You cannot afford to get emotional about other people's decisions.
I've said in the past:
Do not chase people.
If someone walks away from you, let them be.
If they believe they're better off without you, let them go.
Do not hold people back.
If they stay around you against their will, your relationship will turn toxic and unhealthy.
Respect people's choices and boundaries no matter how unreasonable or straight out stupid they might seem.
Your friends are not your kids.
You have no responsibility over them.
This also applies to friends that are stubborn and don't want to listen to your advice.
DO NOT INSIST.
Let them make their own mistakes.
I've said in the past:
Do not chase people.
If someone walks away from you, let them be.
If they believe they're better off without you, let them go.
Do not hold people back.
If they stay around you against their will, your relationship will turn toxic and unhealthy.
Respect people's choices and boundaries no matter how unreasonable or straight out stupid they might seem.
Your friends are not your kids.
You have no responsibility over them.
This also applies to friends that are stubborn and don't want to listen to your advice.
DO NOT INSIST.
Let them make their own mistakes.
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Forwarded from The Powerhold
Impostor syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which a person doubts his/her own abilities and achievements and start feeling like a fraud.
It mostly affects high achievers and they begin to question whether they are deserving of all their accolades and praises.
People brought up in families that stressed too much on achievements and success are more prone to this syndrome.
Achievements were overpraised and failures were over-criticised.
Later in life each little setback is to them a failure to please their parents and any success is felt like luck;
Totally by chance and not an outcome of their hard work.
First step in countering this effect is to know that this is a real psychological phenomenon.
Second, remember your past accomplishments and know that it was your own abilities and not mere luck.
People with impostor syndrome tend to be perfectionists. This is a result of that previously mentioned overpraised successes and over-criticised failures. Let go of the need to sharpen every corner. No-one cares.
Never brush off your achievements. Even if they are small ones. Journal them or share it with people close to you. Celebrate with them. When the panic hits later in time they will remind of your past achievements.
Take your failures lightly. Modern hustle gurus have manipulated you into thinking failure is a sin. To hell with it. Failure is a sweet reminder that you are not stagnant and are actually doing something. The only purpose of failure is to signal you that you need to make some changes: not that you are a complete douche.
It mostly affects high achievers and they begin to question whether they are deserving of all their accolades and praises.
People brought up in families that stressed too much on achievements and success are more prone to this syndrome.
Achievements were overpraised and failures were over-criticised.
Later in life each little setback is to them a failure to please their parents and any success is felt like luck;
Totally by chance and not an outcome of their hard work.
First step in countering this effect is to know that this is a real psychological phenomenon.
Second, remember your past accomplishments and know that it was your own abilities and not mere luck.
People with impostor syndrome tend to be perfectionists. This is a result of that previously mentioned overpraised successes and over-criticised failures. Let go of the need to sharpen every corner. No-one cares.
Never brush off your achievements. Even if they are small ones. Journal them or share it with people close to you. Celebrate with them. When the panic hits later in time they will remind of your past achievements.
Take your failures lightly. Modern hustle gurus have manipulated you into thinking failure is a sin. To hell with it. Failure is a sweet reminder that you are not stagnant and are actually doing something. The only purpose of failure is to signal you that you need to make some changes: not that you are a complete douche.
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Forwarded from 🌞 Sol Brah ⚡️
THE DYNAMICS OF SUCCESS
What do the people that have various levels of success have in common? A sense of confidence, or a belief in oneself.
As the beliefs that we hold impact the reality we create for ourselves, confidence and belief in ourselves is a non-negotiable. The higher your degree of this feeling, the more success you will encounter.
We all know an arrogant person who has succeeded and just ‘seems lucky’. What is arrogance? It comes with it unwavering belief you will succeed and that good things happen to you. You take chances and act as if the world is on your side.
While arrogance is thinking you’re untouchable, it does yield the benefit of assuredness in one’s self - a high state of vibrational energy that attracts the circumstancces and people that leads to success.
