Self-control is everything.
Succumbing to whatever your subconscious tells you to do makes you no different from animals.
Question your own feeling, reconsider your own thoughts.
It's not because your mind tells you to do it that you should do it.
Yes, trusting your intention is good but blindly following anything that crosses your mind is being stupid.
We didn't evolve for you to be a victim of your own thoughts.
You know what the worst part is?
You always know what the right thing to do is.
But instead, you justify the wrong thing for whatever reason (comfort, ease of execution etc.. reasons vary).
Why would you do that to yourself?
"I got a problem with X"
Good that you know it, now fix it.
Why would you stop at simply observing yourself.
Act upon it.
Think for yourself, then reconsider, then act.
Your feelings shouldn't dictate your life.
Your impulsions shouldn't dictate your life.
You are in control.
Remain in control.
Succumbing to whatever your subconscious tells you to do makes you no different from animals.
Question your own feeling, reconsider your own thoughts.
It's not because your mind tells you to do it that you should do it.
Yes, trusting your intention is good but blindly following anything that crosses your mind is being stupid.
We didn't evolve for you to be a victim of your own thoughts.
You know what the worst part is?
You always know what the right thing to do is.
But instead, you justify the wrong thing for whatever reason (comfort, ease of execution etc.. reasons vary).
Why would you do that to yourself?
"I got a problem with X"
Good that you know it, now fix it.
Why would you stop at simply observing yourself.
Act upon it.
Think for yourself, then reconsider, then act.
Your feelings shouldn't dictate your life.
Your impulsions shouldn't dictate your life.
You are in control.
Remain in control.
Mental Space Management
There is one thing that most people miss out on and end up wasting their energy on.
And that is managing their mental space and how towards what they direct their thoughts.
While it feels like we have no control on thoughts that fuse through, there are definitely ways that help optimize it.
Let's breakdown a few of those.
1- Avoid distractions during Theta frequencies
Theta waves are a frequency at which our brains get creative and learn actively.
Right before falling asleep and right after waking up. Those are the only times your brain reaches Theta frequencies.
Free your room from electronics.
Put your phone on another room at night.
Use that time to meditate and structure your thoughts.
2- Ostrich method
"What distracts me doesn't serve my purpose"
Head down on what matters.
Always question:
What's it in for me?
Does it get me closer to my goals?
If it's not a no-brainer YES, forget about it.
Completely ignore.
3- Delegate your memory
This frees up a huge chunk of mental space.
Use your phone calendars and reminders.
There is no benefit to remembering every little detail.
We're blessed to live in an era where technology can literally be an extension of our minds.
Use it don't let it use you.
4- Cut meetings to 45min instead of an hour
Use the remaining 15 minutes to assess information and get done with it.
Review the major points of your meeting/calls so you can move on with your day.
Always allow yourself time to reassess and comprehend all information before moving on to your next tasks.
5- Use an app blocker and ad blockers
We all get carried out using internet.
The downside is that it clutters our minds and wastes our time.
Help yourself by diminishing distractions and unnecessary information.
Focus on what matters.
6- Don't talk about what doesn't deserve your energy
Considering negative thoughts and focusing on them is a huge waste of mental space.
There is one thing that most people miss out on and end up wasting their energy on.
And that is managing their mental space and how towards what they direct their thoughts.
While it feels like we have no control on thoughts that fuse through, there are definitely ways that help optimize it.
Let's breakdown a few of those.
1- Avoid distractions during Theta frequencies
Theta waves are a frequency at which our brains get creative and learn actively.
Right before falling asleep and right after waking up. Those are the only times your brain reaches Theta frequencies.
Free your room from electronics.
Put your phone on another room at night.
Use that time to meditate and structure your thoughts.
2- Ostrich method
"What distracts me doesn't serve my purpose"
Head down on what matters.
Always question:
What's it in for me?
Does it get me closer to my goals?
If it's not a no-brainer YES, forget about it.
Completely ignore.
3- Delegate your memory
This frees up a huge chunk of mental space.
