More often than not, people will avoid conflict.
Make sure they're not willing to back down before starting negotiations.
Never be the one that gets stepped on, never be the one that concedes before the battle.
Fight tooth and nail.
Only concede to avoid heavy damage.
Mental or physical.
Be sure there is no way to win before declaring the loss.
Make sure they're not willing to back down before starting negotiations.
Never be the one that gets stepped on, never be the one that concedes before the battle.
Fight tooth and nail.
Only concede to avoid heavy damage.
Mental or physical.
Be sure there is no way to win before declaring the loss.
When I was younger, I got heavily influenced by the content I use to consume on social media.
It made me pick the wrong decisions, decrease my self-worth and concede opportunities because I thought I wasnt worth it or that I couldn't do it.
I was depressed.
I often had suicidal thoughts.
I wasn't doing good at all.
So I took a step back.
I wrote down my goals.
I wrote down my insecurities.
I made plans for my goals.
I defined how I wanted to react when my insecurities kicked.
I made a promise to myself to take control and keep it.
Today, I am who I always wanted to be.
Still a long way to go but at least I have no doubt about it being the right one.
It made me pick the wrong decisions, decrease my self-worth and concede opportunities because I thought I wasnt worth it or that I couldn't do it.
I was depressed.
I often had suicidal thoughts.
I wasn't doing good at all.
So I took a step back.
I wrote down my goals.
I wrote down my insecurities.
I made plans for my goals.
I defined how I wanted to react when my insecurities kicked.
I made a promise to myself to take control and keep it.
Today, I am who I always wanted to be.
Still a long way to go but at least I have no doubt about it being the right one.
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Forwarded from Northern Nephilim
Machiavellian Maxims
Part 1: Punishing Offences
Over the next few posts, we will be covering human psychology and machiavellianism.
Everybody has passed through a situation where a close one did something they shouldn't have, and out of your benevolent and tender heart, you decided to forgive them and let it go.
The problem is, you discover that after a while (depending on the gravity of the offence) they either lose regard for you completely or they start committing more similar offences.
We all know the rest of the story; a falling out and permanent damage on the relationship.
So, you ask yourself what you did wrong in forgiving.
FORGIVENESS does not negate the need for PUNISHMENT ! ! !
Every offence must be punished, regardless of how minute it may be.
The punishment can range from temporary withdrawal of your attention to total severance of the relationship (depending on the magnitude of the offence).
Picture this:
You walk up to your dad/friend/girlfriend and give them a very hard slap. But, instead of getting upset or retaliating, they simply say to you:
“I forgive you for this. Don’t do it again."
You won’t feel relief or joy at them forgiving you, but rather disgust at their lack of self-regard.
You will also become more likely to repeat that offence in the future. If you slapped your dad and he said that to you, guaranteed you will lose all respect for him till your dying day.
Now, put yourself in the position of the person being slapped. The way you’d lose respect/regard for the non-retaliatory victim is how people lose respect for you each time you fail to properly punish an offence.
The purpose of punishing offences is not only for self-gratification, but to serve as a deterrent against future offences of a similar nature.
It may seem minute offences can be ignored, but they really shouldn’t.
If the offence is of gravity X, then the punishment should be of magnitude 2X. If the offence is of gravity 2X, then the punishment should be of magnitude 4X. Double the punishment, so the gratification gotten from such an offence is never worth the punishment.
– If you speak to someone and they ignore you, punish them.
– If someone disregards your time, punish them.
— If someone openly disrespects you, openly humiliate them.
— If your girlfriend cheats on you, breakup with her.
– If your friend insults you, withdraw your attention for a reasonable timeframe.
You need to make sure that it is clear messing with you will put people on your bad side. And you also need to ensure your bad side is not a conducive place to be.
You should also never threaten people as a deterrent. Wait for them to commit the abominable, and then PUNISH them for it.
"Remember, FORGIVENESS does not negate the need for PUNISHMENT."
Part 1: Punishing Offences
Over the next few posts, we will be covering human psychology and machiavellianism.
Everybody has passed through a situation where a close one did something they shouldn't have, and out of your benevolent and tender heart, you decided to forgive them and let it go.
The problem is, you discover that after a while (depending on the gravity of the offence) they either lose regard for you completely or they start committing more similar offences.
We all know the rest of the story; a falling out and permanent damage on the relationship.
So, you ask yourself what you did wrong in forgiving.
FORGIVENESS does not negate the need for PUNISHMENT ! ! !
Every offence must be punished, regardless of how minute it may be.
The punishment can range from temporary withdrawal of your attention to total severance of the relationship (depending on the magnitude of the offence).
Picture this:
You walk up to your dad/friend/girlfriend and give them a very hard slap. But, instead of getting upset or retaliating, they simply say to you:
“I forgive you for this. Don’t do it again."
You won’t feel relief or joy at them forgiving you, but rather disgust at their lack of self-regard.
You will also become more likely to repeat that offence in the future. If you slapped your dad and he said that to you, guaranteed you will lose all respect for him till your dying day.
