I'm launching an affirmations program soon. Probably today.
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Basedonia™ - By E-go
I'm launching an affirmations program soon. Probably today.
There you go.
75% off until tomorrow.
75% off until tomorrow.
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Basedonia™ - By E-go
There you go. 75% off until tomorrow.
Reduced to 50% until tomorrow.
Does toxic self-love exist?
No fluff answer: No.
Long form answer:
If you allow people's thoughts to influence you and get to your head, then yes you'll perceive narcissism as toxic.
Now, if you truly are Self-focused then what others think of themselves is irrelevant.
Of course, when someone overestimates their abilities, it CAN become annoying for people around them.
But here is the thing, if you're bothered by what someone thinks of themselves, then you're comparing yourself to them.
Which is a no no.
Comparing yourself to anyone is a waste of time.
Realize that when you doubt someone:
YOU are being toxic.
Not them. YOU.
Because.. Why should you care?
Focus on proving your worth to yourself.
If you think they're wrong and delusional then it's their problem.
You can judge but it's not your place to tell anyone what to do.
Which applies in both ways.
Care about yourself, judge people for what they can offer you not how they see themselves.
Focus on your own interest.
The way they see themselves doesn't involve you.
And if they're comparing themselves to you, refer to the above. They're not narcissistic, they're insecure.
No fluff answer: No.
Long form answer:
If you allow people's thoughts to influence you and get to your head, then yes you'll perceive narcissism as toxic.
Now, if you truly are Self-focused then what others think of themselves is irrelevant.
Of course, when someone overestimates their abilities, it CAN become annoying for people around them.
But here is the thing, if you're bothered by what someone thinks of themselves, then you're comparing yourself to them.
Which is a no no.
Comparing yourself to anyone is a waste of time.
Realize that when you doubt someone:
YOU are being toxic.
Not them. YOU.
Because.. Why should you care?
Focus on proving your worth to yourself.
If you think they're wrong and delusional then it's their problem.
You can judge but it's not your place to tell anyone what to do.
Which applies in both ways.
Care about yourself, judge people for what they can offer you not how they see themselves.
Focus on your own interest.
The way they see themselves doesn't involve you.
And if they're comparing themselves to you, refer to the above. They're not narcissistic, they're insecure.
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Forwarded from The Masculine Sage
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If you do not value yourself no one else will.
This might sound like a platitude but it bears a lot more meaning.
Realize this:
You define how people treat you.
Not just through your actions but also through your words and overall vibe and energy.
If you fake valuing yourself while, deep inside, you think you're not worth it.
People will feel it.
People will understand it.
Give yourself reasons to value yourself.
Everything else will fall into place.
Everything depends on YOU.
Everything only depends on you.
This might sound like a platitude but it bears a lot more meaning.
Realize this:
You define how people treat you.
Not just through your actions but also through your words and overall vibe and energy.
If you fake valuing yourself while, deep inside, you think you're not worth it.
People will feel it.
People will understand it.
Give yourself reasons to value yourself.
Everything else will fall into place.
Everything depends on YOU.
Everything only depends on you.
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Today's thread.
PS: For those who don't use Twitter, I will be sending it as email later
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1549014556084736002
PS: For those who don't use Twitter, I will be sending it as email later
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1549014556084736002
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Wherever and whenever you’ll read about social skills you’ll be told some bullshit like Active listening & “set up your boundaries”, but the truth is the interesting part of social skills is the more complex & aggressive skills that most are too cowardly to talk about.
- Confrontation
If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.
The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.
The reason is that most lack the balls & courage to go to confrontation and will back down as soon as they sense resistance from you.
Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations. Many times, you will find yourself tempted to confront someone but the power dynamics will simply not allow it.
This takes us to our next point.
- Power Intelligence
Understand power dynamics and being able to grasp them at the first sight as an underrated skill that very few truly master. This not only allows you to better understand the people around you but also better understand the intrapersonal relationships between each of them.