Use your phone calendars and reminders.
There is no benefit to remembering every little detail.
We're blessed to live in an era where technology can literally be an extension of our minds.
Use it don't let it use you.
4- Cut meetings to 45min instead of an hour
Use the remaining 15 minutes to assess information and get done with it.
Review the major points of your meeting/calls so you can move on with your day.
Always allow yourself time to reassess and comprehend all information before moving on to your next tasks.
5- Use an app blocker and ad blockers
We all get carried out using internet.
The downside is that it clutters our minds and wastes our time.
Help yourself by diminishing distractions and unnecessary information.
Focus on what matters.
6- Don't talk about what doesn't deserve your energy
Considering negative thoughts and focusing on them is a huge waste of mental space.
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The thing with body language is that you don't learn it with age nor practice, you learn it through analysis.
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Self-sufficiency program will be available in audio format tonight at no extra cost for people who already got it.
Guess I'm late, but it's available in audio rn
You can communicate in body language with everyone.
Speaks louder than any tongue you'll learn.
Because it's innate.
You can also manipulate people's thoughts through body language better than you will while using words.
Because most people don't analyze it, they just feel and subconsciously understand.
Following a specific framework and trying to express a certain level of confidence will ALWAYS look fake.
You need to understand body language more than you need to use it.
It's about understanding the untold messages, seeing beyond the obvious.
It will inevitably improve yours as I said a couple days ago..
Here is a little tip for you:
Alternate interest and disinterest body language signs.
People will start craving your attention unwillingly.
Commands respect more than anything you could ever say.
Give them attention then take it away. Repeat.
You automatically take an ascendant position in the conversation.
You can control everything by simply indicating that your attention is to never be taken for granted.
Speaks louder than any tongue you'll learn.
Because it's innate.
You can also manipulate people's thoughts through body language better than you will while using words.
Because most people don't analyze it, they just feel and subconsciously understand.
Following a specific framework and trying to express a certain level of confidence will ALWAYS look fake.
You need to understand body language more than you need to use it.
It's about understanding the untold messages, seeing beyond the obvious.
It will inevitably improve yours as I said a couple days ago..
Here is a little tip for you:
Alternate interest and disinterest body language signs.
People will start craving your attention unwillingly.
Commands respect more than anything you could ever say.
Give them attention then take it away. Repeat.
You automatically take an ascendant position in the conversation.
You can control everything by simply indicating that your attention is to never be taken for granted.
It's Monday.
Nope, not an excuse to have a week like any other.
It's this week that you're starting everything you've been delaying.
It's today that you set the goals you're going to achieve in the coming weeks.
We love Mondays.
They're a new page for an awesome story.
Make Mondays count.
Have a blessed week 🥂
Nope, not an excuse to have a week like any other.
It's this week that you're starting everything you've been delaying.
It's today that you set the goals you're going to achieve in the coming weeks.
We love Mondays.
They're a new page for an awesome story.
Make Mondays count.
Have a blessed week 🥂
A few things to know about the eyes part of body language:
There is a direct correlation between the muscles used around someone's eyes and the interest they're giving to the situation/conversation.
This is actually more useful than simply analyzing eye contact.
Because eye contact can be faked, interest can't.
Now, it's the way those muscles are used that define the nature of the interest and the emotions behind.
Now how do we make the distinction between different emotions?
It's quite simple.
The wider the eyes the more open the person is to discussion and the information they are presented with (wide eyes do require muscles too). As the eyes get wider we go from openness to surprise but still conveying a positive message.
As opposed to tense eye muscles or narrow eyes which convey a sense of resistance and refusal to engage or accept the information/situation they're presented with.
One sign for both is surely the eyebrows as they are directly impacted by such muscular movements and can tell us a hell lot about our interlocutor's openness.
In addition, there is that one little thing with the eyes that never fails.
Pupils.
Pupils convey excitement/intense emotions every time they're dilated.
I've used this little trick in poker quite a few times (and I'm not the only one, hence why most professionals wear sunglasses at poker tournaments).