When you succeed, you are reinforcing that you are successful. This makes you feel more confident about yourself, and then you are more likely to believe
It’s literally the hardest point to get the ball rolling from a stop. After that, you have precious things to look back upon as proof of your impending successes.
If you don’t have the confidence from performance yet, you need to have the belief that it is possible first. Picture yourself doing the thing you desire. Take steps and actions that would align with if you knew the outcome would be positive success.
This is why ‘The rich get richer.’ The successful attract more success.
At the start of any journey, there is the most amount of people ‘in the race’. There are a lot of people who have done one podcast episode than there are that have recorded 20. There are a lot more people who have played guitar for two months compared to played for years. The number of people who have gymmed for two weeks then stopped compared to people who work out for years. What happens is a cascade of accomplishment where the amount of people you are competing with decreases the longer you stay in the game.
Believe in your total success no matter what the physical reality may be showing you at the present moment. Stay the path for years. You WILL win.
What do the people that have various levels of success have in common? A sense of confidence, or a belief in oneself.
As the beliefs that we hold impact the reality we create for ourselves, confidence and belief in ourselves is a non-negotiable. The higher your degree of this feeling, the more success you will encounter.
We all know an arrogant person who has succeeded and just ‘seems lucky’. What is arrogance? It comes with it unwavering belief you will succeed and that good things happen to you. You take chances and act as if the world is on your side.
While arrogance is thinking you’re untouchable, it does yield the benefit of assuredness in one’s self - a high state of vibrational energy that attracts the circumstancces and people that leads to success.
When you succeed, you are reinforcing that you are successful. This makes you feel more confident about yourself, and then you are more likely to believe
It’s literally the hardest point to get the ball rolling from a stop. After that, you have precious things to look back upon as proof of your impending successes.
If you don’t have the confidence from performance yet, you need to have the belief that it is possible first. Picture yourself doing the thing you desire. Take steps and actions that would align with if you knew the outcome would be positive success.
This is why ‘The rich get richer.’ The successful attract more success.
At the start of any journey, there is the most amount of people ‘in the race’. There are a lot of people who have done one podcast episode than there are that have recorded 20. There are a lot more people who have played guitar for two months compared to played for years. The number of people who have gymmed for two weeks then stopped compared to people who work out for years. What happens is a cascade of accomplishment where the amount of people you are competing with decreases the longer you stay in the game.
Believe in your total success no matter what the physical reality may be showing you at the present moment. Stay the path for years. You WILL win.
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Stop caring about anything that doesn't get you closer to your ideal self.
Once you define your vision and know where you're heading, it becomes way easier to ignore the noise.
You worry too much because you don't know where you're going with life.
Listen, it's ONLY about direction.
Purpose.
Objectives.
A north star.
Once you figure out where you're going, everything else makes sense and falls into its right place.
You simply have to sit your ass down and figure it out.
What is it that you TRULY want?
Answer this then pursue it relentlessly.
That's what happiness means.
Knowing that every step you take gets you closer to your ideal self.
The true meaning of fulfillment and living purposefully.
Nobody will figure it out for you.
It's your role to do the work.
Once you define your vision and know where you're heading, it becomes way easier to ignore the noise.
You worry too much because you don't know where you're going with life.
Listen, it's ONLY about direction.
Purpose.
Objectives.
A north star.
Once you figure out where you're going, everything else makes sense and falls into its right place.
You simply have to sit your ass down and figure it out.
What is it that you TRULY want?
Answer this then pursue it relentlessly.
That's what happiness means.
Knowing that every step you take gets you closer to your ideal self.
The true meaning of fulfillment and living purposefully.
Nobody will figure it out for you.
It's your role to do the work.
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Grand Rising,
Feeling cute so I'm giving 50% off my affirmations program.
Have a nice weekend everyone.
Feeling cute so I'm giving 50% off my affirmations program.
Have a nice weekend everyone.
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Forwarded from The Polymath (Limitless Reader)
Affirm: I have a magnetic presence. People, money, health, and success are naturally drawn to me. I am a magnet to endless blessings.
