Anti-Manipulation is a complex topic.
Complex because in order to protect yourself from manipulation, you must first learn manipulation techniques.
Figure out how they do it so you can prevent it.
And when you do, it will be tempting to use it to get your way.
But once you understand how weak it is and unhealthy for your relationships, you will make the right choice.
The right choice being: working on your people skills.
That is the alternative to manipulation.
You can either be charming but deceptive.
or
You can be convincing and genuine.
This is why assertiveness is the core component of social skills.
That's the alternative to being manipulative.
You can get your way with people without burning bridges.
Being someone enjoyable, likeable without being a people pleaser nor a manipulator.
It is not that hard.
First you must control your own emotions.
They will be used against you.
Learn to be aware of them, control how they emerge and prevent people from using them to your detriment.
Second, you must learn how manipulators operate and cut out anyone who is poisoning your life.
Third, you must be able to assert yourself and impose your presence without using manipulation.
This is the process Ego Driven has been trying to teach you.
This is what being mentally balanced and nurturing healthy relationships sound like.
Confidence. Assertiveness. Genuineness.
You can have the best of both worlds.
Complex because in order to protect yourself from manipulation, you must first learn manipulation techniques.
Figure out how they do it so you can prevent it.
And when you do, it will be tempting to use it to get your way.
But once you understand how weak it is and unhealthy for your relationships, you will make the right choice.
The right choice being: working on your people skills.
That is the alternative to manipulation.
You can either be charming but deceptive.
or
You can be convincing and genuine.
This is why assertiveness is the core component of social skills.
That's the alternative to being manipulative.
You can get your way with people without burning bridges.
Being someone enjoyable, likeable without being a people pleaser nor a manipulator.
It is not that hard.
First you must control your own emotions.
They will be used against you.
Learn to be aware of them, control how they emerge and prevent people from using them to your detriment.
Second, you must learn how manipulators operate and cut out anyone who is poisoning your life.
Third, you must be able to assert yourself and impose your presence without using manipulation.
This is the process Ego Driven has been trying to teach you.
This is what being mentally balanced and nurturing healthy relationships sound like.
Confidence. Assertiveness. Genuineness.
You can have the best of both worlds.
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Evil Saint will also be part of the team for Social Skills University
Read more from him, he's an excellent writer.
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Read more from him, he's an excellent writer.
https://twitter.com/sanctemalum/status/1531241788480049153
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Forwarded from HOOA
Just because you live a normal life does not mean you are not in an ever present warzone where you’re being manipulated left and right on a daily basis.
You have “friends”.
You have “family”
You have “bros”
FOH, exceptions excluded ofc, statistics and empirical evidence however shows it’s not in Your Favor – There is a Snake in your Squad, as we speak.
People tell you just live your life, just focus on yourself, and do good.
Be good. Be kind, and positive, and have higher vibe goals, and people will flock to you.
Ofc, there is No denying that.
However was Eden not perfect? Was it not Good? Did the Snake not come?
EVIL is always there, lurking around the corner.
Just because you dont see the Snake doesnt mean he’s not there…
To be honest, most are not to blame, its modernism, the Zeitgeist that we are in, the direction society is heading. All that.
This just gives a f up programming, which is psyopping you, day by day.
Again, they are telling you stuff THEY Think to be True; doesnt mean it is … I roll with guys who are either Extremely against this - Anti Manipulators, or Manipulators themselves (for a living) - to help themselves, ofc, and those around them.
People are selfish ASF; and they just Get That.
So do I tbh. Betrayals keep piling up as I ascend, thats why Im candid asf with this message right now. It might come across as pressing, unnerving, antsy, full tilt - It’s because it is.
Ngl, if these were Duel Times, Id duel the F outta some churls, just to eradicate them from my eyesight..
However these are not the Times that We live in .. you gotta go about it slightly different. More indirect. More longterm. More calculated. Tactful.
And Remember, ALL because They started it.
Remember, THEY wanted this. They start the fight. You finish it.
Again, no pro myself, have my scars and what not, but I defer you to my brothers in arms in the mental warfare.
They know more about these things than I do.
What we talked about always has to do with programming. Now to root out the bad programming, that’s gonna take either of two things. Legit:
1 Complete Mental RESET, DEPROGRAMMING. Like Im talking Blank Sleight CLEAN.
However this might be a tad Too Lofty for some, to start.
I advise, Option 2: fill up your software with some mental warfare strategies.
Again, make no mistake about it. From the very second you wake up, have a moment to yourself, quick fresh up, quick kiss goodbye to the spouse, or your morning coffee and or smoke - AFTER THAT - Warfare is on.
Ngl, every Single Time I think Life is going to Let up…it does Not, it does the Exact OPPOSITE and Piles down the Pressure.
And this is why I’m sharing this with you today.
War is going on. Lots of sneaky manipulating bastards out there. They think they the sh, but they are not.
We need Warriors in this fight.
Am just here a humble Quartermaster trying to arm you against them, in your day to day battles.
Godspeed and here’s your access to the Armory:
https://gumroad.com/a/461790323
You have “friends”.
You have “family”
You have “bros”
FOH, exceptions excluded ofc, statistics and empirical evidence however shows it’s not in Your Favor – There is a Snake in your Squad, as we speak.
People tell you just live your life, just focus on yourself, and do good.
Be good. Be kind, and positive, and have higher vibe goals, and people will flock to you.
