Body Language: How to spot when someone is faking it?
The handshake
We've seen last time a few parameters and elements that constitute people's body language.
Now, it does happen that people try to use a body language that doesn't necessarily fit their thoughts.
Oftentimes, that person has basic knowledge in body language and will try to influence people's impression of them by behaving in specific ways.
Question is:
How do we make the difference between genuine and fake body language?
The answer is very simple:
People who are faking it will have inconsistencies.
As an example, take someone that walks into a room with a bumped chest and try to take as much space around them as they can.
So far, this would logically indicate strong self-confidence.
BUT, this is only one of the many elements of body language.
That's why it's important to analyze the rest of their behavior and not judge based on only one element.
Here is something that never fails:
When someone is about to shake your hand, look at their neck and how their head tilts.
People who are extremely will usually not lean in, that you already know. But they will also not tilt their head and keep their neck straight.
Also, the more insisting and firm their handshake is:
The less confident they are.
Yes. You read that right.
People with high self-confidence do not shake hands too firmly nor do they insist too long.
Why?
Because they don't consider that they need to prove anything.
Always remember that the more natural it seems the more genuine they are (or very good at faking it)
Body Language is in the details.
Not the obvious signs.
Watch for people's hand movement, watch for where they direct their visual attention etc..
Everybody can bump a chest, but if the test of the tells don't add up,
You're being lured.
The handshake
We've seen last time a few parameters and elements that constitute people's body language.
Now, it does happen that people try to use a body language that doesn't necessarily fit their thoughts.
Oftentimes, that person has basic knowledge in body language and will try to influence people's impression of them by behaving in specific ways.
Question is:
How do we make the difference between genuine and fake body language?
The answer is very simple:
People who are faking it will have inconsistencies.
As an example, take someone that walks into a room with a bumped chest and try to take as much space around them as they can.
So far, this would logically indicate strong self-confidence.
BUT, this is only one of the many elements of body language.
That's why it's important to analyze the rest of their behavior and not judge based on only one element.
Here is something that never fails:
When someone is about to shake your hand, look at their neck and how their head tilts.
People who are extremely will usually not lean in, that you already know. But they will also not tilt their head and keep their neck straight.
Also, the more insisting and firm their handshake is:
The less confident they are.
Yes. You read that right.
People with high self-confidence do not shake hands too firmly nor do they insist too long.
Why?
Because they don't consider that they need to prove anything.
Always remember that the more natural it seems the more genuine they are (or very good at faking it)
Body Language is in the details.
Not the obvious signs.
Watch for people's hand movement, watch for where they direct their visual attention etc..
Everybody can bump a chest, but if the test of the tells don't add up,
You're being lured.
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My brother, understand this:
You will never attract a high-value woman if you're not high-value yourself.
Before thinking: "How do I get her?"
Ask yourself, am I worthy of a loyal, loving & caring woman in my life?
High value men attract high value women.
Instead of chasing women, work on your self and become the best you can.
She will find you.
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The Greek physician Hippocrates described this state of social awkwardness or “shyness”, as that of people who “love darkness as life”, and “think every man is observing them”.
While Jean-Paul Sartre said famously said: "Hell is other people."
I always found it fascinating how humans are afraid of each other.
We're so self-absorbed that we think everyone's attention is on us.
We're so afraid of other people's judgment that we limit ourselves.
But let me tell you something...
Just like you stress out about their judgment, people stress out about what YOU think of them.
This is a very important notion to grasp because it gives you an edge over EVERYONE.
Here is the thing, if you know most people are wary about your opinion of them, you can influence their behavior by simply validating them.
I'm talking about a soft form of manipulation here.
Validating people and making them feel more secure about themselves puts you in a position of both power and appreciation.
People struggle so much to be liked.
Then why not tell them you appreciate them?
It's really that easy because that comforting feeling that comes from your validation is addictive.
They'll want more of it, so they'll go out of their way to please you and defend you.
Have you ever noticed...
The people you like the most are the people that "understand" you.
If you put some thoughts into it, we tend to like the people that "feel" for us or "understand" where our behavior comes from.
Guess what... What applies to you applies to them.
Leverage it.
Validate people.
Express your appreciation for them.
Tell them they look good, and tell them their passion is inspiring.
This is not evil manipulation. It's quite healthy!
The reason is that you not only gain points with them yourself but you also genuinely make someone's day.
This is key to building healthy relationships.
But be careful...
If they notice that you behave that way with everyone, it takes away the uniqueness of your relationship.
Solution: Do it in private.
Tell people, you're proud of them and happy to see them winning.
Do this with everyone. You'll notice that not only do more people appreciate you, but you also have fewer conflicting relationships.
Validate people.
Smile at them. Say they're great.
Tell them they look good. Imply that you missed seeing them. Greet them with warmth and insistence. People crave validation. Leverage it. That's a massive increase in your social skills.
These are the things no parent or school will teach you.
These are the things that you can't guess on your own unless you've tried them many times.
These are the patterns that require mistakes and slip-ups in order to be understood.
We made those mistakes and learned those lessons the hard way so that our members inside Social Skills University don't have to go through that painful process.
It's time to build your social skillset.
It's time you acquire an edge over the rest of the people.
Join 245+ active members.
While Jean-Paul Sartre said famously said: "Hell is other people."
I always found it fascinating how humans are afraid of each other.
We're so self-absorbed that we think everyone's attention is on us.
We're so afraid of other people's judgment that we limit ourselves.
But let me tell you something...
Just like you stress out about their judgment, people stress out about what YOU think of them.
This is a very important notion to grasp because it gives you an edge over EVERYONE.
Here is the thing, if you know most people are wary about your opinion of them, you can influence their behavior by simply validating them.
I'm talking about a soft form of manipulation here.
Validating people and making them feel more secure about themselves puts you in a position of both power and appreciation.
People struggle so much to be liked.
Then why not tell them you appreciate them?
It's really that easy because that comforting feeling that comes from your validation is addictive.
They'll want more of it, so they'll go out of their way to please you and defend you.
Have you ever noticed...
The people you like the most are the people that "understand" you.
If you put some thoughts into it, we tend to like the people that "feel" for us or "understand" where our behavior comes from.
Guess what... What applies to you applies to them.
Leverage it.
Validate people.
Express your appreciation for them.
Tell them they look good, and tell them their passion is inspiring.
This is not evil manipulation. It's quite healthy!
The reason is that you not only gain points with them yourself but you also genuinely make someone's day.
This is key to building healthy relationships.
But be careful...
If they notice that you behave that way with everyone, it takes away the uniqueness of your relationship.
Solution: Do it in private.
Tell people, you're proud of them and happy to see them winning.
Do this with everyone. You'll notice that not only do more people appreciate you, but you also have fewer conflicting relationships.
Validate people.
Smile at them. Say they're great.
Tell them they look good. Imply that you missed seeing them. Greet them with warmth and insistence. People crave validation. Leverage it. That's a massive increase in your social skills.
These are the things no parent or school will teach you.
These are the things that you can't guess on your own unless you've tried them many times.
These are the patterns that require mistakes and slip-ups in order to be understood.
We made those mistakes and learned those lessons the hard way so that our members inside Social Skills University don't have to go through that painful process.
It's time to build your social skillset.
It's time you acquire an edge over the rest of the people.
Join 245+ active members.
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It is very affordable right now.
Price will increase in 10 days.
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