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Many are unable to socialize and or unwilling to in some cases.
Even those who genuinely want to make more connections end up not knowing where to start or what to do.
Here are 6 ways to make more friends and get better socially.
1- Multiply new meetings
Get out there and meet people.
Call old friends and organize a meeting.
It sounds stupid but you make more friends if you don't meet people.
You can't possibly get better socially if you don't practice and put yourself in front of live situations.
2- Capitalize on your friends' friends:
The easiest way to meet new people is through your existing friends.
They probably know or hang out with people that are somewhat similar to them.
This saves you the trouble of approaching total strangers.
Plus you already have friends in common.
Having mutual friends eases the first approach and makes it way smoother.
You already have a common point to talk about (your mutual friend) so the conversation is more likely to have a starting point.
3- Focus on common points:
As mentioned above, the easiest way to make friends is focusing on what you have in common.
By doing so you explain to your interlocutor that they can feel safe while talking to you.
That because you explicitly let them know that you relate to them.
4- Suspend your judgement for a while:
Don't be too quick to judge.
Let people prove their worth but do not let pre-made ideas you might have of them define their value
Give people the time to show their true nature
Goes both positively and negatively
Gather enough info first
5- Take care of your relationships
Don't take anyone for granted.
It costs nothing to call them once in a while to see how they're doing.
If you do this often enough, you can make sure that the day you'll call to ask for something.. They'll be there.
Be smart about it.
6- Understand that you can't be everyone's friend
This is probably the most important
If it doesn't click with someone or the vibe with them is off
Simply move on.
If someone who used to be a friend became distant
Simply move on.
No one is essential, everyone is replaceable.
Use this to your advantage.
Even those who genuinely want to make more connections end up not knowing where to start or what to do.
Here are 6 ways to make more friends and get better socially.
1- Multiply new meetings
Get out there and meet people.
Call old friends and organize a meeting.
It sounds stupid but you make more friends if you don't meet people.
You can't possibly get better socially if you don't practice and put yourself in front of live situations.
2- Capitalize on your friends' friends:
The easiest way to meet new people is through your existing friends.
They probably know or hang out with people that are somewhat similar to them.
This saves you the trouble of approaching total strangers.
Plus you already have friends in common.
Having mutual friends eases the first approach and makes it way smoother.
You already have a common point to talk about (your mutual friend) so the conversation is more likely to have a starting point.
3- Focus on common points:
As mentioned above, the easiest way to make friends is focusing on what you have in common.
By doing so you explain to your interlocutor that they can feel safe while talking to you.
That because you explicitly let them know that you relate to them.
4- Suspend your judgement for a while:
Don't be too quick to judge.
Let people prove their worth but do not let pre-made ideas you might have of them define their value
Give people the time to show their true nature
Goes both positively and negatively
Gather enough info first
5- Take care of your relationships
Don't take anyone for granted.
It costs nothing to call them once in a while to see how they're doing.
If you do this often enough, you can make sure that the day you'll call to ask for something.. They'll be there.
Be smart about it.
6- Understand that you can't be everyone's friend
This is probably the most important
If it doesn't click with someone or the vibe with them is off
Simply move on.
If someone who used to be a friend became distant
Simply move on.
No one is essential, everyone is replaceable.
Use this to your advantage.
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Forwarded from The Powerhold
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There are few concepts that you need to understand in order to better understand how your brain operates.
If you can grasp how your mind and body work, you can get better at both dealing with yourself and dealing with others.
We're not so different after all.
With an accurate & higher sense of self-awareness, you can not only take control of your own behavior but also expect and forecast how others might react (& why).
Among those concepts, there are some that literally changed my life and how I see things:
- Conditioning & Learning by association (this allows you to develop healthy reflexes and reactions that you control)
- Neuro-linguistic Programming (more specifically anchoring, has to do with the above point), it allows you to associate body language with emotions, which alllows you to reverse engineer the emotions process.