Now, put yourself in the position of the person being slapped. The way you’d lose respect/regard for the non-retaliatory victim is how people lose respect for you each time you fail to properly punish an offence.
The purpose of punishing offences is not only for self-gratification, but to serve as a deterrent against future offences of a similar nature.
It may seem minute offences can be ignored, but they really shouldn’t.
If the offence is of gravity X, then the punishment should be of magnitude 2X. If the offence is of gravity 2X, then the punishment should be of magnitude 4X. Double the punishment, so the gratification gotten from such an offence is never worth the punishment.
– If you speak to someone and they ignore you, punish them.
– If someone disregards your time, punish them.
— If someone openly disrespects you, openly humiliate them.
— If your girlfriend cheats on you, breakup with her.
– If your friend insults you, withdraw your attention for a reasonable timeframe.
You need to make sure that it is clear messing with you will put people on your bad side. And you also need to ensure your bad side is not a conducive place to be.
You should also never threaten people as a deterrent. Wait for them to commit the abominable, and then PUNISH them for it.
"Remember, FORGIVENESS does not negate the need for PUNISHMENT."
Seize Control. E R."Poly relationship" doesn't exist
You just don't love each other but like to have regular sex
You just don't love each other but like to have regular sex
Basedonians,
Never cheat on your partner.
Let's disregard the fact that if you do you obviously don't love them.
You also obviously don't hold yourself to a very high standard.
I won't explain how wrong it is, you all know.
Fact is, if you feel good about yourself cheating, it means that you have zero values.
Which is rarely the case.
Most people do feel bad about cheating but that's not love.
That's just guilt.
If you feel like cheating, break up.
Not for them, but to maintain your self-worth.
Never cheat on your partner.
Let's disregard the fact that if you do you obviously don't love them.
You also obviously don't hold yourself to a very high standard.
I won't explain how wrong it is, you all know.
Fact is, if you feel good about yourself cheating, it means that you have zero values.
Which is rarely the case.
Most people do feel bad about cheating but that's not love.
That's just guilt.
If you feel like cheating, break up.
Not for them, but to maintain your self-worth.
You know what, here is whats wrong:
You can't get anywhere without commitment.
And that applies to anything in life: work, relationship, discipline etc.. anything.
If you can't commit to a person, you probably can't commit to your own projects either.
Seek stability.
Stop fucking around.
You can't get anywhere without commitment.
And that applies to anything in life: work, relationship, discipline etc.. anything.
If you can't commit to a person, you probably can't commit to your own projects either.
Seek stability.
Stop fucking around.
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Keep doing it.
Whatever it is you're doing, keep doing it.
You'll either realize it's not worth it or time will prove you right.
Just don't quit.
Lesson or win.
Failing is a social construct.
Whatever it is you're doing, keep doing it.
You'll either realize it's not worth it or time will prove you right.
Just don't quit.
Lesson or win.
Failing is a social construct.
Since I've started working on myself, my self-sufficiency and independence,
I have went through many phases.
Those who took the program know part of this, but that's not what I'm going to talk about.
Here is what I noticed:
-When I was doubting myself and the path I was taking, people wouldnt call me much. I lost many friends, not because we fought or anything but simply because I decided to stop calling them. I stopped seeking help from anyone (not to confuse with advice). My circle got very very small.
Once I lost everyone:
They all came back.
The same people that would never call me.
The same ones that turned their backs on me.
Why?
Becomes I don't need them.
People are impressed by self-sufficiency, they can't understand it and it fascinates them.
Independence is a superpower.
I don't need anyone help.
Now everyone wants me to help them.
Maybe I'll help, maybe I won't.
It's my choice.
THAT is freedom.
I have went through many phases.
Those who took the program know part of this, but that's not what I'm going to talk about.
Here is what I noticed:
-When I was doubting myself and the path I was taking, people wouldnt call me much. I lost many friends, not because we fought or anything but simply because I decided to stop calling them. I stopped seeking help from anyone (not to confuse with advice). My circle got very very small.
Once I lost everyone:
They all came back.
The same people that would never call me.
The same ones that turned their backs on me.
Why?
Becomes I don't need them.
People are impressed by self-sufficiency, they can't understand it and it fascinates them.
Independence is a superpower.
I don't need anyone help.
Now everyone wants me to help them.
Maybe I'll help, maybe I won't.
It's my choice.
THAT is freedom.
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I'm fucking angry today.
I woke up like this.
Time to go for a walk.
I woke up like this.
Time to go for a walk.
You're not ahead if you're comparing yourself to others.
When you're first in the race, the only ones you MIGHT see are the ones cheering for you.
Which means you're close to the finish line.
Keep pushing.
Never stop pushing.
When the race is done, I'll make another one to salute everyone.
When you're first in the race, the only ones you MIGHT see are the ones cheering for you.
Which means you're close to the finish line.
Keep pushing.
Never stop pushing.
When the race is done, I'll make another one to salute everyone.