Make sure your actions match your thoughts.
Make sure to never behave like someone you're not.
NEVER be ashamed of who you are.
NEVER feel sorry for yourself.
NEVER hide your true self from others.
Why?
Let's ignore all the impacts that might have on you this time.
Let's take the POV of people who are around you.
Do they love you or do they love the fake identity you present to them?
How can they love you when they don't know you?
Understand this:
Your attempts to show a behavior that is not yours is NOT working on yourself.
It's not self-improvement.
It's being delusional and a liar.
First to yourself, second to the people who surround you.
Self-work and improvement starts with how you THINK not how you ACT.
Your actions and behavior will be effortless for as long as you think like the person you want to be.
Acting like them makes you fake.
If it requires you an effort to behave in a certain way, just to please or fit, it will most likely make you lose your identity.
Once that happens, there are very few chances you ever become anything but a broken soul.
Behavior comes last.
Mindset comes first.
When you start with the former rather than fixing the way you think, it either doesn't last or lasts long enough to confuse you and make your insecurities even more dangerous.
Thinking fixes deep issues.
Acting is nothing but a result of the work you do on yourself.
You can't just directly get o the results.
It just doesn't make sense.
I'm aware that this might be confusing.
We often hear, I say that often too, that you need to act and not get stuck in your own thoughts.
But here is the thing:
You can't make it happen and do it right if you don't fully believe that you can.
You can't because you still think that you're not enough.
Acting like you do when you think you don't is self-destructive.
Be careful.
Track your progress and know where you stand.
Yes, taking action is crucial.
But only if you think clear.
Make sure to never behave like someone you're not.
NEVER be ashamed of who you are.
NEVER feel sorry for yourself.
NEVER hide your true self from others.
Why?
Let's ignore all the impacts that might have on you this time.
Let's take the POV of people who are around you.
Do they love you or do they love the fake identity you present to them?
How can they love you when they don't know you?
Understand this:
Your attempts to show a behavior that is not yours is NOT working on yourself.
It's not self-improvement.
It's being delusional and a liar.
First to yourself, second to the people who surround you.
Self-work and improvement starts with how you THINK not how you ACT.
Your actions and behavior will be effortless for as long as you think like the person you want to be.
Acting like them makes you fake.
If it requires you an effort to behave in a certain way, just to please or fit, it will most likely make you lose your identity.
Once that happens, there are very few chances you ever become anything but a broken soul.
Behavior comes last.
Mindset comes first.
When you start with the former rather than fixing the way you think, it either doesn't last or lasts long enough to confuse you and make your insecurities even more dangerous.
Thinking fixes deep issues.
Acting is nothing but a result of the work you do on yourself.
You can't just directly get o the results.
It just doesn't make sense.
I'm aware that this might be confusing.
We often hear, I say that often too, that you need to act and not get stuck in your own thoughts.
But here is the thing:
You can't make it happen and do it right if you don't fully believe that you can.
You can't because you still think that you're not enough.
Acting like you do when you think you don't is self-destructive.
Be careful.
Track your progress and know where you stand.
Yes, taking action is crucial.
But only if you think clear.
There is a lesson in the below content that hope you can properly grasp, this has nothing to do with Twitter.
Here we go.
If you have followed me for some time now, you probably noticed how fast things are going.
I started my account on December 25th.
4 months later, I'm at 20k followers and here we are 1500+ Basedonians.
But it's not about the numbers.
It's about complete different things:
-Authenticity
-Dedication
-Determination
-Belief
-Strategy
I left the strategy part at last because I believe it is the least important of all.
Many people will directly start planning.
They limit themselves to one and only thing: the goals.
That's not how it works.
The setup is everything, goals come when you're ready.
Only then should you start strategizing.
Truth is, plans you will make will rarely be how things go.
The very reason your strategy should be flexible is to allow yourself to accept obstacles.
And guess what?
When you're ready to overcome anything, very few things attain you.
Read that list again, the lesson is there.
Here we go.
If you have followed me for some time now, you probably noticed how fast things are going.
I started my account on December 25th.
4 months later, I'm at 20k followers and here we are 1500+ Basedonians.
But it's not about the numbers.
It's about complete different things:
-Authenticity
-Dedication
-Determination
-Belief
-Strategy
I left the strategy part at last because I believe it is the least important of all.
Many people will directly start planning.
They limit themselves to one and only thing: the goals.
That's not how it works.
The setup is everything, goals come when you're ready.
