Many are unable to socialize and or unwilling to in some cases.
Even those who genuinely want to make more connections end up not knowing where to start or what to do.
Here are 6 ways to make more friends and get better socially.
1- Multiply new meetings
Get out there and meet people.
Call old friends and organize a meeting.
It sounds stupid but you make more friends if you don't meet people.
You can't possibly get better socially if you don't practice and put yourself in front of live situations.
2- Capitalize on your friends' friends:
The easiest way to meet new people is through your existing friends.
They probably know or hang out with people that are somewhat similar to them.
This saves you the trouble of approaching total strangers.
Plus you already have friends in common.
Having mutual friends eases the first approach and makes it way smoother.
You already have a common point to talk about (your mutual friend) so the conversation is more likely to have a starting point.
3- Focus on common points:
As mentioned above, the easiest way to make friends is focusing on what you have in common.
By doing so you explain to your interlocutor that they can feel safe while talking to you.
That because you explicitly let them know that you relate to them.
4- Suspend your judgement for a while:
Don't be too quick to judge.
Let people prove their worth but do not let pre-made ideas you might have of them define their value
Give people the time to show their true nature
Goes both positively and negatively
Gather enough info first
5- Take care of your relationships
Don't take anyone for granted.
It costs nothing to call them once in a while to see how they're doing.
If you do this often enough, you can make sure that the day you'll call to ask for something.. They'll be there.
Be smart about it.
6- Understand that you can't be everyone's friend
This is probably the most important
If it doesn't click with someone or the vibe with them is off
Simply move on.
If someone who used to be a friend became distant
Simply move on.
No one is essential, everyone is replaceable.
Use this to your advantage.
Even those who genuinely want to make more connections end up not knowing where to start or what to do.
Here are 6 ways to make more friends and get better socially.
1- Multiply new meetings
Get out there and meet people.
Call old friends and organize a meeting.
It sounds stupid but you make more friends if you don't meet people.
You can't possibly get better socially if you don't practice and put yourself in front of live situations.
2- Capitalize on your friends' friends:
The easiest way to meet new people is through your existing friends.
They probably know or hang out with people that are somewhat similar to them.
This saves you the trouble of approaching total strangers.
Plus you already have friends in common.
Having mutual friends eases the first approach and makes it way smoother.
You already have a common point to talk about (your mutual friend) so the conversation is more likely to have a starting point.
3- Focus on common points:
As mentioned above, the easiest way to make friends is focusing on what you have in common.
By doing so you explain to your interlocutor that they can feel safe while talking to you.
That because you explicitly let them know that you relate to them.
4- Suspend your judgement for a while:
Don't be too quick to judge.
Let people prove their worth but do not let pre-made ideas you might have of them define their value
Give people the time to show their true nature
Goes both positively and negatively
Gather enough info first
5- Take care of your relationships
Don't take anyone for granted.
It costs nothing to call them once in a while to see how they're doing.
If you do this often enough, you can make sure that the day you'll call to ask for something.. They'll be there.
Be smart about it.
6- Understand that you can't be everyone's friend
This is probably the most important
If it doesn't click with someone or the vibe with them is off
Simply move on.
If someone who used to be a friend became distant
Simply move on.
No one is essential, everyone is replaceable.
Use this to your advantage.
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Forwarded from The Powerhold
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There are few concepts that you need to understand in order to better understand how your brain operates.
If you can grasp how your mind and body work, you can get better at both dealing with yourself and dealing with others.
We're not so different after all.
With an accurate & higher sense of self-awareness, you can not only take control of your own behavior but also expect and forecast how others might react (& why).
Among those concepts, there are some that literally changed my life and how I see things:
- Conditioning & Learning by association (this allows you to develop healthy reflexes and reactions that you control)
- Neuro-linguistic Programming (more specifically anchoring, has to do with the above point), it allows you to associate body language with emotions, which alllows you to reverse engineer the emotions process.
- Brain waves & frequencies, which I've explained here many times
If you can grasp these concepts, you're one step ahead of not only most people but probably even ahead of yourself.
I'm sure many people don't see the correlation between those things, if you do stay winning G.
If you can grasp how your mind and body work, you can get better at both dealing with yourself and dealing with others.
We're not so different after all.
With an accurate & higher sense of self-awareness, you can not only take control of your own behavior but also expect and forecast how others might react (& why).
Among those concepts, there are some that literally changed my life and how I see things:
- Conditioning & Learning by association (this allows you to develop healthy reflexes and reactions that you control)
- Neuro-linguistic Programming (more specifically anchoring, has to do with the above point), it allows you to associate body language with emotions, which alllows you to reverse engineer the emotions process.
- Brain waves & frequencies, which I've explained here many times
If you can grasp these concepts, you're one step ahead of not only most people but probably even ahead of yourself.
I'm sure many people don't see the correlation between those things, if you do stay winning G.
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Have you ever asked yourself this question?
