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MAY JUNE BE THE MONTH YOU REACH YOUR APEX VALUE AND KEEP PUSHING IT FURTHER
I'll be back tonight with daily posts.
Drop what you want me to write about below.
There are a lot of suggestions so I'll try to cover all of them in the coming days.
For tonight we'll be talking about how to analyze body language in real situations to improve your social and analysis skills.
Sending in a moment.
For tonight we'll be talking about how to analyze body language in real situations to improve your social and analysis skills.
Sending in a moment.
How to analyze body language:
Part 1: What to watch for
Body language isn't just a few types of behavior to analyze but rather a mix of many tells that can help you better understand the person in front of you.
Most of the time, body language is very effective in order to discern the genuineness of a person and decide whether or not they are worthy of trust/a good person in general.
1- Their Eyes:
One of the most important things in body language is people's eye contact.
An example would be of someone who tries as much as they can to get eye contact with others is either:
- Looking for approval, in the case of someone who's selective rather than inclusive; someone who would do this with only a few people but ignore others
- Trying to make everyone comfortable, in the opposite case of someone who is trying to be inclusive and make everyone feel part of the group
A last example, is someone who, as opposed to the previous example, avoids eye contact.
Just like in the last example, there are two cases:
Selective: Wants to make a point that not everyone in this group is worth the same to them.
Exclusive: Is either afraid or considers themselves superior to the situation; they'd rather be elsewhere. Uncomfortable for sure, but not necessarily weak.
However, eye contact is not the only parameter to take into consideration when it comes to people's body language through eyes.
Let me explain.
Many will tell you that an insisting eye contact is sign of confidence and/or genuine attention, it's important to keep in mind that people will use this common belief to lure others.
A liar might be looking straight to your eyes and still lie in your face.
Which makes this argument irrelevant.
Instead, also analyze what people look at, not just the intensity at which they do.
Wait for a time where the person is not having a conversation, as it tells more than when they are trying to give an impression, there is more genuineness to it.
Someone who looks at other people's clothes or possessions for example is someone that is comparing himself to the other person.
2- The Space They Take:
Space and body language are VERY closely related.
For this however, it's a bit more straightforward compared to the eyes.
The more space they take, the more confident and comfortable they are.
What I mean by space goes from how they walk, stand, sit to how they eat and speak.
It's however important to note that, sometimes, when they take too much space, it becomes obvious that they're rather insecure or completely stupid.
Confident people do take space but they do not impose themselves in the personal space of others.
Why? Because they care about their own personal space.
They respect the limits but will stand right on them without ever crossing them or threatening to do so.
3- The Head Stability:
Head stability is not only a sign of confidence but also a sign of interest.
If they're moving their head to much, looking around sometimes or simply trying to find the right position, they're uncomfortable and intimidated or completely disinterested.
PS: You will be able to draw a conclusion if you analyze the other parameters.
A stable head movement on the other hand expresses the ease and self-acceptance, the person knows how they look and how they behave and do not try to find the 'right' head position as they feel comfortable being themselves. It is often a sign of someone that does not seek validation.
However, a very rigid head movement, too stable and not flexible enough indicates the opposite; since it probably comes from an effort to appear concentrated and interested or even sometimes superior (big fail).
This last type of head movement shows someone that is trying to show someone they're not really;
It screams insecurity.
4- Do they hide their belly & torso?
Crossed arms? Uncomfortable, not open for discussion.
It also shows anxiety and vulnerability.
Leave them alone unless you want to make them feel uncomfortable for whatever valid (I hope its valid) reason.
Part 1: What to watch for
Body language isn't just a few types of behavior to analyze but rather a mix of many tells that can help you better understand the person in front of you.
Most of the time, body language is very effective in order to discern the genuineness of a person and decide whether or not they are worthy of trust/a good person in general.
1- Their Eyes:
One of the most important things in body language is people's eye contact.
