Tomorrow at around this time, I will launching Growtter.
If you're trying to grow your Twitter account, it should be interesting for you.
If you're trying to grow your Twitter account, it should be interesting for you.
A principle of life:
When you make a choice, don't hesitate.
Don't look back.
Make the choice, take responsibility of the consequences.
That's it.
Hesitating is nothing but a waste of time and mental space.
Action matters.
Pick an option.
Make everything for it to work out.
If you are going to cut ties with someone, block them from everywhere.
Don't give yourself the option to go back and fix things with them.
Done. Finished.
Move away, go on with your life.
Burn all the bridges.
Focus on yourself and what elevates your soul.
May your day/evening be blessed with positives only.
When you make a choice, don't hesitate.
Don't look back.
Make the choice, take responsibility of the consequences.
That's it.
Hesitating is nothing but a waste of time and mental space.
Action matters.
Pick an option.
Make everything for it to work out.
If you are going to cut ties with someone, block them from everywhere.
Don't give yourself the option to go back and fix things with them.
Done. Finished.
Move away, go on with your life.
Burn all the bridges.
Focus on yourself and what elevates your soul.
May your day/evening be blessed with positives only.
Life Mistakes I've Witnessed:
Part 4: Bluffing Works
Truth is this isn't really a mistake I've witnessed but a lesson I've learned.
It's also a very long story so I'll go straight to the important part.
TL;DR
We got screwed over.
Dealer gave us salt instead of cocaine.
5g of salt.
One of us decided to go back and find the dealers apartment and was somehow planning to "find a solution to all this"
I felt this wasn't going to go all well.
Decided to go with him.
The others decided to stay home and said it was useless to even try to get real cocaine from the guy or get back the money.
Finding him was going to be a pain in the ass.
Anyway that was for the background story.
Let's call this guy Y.
Y and I left the house, without really knowing where we were heading.
Y asks for my phone and calls the dealer (we had never used my number to call him). He answers and Y has this genius idea of telling him that we liked it and wanted more.
The guy asks us where we are and Y says that he didn't need to come and that we'd come to him.
He gave us an address and we went there.
We get there and call him.
For the record: we were 19 at the time and none of us was jacked. It was suicidal to even think we could take him on right where he lives. We still went for it.
As soon as he gets out of his building, Y stops him and starts literally screaming how he scammed us and gave us salt instead of cocaine.
I had no idea this idiot had this in mind.
Up to that point I really thought we were going to politely call him out and ask for our cash back.
Anyway, 3 other guys get out of the building and try to call Y down.
This is where it gets even more confusing for me.
We were two, they were 4.
Each one of them was twice both of us combined.
Y decides to start yelling at them again, saying he'd be ready to call the cops on them.
I'm still thinking wtf, when the dealer proposes to "fix things", "calm down and go up" to his apartment.
In no world would I ever said yes to this.
It just looked to fishy to me, they were obviously going to beat us down or some fucked up shit.
Y said yes and followed them upstairs.
I wasn't as self-confident at the time and instead of stopping him, I just followed. Completely idiotic.
We get upstairs, Y starts making as much noise as he can again.
I'm still shitting my pants but I'm not even trying to stop him at this point.
His plan was to be so annoying that the guys would just want to never see him again.
And it worked.
We got up and they gave us 5g of cocaine and some of our money back.
I was surprised to say the least and was still expecting some unexpected turn of events.
Nothing happened.
We got back home safe.
On the way back, Y explains to me that he often does this.
He embarrasses dealers that try to scam him by seeming unshakable and ready for anything.
A suicidal way to solve problems.
But damn friends does it work like hell.
Obviously, we got very lucky that night. But I still learned something from it.
The thing is, sometimes, willingly overreacting allows you to get away with stuff.
Especially in situations where there seems to be zero other solution.
Y was one of the most interesting people I've met in my life.
The man breathes confidence.
He can get away with literally anything.
Part 4: Bluffing Works
Truth is this isn't really a mistake I've witnessed but a lesson I've learned.
It's also a very long story so I'll go straight to the important part.
TL;DR
We got screwed over.
Dealer gave us salt instead of cocaine.
5g of salt.
One of us decided to go back and find the dealers apartment and was somehow planning to "find a solution to all this"
I felt this wasn't going to go all well.
Decided to go with him.
The others decided to stay home and said it was useless to even try to get real cocaine from the guy or get back the money.
Finding him was going to be a pain in the ass.
Anyway that was for the background story.
Let's call this guy Y.