Only then should you start strategizing.
Truth is, plans you will make will rarely be how things go.
The very reason your strategy should be flexible is to allow yourself to accept obstacles.
And guess what?
When you're ready to overcome anything, very few things attain you.
Read that list again, the lesson is there.
"He's my friend, he'll understand"
No.
Treat your friends better than you treat strangers.
Here is the thing,
We tend to be more friendly with people we just got to know.
Why?
We unconsciously want to make a good impression on new people.
That's so so so so wrong.
The people who deserve the best version of you are the people who would be ready to make sacrifices for you.
Behaving in such ways will make you a hypocrite fuck.
Not a good person.
It makes you a liar and a fake person.
You give people a taste of someone you're not.
Focus on being a good person with the closest ones, that's how you improve your behavior.
That way you will train yourself to always be the best version of yourself.
Stranger or friend, you should stay true to who you are.
Only make efforts with those who proved to deserve it.
This is exactly why friendships and relationships fail, we give people a fake idea of us and once they get closer they realize that were not what we pretended to be in the early stages of getting to know each other.
People get disappointed and leave.
And this has probably happened to you too at some point or another.
Be yourself from the very first moment.
If that person is worth it, they'll like you the way you are and will know what to expect of you.
No disappointment, no surprises.
This will save you a lot of time dealing with fake people.
Because yes, those who are fake generally step away from people who are truly genuine.
Like attracts like.
All. The. Fucking. Time.
No.
Treat your friends better than you treat strangers.
Here is the thing,
We tend to be more friendly with people we just got to know.
Why?
We unconsciously want to make a good impression on new people.
That's so so so so wrong.
The people who deserve the best version of you are the people who would be ready to make sacrifices for you.
Behaving in such ways will make you a hypocrite fuck.
Not a good person.
It makes you a liar and a fake person.
You give people a taste of someone you're not.
Focus on being a good person with the closest ones, that's how you improve your behavior.
That way you will train yourself to always be the best version of yourself.
Stranger or friend, you should stay true to who you are.
Only make efforts with those who proved to deserve it.
This is exactly why friendships and relationships fail, we give people a fake idea of us and once they get closer they realize that were not what we pretended to be in the early stages of getting to know each other.
People get disappointed and leave.
And this has probably happened to you too at some point or another.
Be yourself from the very first moment.
If that person is worth it, they'll like you the way you are and will know what to expect of you.
No disappointment, no surprises.
This will save you a lot of time dealing with fake people.
Because yes, those who are fake generally step away from people who are truly genuine.
Like attracts like.
All. The. Fucking. Time.
Honestly:
I don't know of any other Telegram channel that is as consistent.
Seriously just scroll up and you'll realize how much effort is put into this.
I don't know of any other Telegram channel that is as consistent.
Seriously just scroll up and you'll realize how much effort is put into this.
It's not about time management.
It's about mental space.
Think clear. Act clear. Stay sharp.
Ultimately, do more.
It's about mental space.
Think clear. Act clear. Stay sharp.
Ultimately, do more.
How to manage your mental space.
- Have a to-do list:
Keeping track of your priorities will help you keep accountability and focus only on those tasks.
The simple fact of writing down what you have to do and crossing each point afterwards will help you remember your priorities.
Sounds so easy, but the hardest part is to actually use it.
- Define your weekly priorities:
Draw a graph. Y axis for urgency, X axis for importance.
This will help you in making your to-do list.
There is an older post here explains this longer.
- Ask the right questions:
It's simple, there are things that do not deserve your attention.
Question everything you're presented with (especially opportunities, those are more likely to distract you)
My go to questions:
- How is it helping me achieve my main goal?
- Will this require a lot of my time?
- Did I already come across a similar situation? If yes, was it worth it?
- Does this require an immediate reaction from me? If no, note it down for later.
You can guess by now.
Always compare to what you are currently doing and your past experiences.
The three most important parameters to take into consideration are the risks implied, the potential rewards and the necessary sacrifices.
If not all those boxes are ticked:
It doesn't deserve your attention.
Know where you're heading and stick to it.
Deriving from your path is so easy, thankfully there are always ways to keep focused.
Use as many tools as you'll need to keep notes and track your progress in achieving your goals.
It will remind you of what you should care about.
And it will also help you stay on target and avoid useless distractions.
- Have a to-do list:
Keeping track of your priorities will help you keep accountability and focus only on those tasks.
