Things that made me a better person long term are the things that hurt me the most short term.
I changed because I saw people lose their soul doing what I was doing.
I changed because I saw my soul quitting on me because of what I was doing.
You need slaps in your fucking face so you can grasp how hard life is and how soft you're being.
Be the fucking rock you wish had your back.
Be that solid backup you'd wish to have.
Nothing can stop you from there.
I changed because I saw people lose their soul doing what I was doing.
I changed because I saw my soul quitting on me because of what I was doing.
You need slaps in your fucking face so you can grasp how hard life is and how soft you're being.
Be the fucking rock you wish had your back.
Be that solid backup you'd wish to have.
Nothing can stop you from there.
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Distance & Direction in Body Languge
54%
Why people project and how to stop projecting
What is projecting?
It's attributing our own traits or behavior to other people in order to justify our own behavior and traits.
People project their insecurities and repressed emotions on other people because they have not dealt with them properly.
By projecting, the person feels like they are not alone in whatever they do. Problem is, they have themselves labeled such behavior as toxic, poor or bad but cannot acknowledge being guilty of it themselves.
This is a sign of deep rooted insecurities and that's exactly what we can call living in denial.
Because that's what it is.
Instead of admitting and taking responsibility, people tend to live in denial and refuse to admit their wrongdoings.
Instead, and given the fact that those are real things they cannot simply ignore, they project them on other people as a way of getting rid of the responsibility of their acts while justify to themselves that if others do it they have the right to do it.
A liar will often accuse people of lying, because they want to rationalize their behavior by forcing themselves to believe that they in fact do not have a problem and lying is a common thing.
That's the subconsciously implied result they're seeking.
In their conscious mind, they do not know or think that they're seeking validation.
To them, they are pointing out a behavior that is familiar to them.
A fake empathy that manifests through an attempt to make the person in front feel guilt and shame.
Now the real question:
How do we stop projecting on others?
Listen, I'll never say this enough.
You have to meditate and journal.
It's not "better if you do it".
You HAVE TO.
Journaling and meditation keep you in check.
It allows you times of self reflection, developing self-awareness and eventually lead you to personal growth.
When we become more self-aware, we start detaching our emotions from real life situations, we develop a more rational thinking.
One that is not clouded by insecurities.
If you want to get rid of your insecurities, you need to know them first.
Self reflect. Define. Improve.
Even if it's not a daily habit, make it a recurring thing in your calendar.
Every once in a while reconsider and revaluate yourself.
Here is a little tip, take the time to think back on the times you feel your emotional side taking over.
You were probably projecting.
That's why when we get angry or mad we tend to say things we regret, things we don't even believe to be 100% true.
That's because it's your insecurities talking.
Focus on your mental health and get to know yourself so you don't need to subconsciously try to validate your behavior through others.
It's attributing our own traits or behavior to other people in order to justify our own behavior and traits.
People project their insecurities and repressed emotions on other people because they have not dealt with them properly.
By projecting, the person feels like they are not alone in whatever they do. Problem is, they have themselves labeled such behavior as toxic, poor or bad but cannot acknowledge being guilty of it themselves.
This is a sign of deep rooted insecurities and that's exactly what we can call living in denial.
Because that's what it is.
Instead of admitting and taking responsibility, people tend to live in denial and refuse to admit their wrongdoings.
Instead, and given the fact that those are real things they cannot simply ignore, they project them on other people as a way of getting rid of the responsibility of their acts while justify to themselves that if others do it they have the right to do it.
A liar will often accuse people of lying, because they want to rationalize their behavior by forcing themselves to believe that they in fact do not have a problem and lying is a common thing.
That's the subconsciously implied result they're seeking.
In their conscious mind, they do not know or think that they're seeking validation.
To them, they are pointing out a behavior that is familiar to them.
A fake empathy that manifests through an attempt to make the person in front feel guilt and shame.
Now the real question:
How do we stop projecting on others?
Listen, I'll never say this enough.
You have to meditate and journal.
It's not "better if you do it".
You HAVE TO.
Journaling and meditation keep you in check.
It allows you times of self reflection, developing self-awareness and eventually lead you to personal growth.
When we become more self-aware, we start detaching our emotions from real life situations, we develop a more rational thinking.
One that is not clouded by insecurities.
If you want to get rid of your insecurities, you need to know them first.
Self reflect. Define. Improve.
Even if it's not a daily habit, make it a recurring thing in your calendar.