The less dilated, the less emotions are involved and vice-versa.
Bonus tip:
If they're doing this, they're seeking your approval:
Light head tilt forward and eyes looking up to make eye contact.
This is a submissive position in which the interlocutor tries to make themselves smaller as they give you the impression of being above and will literally "look up" to you.
This is often used by women when they're flirting.
Guys, I don't recommend you doing this though you'll look like a pervert.
There is a direct correlation between the muscles used around someone's eyes and the interest they're giving to the situation/conversation.
This is actually more useful than simply analyzing eye contact.
Because eye contact can be faked, interest can't.
Now, it's the way those muscles are used that define the nature of the interest and the emotions behind.
Now how do we make the distinction between different emotions?
It's quite simple.
The wider the eyes the more open the person is to discussion and the information they are presented with (wide eyes do require muscles too). As the eyes get wider we go from openness to surprise but still conveying a positive message.
As opposed to tense eye muscles or narrow eyes which convey a sense of resistance and refusal to engage or accept the information/situation they're presented with.
One sign for both is surely the eyebrows as they are directly impacted by such muscular movements and can tell us a hell lot about our interlocutor's openness.
In addition, there is that one little thing with the eyes that never fails.
Pupils.
Pupils convey excitement/intense emotions every time they're dilated.
I've used this little trick in poker quite a few times (and I'm not the only one, hence why most professionals wear sunglasses at poker tournaments).
The less dilated, the less emotions are involved and vice-versa.
Bonus tip:
If they're doing this, they're seeking your approval:
Light head tilt forward and eyes looking up to make eye contact.
This is a submissive position in which the interlocutor tries to make themselves smaller as they give you the impression of being above and will literally "look up" to you.
This is often used by women when they're flirting.
Guys, I don't recommend you doing this though you'll look like a pervert.
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Learning how not to care was THE turning point in my life.
Minding your own fucking business and focusing on your own wellbeing is definitely the highest ROI
The thing, I'm not telling you to be sociopaths, unless you are one already, you will empathize with people, feel shit.
The trick is to simply ask yourself why should I care?
It's really that simple.
This is a question you should be asking yourself often.
There is this thing called mental space or cognitive load, it's very limited (see older posts). That thing is basically what allows us to function.
So if you fill it with things that don't concern or benefit you, you're ultimately not going to do things that will benefit you.
It's just logical
The more useless things you focus on, the less you can focus on what matters.
You really need to learn how to brush off ideas that don't get you closer to your ideal self.
All you need is to be honest with yourself and stop giving importance to a lot of useless shit like people's opinions on politics or whatever.
Don't cluster your mind with information you don't need
Minding your own fucking business and focusing on your own wellbeing is definitely the highest ROI
The thing, I'm not telling you to be sociopaths, unless you are one already, you will empathize with people, feel shit.
The trick is to simply ask yourself why should I care?
It's really that simple.
This is a question you should be asking yourself often.
There is this thing called mental space or cognitive load, it's very limited (see older posts). That thing is basically what allows us to function.
So if you fill it with things that don't concern or benefit you, you're ultimately not going to do things that will benefit you.
It's just logical
The more useless things you focus on, the less you can focus on what matters.
You really need to learn how to brush off ideas that don't get you closer to your ideal self.
All you need is to be honest with yourself and stop giving importance to a lot of useless shit like people's opinions on politics or whatever.
Don't cluster your mind with information you don't need
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Shall we talk motivation and determination?
Should we explain why you always give up what you start?
Let's go.
There are three types of motivation:
1- Survival:
That's when you have no choice but to get motivated or you'll literally die from not satisfying your basic needs.
Here it's innate and can't be dodged or negotiated, shit just has to be done.
Most people rarely find themselves in such situations.
2- Stick and Carrot
This is what most people use and this is exactly what gets them nowhere.
Positive reinforcement for tasks accomplished, negative reinforcement for failures bla bla bla
The thing with this type of motivation is that it's flawed.
Let's break it down:
- It encourages shortcuts, since "eyes on the prize". You don't care how as long as it's done.
