Overly worrying serves no purpose.
In fact, it only harms your mental health without ever leading you to solutions that would make all worries and stress go away.
What you need to do is become a bit more realistic and detached from current circumstances.
Which you can't do unless you know exactly what you want in life.
Because lets face it:
A job, a house, a family bla bla bla..
Is not specific enough and is VERY vague.
It doesn't give you a specific objective nor a clear vision for your future.
Define specific goals, visualize your ideal future.
Define it.
With deadlines, numbers etc..
As I often say, dreams are for losers.
Winners plan and execute.
Also guess what..
It's okay if you don't reach your pre-defined goals in the deadlines you set.
Yes totally okay.
Adjust.
Shit happens, thing RARELY go as planned.
Again, it serves no purpose to dwell on failures.
Look back, analyze, draw lessons.
Plan again, execute better.
If you ever take a step back, it's only to go further and faster.
We don't take step backs just to take step backs and stagnate.
Worrying without taking action is stagnation.
Stagnating is going backwards because the world never stops.
Don't get trapped into your own mind, allow it to grow and evolve.
In fact, it only harms your mental health without ever leading you to solutions that would make all worries and stress go away.
What you need to do is become a bit more realistic and detached from current circumstances.
Which you can't do unless you know exactly what you want in life.
Because lets face it:
A job, a house, a family bla bla bla..
Is not specific enough and is VERY vague.
It doesn't give you a specific objective nor a clear vision for your future.
Define specific goals, visualize your ideal future.
Define it.
With deadlines, numbers etc..
As I often say, dreams are for losers.
Winners plan and execute.
Also guess what..
It's okay if you don't reach your pre-defined goals in the deadlines you set.
Yes totally okay.
Adjust.
Shit happens, thing RARELY go as planned.
Again, it serves no purpose to dwell on failures.
Look back, analyze, draw lessons.
Plan again, execute better.
If you ever take a step back, it's only to go further and faster.
We don't take step backs just to take step backs and stagnate.
Worrying without taking action is stagnation.
Stagnating is going backwards because the world never stops.
Don't get trapped into your own mind, allow it to grow and evolve.
I love testing people's genuineness.
Ask questions you know the answers to.
See if they're deceptive.
If they are, say nothing.
Just cross them out of your life or at the very least take the necessary precautions.
Give people opportunities to lie to you.
Ask questions you know the answers to.
See if they're deceptive.
If they are, say nothing.
Just cross them out of your life or at the very least take the necessary precautions.
Give people opportunities to lie to you.
My parents told me to be careful.
I wasn't careful, so I fucked up.
I fucked up once and twice and again and again and again and again.
I wasn't careful, so I fucked up.
I fucked up once and twice and again and again and again and again.
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I understood my lessons though.
I got hurt, evolved and then understood.
It's life.
Nothing is the end but death.
Nothing stops things but the one thing that stops everything.
Death is underrated.
Life is overrated.
But hold on.
I'm not telling you to die.
I'm telling you to actually enjoy your life and look forward to what you'll leave when you die.
Enjoy what you do while building a legacy.
I got hurt, evolved and then understood.
It's life.
Nothing is the end but death.
Nothing stops things but the one thing that stops everything.
Death is underrated.
Life is overrated.
But hold on.
I'm not telling you to die.
I'm telling you to actually enjoy your life and look forward to what you'll leave when you die.
Enjoy what you do while building a legacy.
Tense muscles = Negative emotions
Whether is a closed fist, a rigid body movement, or a tense micro-expression, our muscles always betray us.
Instead of analyzing a general body language pattern, analyze the micro movements, especially muscles because they're related to nerves.
That's exactly why people who are uncomfortable tend for example to have narrow eyes or tap with their feet on the ground.
Don't trust their words or their tone, trust their body because most people don't control all of it.
Whether is a closed fist, a rigid body movement, or a tense micro-expression, our muscles always betray us.
Instead of analyzing a general body language pattern, analyze the micro movements, especially muscles because they're related to nerves.
That's exactly why people who are uncomfortable tend for example to have narrow eyes or tap with their feet on the ground.
Don't trust their words or their tone, trust their body because most people don't control all of it.
Why look back?
If not to draw force from what you're capable of and be proud of yourself.
Why would you ever look back if not to remember how great of a person you are?