"Am I a giver or a taker?"
Because after all, this says a lot about us.
Not only does it say a lot about your relationship with others but it also says a lot about your relationship with yourself.
Let me explain something here.
The Taker:
Lacks. By definition.
The Taker lacks.
If he had all he needed he wouldn't be a taker.
This comes from a scarcity mindset.
The Giver:
Abundance. By definition again.
Or at least generosity.
The problem with Givers is that Takers exist and they can abuse their generosity.
If you had to choose, from a moral point of view, you'll probably pick being a Giver.
And I agree with you.
Again, your only challenge would be to not let malicious people abuse you.
The answer is simple.
Being a Giver brings you emotional stability and self-satisfaction.
But to avoid the drawbacks you must internalize the following concept:
"You can't give what you don't have."
"You shouldn't give against your will."
Now, these might just sound like platitudes.
But they're the first principles you should build your generosity on.
Otherwise, you expose yourself to the cunning and scheming taker.
This is why self-sufficiency is of paramount importance.
Your ability to be fully and completely independent from others is the key to the life you want.
Two years ago, I wrote How to Achieve Self-Sufficiency.
My first book ever.
Today I'm offering you 80% off it.
Because I truly believe many need the lessons inside it.
Get it here.
"Am I a giver or a taker?"
Because after all, this says a lot about us.
Not only does it say a lot about your relationship with others but it also says a lot about your relationship with yourself.
Let me explain something here.
The Taker:
Lacks. By definition.
The Taker lacks.
If he had all he needed he wouldn't be a taker.
This comes from a scarcity mindset.
The Giver:
Abundance. By definition again.
Or at least generosity.
The problem with Givers is that Takers exist and they can abuse their generosity.
If you had to choose, from a moral point of view, you'll probably pick being a Giver.
And I agree with you.
Again, your only challenge would be to not let malicious people abuse you.
The answer is simple.
Being a Giver brings you emotional stability and self-satisfaction.
But to avoid the drawbacks you must internalize the following concept:
"You can't give what you don't have."
"You shouldn't give against your will."
Now, these might just sound like platitudes.
But they're the first principles you should build your generosity on.
Otherwise, you expose yourself to the cunning and scheming taker.
This is why self-sufficiency is of paramount importance.
Your ability to be fully and completely independent from others is the key to the life you want.
Two years ago, I wrote How to Achieve Self-Sufficiency.
My first book ever.
Today I'm offering you 80% off it.
Because I truly believe many need the lessons inside it.
Get it here.
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Also, you only exist in your head.
Today's thread.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1556968905184264199
Today's thread.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1556968905184264199
Twitter
You only exist in your head.
Thread.
Thread.
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EVERYTHING IS ABOUT INTERESTS.
Understand this and behave accordingly.
People will like you or dislike you depending on whether your interests diverge or converge.
Being socially skilled is about being respected and likable regardless of where your interests lie.
Understand this and behave accordingly.
People will like you or dislike you depending on whether your interests diverge or converge.
Being socially skilled is about being respected and likable regardless of where your interests lie.
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Forwarded from Symposium (Nishmeet)
If I ever went to a feminist rally, I'd return with a sandwich in hand and clothes ironed
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Forwarded from The Powerhold
We only want what we cannot fully possess. Your greatest seductive power is your ability to turn away.
Most people do the opposite, they surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other person what they want will grant them power over them.
Most people do the opposite, they surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other person what they want will grant them power over them.
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Sick af today.
If I didn't answer your DM or email, just know I will whenever I feel better.
Have a blessed day everyone
If I didn't answer your DM or email, just know I will whenever I feel better.
Have a blessed day everyone
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Using drugs is borrowing happiness from the next days with interest.
Being high is secreting more hormones (different depending on the drug) than you should be.
Except once the effects dissipate, your body finds itself unable to produce any more for a while.
Addiction is coming back to the same drug when you're unable to feel the same feeling while being sober.
Except you keep borrowing until you can't pay back anymore.
The only way becomes to take more of it.
That's where you start eating from your soul, losing parts of yourself and who you are.
The physical and psychological addiction makes you do things that you wouldn't be proud of.
Thus killing slowly but certainly your self reflection.
Making you less of yourself.
More of someone you're not.
Best way to ruin your life is to use drugs.
Quickest and most effective method.
People who propose drugs to you however are not necessarily evil, they might even do it with good intentions.
They just don't know any better and are clouded by a fake reality they believe to be the truth.
Having more people doing the same makes it feel less wrong and more normal.
However, those who sell drugs truly want the worst for you.
Financially and mentally.
Having been on all sides of the above mentioned, the world of drugs is a shallow place, a universe that leads nowhere and only exists to make your life shorter and emptier.
I know many of you are pretty young, at least younger than I am. That's why I'll never stress this enough.
If you have younger siblings, make sure they're not doing drugs.
If they are, do everything to stop it.