Acquiring power intelligence and a better understanding of power dynamics will help you make the right moves, befriend the right people and most importantly: avoid you a lot of trouble while saving you time.
Because if you piss off the wrong people, things might get ugly for you. When instead, with a higher power intelligence and awareness, you could’ve befriended those guys and had them on your side.
- Quick Reponses
Someone who’s quick witted and always have the right answer ready is someone people avoid messing with. It is also a sign of high awareness of what’s happening around them and are as such never taken by surprise.
You might think that this ability is simply a gift to some people, but the truth is those people are simply more present and can see provocations and questions coming. This allows them to have a couple extra seconds in which they anticipate and prepare their answer.
Being quick witted in your answers is mainly about your awareness and anticipation skills; and it’s not that complicated.
A rule of thumb: The shorter the answer, the better.
The more you say, the less impactful your words are.
Leave it open for interpretation; always say less.
- Silence
If you can’t come up with a quick and short answer. Then silence is your ally.
The thing with silence is that it can be heavy and uncomfortable. The reason behind it is that most people are not used to silence and associate it with awkwardness.
If you can leverage this to your advantage, you can make sure to respond effectively without saying a single word.
Tip: If you’re going to impose silence, force eye contact.
- Reframing
When in arguments, conversations or debates, one of the most useful and effective techniques in communication and rhetoric is reframing.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
But the most important part of it consists of first demonstrating that the initial frame is wrong and inconsistent.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
But this can also be used on yourself.
Developing this way of thinking can help you reframe seemingly negative events into positive ones and change the way you see anything.
Reframing is an extremely power thinking process. If you can learn it, you will drastically improve your communication and reasoning abilities.
- Confrontation
If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.
The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.
The reason is that most lack the balls & courage to go to confrontation and will back down as soon as they sense resistance from you.
Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations. Many times, you will find yourself tempted to confront someone but the power dynamics will simply not allow it.
This takes us to our next point.
- Power Intelligence
Understand power dynamics and being able to grasp them at the first sight as an underrated skill that very few truly master. This not only allows you to better understand the people around you but also better understand the intrapersonal relationships between each of them.
Acquiring power intelligence and a better understanding of power dynamics will help you make the right moves, befriend the right people and most importantly: avoid you a lot of trouble while saving you time.
Because if you piss off the wrong people, things might get ugly for you. When instead, with a higher power intelligence and awareness, you could’ve befriended those guys and had them on your side.
- Quick Reponses
Someone who’s quick witted and always have the right answer ready is someone people avoid messing with. It is also a sign of high awareness of what’s happening around them and are as such never taken by surprise.
You might think that this ability is simply a gift to some people, but the truth is those people are simply more present and can see provocations and questions coming. This allows them to have a couple extra seconds in which they anticipate and prepare their answer.
Being quick witted in your answers is mainly about your awareness and anticipation skills; and it’s not that complicated.
A rule of thumb: The shorter the answer, the better.
The more you say, the less impactful your words are.
Leave it open for interpretation; always say less.
- Silence
If you can’t come up with a quick and short answer. Then silence is your ally.
The thing with silence is that it can be heavy and uncomfortable. The reason behind it is that most people are not used to silence and associate it with awkwardness.
If you can leverage this to your advantage, you can make sure to respond effectively without saying a single word.
Tip: If you’re going to impose silence, force eye contact.
- Reframing
When in arguments, conversations or debates, one of the most useful and effective techniques in communication and rhetoric is reframing.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
But the most important part of it consists of first demonstrating that the initial frame is wrong and inconsistent.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
But this can also be used on yourself.
Developing this way of thinking can help you reframe seemingly negative events into positive ones and change the way you see anything.
Reframing is an extremely power thinking process. If you can learn it, you will drastically improve your communication and reasoning abilities.
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Forwarded from Marv’s Tribe
Remembering your mortality is a powerful motivator -
Once you become acutely conscious of how fickle life is, you’ll never waste a single day...
