I was going to rant about how families lost their value but it's pointless.
Deleted it all.
I'll just say this:
We need a parenting license.
Can't let anyone have kids.
Deleted it all.
I'll just say this:
We need a parenting license.
Can't let anyone have kids.
On a more serious note.
The problems we have are mainly in our heads.
You would feel it immensely liberating if you actually applies this simple run:
Control what you can control and forget what you can't.
Shit happens anyway.
Stay in control of whatever you can change and the best will come to you.
I've been willingly walking away and simply ignoring situations that don't suit me for a few years now.
If it bothers me then it's not worth my attention.
NOTE: Not to confuse with personal issues and insecurities, those are to be dealt with.
It's more about things coming from other people.
The external world should have very little impact on you.
As long as you know what you want, the rest are nothing but distractions.
Self-motivation is priceless.
It allows an unmatchable peace of mind.
Where the only pressure is self-imposed. A pressure that soaks up with consistency until it just becomes discipline.
From that point on, it just becomes who you are.
Constantly in a flow state.
Until mosquitoes fuck you up.
The problems we have are mainly in our heads.
You would feel it immensely liberating if you actually applies this simple run:
Control what you can control and forget what you can't.
Shit happens anyway.
Stay in control of whatever you can change and the best will come to you.
I've been willingly walking away and simply ignoring situations that don't suit me for a few years now.
If it bothers me then it's not worth my attention.
NOTE: Not to confuse with personal issues and insecurities, those are to be dealt with.
It's more about things coming from other people.
The external world should have very little impact on you.
As long as you know what you want, the rest are nothing but distractions.
Self-motivation is priceless.
It allows an unmatchable peace of mind.
Where the only pressure is self-imposed. A pressure that soaks up with consistency until it just becomes discipline.
From that point on, it just becomes who you are.
Constantly in a flow state.
Until mosquitoes fuck you up.
You are not the sum of the people you hang out with.
If you are, you're fucking weak and characterless.
Anyway.
You are the sum of the choices you make.
You are the accumulation of consequences that come from what YOU CHOSE to do.
Every time you make a choice, it leads you to a new portal of choices.
Each choice you made in the past made you get closer to the people you hang out.
Example:
If you joined this channel it's because at some point you decided to start using Twitter.
Whatever the motive behind that decision was, you then followed people that then led you to my profile and content.
Butterfly effect.
Everything amplifies and accumulate.
This is why it is CRUCIAL to be cerebral at all times.
Is this my choice or was it influenced by someone else?
Did I chose to do this or am I simply experiencing the consequences of someone else's influence?
If it's the latter then you chose not to make a choice.
Which itself is a choice.
Not taking part or being neutral is a choice.
Not making choices is the choice to be a coward.
Most people are cowards.
Most people have no personality.
They simply follow the mass, even for their beliefs.
Which brings us to the following question:
How do I make sure to make the right choices?
Choose you.
You are the only constant.
You are everything in your life.
Every time you have to make a choice, pick the alternative that makes YOU in a better position.
That's how you get better.
Stop caring so much about what people expect of you.
Or else you just live through the consequences of THEIR choices.
Which again is choosing to be a coward.
Don't be a coward.
Choose for yourself then take responsibility for your choices.
Letting others decide for you is being a victim.
Being a victim will lead you to a victim mentality thinking.
Victim mentality leads nowhere, I don't need to explain this.
If you are, you're fucking weak and characterless.
Anyway.
You are the sum of the choices you make.
You are the accumulation of consequences that come from what YOU CHOSE to do.
Every time you make a choice, it leads you to a new portal of choices.
Each choice you made in the past made you get closer to the people you hang out.
Example:
If you joined this channel it's because at some point you decided to start using Twitter.
Whatever the motive behind that decision was, you then followed people that then led you to my profile and content.
Butterfly effect.
Everything amplifies and accumulate.
This is why it is CRUCIAL to be cerebral at all times.
Is this my choice or was it influenced by someone else?
Did I chose to do this or am I simply experiencing the consequences of someone else's influence?
If it's the latter then you chose not to make a choice.
Which itself is a choice.
Not taking part or being neutral is a choice.
Not making choices is the choice to be a coward.
Most people are cowards.
Most people have no personality.
They simply follow the mass, even for their beliefs.
Which brings us to the following question:
How do I make sure to make the right choices?
Choose you.
You are the only constant.
You are everything in your life.
Every time you have to make a choice, pick the alternative that makes YOU in a better position.
That's how you get better.
Stop caring so much about what people expect of you.
Or else you just live through the consequences of THEIR choices.
Which again is choosing to be a coward.
Don't be a coward.
Choose for yourself then take responsibility for your choices.
Letting others decide for you is being a victim.
Being a victim will lead you to a victim mentality thinking.
Victim mentality leads nowhere, I don't need to explain this.
We crossed the 1.5k bar.
To all the new BASEDONIANS:
Welcome on board.
To all the new BASEDONIANS:
Welcome on board.