Y and I left the house, without really knowing where we were heading.
Y asks for my phone and calls the dealer (we had never used my number to call him). He answers and Y has this genius idea of telling him that we liked it and wanted more.
The guy asks us where we are and Y says that he didn't need to come and that we'd come to him.
He gave us an address and we went there.
We get there and call him.
For the record: we were 19 at the time and none of us was jacked. It was suicidal to even think we could take him on right where he lives. We still went for it.
As soon as he gets out of his building, Y stops him and starts literally screaming how he scammed us and gave us salt instead of cocaine.
I had no idea this idiot had this in mind.
Up to that point I really thought we were going to politely call him out and ask for our cash back.
Anyway, 3 other guys get out of the building and try to call Y down.
This is where it gets even more confusing for me.
We were two, they were 4.
Each one of them was twice both of us combined.
Y decides to start yelling at them again, saying he'd be ready to call the cops on them.
I'm still thinking wtf, when the dealer proposes to "fix things", "calm down and go up" to his apartment.
In no world would I ever said yes to this.
It just looked to fishy to me, they were obviously going to beat us down or some fucked up shit.
Y said yes and followed them upstairs.
I wasn't as self-confident at the time and instead of stopping him, I just followed. Completely idiotic.
We get upstairs, Y starts making as much noise as he can again.
I'm still shitting my pants but I'm not even trying to stop him at this point.
His plan was to be so annoying that the guys would just want to never see him again.
And it worked.
We got up and they gave us 5g of cocaine and some of our money back.
I was surprised to say the least and was still expecting some unexpected turn of events.
Nothing happened.
We got back home safe.
On the way back, Y explains to me that he often does this.
He embarrasses dealers that try to scam him by seeming unshakable and ready for anything.
A suicidal way to solve problems.
But damn friends does it work like hell.
Obviously, we got very lucky that night. But I still learned something from it.
The thing is, sometimes, willingly overreacting allows you to get away with stuff.
Especially in situations where there seems to be zero other solution.
Y was one of the most interesting people I've met in my life.
The man breathes confidence.
He can get away with literally anything.
You know what I do when a thought bothers me?
I think about it more.
I don't hide from it.
I try to understand what bothers me and figure out how I can make it stop.
This is how you solve your shit.
Every time.
Remain consistent in dealing with your shit and you'll never really have to deal with burdens.
Better taking one at a time than hide from it then have to face a mountain of problems.
It's about the micro-actions, the split second decision.
Stay sharp.
I think about it more.
I don't hide from it.
I try to understand what bothers me and figure out how I can make it stop.
This is how you solve your shit.
Every time.
Remain consistent in dealing with your shit and you'll never really have to deal with burdens.
Better taking one at a time than hide from it then have to face a mountain of problems.
It's about the micro-actions, the split second decision.
Stay sharp.
There are a lot of things that you think you need in your life when you really don't.
A lot of things are supposed to come to you effortlessly and your attempts to force reach them makes them get further from your reach.
Happiness, love, friendships etc...
Those things are not supposed to be chased.
They are results.
They result from the simple fact of having a purpose and trying to fulfill it relentlessly.
When you know what your life is meant to be, when you realize exactly what you want to be and where you're supposed to be heading:
Everything fixes itself.
Life is easier than people think.
Life is only a bitch if you're a try hard.
Focus on what matters: you and your purpose.
Everything else will come to you.
That's the real meaning of "trust the process".
A lot of things are supposed to come to you effortlessly and your attempts to force reach them makes them get further from your reach.
Happiness, love, friendships etc...
Those things are not supposed to be chased.
They are results.
They result from the simple fact of having a purpose and trying to fulfill it relentlessly.
When you know what your life is meant to be, when you realize exactly what you want to be and where you're supposed to be heading:
Everything fixes itself.
Life is easier than people think.
Life is only a bitch if you're a try hard.
Focus on what matters: you and your purpose.
Everything else will come to you.
That's the real meaning of "trust the process".
When someone hurts you, you get away from them.
Simple.
There is no valid, logical reason why you would talk to them ever again.
If you're convinced that they didn't have your best interest at heart, then it's useless to ever give them a second chance.
You'll just be signaling to them that it's okay to cross those boundaries with you.
They'll do it again.
If someone only values you when they lose you, they simply do not deserve you.
Value yourself.
Don't answer their texts.
Block them from everywhere.
Let them stay stuck in that past.
Move on with your life.
Don't let people stop you.
You are better than that.
Simple.
