Life Mistakes I've Witnessed: Martyrs
Martyrs think their suffering is worse than everyone else's.
Martyrs feel entitled to everyone's attention and they are ready to do everything to get that.
Back when I was in university there was this girl, she was everyone's friend.
Thing is everyone pitied her.
She was this shy ugly little thing with nothing besides her "kindness".
She was nothing special.
But everyone liked her.
TL;DR
One night, she gets to her campus roommates and tells her roommate she just got raped.
They tried to get her to go to cops and file a complaint but she was "too traumatized" to do that while still telling about it to everybody she would meet in the coming weeks.
Again, everyone pitied her even more and she got a lot more friends and attention from that.
A few months later, everybody just forgot about that.
So she decided she had cancer.
Shaved her hair and told everyone she was going to die.
Here we went again.
Massive attention.
Shit didn't make sense because she looked exactly the same for a very long time besides shaving her hair once in a while.
People started calling her out.
What did she do?
She left uni.
Yep, she went that far.
Anyway you get the picture.
She came back after a few months and got called out.
She claimed that she was "cured" lmao
Yeah she was ready to do anything
Anyway, you get the picture.
This is the kind of people who literally don't want to harm you, but they still end up doing so since they get attention they don't deserve since it's for the wrong reasons.
This is why I always highlight the danger of your own empathy.
Make of this what you will.
Martyrs think their suffering is worse than everyone else's.
Martyrs feel entitled to everyone's attention and they are ready to do everything to get that.
Back when I was in university there was this girl, she was everyone's friend.
Thing is everyone pitied her.
She was this shy ugly little thing with nothing besides her "kindness".
She was nothing special.
But everyone liked her.
TL;DR
One night, she gets to her campus roommates and tells her roommate she just got raped.
They tried to get her to go to cops and file a complaint but she was "too traumatized" to do that while still telling about it to everybody she would meet in the coming weeks.
Again, everyone pitied her even more and she got a lot more friends and attention from that.
A few months later, everybody just forgot about that.
So she decided she had cancer.
Shaved her hair and told everyone she was going to die.
Here we went again.
Massive attention.
Shit didn't make sense because she looked exactly the same for a very long time besides shaving her hair once in a while.
People started calling her out.
What did she do?
She left uni.
Yep, she went that far.
Anyway you get the picture.
She came back after a few months and got called out.
She claimed that she was "cured" lmao
Yeah she was ready to do anything
Anyway, you get the picture.
This is the kind of people who literally don't want to harm you, but they still end up doing so since they get attention they don't deserve since it's for the wrong reasons.
This is why I always highlight the danger of your own empathy.
Make of this what you will.
Stolen from @roanwar on Twitter. Give him a follow, great guy, great content.
Next post will be about:
anonymous poll
Eye contact – 82
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 64%
Gestures – 33
👍👍👍 26%
Space – 14
👍 11%
👥 129 people voted so far. Poll closed.
anonymous poll
Eye contact – 82
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 64%
Gestures – 33
👍👍👍 26%
Space – 14
👍 11%
👥 129 people voted so far. Poll closed.
People think eye contact is about looking eye ball to eye ball.
Fuck no.
That's so creepy.
While I don't recommend you start counting the seconds, anything above 9 seconds of intense eye contact becomes creepy if it doesn't start a fight or end up in both sides kissing.
Eye contact is energy exchange.
Eye contact is leverage.
Here is the thing, eyes signal a lot about people.
Use the time you'll spend having eye contact with someone, analyzing their eyes.
Trust me, it becomes funnier and easier.
Their pupils, the muscles around their eyes.
All those are clues.
As I've previously said here, tense muscles tense feelings.
Pupils on the other hand reflect a lot of things including interest, content level etc..
Hint: People who are under the influence of drugs secrete a lot of dopamine/serotonin and have large pupils, that shows you that those hormones are responsible of pupils size.
You can literally guess people's internal emotions through their eyes.
But here is the thing:
Give too much eye contact and you'll find yourself chasing your interlocutor's eyes.
You don't want to be in that position.
Why?
Because you naturally take an inferior position and you will act subconsciously submissive. Yeah shit is that impactful.
Instead, make eye contact with you rare and intense.
BUT.
Don't look down.
Never down.
Looking down means you're either feeling shyness or aggressiveness depending on context.
Those things are felt by people.
They can't point their finger on them but they subconsciously get them.
It's natural.
Body Language is our natural way of communication.
We've been doing for way longer than we've been speaking.
Fuck no.
That's so creepy.
While I don't recommend you start counting the seconds, anything above 9 seconds of intense eye contact becomes creepy if it doesn't start a fight or end up in both sides kissing.
Eye contact is energy exchange.
Eye contact is leverage.