- It can harm your creativity because the focus isn't on the task itself but rather on the end result.
- It kills the intrinsic motivation, which we'll see next.
- Programs your mind for short term thinking
3- Intrinsic motivation:
Here is where it gets interesting.
This motivation comes from the desire to be self-satisfied by the outcome and feeling of getting shit done.
It's only driven by your own self-image.
A feeling of pride and achievement.
This is what should drive you and this is where once again ego plays a role.
You have to live up to your own expectations and how you perceive yourself, so what motivates you is yourself and your own idea of who you are.
"I'm capable, so I have to get this done"
"I simply can't fail at this because of how great I am"
On the other end, every time you do get to the end of your tasks, you confirm the above statements and reinforce both your self-worth by proving it to yourself but also your self-confidence since you trusted yourself and proved yourself to be right.
Now this can be broken down into three main aspect:
Autonomy:
The desire to direct and decide of your own life
Mastery:
The impulse to get better and better at something that matters to you
Purpose:
The drive to do what you do in the service of something larger than just yourself.
Acknowledge these three, define them and let yourself be driven by nothing but your internal will to make shit happen.
Should we explain why you always give up what you start?
Let's go.
There are three types of motivation:
1- Survival:
That's when you have no choice but to get motivated or you'll literally die from not satisfying your basic needs.
Here it's innate and can't be dodged or negotiated, shit just has to be done.
Most people rarely find themselves in such situations.
2- Stick and Carrot
This is what most people use and this is exactly what gets them nowhere.
Positive reinforcement for tasks accomplished, negative reinforcement for failures bla bla bla
The thing with this type of motivation is that it's flawed.
Let's break it down:
- It encourages shortcuts, since "eyes on the prize". You don't care how as long as it's done.
- It can harm your creativity because the focus isn't on the task itself but rather on the end result.
- It kills the intrinsic motivation, which we'll see next.
- Programs your mind for short term thinking
3- Intrinsic motivation:
Here is where it gets interesting.
This motivation comes from the desire to be self-satisfied by the outcome and feeling of getting shit done.
It's only driven by your own self-image.
A feeling of pride and achievement.
This is what should drive you and this is where once again ego plays a role.
You have to live up to your own expectations and how you perceive yourself, so what motivates you is yourself and your own idea of who you are.
"I'm capable, so I have to get this done"
"I simply can't fail at this because of how great I am"
On the other end, every time you do get to the end of your tasks, you confirm the above statements and reinforce both your self-worth by proving it to yourself but also your self-confidence since you trusted yourself and proved yourself to be right.
Now this can be broken down into three main aspect:
Autonomy:
The desire to direct and decide of your own life
Mastery:
The impulse to get better and better at something that matters to you
Purpose:
The drive to do what you do in the service of something larger than just yourself.
Acknowledge these three, define them and let yourself be driven by nothing but your internal will to make shit happen.
Here is the thing:
If you feel better by being selfless and altruistic, by all means, do it. Be that.
From my own experience, that doesn't pay off.
I've said it many times, I fucked up countless times.
And from those mistakes, the main thing I learned is that you're better off being yourself than trying to please people.
Let's take an example:
A friend proposes a business idea to you.
You're not interested in the slightest but you don't have any intention of pitching in or helping in any way because it sounds ridiculous and it's probably NGMI.
But.
You don't want to hurt your friend's feelings.
You don't want to make them made and don't want to create an overwhelming situation.
Your reaction is to ask for more time to "think about it".
In reality your mind is already made up, it's a fucking waste of time. But you still like your friend so you don't want to hurt them.
So you keep delaying, that person relies on you.
They keep asking you and you keep asking for time.
Subconsciously that builds up momentum in their mind, they think you're onto something.
Until.
You either tell them the truth and become a liar (because yea, you fucking lied) OR they give up and just say, this guy isn't trustworthy, let's not count on him or do him any favor anymore.
If you don't value your word no one will.
Now, all of this, is simply:
Wrong.
Dead. Ass. Wrong.