There is no valid, logical reason why you would talk to them ever again.
If you're convinced that they didn't have your best interest at heart, then it's useless to ever give them a second chance.
You'll just be signaling to them that it's okay to cross those boundaries with you.
They'll do it again.
If someone only values you when they lose you, they simply do not deserve you.
Value yourself.
Don't answer their texts.
Block them from everywhere.
Let them stay stuck in that past.
Move on with your life.
Don't let people stop you.
You are better than that.
Productivity tip:
Use Telegram bookmarks as personal journal.
Your phone is on you all the time, you're used to sending messages anyway
Use it to your advantage send message to your future self to see
Track your progress ;)
Use Telegram bookmarks as personal journal.
Your phone is on you all the time, you're used to sending messages anyway
Use it to your advantage send message to your future self to see
Track your progress ;)
Life Mistakes I've Witnessed
Part 5: Blind Love (1)
Note:
I have many examples of Blind love stories and each one holds a different lesson. This will be the first one.
It was in 2012, a guy I knew had just made a horrible motorcycle accident and opened his skull.
It was a very ugly accident after which he stayed unconscious for a week.
As he got out of the hospital, everyone was naturally giving him a lot of attention and everyone trying to help him out with anything they could.
There was this one chick who started hanging out around him a lot. Knowing her, she was impressed by the attention he was getting and felt like she needed to be there too.
I really knew her very well so I knew that was nothing but genuine.
I'll get to that.
Months passed, they ended up dating and seemed like a happy couple.
Seemed.
Emphasis on that word.
Reality was different.
The girl was quite a character and was someone who is VERY intrusive.
It took her less than a year to force him to distance himself from all his friends and even went as far as having a heated argument with his mother.
She was taking control of his life.
As years went by, he one day discovered that she had been cheating on him with another guy.
They broke up, she came back to apologize, they got back together.
Long story short: this happened every few months for a period of 4 years.
She kept cheating, he kept forgiving.
One day, after four years of relationship, she told him she would leave him if he didn't propose to her.
Confused and feeling pressured, he asked for more time to think about it.
She left him.
He was broken.
He did everything he could to get her back. And he did.
Except she was already dating two other guys by the time that happened (yea that makes it 3 at once, she's a hoe we can agree on that).
2 other guys that she kept seeing (without him knowing) while she was supposedly back with him.
At this point in time, he had cut himself out of the external world.
All of his attention and thoughts were directed to her.
He wouldn't even allow his family to even mention her name if it wasn't positive.
Fucked up situation.
Anyway.
One day, she was out for a drink with friends of hers.
She got drunk and decided to call him to ask him for something absolutely unbelievable:
"Tattoo my name on your chest"
I mean, he's not even sure he wants to marry you so wtf?
That's not the worse part, hold on.
He finally accepted after a 30min on the phone (yea didn't take him long.. idiot)
She went back to her friends and told them she'd leave him as soon as he does tattoo her name on his body.
And she did.
Question now is, why would she do that?
To hurt his family.
She had forever been in a "war" with his mother and sister.
But to make sure to get her revenge on them she decided to destroy him.
He wouldn't listen to anyone but her.
Until one of her friends came forward with what I've just told you.
He finally understood what type of person he was dealing with, after all those years of denial and isolation.
He had lost most of his friends and harmed his relationship with his family for someone that cared very little about him.
All she wanted was to possess what others genuinely appreciated.
Her envy of others made her get closer to him.
Her jealousy of his family and friend made her cut him out of their lives.
Everyone knew, everyone tried to tell him but little did he listen or care about what they had to say.
He learned it the hard way.
Part 5: Blind Love (1)
Note:
I have many examples of Blind love stories and each one holds a different lesson. This will be the first one.
It was in 2012, a guy I knew had just made a horrible motorcycle accident and opened his skull.
It was a very ugly accident after which he stayed unconscious for a week.
As he got out of the hospital, everyone was naturally giving him a lot of attention and everyone trying to help him out with anything they could.
There was this one chick who started hanging out around him a lot. Knowing her, she was impressed by the attention he was getting and felt like she needed to be there too.
I really knew her very well so I knew that was nothing but genuine.
I'll get to that.
Months passed, they ended up dating and seemed like a happy couple.
Seemed.
Emphasis on that word.
Reality was different.
The girl was quite a character and was someone who is VERY intrusive.
It took her less than a year to force him to distance himself from all his friends and even went as far as having a heated argument with his mother.
She was taking control of his life.