Any day not utilized to becoming more loving, creative & self-actualized is a wasted day.
Ignorant people never hesitate to employ the saying “life is short” as an excuse to indulge hedonism.
Wise people use it as a reminder to never take their life for granted & and put it to good use.
Intensify your passion towards your purpose.
Also ensure that you care intensely for your loved ones. At the end people won’t care how hard you worked, but how hard you loved...
Once you become acutely conscious of how fickle life is, you’ll never waste a single day...
Any day not utilized to becoming more loving, creative & self-actualized is a wasted day.
Ignorant people never hesitate to employ the saying “life is short” as an excuse to indulge hedonism.
Wise people use it as a reminder to never take their life for granted & and put it to good use.
Intensify your passion towards your purpose.
Also ensure that you care intensely for your loved ones. At the end people won’t care how hard you worked, but how hard you loved...
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Forwarded from Northern Nephilim
How do you deal with this?
The solution to all passive aggressive manipulation is quite simple: IGNORE!
Pretend like you don’t notice the partner trying to ignore you. Do your work, and talk to them when you're done. If they exhibit said behavior, find something to do and completely ignore them.
Your friend calls you out for drinks and is waiting for you to pick up the bill, sense some entitlement there? IGNORE.
“The bartender said it costs xyz.”
‘OK.’
Don’t pay, wait and see what they do.
In both cases, you want to force the person to ‘STATE’ what they expect from you.
By coming clean, which they eventually have to if they want to reach the end goal, you can address the issue. If they refuse to come clean, then they’ll have to take care of said responsibility.
By complying with their whims and doing what they ‘EXPECT’ you ensure that the conversation is never had, and the issue is not addressed.
You’re essentially saying ‘I’ll do what you expect anytime you behave in this manner.’
You will be abused severely and continuously until you deal with the issue at hand, and the only way to do so is to force them to ‘bring it up.’
If they don’t, then fine, you don’t have to deal with the constant pressure they try to put on you.
The solution to all passive aggressive manipulation is quite simple: IGNORE!
Pretend like you don’t notice the partner trying to ignore you. Do your work, and talk to them when you're done. If they exhibit said behavior, find something to do and completely ignore them.
Your friend calls you out for drinks and is waiting for you to pick up the bill, sense some entitlement there? IGNORE.
“The bartender said it costs xyz.”
‘OK.’
Don’t pay, wait and see what they do.
In both cases, you want to force the person to ‘STATE’ what they expect from you.
By coming clean, which they eventually have to if they want to reach the end goal, you can address the issue. If they refuse to come clean, then they’ll have to take care of said responsibility.
By complying with their whims and doing what they ‘EXPECT’ you ensure that the conversation is never had, and the issue is not addressed.
You’re essentially saying ‘I’ll do what you expect anytime you behave in this manner.’
You will be abused severely and continuously until you deal with the issue at hand, and the only way to do so is to force them to ‘bring it up.’
If they don’t, then fine, you don’t have to deal with the constant pressure they try to put on you.
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Forwarded from Atlas' Majliss (۞ Atlas ۞)
False friends delight in your misfortunes.
The height of ecstasy for them is when they talk about it around them in order to push you down.
The problem is that it is often difficult to discern the real from the fake.
One technique I use regularly is to make false revelations about things that on the face of it would be embarrassing.
But I never give the same version. This allows me to know where the leak is coming from.
When the information goes around and comes back to me, I know who said what about me.
This technique allows me to clear out the weeds and keep only my most loyal friends.
The height of ecstasy for them is when they talk about it around them in order to push you down.
The problem is that it is often difficult to discern the real from the fake.
One technique I use regularly is to make false revelations about things that on the face of it would be embarrassing.
But I never give the same version. This allows me to know where the leak is coming from.
When the information goes around and comes back to me, I know who said what about me.
This technique allows me to clear out the weeds and keep only my most loyal friends.
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As requested, here is how to respond to non-verbal signs of dominance
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1549744873569488899
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1549744873569488899
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