Forwarded from Northern Nephilim
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Mark my words.
Mark my words.
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The real issue with Arrogance is not the self-confidence aspect but rather Complacency and Entitlement.
What truly makes you unbearable and a pain in the ass to everyone (including yourself) is not when you believe in yourself unconditionally.
It's when you expect everyone to think of you the same way and when you expect special treatment.
That's Entitlement.
But it's also when you stop trying to prove to yourself that you deserve your own trust. When you think you're perfect and can't get any better.
That too isn't self-confidence.
Its complacency.
How do you get the self-confidence without the other aspects?
It's simple.
(I often say It's simple, because almost everything is)
Consider these two ideas:
- I can be the best but I can always get better (complacency solved)
- Nobody owes me anything and I owe nothing to anybody.
Tip: These can be used as affirmations. Assuming you actually act on the advice I give here.
Enjoy your Tuesday ✌️🥂
What truly makes you unbearable and a pain in the ass to everyone (including yourself) is not when you believe in yourself unconditionally.
It's when you expect everyone to think of you the same way and when you expect special treatment.
That's Entitlement.
But it's also when you stop trying to prove to yourself that you deserve your own trust. When you think you're perfect and can't get any better.
That too isn't self-confidence.
Its complacency.
How do you get the self-confidence without the other aspects?
It's simple.
(I often say It's simple, because almost everything is)
Consider these two ideas:
- I can be the best but I can always get better (complacency solved)
- Nobody owes me anything and I owe nothing to anybody.
Tip: These can be used as affirmations. Assuming you actually act on the advice I give here.
Enjoy your Tuesday ✌️🥂
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Your relationship with yourself plays a huge role in your relationships with others.
It's not that if you hate yourself you'll hate everyone else and vice versa.
Not that if you love yourself you'll love everyone else either.
The truth is, the higher your self-awareness and Self-acceptance, the less you act and the more natural you behave.
This level of knowledge of yourself gets you appeasement as you know your reactions, your limits and have no issue expressing your boundaries.
This alone makes you more socially fluent.
I cannot stress this enough: your social skills only start improving when you fix your self-esteem.
If you are to fix your self-esteem, answer is in one word:
Self-awareness.
It's not that if you hate yourself you'll hate everyone else and vice versa.
Not that if you love yourself you'll love everyone else either.
The truth is, the higher your self-awareness and Self-acceptance, the less you act and the more natural you behave.
This level of knowledge of yourself gets you appeasement as you know your reactions, your limits and have no issue expressing your boundaries.
This alone makes you more socially fluent.
I cannot stress this enough: your social skills only start improving when you fix your self-esteem.
If you are to fix your self-esteem, answer is in one word:
Self-awareness.
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The thread that I'm writing now might be the best one I ever wrote.
Finally able to find words for what I always had in mind.
I will post it soon.
Finally able to find words for what I always had in mind.
I will post it soon.
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How to stop getting manipulated
It takes two to tango.
This statement is even more accurate when it comes to manipulation. Because a manipulation can only manipulate you if you give them leverage over you.
Some even go as far as labeling victims of manipulation as “enablers” in the sense that they allow the manipulation to happen.
As such, the power dynamics balance gets messed up and the manipulators capitalizes on the edge they have over you.
This is why it’s important to understand what leverages empower a manipulator in order to avoid giving it to them.
1- What Manipulators can Leverage:
In this part we’ll see what makes a manipulator target you rather than someone else and what helps them get leverage over you.
These are behaviors or traits that one should reduce or eliminate in order to avoid being manipulated.
A- People Pleasing:
This type of behavior is overall submissive and puts the manipulator in a natural position of power. Your tendency to want to please people will be used against you when faced with a manipulator.
Understand that manipulators do not seek fairness, they seek their own interests (as we will see further down); as such they have no intention of giving you back what you give them.
You’d be pouring water on sand. Useless.
B- Traumas & Fears:
This is a bit more complex to solve & protect but it works the same way. Manipulators will leverage your fear of rejection, abandonment and/or criticism.
This can be summed up in a fear of negative emotions (Emotophobia), which manipulators will use as a sword of Damocles over your head, always threatening to bring those emotions and trigger them.
There are 3 ways to deal with this:
- Tackle the root cause and get over it
- Limit how much you tell people about yourself
- Get Mental Warfare Strategies
C- Invitation to Manipulation:
A lack of self-esteem will lead you to lack assertiveness and be unable to say no. Once a manipulator realizes they can step on your toes without you reacting, they will push the disrespect and manipulative behavior further.
That’s why it’s important to take a stand for yourself and work your assertiveness & ability to refuse.
Here is a free book that will help you with that.
2- The Motives of a Manipulator:
Now that we know what they use against us, it’s important to understand why they do it to deal with them better.
Here are the 2 main motives behind manipulation.
- Self-Interest: Which is the most common motive. At the end of the day, what a manipulator wants is to get their way and reach their goals; no matter what it costs. In a way, this is the least harmful manipulation, because it’s not about abusing the target of manipulation. Most of the time, this type of manipulation is unconscious.
- Power addicts: Oppositely, this is the most dangerous type of motives behind manipulation because the goal is not to simply achieve a goal but to maintain an unbalanced relationship with the target. In such cases, the manipulation can be conscious and intentional, which breeds an unhealthy and toxic relationship where the target is constantly under pressure.
