can work out the answer in your head,
without using paper and pen. Really, stop reading and try to work out the answer in your head at least
for 30 seconds.

18 × 26 = ?
.
.
.
.

I hope you really tried, but I’m willing to bet you didn’t finish the task.

You probably gave up.

This is an example of System 2 thinking.

It’s hard.
It takes effort.
It’s not automatic.
It requires conscious thought as well as effort.


In his book Thinking, Fast and Slow (Kahneman 2011), Daniel Kahneman describes two different systems of how the brain
thinks.

He calls these System 1 and System 2, or “automatic” and “effortful” thinking.

It’s quick, intuitive, and automatic.

Kahneman describes the research that shows that as we work hard at a System 2 task, our pupils dilate.

You can tell when people are engaged in System 2 thinking if you look closely at their eyes.

Small confession :

Sometimes I start overthinking things, I start overestimating people's complexity.

Then I remember that most people don't see as far as I do.

Truth is; people are very shortsighted.

And most of the time:

They do things from instincts rather than thoughts.

People overthink other people's actions.

They don't overthink their own actions.

They just do.

Do first, think later.

But I'm more of a think then do.

So it happens that I overestimate people's thought processing abilities.

As promised; our first Basedonia Masterclass will take place next Sunday.

More information tomorrow.

Do NOT stop enjoying yourself.

If you do; you lose at life.

If your life gets boring: you're not living it.

You HAVE TO compile and collect intense experiences.

You HAVE TO go out there and enjoy yourself.

You HAVE TO keep discovering new things.

Don't get stuck in your own mind and thoughts.
Don't get stuck in a life you don't want to have.

Those who properly live their lives are risk takers.

Fuck your comfort zone.

Learn to be comfortable everywhere instead.

Assertive Ultimatums


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PS: I am in no way inciting you to manipulate people, I am simply giving you tools to use to get what you want. I am in no way liable for how you use the below mentioned information.



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There comes a point in some conversations where you see yourself forced to leave no choice to your interlocutor.

Especially if your opinions on the next best course of action is diverging.

Be it at work, in your relationship or with friends on a project of yours.

You will find yourself in a situation where the people in front of you have a diverging opinion from yours.

A recurring and frequent method used to force people into giving up their stance is the use of ultimatums.

Let me give you two radically opposed examples then break down which is best and why.

1. "We either do *this* or we do lose everything"

2. "Do you want to make it happen or not?"

Number 1:

This first one is fear oriented and almost feels like a threat.

This is how most people phrase their ultimatums.

This is not what you want to say and do (most of the time)

Here is why:

The use of fear triggers two possible responses:

Fight or flight.

By using this type of ultimatums you leave no choice to your interlocutor, they will either get defensive or give up.

But the thing is:

If you've reached this stage of the conversation, there are higher chances for them to keep fighting than giving up.

They've already been defending their point and triggering fear will only lead to them getting aggressive and get them too emotional, sometimes even angry.

This is a failed ultimatum.

It will create more new and useless conflict than it will solve already existing problems.

As for Number 2:

This one is phrased in a way that implies responsibility.

It gives you an edge where you offer your interlocutor the opportunity to see that both of you have the same goal in mind.

It also suggests that what they are proposing is unlikely to get you both to your desired results.

It is, in a way, a blame game technique. One where you target their compassion rather than fear.

You're putting the blame on them while putting yourself on their side.

That's how ultimatums should sound.

It should almost sound like:

It's not that I'm leaving you no choice but what you're saying isn't what we both want.

A smooth way to make them believe that they're wrong, a smooth way to induce doubt in their minds.

Don't let your ultimatums be threats.

Make sure your ultimatums are confusing and can only be answered by a yes.

By breaking the conflict pattern and making your interlocutor agree with you on something (no matter how small that thing is) you get the conversation going in another direction.

An opposing direction, where there is an underlying assumption that both of you seek the same results.

That's how you defuse a diverging opinion.

That's how you properly appeal to your interlocutor's emotion without scaring them.

Disclaimer:

This is to be used very wisely and not with excess.

Timing of your ultimatums is of paramount importance as they become useless once a certain degree of conflict is reached.

This is not a last resort option, this is something you should use in the early stages of disagreement to defuse potential fight mode.