Being high is secreting more hormones (different depending on the drug) than you should be.
Except once the effects dissipate, your body finds itself unable to produce any more for a while.
Addiction is coming back to the same drug when you're unable to feel the same feeling while being sober.
Except you keep borrowing until you can't pay back anymore.
The only way becomes to take more of it.
That's where you start eating from your soul, losing parts of yourself and who you are.
The physical and psychological addiction makes you do things that you wouldn't be proud of.
Thus killing slowly but certainly your self reflection.
Making you less of yourself.
More of someone you're not.
Best way to ruin your life is to use drugs.
Quickest and most effective method.
People who propose drugs to you however are not necessarily evil, they might even do it with good intentions.
They just don't know any better and are clouded by a fake reality they believe to be the truth.
Having more people doing the same makes it feel less wrong and more normal.
However, those who sell drugs truly want the worst for you.
Financially and mentally.
Having been on all sides of the above mentioned, the world of drugs is a shallow place, a universe that leads nowhere and only exists to make your life shorter and emptier.
I know many of you are pretty young, at least younger than I am. That's why I'll never stress this enough.
If you have younger siblings, make sure they're not doing drugs.
If they are, do everything to stop it.
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"How is this relevant to my goals?"
Ask this question more often.
If it's not getting you closer to your ideal self, it's a waste of time.
Define your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.
Ignore the distractions, the gossip & the haters.
Ignore anything that doesn't serve your purpose.
Ask this question more often.
If it's not getting you closer to your ideal self, it's a waste of time.
Define your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.
Ignore the distractions, the gossip & the haters.
Ignore anything that doesn't serve your purpose.
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Body Language: How to spot when someone is faking it?
The handshake
We've seen last time a few parameters and elements that constitute people's body language.
Now, it does happen that people try to use a body language that doesn't necessarily fit their thoughts.
Oftentimes, that person has basic knowledge in body language and will try to influence people's impression of them by behaving in specific ways.
Question is:
How do we make the difference between genuine and fake body language?
The answer is very simple:
People who are faking it will have inconsistencies.
As an example, take someone that walks into a room with a bumped chest and try to take as much space around them as they can.
So far, this would logically indicate strong self-confidence.
BUT, this is only one of the many elements of body language.
That's why it's important to analyze the rest of their behavior and not judge based on only one element.
Here is something that never fails:
When someone is about to shake your hand, look at their neck and how their head tilts.
People who are extremely will usually not lean in, that you already know. But they will also not tilt their head and keep their neck straight.
Also, the more insisting and firm their handshake is:
The less confident they are.
Yes. You read that right.
People with high self-confidence do not shake hands too firmly nor do they insist too long.
Why?
Because they don't consider that they need to prove anything.
Always remember that the more natural it seems the more genuine they are (or very good at faking it)
Body Language is in the details.
Not the obvious signs.
Watch for people's hand movement, watch for where they direct their visual attention etc..
Everybody can bump a chest, but if the test of the tells don't add up,
You're being lured.
The handshake
We've seen last time a few parameters and elements that constitute people's body language.
Now, it does happen that people try to use a body language that doesn't necessarily fit their thoughts.
Oftentimes, that person has basic knowledge in body language and will try to influence people's impression of them by behaving in specific ways.
Question is:
How do we make the difference between genuine and fake body language?
The answer is very simple:
People who are faking it will have inconsistencies.
As an example, take someone that walks into a room with a bumped chest and try to take as much space around them as they can.
So far, this would logically indicate strong self-confidence.
BUT, this is only one of the many elements of body language.
That's why it's important to analyze the rest of their behavior and not judge based on only one element.
Here is something that never fails:
When someone is about to shake your hand, look at their neck and how their head tilts.
People who are extremely will usually not lean in, that you already know. But they will also not tilt their head and keep their neck straight.
Also, the more insisting and firm their handshake is:
The less confident they are.
Yes. You read that right.
People with high self-confidence do not shake hands too firmly nor do they insist too long.
Why?
Because they don't consider that they need to prove anything.
Always remember that the more natural it seems the more genuine they are (or very good at faking it)
Body Language is in the details.
Not the obvious signs.
Watch for people's hand movement, watch for where they direct their visual attention etc..
Everybody can bump a chest, but if the test of the tells don't add up,
You're being lured.
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"It's important for people, especially for people who are more aware of what's going on, that they don't fall into the more negative theories that governments, that corporations have kidnapped humanity. There's a lot of truth in that, but you can't just sit there and take part in that negativity. It's important not to become what we're fighting, that is, we can't change this system by doing the same thing that this system has done. If we become as negative as they are, and we fight them in this way, we end up in the same point. It doesn't help, you have to stay positive, being aware of what's going on without ignoring it. You have to have this joy of living, this openness, this positivity, because negativity destroys itself. All we have to do is build the world we want to see in our future"
Nassim Haramein
Nassim Haramein
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