Symptoms VS Root cause
This is something a lot of people miss out on.
Problems have causes.
Problems have consequences.
In order to properly solve a problem, you must solve both the symptoms (current issues) and the root cause (previous issues).
This is something you learn in medical school.
Illnesses are treated at two levels, making the pain go away and treating the cause of the pain.
This can be extrapolated to your real life problems.
Treating symptoms will get your a temporary solution, treating the root cause will help you avoid encountering such problems again.
Lets say you suffer from social anxiety.
One way to make the pain go away is by leaving stressful situations or keeping your circle small and trustworthy.
But is it helping on the long run?
Of course not.
You might feel better right then.
But you will feel socially anxious again and again and again.
Issues like social anxiety are results of unresolved trauma.
In short, you should point out the cause and solve it first. This will allow you to better handle the consequences and side effects.
Luckily things like Social anxiety are not as serious or dangerous as a health issue like let's say cancer.
Would a guy with lung cancer get rid of it if they keep smoking while doing chemotherapy?
Again, of course not.
Solve the root cause.
Treat the symptoms.
Don't half-ass problem-solving.
This is something a lot of people miss out on.
Problems have causes.
Problems have consequences.
In order to properly solve a problem, you must solve both the symptoms (current issues) and the root cause (previous issues).
This is something you learn in medical school.
Illnesses are treated at two levels, making the pain go away and treating the cause of the pain.
This can be extrapolated to your real life problems.
Treating symptoms will get your a temporary solution, treating the root cause will help you avoid encountering such problems again.
Lets say you suffer from social anxiety.
One way to make the pain go away is by leaving stressful situations or keeping your circle small and trustworthy.
But is it helping on the long run?
Of course not.
You might feel better right then.
But you will feel socially anxious again and again and again.
Issues like social anxiety are results of unresolved trauma.
In short, you should point out the cause and solve it first. This will allow you to better handle the consequences and side effects.
Luckily things like Social anxiety are not as serious or dangerous as a health issue like let's say cancer.
Would a guy with lung cancer get rid of it if they keep smoking while doing chemotherapy?
Again, of course not.
Solve the root cause.
Treat the symptoms.
Don't half-ass problem-solving.
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Forwarded from Verissimus
The greater your sensitivity to feel the emotions
The more vulnerable you become
It does not mean you should abandon your emotions
It means you understand and realise the above listed so you do whatever is necessary to prevent manipulation from occurring in the first place.
The more vulnerable you become
It does not mean you should abandon your emotions
It means you understand and realise the above listed so you do whatever is necessary to prevent manipulation from occurring in the first place.
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Social Skills & Flexibility: Let's have some practice today.
As I’ve said before, there are very few social skills frameworks that can be applied everywhere.
One of the core aspects of social skills is that they require flexibility and adaptation.
As in any other human endeavor, balance is of the essence.
Yes, being disagreeable helps you build your confidence and assert yourself.
But it can also harm your interpersonal relationships.
Yes, being too agreeable can harm your self-esteem and impact your social value.
But it can also help you deal with complicated situations.
Another example would be the pace at which you speak; while speaking slow is generally more pleasing to listen to, it can sometimes be a hinderance and negatively impact your eloquence.
I can go on with examples until you get bored of it, but I wont because at this point I suppose you get the idea.
One of the definitions of intelligence is the ability to adapt to situations (if you got the Ego Laws, you probably listen to the audio called the River analogy where I explain the importance of being flexible and adapt to the situations at hand rather than always counting on your knowledge and experience)
My point is there is a need for a process of trial and error for you to acquire the necessary level of experience that will make you more versatile and flexible.
Also, if you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’m against labeling yourself as an introvert or extrovert and this is one of the reasons behind it.
There is a middle point called being an ambivert.
If you read Carl Jung; you understand that even to him (the man who came up with the introversion/extraversion spectrum), most people are ambiverts with either introvert or extroverted tendencies.
Meaning that versatility is already part of you.
You simply have been nurturing one side over the other.
This takes us to the concept of comfort zone, which is an enemy to the development of your social skills.
If you are to be versatile, adaptable and flexible; you need to develop the habit of experiencing new things and going out of the way you feel comfortable in.
Enough theory, right?
How about some practice?
I have an exercise for you.
Hold a 10 minutes conversation with a stranger.
You don’t know them, you have no idea what interests them and you probably have no idea how to approach them.
Great.
Because this will allow you to put into practice what you already know and adapt it to someone you’re probably never going to see again in your life.
This will build up your confidence once done.
But this will also help you develop your flexibility.
As you talk to them, you will try and adapt what you know to how the conversation is going.
I know most of you won’t do it.
To those who do: This is your competition.
People who are too afraid to talk to someone they don’t know.
Now realize that people don’t bite and you can have a social skills edge if you simply try more often.
As I’ve said before, there are very few social skills frameworks that can be applied everywhere.
One of the core aspects of social skills is that they require flexibility and adaptation.
As in any other human endeavor, balance is of the essence.
Yes, being disagreeable helps you build your confidence and assert yourself.
But it can also harm your interpersonal relationships.
Yes, being too agreeable can harm your self-esteem and impact your social value.
But it can also help you deal with complicated situations.
