Life Mistakes I've Witnessed

Part 5: Blind Love (1)

Note:

I have many examples of Blind love stories and each one holds a different lesson. This will be the first one.

It was in 2012, a guy I knew had just made a horrible motorcycle accident and opened his skull.

It was a very ugly accident after which he stayed unconscious for a week.

As he got out of the hospital, everyone was naturally giving him a lot of attention and everyone trying to help him out with anything they could.

There was this one chick who started hanging out around him a lot. Knowing her, she was impressed by the attention he was getting and felt like she needed to be there too.

I really knew her very well so I knew that was nothing but genuine.

I'll get to that.

Months passed, they ended up dating and seemed like a happy couple.

Seemed.
Emphasis on that word.

Reality was different.

The girl was quite a character and was someone who is VERY intrusive.

It took her less than a year to force him to distance himself from all his friends and even went as far as having a heated argument with his mother.

She was taking control of his life.

As years went by, he one day discovered that she had been cheating on him with another guy.

They broke up, she came back to apologize, they got back together.

Long story short: this happened every few months for a period of 4 years.

She kept cheating, he kept forgiving.

One day, after four years of relationship, she told him she would leave him if he didn't propose to her.

Confused and feeling pressured, he asked for more time to think about it.

She left him.

He was broken.

He did everything he could to get her back. And he did.

Except she was already dating two other guys by the time that happened (yea that makes it 3 at once, she's a hoe we can agree on that).

2 other guys that she kept seeing (without him knowing) while she was supposedly back with him.

At this point in time, he had cut himself out of the external world.

All of his attention and thoughts were directed to her.

He wouldn't even allow his family to even mention her name if it wasn't positive.

Fucked up situation.

Anyway.

One day, she was out for a drink with friends of hers.

She got drunk and decided to call him to ask him for something absolutely unbelievable:

"Tattoo my name on your chest"

I mean, he's not even sure he wants to marry you so wtf?

That's not the worse part, hold on.

He finally accepted after a 30min on the phone (yea didn't take him long.. idiot)

She went back to her friends and told them she'd leave him as soon as he does tattoo her name on his body.

And she did.

Question now is, why would she do that?

To hurt his family.

She had forever been in a "war" with his mother and sister.

But to make sure to get her revenge on them she decided to destroy him.

He wouldn't listen to anyone but her.

Until one of her friends came forward with what I've just told you.

He finally understood what type of person he was dealing with, after all those years of denial and isolation.

He had lost most of his friends and harmed his relationship with his family for someone that cared very little about him.

All she wanted was to possess what others genuinely appreciated.

Her envy of others made her get closer to him.

Her jealousy of his family and friend made her cut him out of their lives.

Everyone knew, everyone tried to tell him but little did he listen or care about what they had to say.

He learned it the hard way.

Most people are unhappy, don't follow the mass.

It's a dead end.

Do more your enjoy even if it means doing it alone.

Enjoy your life.

Don't get stuck in a boring routine.

GOOD MORNING BASEDONIANS

Self-belief:

We discussed this on Solcast and I'm getting back to it to expand a bit further.

Imagine the following:

Two guys, both apply for the same job.

These two profiles are EXACTLY the same except one thing:

1-thinks he is suitable.
2-thinks he's going to get rejected.

What happens in their minds before their job interviews?

1- Visualizes himself at the workplace, imagines the type of work he will be doing, reflects on what types of tasks he is able to fulfill and the changes that will occur in his life once he's on.

He's already planning and visualizing, he is past the interview.

He is already thinking beyond the obstacle.

During his interview he will have properly reflected on the job position and all the things it implies.

2-Is stressed about his interview, thinks of all the things that can go wrong and Visualizes failure.

He imagines himself stressing out and forecasts the negative result.

He conditions himself for failure.

Now, let's say that somehow both get the job.

(Assuming number 2 gets past his limiting beliefs)

The 1st one gets right into it, the 2nd has to think of all the stuff that 1 prepared before the interview.

Believing in yourself opens your eyes to new possibilities, allows you to project yourself further than the current obstacles.

It gives you an edge.

Puts you one step ahead.

It's not about what can go wrong, it's about thinking right.

Who is this lmaoo manifest yourself 😂

GOOD MORNING BASEDONIA

There is an immense benefit that comes from talking to yourself out loud.

It makes you more conscious of how you sound and really makes your thoughts stick in your mind.

Get used to telling yourself every morning:

"I deeply love you"

Look at yourself in a mirror first thing in the morning and say it.

You'd be surprised how beneficial it is and how light bringing it can turn out.

Start your day with some self-love.

Express it to yourself explicitly so that you remember it all day long.

Would you forgive betrayal in a friendship?
anonymous poll

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Yes – 26
👍 12%

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GOOD MORNING 🌞

Life Mistakes I've Witnessed

Part 6: Influenced Betrayal

Here is another time where I fucked up. Another time where my poor ethics made me question myself and come out a better man. Something that I did wrong, that made me build stronger ethics.