Every once in a while reconsider and revaluate yourself.
Here is a little tip, take the time to think back on the times you feel your emotional side taking over.
You were probably projecting.
That's why when we get angry or mad we tend to say things we regret, things we don't even believe to be 100% true.
That's because it's your insecurities talking.
Focus on your mental health and get to know yourself so you don't need to subconsciously try to validate your behavior through others.
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Getting through shit = surviving.
Making shit happen = living life.
You can't be spending your whole life dealing with whatever life gives you.
You know what they say, if it gives you lemon make juice.
If it doesn't give you anything, still make juice.
You can't be waiting for things to happen in your life for you to take action.
You need to be taking action then dealing with obstacles on your way.
The path is not the obstacles.
The obstacles are details.
You define that fucking path.
And you do it once choice at a time, one second after the other.
It's Saturday take the weekend to think about what you're gonna be building.
Give meaning to your life, don't let life give meaning to your existence.
Always remember: you have total control.
Have a nice weekend.
Making shit happen = living life.
You can't be spending your whole life dealing with whatever life gives you.
You know what they say, if it gives you lemon make juice.
If it doesn't give you anything, still make juice.
You can't be waiting for things to happen in your life for you to take action.
You need to be taking action then dealing with obstacles on your way.
The path is not the obstacles.
The obstacles are details.
You define that fucking path.
And you do it once choice at a time, one second after the other.
It's Saturday take the weekend to think about what you're gonna be building.
Give meaning to your life, don't let life give meaning to your existence.
Always remember: you have total control.
Have a nice weekend.
You have zero excuse.
This new week is the best time to start what you had in mind to do "one day"
One day is now.
Go get it.
This new week is the best time to start what you had in mind to do "one day"
One day is now.
Go get it.
Do not.
I repeat.
Do not, try to save people who gave up on themselves.
They will prey on your empathy.
They will rely on your support.
They will drag you down.
Do not, try to save anyone who's not willing to put the work in.
They'll disappoint you.
Focus on yourself motherfucker.
You're worth it. They're not.
I repeat.
Do not, try to save people who gave up on themselves.
They will prey on your empathy.
They will rely on your support.
They will drag you down.
Do not, try to save anyone who's not willing to put the work in.
They'll disappoint you.
Focus on yourself motherfucker.
You're worth it. They're not.
Thanks for sticking around while I wasn't very active.
Body Language post tomorrow.
Love you all.
Body Language post tomorrow.
Love you all.
Proxemics, which is the distance between people as they interact.
The thing with distance is that it's a huge tell when it comes to trust and interest.
The less complicity, the larger the distance.
Get too close to someone and you'll put them off.
There is a balance to keep between inspiring trust through proximity and invading personal space.
The trick is to spot signs of openness before getting closer.
That's where other body language parameters come into play as they are signals/invitations to reduce the distance.
The thing is that people will give you those signs subconsciously, they're not really aware that they're inviting you closer.
It's the growing trust during the conversation that will make them more open and interested.
But just like it works in this sense, it is sometimes more reassuring to step back. Especially when your interlocutor is expressing discomfort and/or distrust.
Allowing more space might defuse the tension and help stabilize the situation as you allow them to feel less stressed and involved in the conversation.
Friends, get to know those things, for they help communicating on deeper levels. You can get to know people/substract information from them without them even knowing it.
Remember that the two main aspects (far more important than micro-expressions) are Distance and Direction.
We'll talk about Direction next.
Cheers Basedonia.
The thing with distance is that it's a huge tell when it comes to trust and interest.
The less complicity, the larger the distance.
Get too close to someone and you'll put them off.
There is a balance to keep between inspiring trust through proximity and invading personal space.
The trick is to spot signs of openness before getting closer.
That's where other body language parameters come into play as they are signals/invitations to reduce the distance.
The thing is that people will give you those signs subconsciously, they're not really aware that they're inviting you closer.
It's the growing trust during the conversation that will make them more open and interested.
But just like it works in this sense, it is sometimes more reassuring to step back. Especially when your interlocutor is expressing discomfort and/or distrust.
Allowing more space might defuse the tension and help stabilize the situation as you allow them to feel less stressed and involved in the conversation.
Friends, get to know those things, for they help communicating on deeper levels. You can get to know people/substract information from them without them even knowing it.
Remember that the two main aspects (far more important than micro-expressions) are Distance and Direction.
We'll talk about Direction next.
Cheers Basedonia.
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