An example would be of someone who tries as much as they can to get eye contact with others is either:
- Looking for approval, in the case of someone who's selective rather than inclusive; someone who would do this with only a few people but ignore others
- Trying to make everyone comfortable, in the opposite case of someone who is trying to be inclusive and make everyone feel part of the group
A last example, is someone who, as opposed to the previous example, avoids eye contact.
Just like in the last example, there are two cases:
Selective: Wants to make a point that not everyone in this group is worth the same to them.
Exclusive: Is either afraid or considers themselves superior to the situation; they'd rather be elsewhere. Uncomfortable for sure, but not necessarily weak.
However, eye contact is not the only parameter to take into consideration when it comes to people's body language through eyes.
Let me explain.
Many will tell you that an insisting eye contact is sign of confidence and/or genuine attention, it's important to keep in mind that people will use this common belief to lure others.
A liar might be looking straight to your eyes and still lie in your face.
Which makes this argument irrelevant.
Instead, also analyze what people look at, not just the intensity at which they do.
Wait for a time where the person is not having a conversation, as it tells more than when they are trying to give an impression, there is more genuineness to it.
Someone who looks at other people's clothes or possessions for example is someone that is comparing himself to the other person.
2- The Space They Take:
Space and body language are VERY closely related.
For this however, it's a bit more straightforward compared to the eyes.
The more space they take, the more confident and comfortable they are.
What I mean by space goes from how they walk, stand, sit to how they eat and speak.
It's however important to note that, sometimes, when they take too much space, it becomes obvious that they're rather insecure or completely stupid.
Confident people do take space but they do not impose themselves in the personal space of others.
Why? Because they care about their own personal space.
They respect the limits but will stand right on them without ever crossing them or threatening to do so.
3- The Head Stability:
Head stability is not only a sign of confidence but also a sign of interest.
If they're moving their head to much, looking around sometimes or simply trying to find the right position, they're uncomfortable and intimidated or completely disinterested.
PS: You will be able to draw a conclusion if you analyze the other parameters.
A stable head movement on the other hand expresses the ease and self-acceptance, the person knows how they look and how they behave and do not try to find the 'right' head position as they feel comfortable being themselves. It is often a sign of someone that does not seek validation.
However, a very rigid head movement, too stable and not flexible enough indicates the opposite; since it probably comes from an effort to appear concentrated and interested or even sometimes superior (big fail).
This last type of head movement shows someone that is trying to show someone they're not really;
It screams insecurity.
4- Do they hide their belly & torso?
Crossed arms? Uncomfortable, not open for discussion.
It also shows anxiety and vulnerability.
Leave them alone unless you want to make them feel uncomfortable for whatever valid (I hope its valid) reason.
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This defensive position comes from our natural instinct of protecting our torso and belly from physical attacks.
Someone in this position can very quickly get angry/sad as they probably feel attacked.
A weakness position that says long about what's going on in their mind.
On the other hand, people who use their hand gestures, hold their hands on their back, or do anything that doesn't involve closing down on themselves; are people who are open to discussion and feel completely comfortable.
Not just because of their belly but also because of their expressiveness. After all, if they're not using their arms to "protect" themselves; they must be using them to either show openness (arms behind back) or express their ideas through hand gestures.
That was all for tonight.
We'll continue tomorrow, hope this was useful to you.
Let me know if you have any questions
Someone in this position can very quickly get angry/sad as they probably feel attacked.
A weakness position that says long about what's going on in their mind.
On the other hand, people who use their hand gestures, hold their hands on their back, or do anything that doesn't involve closing down on themselves; are people who are open to discussion and feel completely comfortable.
Not just because of their belly but also because of their expressiveness. After all, if they're not using their arms to "protect" themselves; they must be using them to either show openness (arms behind back) or express their ideas through hand gestures.
That was all for tonight.
We'll continue tomorrow, hope this was useful to you.