- Brain waves & frequencies, which I've explained here many times
If you can grasp these concepts, you're one step ahead of not only most people but probably even ahead of yourself.
I'm sure many people don't see the correlation between those things, if you do stay winning G.
If you can grasp how your mind and body work, you can get better at both dealing with yourself and dealing with others.
We're not so different after all.
With an accurate & higher sense of self-awareness, you can not only take control of your own behavior but also expect and forecast how others might react (& why).
Among those concepts, there are some that literally changed my life and how I see things:
- Conditioning & Learning by association (this allows you to develop healthy reflexes and reactions that you control)
- Neuro-linguistic Programming (more specifically anchoring, has to do with the above point), it allows you to associate body language with emotions, which alllows you to reverse engineer the emotions process.
- Brain waves & frequencies, which I've explained here many times
If you can grasp these concepts, you're one step ahead of not only most people but probably even ahead of yourself.
I'm sure many people don't see the correlation between those things, if you do stay winning G.
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Have you ever asked yourself this question?
"Am I a giver or a taker?"
Because after all, this says a lot about us.
Not only does it say a lot about your relationship with others but it also says a lot about your relationship with yourself.
Let me explain something here.
The Taker:
Lacks. By definition.
The Taker lacks.
If he had all he needed he wouldn't be a taker.
This comes from a scarcity mindset.
The Giver:
Abundance. By definition again.
Or at least generosity.
The problem with Givers is that Takers exist and they can abuse their generosity.
If you had to choose, from a moral point of view, you'll probably pick being a Giver.
And I agree with you.
Again, your only challenge would be to not let malicious people abuse you.
The answer is simple.
Being a Giver brings you emotional stability and self-satisfaction.
But to avoid the drawbacks you must internalize the following concept:
"You can't give what you don't have."
"You shouldn't give against your will."
Now, these might just sound like platitudes.
But they're the first principles you should build your generosity on.
Otherwise, you expose yourself to the cunning and scheming taker.
This is why self-sufficiency is of paramount importance.
Your ability to be fully and completely independent from others is the key to the life you want.
Two years ago, I wrote How to Achieve Self-Sufficiency.
My first book ever.
Today I'm offering you 80% off it.
Because I truly believe many need the lessons inside it.
Get it here.
"Am I a giver or a taker?"
Because after all, this says a lot about us.
Not only does it say a lot about your relationship with others but it also says a lot about your relationship with yourself.
Let me explain something here.
The Taker:
Lacks. By definition.
The Taker lacks.
If he had all he needed he wouldn't be a taker.
This comes from a scarcity mindset.
The Giver:
Abundance. By definition again.
Or at least generosity.
The problem with Givers is that Takers exist and they can abuse their generosity.
If you had to choose, from a moral point of view, you'll probably pick being a Giver.
And I agree with you.
Again, your only challenge would be to not let malicious people abuse you.
The answer is simple.
Being a Giver brings you emotional stability and self-satisfaction.
But to avoid the drawbacks you must internalize the following concept:
"You can't give what you don't have."
"You shouldn't give against your will."
Now, these might just sound like platitudes.
But they're the first principles you should build your generosity on.
Otherwise, you expose yourself to the cunning and scheming taker.
This is why self-sufficiency is of paramount importance.
Your ability to be fully and completely independent from others is the key to the life you want.
Two years ago, I wrote How to Achieve Self-Sufficiency.
My first book ever.
Today I'm offering you 80% off it.
Because I truly believe many need the lessons inside it.
Get it here.
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Also, you only exist in your head.
Today's thread.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1556968905184264199
Today's thread.
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1556968905184264199
Twitter
You only exist in your head.
Thread.
Thread.
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EVERYTHING IS ABOUT INTERESTS.
Understand this and behave accordingly.
People will like you or dislike you depending on whether your interests diverge or converge.
Being socially skilled is about being respected and likable regardless of where your interests lie.
Understand this and behave accordingly.
People will like you or dislike you depending on whether your interests diverge or converge.
Being socially skilled is about being respected and likable regardless of where your interests lie.
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