You might hurt them temporarily by saying what you think but if they're smarter than you and have a clearer vision, they'll ignore and make it work.
Not because you said it wouldn't, but because you were wrong and they believed they were right from the start.
Now this is the best case scenario.
The alternative goes as follow:
You're right.
It doesn't fucking work out.
You have:
1- Got ridden of a burden, short AND long term
2- Given the right advice to the wrong ears
3- Not wasted time, money not energy on a failure
This is from only one aspect of the many benefits of just fucking speaking your mind out and minding your own God damn business.
There are many others, I'll write about them when I'll feel like it.
Much love.
If you feel better by being selfless and altruistic, by all means, do it. Be that.
From my own experience, that doesn't pay off.
I've said it many times, I fucked up countless times.
And from those mistakes, the main thing I learned is that you're better off being yourself than trying to please people.
Let's take an example:
A friend proposes a business idea to you.
You're not interested in the slightest but you don't have any intention of pitching in or helping in any way because it sounds ridiculous and it's probably NGMI.
But.
You don't want to hurt your friend's feelings.
You don't want to make them made and don't want to create an overwhelming situation.
Your reaction is to ask for more time to "think about it".
In reality your mind is already made up, it's a fucking waste of time. But you still like your friend so you don't want to hurt them.
So you keep delaying, that person relies on you.
They keep asking you and you keep asking for time.
Subconsciously that builds up momentum in their mind, they think you're onto something.
Until.
You either tell them the truth and become a liar (because yea, you fucking lied) OR they give up and just say, this guy isn't trustworthy, let's not count on him or do him any favor anymore.
If you don't value your word no one will.
Now, all of this, is simply:
Wrong.
Dead. Ass. Wrong.
You might hurt them temporarily by saying what you think but if they're smarter than you and have a clearer vision, they'll ignore and make it work.
Not because you said it wouldn't, but because you were wrong and they believed they were right from the start.
Now this is the best case scenario.
The alternative goes as follow:
You're right.
It doesn't fucking work out.
You have:
1- Got ridden of a burden, short AND long term
2- Given the right advice to the wrong ears
3- Not wasted time, money not energy on a failure
This is from only one aspect of the many benefits of just fucking speaking your mind out and minding your own God damn business.
There are many others, I'll write about them when I'll feel like it.
Much love.
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Also reminder:
93% of communication is non-verbal.
Learn body language, you'll be ahead of most people.
93% of communication is non-verbal.
Learn body language, you'll be ahead of most people.
The process of manifesting an emotion is the exact same for analyzing body language, except it's backwards.
If an emotion starts with a thought, a physical reaction then a behavior.
Cognitive > Physical > Behavioral
Analyzing body language starts with behavior, physical signs to conclude the thought or triggering emotion.
Behavioral > Physical > Cognitive
This is exactly why jumping right off the bat to micro expressions will lead you to wrong conclusions about someone's body language.
It's essential to take the biggest picture, the recurring pattern
AKA Behavior.
So, before starting to notice specific subconscious signs, it's important to focus on what the person in front is trying to convey as messages through their body language.
The space they take, the way they move, the changes in behavior, the general posture etc...
That makes it easier to frame what is genuine and what is being faked.
Understand that behavior and body language signs are results of complex cognitive processes, it's not through just one micro expressions that you can accurately conclude what is going on in someone's head.
No details without a big picture
Be methodical in your analysis.
Don't jump to conclusions right away, take the time to put together the pieces of the puzzle.
It's really a fun game.
If an emotion starts with a thought, a physical reaction then a behavior.
Cognitive > Physical > Behavioral
Analyzing body language starts with behavior, physical signs to conclude the thought or triggering emotion.
Behavioral > Physical > Cognitive
This is exactly why jumping right off the bat to micro expressions will lead you to wrong conclusions about someone's body language.
It's essential to take the biggest picture, the recurring pattern
AKA Behavior.
So, before starting to notice specific subconscious signs, it's important to focus on what the person in front is trying to convey as messages through their body language.