Make sure your actions match your thoughts.
Make sure to never behave like someone you're not.
NEVER be ashamed of who you are.
NEVER feel sorry for yourself.
NEVER hide your true self from others.
Why?
Let's ignore all the impacts that might have on you this time.
Let's take the POV of people who are around you.
Do they love you or do they love the fake identity you present to them?
How can they love you when they don't know you?
Understand this:
Your attempts to show a behavior that is not yours is NOT working on yourself.
It's not self-improvement.
It's being delusional and a liar.
First to yourself, second to the people who surround you.
Self-work and improvement starts with how you THINK not how you ACT.
Your actions and behavior will be effortless for as long as you think like the person you want to be.
Acting like them makes you fake.
If it requires you an effort to behave in a certain way, just to please or fit, it will most likely make you lose your identity.
Once that happens, there are very few chances you ever become anything but a broken soul.
Behavior comes last.
Mindset comes first.
When you start with the former rather than fixing the way you think, it either doesn't last or lasts long enough to confuse you and make your insecurities even more dangerous.
Thinking fixes deep issues.
Acting is nothing but a result of the work you do on yourself.
You can't just directly get o the results.
It just doesn't make sense.
I'm aware that this might be confusing.
We often hear, I say that often too, that you need to act and not get stuck in your own thoughts.
But here is the thing:
You can't make it happen and do it right if you don't fully believe that you can.
You can't because you still think that you're not enough.
Acting like you do when you think you don't is self-destructive.
Be careful.
Track your progress and know where you stand.
Yes, taking action is crucial.
But only if you think clear.
Make sure to never behave like someone you're not.
NEVER be ashamed of who you are.
NEVER feel sorry for yourself.
NEVER hide your true self from others.
Why?
Let's ignore all the impacts that might have on you this time.
Let's take the POV of people who are around you.
Do they love you or do they love the fake identity you present to them?
How can they love you when they don't know you?
Understand this:
Your attempts to show a behavior that is not yours is NOT working on yourself.
It's not self-improvement.
It's being delusional and a liar.
First to yourself, second to the people who surround you.
Self-work and improvement starts with how you THINK not how you ACT.
Your actions and behavior will be effortless for as long as you think like the person you want to be.
Acting like them makes you fake.
If it requires you an effort to behave in a certain way, just to please or fit, it will most likely make you lose your identity.
Once that happens, there are very few chances you ever become anything but a broken soul.
Behavior comes last.
Mindset comes first.
When you start with the former rather than fixing the way you think, it either doesn't last or lasts long enough to confuse you and make your insecurities even more dangerous.
Thinking fixes deep issues.
Acting is nothing but a result of the work you do on yourself.
You can't just directly get o the results.
It just doesn't make sense.
I'm aware that this might be confusing.
We often hear, I say that often too, that you need to act and not get stuck in your own thoughts.
But here is the thing:
You can't make it happen and do it right if you don't fully believe that you can.
You can't because you still think that you're not enough.
Acting like you do when you think you don't is self-destructive.
Be careful.
Track your progress and know where you stand.
Yes, taking action is crucial.
But only if you think clear.
There is a lesson in the below content that hope you can properly grasp, this has nothing to do with Twitter.
Here we go.
If you have followed me for some time now, you probably noticed how fast things are going.
I started my account on December 25th.
4 months later, I'm at 20k followers and here we are 1500+ Basedonians.
But it's not about the numbers.
It's about complete different things:
-Authenticity
-Dedication
-Determination
-Belief
-Strategy
I left the strategy part at last because I believe it is the least important of all.
Many people will directly start planning.
They limit themselves to one and only thing: the goals.
That's not how it works.
The setup is everything, goals come when you're ready.
Only then should you start strategizing.
Truth is, plans you will make will rarely be how things go.
The very reason your strategy should be flexible is to allow yourself to accept obstacles.
And guess what?
When you're ready to overcome anything, very few things attain you.
Read that list again, the lesson is there.
Here we go.
If you have followed me for some time now, you probably noticed how fast things are going.
I started my account on December 25th.
4 months later, I'm at 20k followers and here we are 1500+ Basedonians.
But it's not about the numbers.
It's about complete different things:
-Authenticity
-Dedication
-Determination
-Belief
-Strategy
I left the strategy part at last because I believe it is the least important of all.
Many people will directly start planning.
They limit themselves to one and only thing: the goals.
That's not how it works.
The setup is everything, goals come when you're ready.
Only then should you start strategizing.
Truth is, plans you will make will rarely be how things go.
The very reason your strategy should be flexible is to allow yourself to accept obstacles.
And guess what?
When you're ready to overcome anything, very few things attain you.
Read that list again, the lesson is there.
"He's my friend, he'll understand"
No.
Treat your friends better than you treat strangers.
Here is the thing,
We tend to be more friendly with people we just got to know.
Why?
We unconsciously want to make a good impression on new people.
That's so so so so wrong.
The people who deserve the best version of you are the people who would be ready to make sacrifices for you.