Here is the thing, eyes signal a lot about people.
Use the time you'll spend having eye contact with someone, analyzing their eyes.
Trust me, it becomes funnier and easier.
Their pupils, the muscles around their eyes.
All those are clues.
As I've previously said here, tense muscles tense feelings.
Pupils on the other hand reflect a lot of things including interest, content level etc..
Hint: People who are under the influence of drugs secrete a lot of dopamine/serotonin and have large pupils, that shows you that those hormones are responsible of pupils size.
You can literally guess people's internal emotions through their eyes.
But here is the thing:
Give too much eye contact and you'll find yourself chasing your interlocutor's eyes.
You don't want to be in that position.
Why?
Because you naturally take an inferior position and you will act subconsciously submissive. Yeah shit is that impactful.
Instead, make eye contact with you rare and intense.
BUT.
Don't look down.
Never down.
Looking down means you're either feeling shyness or aggressiveness depending on context.
Those things are felt by people.
They can't point their finger on them but they subconsciously get them.
It's natural.
Body Language is our natural way of communication.
We've been doing for way longer than we've been speaking.
How to spot a lie and confirm that it's not the truth:
Here is the thing, body language can only tell you so much.
The process of observing micro-expressions and other body language components will help you spot inconsistencies.
But, it won't be enough to really know if the person in front is telling lies.
Here is a very simple trick:
Ask them to tell you the story in reverse.
Of course asking that directly will sound weird and confusing to the person in front.
The trick is to ask questions about what they said and ask them what happened before that (as if you weren't completely following while still showing interest).
If they get confused or change a little detail:
They're lying.
The thing is if the memory is clear (even if it might be different from what actually happened) they'll still remember what they have in mind.
If they're making it on the go, they will definitely have a hard time recalling what they just said as they don't have the visualization of the event in mind.
Works like a charm.
Here is the thing, body language can only tell you so much.
The process of observing micro-expressions and other body language components will help you spot inconsistencies.
But, it won't be enough to really know if the person in front is telling lies.
Here is a very simple trick:
Ask them to tell you the story in reverse.
Of course asking that directly will sound weird and confusing to the person in front.
The trick is to ask questions about what they said and ask them what happened before that (as if you weren't completely following while still showing interest).
If they get confused or change a little detail:
They're lying.
The thing is if the memory is clear (even if it might be different from what actually happened) they'll still remember what they have in mind.
If they're making it on the go, they will definitely have a hard time recalling what they just said as they don't have the visualization of the event in mind.
Works like a charm.
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Basedonia Podcast Ep 1 with @BowTiedBobcat coming up this week-end.
More details tomorrow, stay tuned.
More details tomorrow, stay tuned.
We *might* postpone the podcast to tomorrow.
Will keep you updated.
Will keep you updated.
We've been postponing forever but this is the last time lmao
Tmrw at this exact time, we'll have our first guest.
That's final 😂
Tmrw at this exact time, we'll have our first guest.
That's final 😂
Charisma refers to a person's 'presence' or as I like to call it 'aura'.
That presence grows and is nurtured when the person develops a high sense of self-esteem, confidence & optimism.
If there are common points between all charismatic people, then they're definitely the 3 that I've just mentioned.
Your charisma brings respect and appreciation.
Things that you do not need to chase but rather come to you on their own.
The reason being, that confident people with positive thinking will be more willing to take risks while being comforting enough for others to trust them.
Charisma gives you natural leader traits as many Leadership requirements are met when you're simply charismatic.
Persuasion and influence are other skills that charismatic people have.
Often, they can mobilize people to support a common cause.
Charisma is the thing you should be chasing.
Not approval; not specific manipulative techniques.
And that all genuinely results of one simple thing:
Confidence.
Do with this what you will.
That presence grows and is nurtured when the person develops a high sense of self-esteem, confidence & optimism.
If there are common points between all charismatic people, then they're definitely the 3 that I've just mentioned.
Your charisma brings respect and appreciation.
Things that you do not need to chase but rather come to you on their own.
The reason being, that confident people with positive thinking will be more willing to take risks while being comforting enough for others to trust them.
Charisma gives you natural leader traits as many Leadership requirements are met when you're simply charismatic.
Persuasion and influence are other skills that charismatic people have.
Often, they can mobilize people to support a common cause.
Charisma is the thing you should be chasing.
Not approval; not specific manipulative techniques.
And that all genuinely results of one simple thing:
Confidence.
Do with this what you will.
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Thank you to everyone who attended.
We'll try to have a second episode next weekend.
Cheers Basedonians 🥂
We'll try to have a second episode next weekend.
Cheers Basedonians 🥂
Forwarded from The Inspiring Land (The Inspiring Content)
The thing that seperate winners from losers is their grit determination and resilience.