The space they take, the way they move, the changes in behavior, the general posture etc...
That makes it easier to frame what is genuine and what is being faked.
Understand that behavior and body language signs are results of complex cognitive processes, it's not through just one micro expressions that you can accurately conclude what is going on in someone's head.
No details without a big picture
Be methodical in your analysis.
Don't jump to conclusions right away, take the time to put together the pieces of the puzzle.
It's really a fun game.
If they seek your eye contact, don't give it to them.
Eye contact with you should be both scarce and intense.
Eye contact with you should be both scarce and intense.
Yesterday, a friend told me they wouldn't be able to manage an online presence like mine.
This is someone I've known offline for quite a few years, and someone for whom I have some sort of respect.
Very smart guy.
So I asked him, why would you say that?
He says it sounds too difficult and time consuming.
My answer was obvious:
Well, you didn't even try.
But that made me reflect on this discussion.
I asked myself if I had the same approach with things I don't know how to do.
And no.
So I digged deeper when meditating yesterday and I came to the conclusion that (as cliche as it might sound) the only difference between that guy and I is the fact that I refuse the comfort zone.
People play it too safe then complain about outcomes.
I realized that I love taking risks, I love uncertainty because it challenges me.
That's exactly where we differ him and I.
He likes certainty, low risk, assured returns.
I like to deserve what I get and I understand that playing safe is rarely worth anything.
Historical figures who had an impact on the world were not risk averse.
Understand that taking risks is what dissociates you from the mass.
It's being bold and fearless that gets you past what you could imagine.
Whatever you have in mind, if it's risky:
Fucking do it.
The adrenaline, the intense emotions, the experiences..
That's what life is fucking about.
Don't live a boring life.
Make it exciting or it will kill your soul before you actually die.
Create, build, invest.
Just fucking do something people are scared to do.
Defy your own limitations.
This is someone I've known offline for quite a few years, and someone for whom I have some sort of respect.
Very smart guy.
So I asked him, why would you say that?
He says it sounds too difficult and time consuming.
My answer was obvious:
Well, you didn't even try.
But that made me reflect on this discussion.
I asked myself if I had the same approach with things I don't know how to do.
And no.
So I digged deeper when meditating yesterday and I came to the conclusion that (as cliche as it might sound) the only difference between that guy and I is the fact that I refuse the comfort zone.
People play it too safe then complain about outcomes.
I realized that I love taking risks, I love uncertainty because it challenges me.
That's exactly where we differ him and I.
He likes certainty, low risk, assured returns.
I like to deserve what I get and I understand that playing safe is rarely worth anything.
Historical figures who had an impact on the world were not risk averse.
Understand that taking risks is what dissociates you from the mass.
It's being bold and fearless that gets you past what you could imagine.
Whatever you have in mind, if it's risky:
Fucking do it.
The adrenaline, the intense emotions, the experiences..
That's what life is fucking about.
Don't live a boring life.
Make it exciting or it will kill your soul before you actually die.
Create, build, invest.
Just fucking do something people are scared to do.
Defy your own limitations.
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Believe in your delusional dreams but accept that they're delusional.
That's how YOU don't become delusional while still aspiring for greatness.
This is how you can balance you make sure that your ambition is a drive and not a burden while avoiding disappointment.
What most people fail at is finding what really motivates them to keep pushing every day.
The answer is:
Make yourself proud.
This is the key to achieving things you wouldn't have thought of yourself possible to attain.
Delusional is biased but delusional is not impossible.
As they say, "shoot for the moon, you'll land among the stars".
It is also through delusional goals that we push our limits.
Realistic goals will only lead you to mediocre or average results at best.
Know that what you're aiming for is very difficult to achieve but still give it 500% of your efforts.
By acknowledging the challenge and still going for it, you will:
1- Exceed "realistic" expectations
2- Test your limits and go beyond
Don't play it safe, be a risk taker.
For risk taker make history; safe betters only hear about it.
Don't limit yourself, even if people call you delusional.
Do everything to make it happen.
Have a great week Basedonians.