3 - Anti-Manipulation:
The essence of anti-manipulation is learning the mechanisms of manipulation and deciding not to use them.
In fact, what matters most is your awareness of their motives and leverages and refusing to play the manipulation game.
What this does is cancel the efforts of the manipulator and make them think that their tricks are not working.
Remember: Manipulators are cowards, that’s why they’re deceptive. If you stand up for yourself, they will back down.
It takes two to tango.
This statement is even more accurate when it comes to manipulation. Because a manipulation can only manipulate you if you give them leverage over you.
Some even go as far as labeling victims of manipulation as “enablers” in the sense that they allow the manipulation to happen.
As such, the power dynamics balance gets messed up and the manipulators capitalizes on the edge they have over you.
This is why it’s important to understand what leverages empower a manipulator in order to avoid giving it to them.
1- What Manipulators can Leverage:
In this part we’ll see what makes a manipulator target you rather than someone else and what helps them get leverage over you.
These are behaviors or traits that one should reduce or eliminate in order to avoid being manipulated.
A- People Pleasing:
This type of behavior is overall submissive and puts the manipulator in a natural position of power. Your tendency to want to please people will be used against you when faced with a manipulator.
Understand that manipulators do not seek fairness, they seek their own interests (as we will see further down); as such they have no intention of giving you back what you give them.
You’d be pouring water on sand. Useless.
B- Traumas & Fears:
This is a bit more complex to solve & protect but it works the same way. Manipulators will leverage your fear of rejection, abandonment and/or criticism.
This can be summed up in a fear of negative emotions (Emotophobia), which manipulators will use as a sword of Damocles over your head, always threatening to bring those emotions and trigger them.
There are 3 ways to deal with this:
- Tackle the root cause and get over it
- Limit how much you tell people about yourself
- Get Mental Warfare Strategies
C- Invitation to Manipulation:
A lack of self-esteem will lead you to lack assertiveness and be unable to say no. Once a manipulator realizes they can step on your toes without you reacting, they will push the disrespect and manipulative behavior further.
That’s why it’s important to take a stand for yourself and work your assertiveness & ability to refuse.
Here is a free book that will help you with that.
2- The Motives of a Manipulator:
Now that we know what they use against us, it’s important to understand why they do it to deal with them better.
Here are the 2 main motives behind manipulation.
- Self-Interest: Which is the most common motive. At the end of the day, what a manipulator wants is to get their way and reach their goals; no matter what it costs. In a way, this is the least harmful manipulation, because it’s not about abusing the target of manipulation. Most of the time, this type of manipulation is unconscious.
- Power addicts: Oppositely, this is the most dangerous type of motives behind manipulation because the goal is not to simply achieve a goal but to maintain an unbalanced relationship with the target. In such cases, the manipulation can be conscious and intentional, which breeds an unhealthy and toxic relationship where the target is constantly under pressure.
3 - Anti-Manipulation:
The essence of anti-manipulation is learning the mechanisms of manipulation and deciding not to use them.
In fact, what matters most is your awareness of their motives and leverages and refusing to play the manipulation game.
What this does is cancel the efforts of the manipulator and make them think that their tricks are not working.
Remember: Manipulators are cowards, that’s why they’re deceptive. If you stand up for yourself, they will back down.
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Announcement:
I am working on a self-confidence program (different from my Self-Sufficiency program).
It should take a month to finish.
Whoever is inside SSU will get it for free.
I am working on a self-confidence program (different from my Self-Sufficiency program).
It should take a month to finish.
Whoever is inside SSU will get it for free.
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Forwarded from Masculine Tribe (The Masculine Sage)
Talks travel.
Whatever you tell your friend, he tells a little modified version of it to his friend.
And the cycle goes on.
And the chances of these talks spreading with a negative vibe is much more.
This will result in people not valuing you enough and treating you ill.
Avoid this.
You are strong only until someone slips inside your mind and attacks from inside.
Whatever you tell your friend, he tells a little modified version of it to his friend.
And the cycle goes on.
And the chances of these talks spreading with a negative vibe is much more.
This will result in people not valuing you enough and treating you ill.
Avoid this.
You are strong only until someone slips inside your mind and attacks from inside.
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Forwarded from Masculine Tribe (The Masculine Sage)
The average you see walking around talks too much.
Thus he gives away too much information about him making himself vulnerable to all sorts of mental attacks.
Now the question arises, how to protect yourself and get immune to all these vulnerabilities.
If you genuinely want ro fix this
Get Mental Warfare strategies from by Atlas and Ego driven.
These gentlemen know their things in manipulation and anti manipulation.
Get it here and fortify your mind
https://gumroad.com/a/8311923/zYMLlg
Thus he gives away too much information about him making himself vulnerable to all sorts of mental attacks.
Now the question arises, how to protect yourself and get immune to all these vulnerabilities.
If you genuinely want ro fix this
Get Mental Warfare strategies from by Atlas and Ego driven.
These gentlemen know their things in manipulation and anti manipulation.
Get it here and fortify your mind
https://gumroad.com/a/8311923/zYMLlg
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Mental Warfare Strategies
Do you know all the intimidation techniques manipulators use as last resort? E-go Driven and Atlas expose them all and more:Mental Warfare Strategies Exposes 27 Manipulation Strategies That Might B...
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Today's thread (full article is on SSU for those who want to learn more on the topic)
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1544309783993384960
https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1544309783993384960
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