You see, this is the thing with your past, it's long gone.
Use it to your advantage but don't overdo it.
The only use of your past is building up your present and future.
Yea shit went wrong.. you learned.
Shit went well? Well you're capable of making it happen again.
It's always about being positive and optimistic.
What doesn't serve your future has no place in your life.
Be it people, ideas or memories.
What doesn't drive you forward automatically holds you back.
Acknowledge that.
Innerstand it.
Assimilate it.
Make it part of your thought process.
There is no going forward if you keep pulling yourself back.
Does it make me happier?
Does it make me a better person?
Does it bring me closer to what I want to be?
If it's not a categorical yes, then it's a categorical no.
Don't let your thoughts control you.
You're not your thoughts, you are your choices.
You are what you chose to focus on.
If not to draw force from what you're capable of and be proud of yourself.
Why would you ever look back if not to remember how great of a person you are?
You see, this is the thing with your past, it's long gone.
Use it to your advantage but don't overdo it.
The only use of your past is building up your present and future.
Yea shit went wrong.. you learned.
Shit went well? Well you're capable of making it happen again.
It's always about being positive and optimistic.
What doesn't serve your future has no place in your life.
Be it people, ideas or memories.
What doesn't drive you forward automatically holds you back.
Acknowledge that.
Innerstand it.
Assimilate it.
Make it part of your thought process.
There is no going forward if you keep pulling yourself back.
Does it make me happier?
Does it make me a better person?
Does it bring me closer to what I want to be?
If it's not a categorical yes, then it's a categorical no.
Don't let your thoughts control you.
You're not your thoughts, you are your choices.
You are what you chose to focus on.
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I'm going to say something even if it harms my own image:
Use the content, don't admire the person.
Reality is most people on Twitter are not what they pretend to be.
That's just straight facts.
It doesn't mean they're not providing value.
Use the value, ignore who's providing it.
That's how selfish you should be.
I don't even know why I'm telling you this.
Use the content, don't admire the person.
Reality is most people on Twitter are not what they pretend to be.
That's just straight facts.
It doesn't mean they're not providing value.
Use the value, ignore who's providing it.
That's how selfish you should be.
I don't even know why I'm telling you this.
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Self-control is everything.
Succumbing to whatever your subconscious tells you to do makes you no different from animals.
Question your own feeling, reconsider your own thoughts.
It's not because your mind tells you to do it that you should do it.
Yes, trusting your intention is good but blindly following anything that crosses your mind is being stupid.
We didn't evolve for you to be a victim of your own thoughts.
You know what the worst part is?
You always know what the right thing to do is.
But instead, you justify the wrong thing for whatever reason (comfort, ease of execution etc.. reasons vary).
Why would you do that to yourself?
"I got a problem with X"
Good that you know it, now fix it.
Why would you stop at simply observing yourself.
Act upon it.
Think for yourself, then reconsider, then act.
Your feelings shouldn't dictate your life.
Your impulsions shouldn't dictate your life.
You are in control.
Remain in control.
Succumbing to whatever your subconscious tells you to do makes you no different from animals.
Question your own feeling, reconsider your own thoughts.
It's not because your mind tells you to do it that you should do it.
Yes, trusting your intention is good but blindly following anything that crosses your mind is being stupid.
We didn't evolve for you to be a victim of your own thoughts.
You know what the worst part is?
You always know what the right thing to do is.
But instead, you justify the wrong thing for whatever reason (comfort, ease of execution etc.. reasons vary).
Why would you do that to yourself?
"I got a problem with X"
Good that you know it, now fix it.
Why would you stop at simply observing yourself.
Act upon it.
Think for yourself, then reconsider, then act.
Your feelings shouldn't dictate your life.
Your impulsions shouldn't dictate your life.
You are in control.
Remain in control.
Mental Space Management
There is one thing that most people miss out on and end up wasting their energy on.
And that is managing their mental space and how towards what they direct their thoughts.
While it feels like we have no control on thoughts that fuse through, there are definitely ways that help optimize it.
Let's breakdown a few of those.
1- Avoid distractions during Theta frequencies
Theta waves are a frequency at which our brains get creative and learn actively.
Right before falling asleep and right after waking up. Those are the only times your brain reaches Theta frequencies.
Free your room from electronics.
Put your phone on another room at night.