AFFIRM:
MONDAYS ARE SCARED OF ME.
That's how YOU don't become delusional while still aspiring for greatness.
This is how you can balance you make sure that your ambition is a drive and not a burden while avoiding disappointment.
What most people fail at is finding what really motivates them to keep pushing every day.
The answer is:
Make yourself proud.
This is the key to achieving things you wouldn't have thought of yourself possible to attain.
Delusional is biased but delusional is not impossible.
As they say, "shoot for the moon, you'll land among the stars".
It is also through delusional goals that we push our limits.
Realistic goals will only lead you to mediocre or average results at best.
Know that what you're aiming for is very difficult to achieve but still give it 500% of your efforts.
By acknowledging the challenge and still going for it, you will:
1- Exceed "realistic" expectations
2- Test your limits and go beyond
Don't play it safe, be a risk taker.
For risk taker make history; safe betters only hear about it.
Don't limit yourself, even if people call you delusional.
Do everything to make it happen.
Have a great week Basedonians.
AFFIRM:
MONDAYS ARE SCARED OF ME.
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Never touch your face during a conversation.
Train yourself to use your hands for gestures rather than touching your face.
The reason being that putting your hand in front of your face means negative reactions more often than not.
We could break down each little micro expressions and explain what each one would mean.
But for now, let's just say this:
Hand in front of face is a subconscious attempt to hide facial expressions.
Now, more importantly, recognize when someone is overly touching their face during a conversation.
The trick here is the palm.
If their palm cover a good part of their face (repeatedly, doing it once is absolutely not enough to draw conclusions), then they're subconsciously trying to not let their facial expressions betray their true intentions.
Even if someone manages to successfully control their facial microexpressions (conscious act), they will still subconsciously attempt to be deceptive by hiding their face.
In the case where you notice such behavior, try to also conclude whether they maintain eye contact or not.
Here is why.
Someone who repeatedly hides their facial expressions by touching their face while also avoiding eye contact is someone who isn't being deceptive but rather fearful and anxious.
Their body language comes from insecurity rather than being deceptive.
On the other hand, someone's who's touching their face while expressing an overall confident body language and maintaining eye contact, is definitely being deceptive in most cases.
They are either giving the conversation a false interest or are trying to trick their interlocutor into thinking something that isn't true.
Again:
Body Language isn't about microexpressions alone, it's the mix of signals that allow us to draw conclusions and understand the thoughts behind the body.
Do not jump to conclusions.
Understand and learn the micro expressions then put together the pieces of the puzzle.
I repeat, do not directly jump into conclusions.
Train yourself to use your hands for gestures rather than touching your face.
The reason being that putting your hand in front of your face means negative reactions more often than not.
We could break down each little micro expressions and explain what each one would mean.
But for now, let's just say this:
Hand in front of face is a subconscious attempt to hide facial expressions.
Now, more importantly, recognize when someone is overly touching their face during a conversation.
The trick here is the palm.
If their palm cover a good part of their face (repeatedly, doing it once is absolutely not enough to draw conclusions), then they're subconsciously trying to not let their facial expressions betray their true intentions.
Even if someone manages to successfully control their facial microexpressions (conscious act), they will still subconsciously attempt to be deceptive by hiding their face.
In the case where you notice such behavior, try to also conclude whether they maintain eye contact or not.
Here is why.
Someone who repeatedly hides their facial expressions by touching their face while also avoiding eye contact is someone who isn't being deceptive but rather fearful and anxious.
Their body language comes from insecurity rather than being deceptive.
On the other hand, someone's who's touching their face while expressing an overall confident body language and maintaining eye contact, is definitely being deceptive in most cases.
They are either giving the conversation a false interest or are trying to trick their interlocutor into thinking something that isn't true.
Again:
Body Language isn't about microexpressions alone, it's the mix of signals that allow us to draw conclusions and understand the thoughts behind the body.
Do not jump to conclusions.
Understand and learn the micro expressions then put together the pieces of the puzzle.
I repeat, do not directly jump into conclusions.
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