Another example would be the pace at which you speak; while speaking slow is generally more pleasing to listen to, it can sometimes be a hinderance and negatively impact your eloquence.
I can go on with examples until you get bored of it, but I wont because at this point I suppose you get the idea.
One of the definitions of intelligence is the ability to adapt to situations (if you got the Ego Laws, you probably listen to the audio called the River analogy where I explain the importance of being flexible and adapt to the situations at hand rather than always counting on your knowledge and experience)
My point is there is a need for a process of trial and error for you to acquire the necessary level of experience that will make you more versatile and flexible.
Also, if you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’m against labeling yourself as an introvert or extrovert and this is one of the reasons behind it.
There is a middle point called being an ambivert.
If you read Carl Jung; you understand that even to him (the man who came up with the introversion/extraversion spectrum), most people are ambiverts with either introvert or extroverted tendencies.
Meaning that versatility is already part of you.
You simply have been nurturing one side over the other.
This takes us to the concept of comfort zone, which is an enemy to the development of your social skills.
If you are to be versatile, adaptable and flexible; you need to develop the habit of experiencing new things and going out of the way you feel comfortable in.
Enough theory, right?
How about some practice?
I have an exercise for you.
Hold a 10 minutes conversation with a stranger.
You don’t know them, you have no idea what interests them and you probably have no idea how to approach them.
Great.
Because this will allow you to put into practice what you already know and adapt it to someone you’re probably never going to see again in your life.
This will build up your confidence once done.
But this will also help you develop your flexibility.
As you talk to them, you will try and adapt what you know to how the conversation is going.
I know most of you won’t do it.
To those who do: This is your competition.
People who are too afraid to talk to someone they don’t know.
Now realize that people don’t bite and you can have a social skills edge if you simply try more often.
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Persuasion and Rhetoric Lesson.
What if you could reshape and mold people's thoughts?
What if you could redefine their beliefs?
What I'm about to explain and introduce is one of the most powerful conversational skills you could ever develop.
The ability to Reframe.
It is often use by lawyers (to convince the jury) or by Spiritual "gurus" and cult leaders to exercise mind control over their cult members.
You know who else does it? The media and governments.
Reframing is undeniably a powerful tool but it's also a dangerous one.
But as I always say, how you use the information in my posts is up to you and none of my business.
Anyway.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
But the most important part of it consists of first demonstrating that the initial frame is wrong and inconsistent.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
It is extremely difficult to explain a concept like Reframing.
It's been a while that I've wanted to talk about this and I finally did.
I will get more in depth in this topic in an article in SSU.
Thought I'd introduce the idea to you:
Be careful of people who twist and manipulate facts.
What if you could reshape and mold people's thoughts?
What if you could redefine their beliefs?
What I'm about to explain and introduce is one of the most powerful conversational skills you could ever develop.
The ability to Reframe.
It is often use by lawyers (to convince the jury) or by Spiritual "gurus" and cult leaders to exercise mind control over their cult members.
You know who else does it? The media and governments.
Reframing is undeniably a powerful tool but it's also a dangerous one.
But as I always say, how you use the information in my posts is up to you and none of my business.
Anyway.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
But the most important part of it consists of first demonstrating that the initial frame is wrong and inconsistent.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
It is extremely difficult to explain a concept like Reframing.
It's been a while that I've wanted to talk about this and I finally did.
I will get more in depth in this topic in an article in SSU.
Thought I'd introduce the idea to you:
Be careful of people who twist and manipulate facts.
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If you're on the SSU waitlist, the first email contains a broken link.
Open the second one, I corrected it.
Apologies for the inconvenience
Open the second one, I corrected it.
Apologies for the inconvenience
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Basedonia™ - By E-go
So... Today ?
Guess not, but anyway.
Giveaway tomorrow at 7PM (GMT+1)
As usual, first come first served.
If you've been in Basedonia for a while, you know they go away in seconds. So be there on time.
Giveaway tomorrow at 7PM (GMT+1)
As usual, first come first served.
If you've been in Basedonia for a while, you know they go away in seconds. So be there on time.
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As we have a lot of new members, let me explain how the giveaway works.
This way nobody gets frustrated.
I will send 4 messages with free links.
The first at 7PM, contains 6 lifetime memberships for SSU.
The second at 7:05, contains 6 free access to my program.
The third at 7:10, contains 25 free copies of my book.
The 4th at 7:15, contains 25 free copies of the E-go laws.
Please I insist on this:
Don't be greedy.
If you get one of the products for free, let someone else take the rest.
Don't take all 4.
Let this be fair please.
Last note:
In the previous giveaways, copies go in a matter of seconds. I'm serious, even if you click on it right when I post, you might not be fast enough.
I will not be adding additional free copies.
This way nobody gets frustrated.
I will send 4 messages with free links.
The first at 7PM, contains 6 lifetime memberships for SSU.
The second at 7:05, contains 6 free access to my program.
The third at 7:10, contains 25 free copies of my book.
The 4th at 7:15, contains 25 free copies of the E-go laws.
Please I insist on this:
Don't be greedy.
If you get one of the products for free, let someone else take the rest.
Don't take all 4.
Let this be fair please.
Last note:
In the previous giveaways, copies go in a matter of seconds. I'm serious, even if you click on it right when I post, you might not be fast enough.
I will not be adding additional free copies.
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