Use that time to meditate and structure your thoughts.
2- Ostrich method
"What distracts me doesn't serve my purpose"
Head down on what matters.
Always question:
What's it in for me?
Does it get me closer to my goals?
If it's not a no-brainer YES, forget about it.
Completely ignore.
3- Delegate your memory
This frees up a huge chunk of mental space.
Use your phone calendars and reminders.
There is no benefit to remembering every little detail.
We're blessed to live in an era where technology can literally be an extension of our minds.
Use it don't let it use you.
4- Cut meetings to 45min instead of an hour
Use the remaining 15 minutes to assess information and get done with it.
Review the major points of your meeting/calls so you can move on with your day.
Always allow yourself time to reassess and comprehend all information before moving on to your next tasks.
5- Use an app blocker and ad blockers
We all get carried out using internet.
The downside is that it clutters our minds and wastes our time.
Help yourself by diminishing distractions and unnecessary information.
Focus on what matters.
6- Don't talk about what doesn't deserve your energy
Considering negative thoughts and focusing on them is a huge waste of mental space.
There is one thing that most people miss out on and end up wasting their energy on.
And that is managing their mental space and how towards what they direct their thoughts.
While it feels like we have no control on thoughts that fuse through, there are definitely ways that help optimize it.
Let's breakdown a few of those.
1- Avoid distractions during Theta frequencies
Theta waves are a frequency at which our brains get creative and learn actively.
Right before falling asleep and right after waking up. Those are the only times your brain reaches Theta frequencies.
Free your room from electronics.
Put your phone on another room at night.
Use that time to meditate and structure your thoughts.
2- Ostrich method
"What distracts me doesn't serve my purpose"
Head down on what matters.
Always question:
What's it in for me?
Does it get me closer to my goals?
If it's not a no-brainer YES, forget about it.
Completely ignore.
3- Delegate your memory
This frees up a huge chunk of mental space.
Use your phone calendars and reminders.
There is no benefit to remembering every little detail.
We're blessed to live in an era where technology can literally be an extension of our minds.
Use it don't let it use you.
4- Cut meetings to 45min instead of an hour
Use the remaining 15 minutes to assess information and get done with it.
Review the major points of your meeting/calls so you can move on with your day.
Always allow yourself time to reassess and comprehend all information before moving on to your next tasks.
5- Use an app blocker and ad blockers
We all get carried out using internet.
The downside is that it clutters our minds and wastes our time.
Help yourself by diminishing distractions and unnecessary information.
Focus on what matters.
6- Don't talk about what doesn't deserve your energy
Considering negative thoughts and focusing on them is a huge waste of mental space.
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The thing with body language is that you don't learn it with age nor practice, you learn it through analysis.
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Self-sufficiency program will be available in audio format tonight at no extra cost for people who already got it.
Guess I'm late, but it's available in audio rn
You can communicate in body language with everyone.
Speaks louder than any tongue you'll learn.
Because it's innate.
You can also manipulate people's thoughts through body language better than you will while using words.
Because most people don't analyze it, they just feel and subconsciously understand.
Following a specific framework and trying to express a certain level of confidence will ALWAYS look fake.
You need to understand body language more than you need to use it.
It's about understanding the untold messages, seeing beyond the obvious.
It will inevitably improve yours as I said a couple days ago..
Here is a little tip for you:
Alternate interest and disinterest body language signs.
People will start craving your attention unwillingly.
Commands respect more than anything you could ever say.
Give them attention then take it away. Repeat.
You automatically take an ascendant position in the conversation.
You can control everything by simply indicating that your attention is to never be taken for granted.
Speaks louder than any tongue you'll learn.
Because it's innate.
You can also manipulate people's thoughts through body language better than you will while using words.
Because most people don't analyze it, they just feel and subconsciously understand.
Following a specific framework and trying to express a certain level of confidence will ALWAYS look fake.
You need to understand body language more than you need to use it.
It's about understanding the untold messages, seeing beyond the obvious.
It will inevitably improve yours as I said a couple days ago..
Here is a little tip for you:
Alternate interest and disinterest body language signs.
People will start craving your attention unwillingly.
Commands respect more than anything you could ever say.
Give them attention then take it away. Repeat.
You automatically take an ascendant position in the conversation.
You can control everything by simply indicating that your attention is to never be taken for granted.