Let me know if you have any questions
Ego comes back and members leave?
Well fuck off, they'll remain miserable and will never be based.
Well fuck off, they'll remain miserable and will never be based.
Every time you feel like saying "sorry", say "my bad".
You're still taking responsibility for your mistake and acknowledging it, but you're not putting yourself down.
Only apologize when you involuntarily harm someone.
If they don't accept it?
Well, so be it.
You did your part.
Also don't blame them for it, everyone is free to set boundaries and accept or refuse apologies once they're crossed.
Those are THEIR standards, you shouldn't question them.
This also applies to you.
You are free to forgive or not.
But most importantly, always move on.
You're still taking responsibility for your mistake and acknowledging it, but you're not putting yourself down.
Only apologize when you involuntarily harm someone.
If they don't accept it?
Well, so be it.
You did your part.
Also don't blame them for it, everyone is free to set boundaries and accept or refuse apologies once they're crossed.
Those are THEIR standards, you shouldn't question them.
This also applies to you.
You are free to forgive or not.
But most importantly, always move on.
Self-sufficiency is the most attractive trait one can have.
Independence from everything, able to deal with one's own problems, negativity-free.
People who are self-sufficient are a burden for no one.
They give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return. Why?
Because they NEED NOTHING.
Self-sufficiency is not being anti-social.
Self-sufficiency is being over bullshit.
Just imagine needing no one's support?
Not needing extra motivation, not needing ANYTHING.
Self-sufficiency is the ultimate form of independence.
Independence from everything, able to deal with one's own problems, negativity-free.
People who are self-sufficient are a burden for no one.
They give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return. Why?
Because they NEED NOTHING.
Self-sufficiency is not being anti-social.
Self-sufficiency is being over bullshit.
Just imagine needing no one's support?
Not needing extra motivation, not needing ANYTHING.
Self-sufficiency is the ultimate form of independence.
Something I learned from someone I don't respect.
Always ask:
What's your selfish reason to do this?
Destabilizes everyone every time.
They also always answer this honestly.
If they don't, tell them yours first.
Always ask:
What's your selfish reason to do this?
Destabilizes everyone every time.
They also always answer this honestly.
If they don't, tell them yours first.
Forwarded from ℜao🔱
I'll go as far to say that you have basically laid out the recipe for success in my opinion. I've been able to find anything I ever needed, whenever there's some issue, there's already a solution on either basedonia or twitter. Amazing
For the new members:
You can find a PDF of my old threads in the shared files of this channel.
You can find a PDF of my old threads in the shared files of this channel.
I see people leaving every time I send long form content.
Let's make this clear.
I'm not going to send one liners on here.
Basedonia is made for in-depth and quality content.
Want my shitposting?
You're in the wrong place.
Have a nice Saturday Basedonians ❤️
Let's make this clear.
I'm not going to send one liners on here.
Basedonia is made for in-depth and quality content.
Want my shitposting?
You're in the wrong place.
Have a nice Saturday Basedonians ❤️
Forwarded from Lords Arena
How to be more self-sufficient and self-worthy
-Thread-
- Identify your desires, goals, plans, tasks:
After all, if you don't know what you want, others will push their expectations and tell you what and when you should do it.
To be self-sufficient, one must follow one's own goals rather than those of others.
- The way you allow others to treat you is how they will treat you:
The key aspect is "self-esteem," and you must clearly define the boundaries of what others are permitted to do with you.
Outside these boundaries, there is nothing to talk about, and there is no need for that.
Never do something that destroys your self-esteem.
“Self-sufficiency” without “self-respect” does not exist.
- The true love of a woman is always based on respect for her beloved man
Even though I usually suggest doing everything possible to maintain a relationship, I'll tell you, bluntly: "if you believe that a lady does not respect you, you must quit this relationship."
Self-sufficiency requires a clear and strong stance on this matter.
- Your ultimate objective should be to not fool yourself.