The simple fact of writing down what you have to do and crossing each point afterwards will help you remember your priorities.
Sounds so easy, but the hardest part is to actually use it.
- Define your weekly priorities:
Draw a graph. Y axis for urgency, X axis for importance.
This will help you in making your to-do list.
There is an older post here explains this longer.
- Ask the right questions:
It's simple, there are things that do not deserve your attention.
Question everything you're presented with (especially opportunities, those are more likely to distract you)
My go to questions:
- How is it helping me achieve my main goal?
- Will this require a lot of my time?
- Did I already come across a similar situation? If yes, was it worth it?
- Does this require an immediate reaction from me? If no, note it down for later.
You can guess by now.
Always compare to what you are currently doing and your past experiences.
The three most important parameters to take into consideration are the risks implied, the potential rewards and the necessary sacrifices.
If not all those boxes are ticked:
It doesn't deserve your attention.
Know where you're heading and stick to it.
Deriving from your path is so easy, thankfully there are always ways to keep focused.
Use as many tools as you'll need to keep notes and track your progress in achieving your goals.
It will remind you of what you should care about.
And it will also help you stay on target and avoid useless distractions.
Good evening Basedonians.
I've been thinking of starting a new format of posts where I talk about mistakes I've seen people do or have done myself.
Instead of the conclusions, I'd like to share real examples from my own experience this time.
Question is, whether this will be done here or not.
For convenience I might do it through newsletter and finally start using that email list.
Let's do a poll
I've been thinking of starting a new format of posts where I talk about mistakes I've seen people do or have done myself.
Instead of the conclusions, I'd like to share real examples from my own experience this time.
Question is, whether this will be done here or not.
For convenience I might do it through newsletter and finally start using that email list.
Let's do a poll
Here or newsletter?
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👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 83%
Both – 23
👍 12%
Newsletter – 8
▫️ 4%
👥 186 people voted so far.
anonymous poll
Basedonia – 155
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 83%
Both – 23
👍 12%
Newsletter – 8
▫️ 4%
👥 186 people voted so far.
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Who do you want to be?
What would that person think of what you're doing right now?
Answers range in millions of possibilities for both questions.
But the thing is, both are irrelevant if not followed by this question:
What would that person do about it?
Those three questions are essential in transforming yourself into your ideal self.
Questions you should always be asking yourself so that you don't stray off your objectives.
Whenever in doubt, ask your ideal self.
They have the answer.
What would that person think of what you're doing right now?
Answers range in millions of possibilities for both questions.
But the thing is, both are irrelevant if not followed by this question:
What would that person do about it?
Those three questions are essential in transforming yourself into your ideal self.
Questions you should always be asking yourself so that you don't stray off your objectives.
Whenever in doubt, ask your ideal self.
They have the answer.
Some people have been depressed for so long they've become good at it.
It has become their identity.
"How are you feeling today?"
"Oh not so bad"
Motherfucker keep those negative vibes for you.
It has become their identity.
"How are you feeling today?"
"Oh not so bad"
Motherfucker keep those negative vibes for you.
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Clarification:
That specific answer implies a habit of feeling down.
Something like "I got some problems to solve" is a more adequate and fitting answer
Acknowledge that what is hindering your happiness is temporary and circumstantial.
Accepting feeling down as part of your lifestyle is simply wrong.
Careful how you express your discomfort.
Your subconscious picks it up.
Every time.
That specific answer implies a habit of feeling down.
Something like "I got some problems to solve" is a more adequate and fitting answer
Acknowledge that what is hindering your happiness is temporary and circumstantial.
Accepting feeling down as part of your lifestyle is simply wrong.
Careful how you express your discomfort.
Your subconscious picks it up.
Every time.
Life Mistakes I've Witnessed
Part 1: Trying to fit
Back when I was 16, I used to play poker almost on a daily basis.
A clandestine table we used to organize in the backroom of a coffeeshop.
Everyone there was around my age, we knew each other for a while and were all already playing poker for some time.
There was this new guy that was starting to hang out with us. He had zero clue of what poker was yet wanted to start playing at all costs.
Let's call him A, for simplicity.
Given that he was a year younger than us and had zero experience, we all thought it letting him play would be stealing his money.
We kept refusing him.
Paradoxically, it just made him even more eager to play.
He started stalking some of us and begged people to take him to the table just to watch so that "he can learn".
After some time, he managed to come with one of the guys and started coming often although he didn't play.
Yet.