As years went by, he one day discovered that she had been cheating on him with another guy.
They broke up, she came back to apologize, they got back together.
Long story short: this happened every few months for a period of 4 years.
She kept cheating, he kept forgiving.
One day, after four years of relationship, she told him she would leave him if he didn't propose to her.
Confused and feeling pressured, he asked for more time to think about it.
She left him.
He was broken.
He did everything he could to get her back. And he did.
Except she was already dating two other guys by the time that happened (yea that makes it 3 at once, she's a hoe we can agree on that).
2 other guys that she kept seeing (without him knowing) while she was supposedly back with him.
At this point in time, he had cut himself out of the external world.
All of his attention and thoughts were directed to her.
He wouldn't even allow his family to even mention her name if it wasn't positive.
Fucked up situation.
Anyway.
One day, she was out for a drink with friends of hers.
She got drunk and decided to call him to ask him for something absolutely unbelievable:
"Tattoo my name on your chest"
I mean, he's not even sure he wants to marry you so wtf?
That's not the worse part, hold on.
He finally accepted after a 30min on the phone (yea didn't take him long.. idiot)
She went back to her friends and told them she'd leave him as soon as he does tattoo her name on his body.
And she did.
Question now is, why would she do that?
To hurt his family.
She had forever been in a "war" with his mother and sister.
But to make sure to get her revenge on them she decided to destroy him.
He wouldn't listen to anyone but her.
Until one of her friends came forward with what I've just told you.
He finally understood what type of person he was dealing with, after all those years of denial and isolation.
He had lost most of his friends and harmed his relationship with his family for someone that cared very little about him.
All she wanted was to possess what others genuinely appreciated.
Her envy of others made her get closer to him.
Her jealousy of his family and friend made her cut him out of their lives.
Everyone knew, everyone tried to tell him but little did he listen or care about what they had to say.
He learned it the hard way.
Most people are unhappy, don't follow the mass.
It's a dead end.
Do more your enjoy even if it means doing it alone.
Enjoy your life.
Don't get stuck in a boring routine.
It's a dead end.
Do more your enjoy even if it means doing it alone.
Enjoy your life.
Don't get stuck in a boring routine.
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Self-belief:
We discussed this on Solcast and I'm getting back to it to expand a bit further.
Imagine the following:
Two guys, both apply for the same job.
These two profiles are EXACTLY the same except one thing:
1-thinks he is suitable.
2-thinks he's going to get rejected.
What happens in their minds before their job interviews?
1- Visualizes himself at the workplace, imagines the type of work he will be doing, reflects on what types of tasks he is able to fulfill and the changes that will occur in his life once he's on.
He's already planning and visualizing, he is past the interview.
He is already thinking beyond the obstacle.
During his interview he will have properly reflected on the job position and all the things it implies.
2-Is stressed about his interview, thinks of all the things that can go wrong and Visualizes failure.
He imagines himself stressing out and forecasts the negative result.
He conditions himself for failure.
Now, let's say that somehow both get the job.
(Assuming number 2 gets past his limiting beliefs)
The 1st one gets right into it, the 2nd has to think of all the stuff that 1 prepared before the interview.
Believing in yourself opens your eyes to new possibilities, allows you to project yourself further than the current obstacles.
It gives you an edge.
Puts you one step ahead.
It's not about what can go wrong, it's about thinking right.
We discussed this on Solcast and I'm getting back to it to expand a bit further.
Imagine the following:
Two guys, both apply for the same job.
These two profiles are EXACTLY the same except one thing:
1-thinks he is suitable.
2-thinks he's going to get rejected.
What happens in their minds before their job interviews?
1- Visualizes himself at the workplace, imagines the type of work he will be doing, reflects on what types of tasks he is able to fulfill and the changes that will occur in his life once he's on.
He's already planning and visualizing, he is past the interview.
He is already thinking beyond the obstacle.
During his interview he will have properly reflected on the job position and all the things it implies.
2-Is stressed about his interview, thinks of all the things that can go wrong and Visualizes failure.
He imagines himself stressing out and forecasts the negative result.
He conditions himself for failure.
Now, let's say that somehow both get the job.
(Assuming number 2 gets past his limiting beliefs)
The 1st one gets right into it, the 2nd has to think of all the stuff that 1 prepared before the interview.
Believing in yourself opens your eyes to new possibilities, allows you to project yourself further than the current obstacles.
It gives you an edge.
Puts you one step ahead.
It's not about what can go wrong, it's about thinking right.
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