A few years ago, my friends would often call me whenever they'd need drugs because they knew I used to have connections. Although I didn't really sell drugs at the time, I could get them pretty much anything.

One night in 2017, a friend calls me and asks if I knew anyone that would get him acid. I had started trying to get away from all of that at the time but I still had drug addicts and drug dealers as close friends.. So I told him that I wouldn't get involved this time but gave him a phone number to call.

At that moment, there was another guy with me, who would usually sell from time to time. As I hang up the phone, he turns around and says he has acid, then starts laughing.

Confused by his actions, I ask him what's going on...

He tells me to call back my friend and to tell him to come now.

The two guys didn't know each other.

I refuse at first but he keeps insisting so I call the other one back telling him my friend has LSD and he could come get some.

As we're waiting for him to come, the guy says he didn't really have LSD and was planning on scamming them.

🤦‍♂️

I don't know what went in my mind but I said nothing.

I just went along with it.

When the other one comes, he hands him two pieces of sugar, told him there was 1mg drop of LSD in each one of them when really there was nothing but sugar.

I kept silent and then just left.
I was doing my best to mind my own business and get away from all of this, although I knew what was going on was wrong.

The next morning I wake up with a dozen of calls from the guy that bought fake LSD.

I call him back many times but no answer.

It's only a couple of days later that I'll hear from some other friends that he got aggressed that night.

In fact, he tried to call back the guy and get more "LSD" since the first ones he took did no effect (no shit..)

The other one simply decided that instead of giving them sugar this time, he'll send a few guys to take everything they had.

Which they did.

Thinking back on it, I realized how poor of me it was to connect those two people.

One was naive, the other was purely evil.

Little did I think before letting them meet without me and exchanging phone numbers.

Knowing both of them, there was no way it could have ended well.

I don't talk to any of them anymore, one by choice, the other thinks I have something to do with what happened to him that night.

The thing is, I would probably think the same as he does.

Anyway, it's only then that I realized that there was nothing noble about helping people destroy themselves.

I realized no one is worthy of trust.
Not even me.

So I decided to mind my own fucking business from there on.

I decided not to put myself in situations where I didn't want to be anymore.

Please explain to me how being constantly sad is a real thing..

I really don't get it.

Let's fix this now.

What makes you emotional is your own thoughts. It's how you react to events that happen in your life.

That's the exact point that makes you feel good or bad.

Now you're not free to choose what happens in your life for sure, but what you're free to do is think.

Again, the solution is the problem itself.

If you're free to think about whatever the fuck you want (and you totally are) then stop dwelling on what you can't control.

It's that simple.

Can fix it? Go for it.

Can't fix it? Move on to something else.

There is ABSOLUTELY no reason for ANYONE to torture themselves.

It just doesn't make sense.

Why would you do that to yourself.

Take action or ignore.

Overthinking leads nowhere.

If you feel like there is a void inside you, a missing piece that you can't seem to point the finger on.

Just know that it won't come from others.

It won't come from someone you meet, it won't come from a love relationship.

In fact, as long as you won't find it, your friendships and relationships will fail.

Simply because you're not at peace with who you are.

Because you're not whole.

Not because you're alone, but rather because you're not there for yourself and never got to fully know it.

There are deep feelings inside of us that we are unaware of.

We do feel them but can't know where they come from.

It's that uncertainty that creates a void inside oneself.

Questions without answer.

If only you sat down, meditated and thought deeply about what makes you who you are, you would connect with your inner self and transcend subconscious barriers.

You'd feel free.

GOOD MORNING BASEDONIA

"Why are your DMs closed??"

My DMs:

Sitting in a room kills your creativity.

The physical limitations put by being trapped between four walls have a direct impact on your imaginative mind.

Can't feel inspired looking at a blank wall.

Even if it's decorated, there is no depth to it.

GM BASEDONIA 🔆🥂

Damn I didn't post shit yesterday..

Most people do this mistake of trying to justify their behavior by splitting themselves into multiple entities.

"my inner child"
"my ego"
"my insecure side"
"drunk me"

All of those are nothing but fake excuses.

We say such things to feel less responsible of our actions.

Blaming it all on a third party that isn't us, assuming we dont have control over it.

It often comes out as a joke but deep down you really are giving fake excuses for your poor behavior.

It's only when you take responsibility for all that constitutes you that you start improving it.

It's so easy to blame.
It's harder to take responsibility.

Easy is rarely worth it.

Potential = Unlimited

Time = Limited

Mental Space = Very limited

It's okay to waste away opportunities for as long as you learn from the experience.

If you do, you will make sure that the time spent was invested into learning something new.

Potential and opportunities are abundant, you mental space is not.

Don't dwell on what could have been, move on.

Never focus on "what if"s.

Focus on the now, on how you manage and direct your thoughts and how you spend and invest your time.