At this stage, A didn't smoke or drink.
He was part of the high school soccer team and was pretty athletic.
By coming often to the poker games; which was held in a small room with a very little window and where everyone smoked (pot).
A started to get high every time he came (a lot of smoke does that for people who never smoked before).
Day after day, he tried smoking and even started to bring his own tobacco and pot.
It only took him a month to start smoking.
He probably thought at the time that if he just did like everyone else, maybe he'll get a chance to play.
Funny thing is that during this whole period, what A was focusing on is becoming more like the people around him.
He never started learning poker or watching the hands played.
How could he? He was always high?
Fast forward, a few months later.
A starts playing poker, keeps losing his money (he never really learned) and is now addicted to cannabis.
At some point, he just became a regular.
You know that type of guy who are always at the same place.
The poker games became his home.
He wanted to get his money back.
Little did he know that everyone saw him as a prey at a table.
People (outside our group) started calling him for poker games as he was an easy player, he would lose 99% of the time.
One year after the start of all of this, A started missing class to play games to get high.
He got kicked out from the soccer team and would soon see himself kicked out from the school.
Question is, how did this happen to him but not to the others?
Simple.
He tried to please everyone and become everyone's friend.
So whenever someone was organizing a poker table, he was ready to skip class to play even though he lost most of the time.
Throughout the years, A and I became closer. And I couldn't help but notice every time we met that his addictions for gambling and cannabis were both getting more and more serious.
What initially was an effort to fit it, became his new identity.
Today, a decade later, all of us have stopped gambling, most of us have stopped smoking.
Except A.
He has become addicted to gambling (not just poker) and smokes like he's snoop dogg.
It's fun and sad to notice how someone inherits his vices from other people.
People who have even tried to keep him out of all of this.
Yet his need to fit and be appreciated redefined his life path.
What could have been an athletic smart guy is now a gambling pothead that does nothing else.
Part 1: Trying to fit
Back when I was 16, I used to play poker almost on a daily basis.
A clandestine table we used to organize in the backroom of a coffeeshop.
Everyone there was around my age, we knew each other for a while and were all already playing poker for some time.
There was this new guy that was starting to hang out with us. He had zero clue of what poker was yet wanted to start playing at all costs.
Let's call him A, for simplicity.
Given that he was a year younger than us and had zero experience, we all thought it letting him play would be stealing his money.
We kept refusing him.
Paradoxically, it just made him even more eager to play.
He started stalking some of us and begged people to take him to the table just to watch so that "he can learn".
After some time, he managed to come with one of the guys and started coming often although he didn't play.
Yet.
At this stage, A didn't smoke or drink.
He was part of the high school soccer team and was pretty athletic.
By coming often to the poker games; which was held in a small room with a very little window and where everyone smoked (pot).
A started to get high every time he came (a lot of smoke does that for people who never smoked before).
Day after day, he tried smoking and even started to bring his own tobacco and pot.
It only took him a month to start smoking.
He probably thought at the time that if he just did like everyone else, maybe he'll get a chance to play.
Funny thing is that during this whole period, what A was focusing on is becoming more like the people around him.
He never started learning poker or watching the hands played.
How could he? He was always high?
Fast forward, a few months later.
A starts playing poker, keeps losing his money (he never really learned) and is now addicted to cannabis.
At some point, he just became a regular.
You know that type of guy who are always at the same place.
The poker games became his home.
He wanted to get his money back.
Little did he know that everyone saw him as a prey at a table.
People (outside our group) started calling him for poker games as he was an easy player, he would lose 99% of the time.
One year after the start of all of this, A started missing class to play games to get high.
He got kicked out from the soccer team and would soon see himself kicked out from the school.
Question is, how did this happen to him but not to the others?
Simple.
He tried to please everyone and become everyone's friend.
So whenever someone was organizing a poker table, he was ready to skip class to play even though he lost most of the time.
Throughout the years, A and I became closer. And I couldn't help but notice every time we met that his addictions for gambling and cannabis were both getting more and more serious.
What initially was an effort to fit it, became his new identity.
Today, a decade later, all of us have stopped gambling, most of us have stopped smoking.
Except A.
He has become addicted to gambling (not just poker) and smokes like he's snoop dogg.
It's fun and sad to notice how someone inherits his vices from other people.
People who have even tried to keep him out of all of this.
Yet his need to fit and be appreciated redefined his life path.
What could have been an athletic smart guy is now a gambling pothead that does nothing else.
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