Behaving in such ways will make you a hypocrite fuck.
Not a good person.
It makes you a liar and a fake person.
You give people a taste of someone you're not.
Focus on being a good person with the closest ones, that's how you improve your behavior.
That way you will train yourself to always be the best version of yourself.
Stranger or friend, you should stay true to who you are.
Only make efforts with those who proved to deserve it.
This is exactly why friendships and relationships fail, we give people a fake idea of us and once they get closer they realize that were not what we pretended to be in the early stages of getting to know each other.
People get disappointed and leave.
And this has probably happened to you too at some point or another.
Be yourself from the very first moment.
If that person is worth it, they'll like you the way you are and will know what to expect of you.
No disappointment, no surprises.
This will save you a lot of time dealing with fake people.
Because yes, those who are fake generally step away from people who are truly genuine.
Like attracts like.
All. The. Fucking. Time.
No.
Treat your friends better than you treat strangers.
Here is the thing,
We tend to be more friendly with people we just got to know.
Why?
We unconsciously want to make a good impression on new people.
That's so so so so wrong.
The people who deserve the best version of you are the people who would be ready to make sacrifices for you.
Behaving in such ways will make you a hypocrite fuck.
Not a good person.
It makes you a liar and a fake person.
You give people a taste of someone you're not.
Focus on being a good person with the closest ones, that's how you improve your behavior.
That way you will train yourself to always be the best version of yourself.
Stranger or friend, you should stay true to who you are.
Only make efforts with those who proved to deserve it.
This is exactly why friendships and relationships fail, we give people a fake idea of us and once they get closer they realize that were not what we pretended to be in the early stages of getting to know each other.
People get disappointed and leave.
And this has probably happened to you too at some point or another.
Be yourself from the very first moment.
If that person is worth it, they'll like you the way you are and will know what to expect of you.
No disappointment, no surprises.
This will save you a lot of time dealing with fake people.
Because yes, those who are fake generally step away from people who are truly genuine.
Like attracts like.
All. The. Fucking. Time.
Honestly:
I don't know of any other Telegram channel that is as consistent.
Seriously just scroll up and you'll realize how much effort is put into this.
I don't know of any other Telegram channel that is as consistent.
Seriously just scroll up and you'll realize how much effort is put into this.
It's not about time management.
It's about mental space.
Think clear. Act clear. Stay sharp.
Ultimately, do more.
It's about mental space.
Think clear. Act clear. Stay sharp.
Ultimately, do more.
How to manage your mental space.
- Have a to-do list:
Keeping track of your priorities will help you keep accountability and focus only on those tasks.
The simple fact of writing down what you have to do and crossing each point afterwards will help you remember your priorities.
Sounds so easy, but the hardest part is to actually use it.
- Define your weekly priorities:
Draw a graph. Y axis for urgency, X axis for importance.
This will help you in making your to-do list.
There is an older post here explains this longer.
- Ask the right questions:
It's simple, there are things that do not deserve your attention.
Question everything you're presented with (especially opportunities, those are more likely to distract you)
My go to questions:
- How is it helping me achieve my main goal?
- Will this require a lot of my time?
- Did I already come across a similar situation? If yes, was it worth it?
- Does this require an immediate reaction from me? If no, note it down for later.
You can guess by now.
Always compare to what you are currently doing and your past experiences.
The three most important parameters to take into consideration are the risks implied, the potential rewards and the necessary sacrifices.
If not all those boxes are ticked:
It doesn't deserve your attention.
Know where you're heading and stick to it.
Deriving from your path is so easy, thankfully there are always ways to keep focused.
Use as many tools as you'll need to keep notes and track your progress in achieving your goals.
It will remind you of what you should care about.
And it will also help you stay on target and avoid useless distractions.
- Have a to-do list:
Keeping track of your priorities will help you keep accountability and focus only on those tasks.
The simple fact of writing down what you have to do and crossing each point afterwards will help you remember your priorities.
Sounds so easy, but the hardest part is to actually use it.
- Define your weekly priorities:
Draw a graph. Y axis for urgency, X axis for importance.
This will help you in making your to-do list.
There is an older post here explains this longer.
- Ask the right questions:
It's simple, there are things that do not deserve your attention.
Question everything you're presented with (especially opportunities, those are more likely to distract you)
My go to questions:
- How is it helping me achieve my main goal?
- Will this require a lot of my time?
- Did I already come across a similar situation? If yes, was it worth it?
- Does this require an immediate reaction from me? If no, note it down for later.
You can guess by now.
Always compare to what you are currently doing and your past experiences.
The three most important parameters to take into consideration are the risks implied, the potential rewards and the necessary sacrifices.
If not all those boxes are ticked:
It doesn't deserve your attention.
Know where you're heading and stick to it.
Deriving from your path is so easy, thankfully there are always ways to keep focused.
Use as many tools as you'll need to keep notes and track your progress in achieving your goals.
It will remind you of what you should care about.
And it will also help you stay on target and avoid useless distractions.