Look for yourself, grow yourself, realize yourself, make errors, follow your dreams, love your parents and close friends, and take care of your world.
Everything else is merely what people think of you.
Self-sufficiency is the courage to remain “Self” and “follow Your path.”
- Be as genuine as possible.
Otherwise, the more you try to fake something, the stronger becomes your fear, i.e., someone will find out that you really are not you.
Why are you so stressed?
Self-sufficiency is the desire “to be,” not “just to appear.”
True self-sufficiency is when nobody has authority over you, and you do not permit them to do so.
The keyword here is "permission."
Think about it.
To not depend on opinions and assessments, one has to accept oneself with all his negatives and positives.
This means that you need to be aware and feel your right over yourself.
Well, of course, if you want to change something in yourself, then work on it.
But do it for yourself, not to satisfy someone else, be loved by someone else, or become "good" or "bad" for someone else.
A self-sufficient person does not feel flawless or improves out of fear of being awful.
Self-sufficiency is defined as "improving for the sake of self-realization and self-disclosure."
- Never demand anything from others:
Of course, you can ask for it.
But Demand - NO.
Demand only from yourself.
Then, you will no longer have any grievances or claims against others.
It is impossible to imagine a self-sufficient person experiencing grievances and claims.
Proceed from the consideration of your interests.
Those who consistently act against their own interests will not be regarded in any circle, let alone by women.
Do not try to prove your self-sufficiency to others.
Prove only to yourself, if necessary.
Self-sufficiency, my friend, is actually the game of your internal preferences.
-Thread-
- Identify your desires, goals, plans, tasks:
After all, if you don't know what you want, others will push their expectations and tell you what and when you should do it.
To be self-sufficient, one must follow one's own goals rather than those of others.
- The way you allow others to treat you is how they will treat you:
The key aspect is "self-esteem," and you must clearly define the boundaries of what others are permitted to do with you.
Outside these boundaries, there is nothing to talk about, and there is no need for that.
Never do something that destroys your self-esteem.
“Self-sufficiency” without “self-respect” does not exist.
- The true love of a woman is always based on respect for her beloved man
Even though I usually suggest doing everything possible to maintain a relationship, I'll tell you, bluntly: "if you believe that a lady does not respect you, you must quit this relationship."
Self-sufficiency requires a clear and strong stance on this matter.
- Your ultimate objective should be to not fool yourself.
Look for yourself, grow yourself, realize yourself, make errors, follow your dreams, love your parents and close friends, and take care of your world.
Everything else is merely what people think of you.
Self-sufficiency is the courage to remain “Self” and “follow Your path.”
- Be as genuine as possible.
Otherwise, the more you try to fake something, the stronger becomes your fear, i.e., someone will find out that you really are not you.
Why are you so stressed?
Self-sufficiency is the desire “to be,” not “just to appear.”
True self-sufficiency is when nobody has authority over you, and you do not permit them to do so.
The keyword here is "permission."
Think about it.
To not depend on opinions and assessments, one has to accept oneself with all his negatives and positives.
This means that you need to be aware and feel your right over yourself.
Well, of course, if you want to change something in yourself, then work on it.
But do it for yourself, not to satisfy someone else, be loved by someone else, or become "good" or "bad" for someone else.
A self-sufficient person does not feel flawless or improves out of fear of being awful.
Self-sufficiency is defined as "improving for the sake of self-realization and self-disclosure."
- Never demand anything from others:
Of course, you can ask for it.
But Demand - NO.
Demand only from yourself.
Then, you will no longer have any grievances or claims against others.
It is impossible to imagine a self-sufficient person experiencing grievances and claims.
Proceed from the consideration of your interests.
Those who consistently act against their own interests will not be regarded in any circle, let alone by women.
Do not try to prove your self-sufficiency to others.
Prove only to yourself, if necessary.
Self-sufficiency, my friend, is actually the game of your internal preferences.
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