Ofc, there is No denying that.
However was Eden not perfect? Was it not Good? Did the Snake not come?
EVIL is always there, lurking around the corner.
Just because you dont see the Snake doesnt mean he’s not there…
To be honest, most are not to blame, its modernism, the Zeitgeist that we are in, the direction society is heading. All that.
This just gives a f up programming, which is psyopping you, day by day.
Again, they are telling you stuff THEY Think to be True; doesnt mean it is … I roll with guys who are either Extremely against this - Anti Manipulators, or Manipulators themselves (for a living) - to help themselves, ofc, and those around them.
People are selfish ASF; and they just Get That.
So do I tbh. Betrayals keep piling up as I ascend, thats why Im candid asf with this message right now. It might come across as pressing, unnerving, antsy, full tilt - It’s because it is.
Ngl, if these were Duel Times, Id duel the F outta some churls, just to eradicate them from my eyesight..
However these are not the Times that We live in .. you gotta go about it slightly different. More indirect. More longterm. More calculated. Tactful.
And Remember, ALL because They started it.
Remember, THEY wanted this. They start the fight. You finish it.
Again, no pro myself, have my scars and what not, but I defer you to my brothers in arms in the mental warfare.
They know more about these things than I do.
What we talked about always has to do with programming. Now to root out the bad programming, that’s gonna take either of two things. Legit:
1 Complete Mental RESET, DEPROGRAMMING. Like Im talking Blank Sleight CLEAN.
However this might be a tad Too Lofty for some, to start.
I advise, Option 2: fill up your software with some mental warfare strategies.
Again, make no mistake about it. From the very second you wake up, have a moment to yourself, quick fresh up, quick kiss goodbye to the spouse, or your morning coffee and or smoke - AFTER THAT - Warfare is on.
Ngl, every Single Time I think Life is going to Let up…it does Not, it does the Exact OPPOSITE and Piles down the Pressure.
And this is why I’m sharing this with you today.
War is going on. Lots of sneaky manipulating bastards out there. They think they the sh, but they are not.
We need Warriors in this fight.
Am just here a humble Quartermaster trying to arm you against them, in your day to day battles.
Godspeed and here’s your access to the Armory:
https://gumroad.com/a/461790323
Gumroad
Mental Warfare Strategies
Do you know all the intimidation techniques manipulators use as last resort? E-go Driven and Atlas expose them all and more:Mental Warfare Strategies Exposes 27 Manipulation Strategies That Might B...
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How to stop being too nice without becoming an asshole?
1- Work on your assertiveness
2- Learn to say no (with a smile)
3- Enforce your boundaries
4- Don’t let people chose for you
5- Get rid of doubtful speech (I think, I believe, Maybe etc…)
6- Accept disagreements
7- Be ready for confrontation
8- Stop justifying yourself
9- Help when you feel like it not when you're asked to
10- Impose two-way transaction, dont give selflessly to everyone
I will expand on this in today's thread.
1- Work on your assertiveness
2- Learn to say no (with a smile)
3- Enforce your boundaries
4- Don’t let people chose for you
5- Get rid of doubtful speech (I think, I believe, Maybe etc…)
6- Accept disagreements
7- Be ready for confrontation
8- Stop justifying yourself
9- Help when you feel like it not when you're asked to
10- Impose two-way transaction, dont give selflessly to everyone
I will expand on this in today's thread.
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"Let them talk" isn't always applicable.
Sometimes, letting someone talk is the worst thing you can do.
Manipulators thrive on leading the conversation, they frame things the way they want and enforce dominance through words.
Yes, when meeting someone new or flirting with someone, you want them to do the talking.
Yes, being an active listener is a great social skills.
BUT.
Because there is always a but.
Always a nuance to grasp.
Some people will bomb you with information to confuse you.
They will use sweet words to make you let your guard down.
They might be enjoyable to listen to.
But don't let anyone confuse you with words.
Read through their bullshit.
Always ask yourself one thing:
"What's the underlying intention"
But you don't want to become paranoid, so understand that very often people intention is to seek your approval and validation.
Not the case for manipulators, most of the time.
What a manipulator wants is to impress you.
It goes beyond validation.
They want you to validate an image of themselves that isn't really who they are.
If that doesn't make sense, let me explain.
A manipulator wants to impress because he wants to take an ascendant position, be the dominant side of the relationship.
So they will brag and use other techniques like name dropping to impress you.
What they're really doing is shaping your perception of them.
They're making sure that you think of them what they want you to think of them.
Question:
How do I spot such people?
Here are some tips:
- They always have an answer to everything. Whatever you've experienced, they've experience better according to them. Nothing impresses them.
- They will cut you off. They're too self-centered to listen to you. Listening to you isn't their priority. So they won't hesitate to talk over you.
- They might lie. But this is basic so I won't get too much into it.
Sometimes, letting someone talk is the worst thing you can do.
Manipulators thrive on leading the conversation, they frame things the way they want and enforce dominance through words.
Yes, when meeting someone new or flirting with someone, you want them to do the talking.
Yes, being an active listener is a great social skills.
BUT.
Because there is always a but.
Always a nuance to grasp.
Some people will bomb you with information to confuse you.
They will use sweet words to make you let your guard down.
They might be enjoyable to listen to.
But don't let anyone confuse you with words.
Read through their bullshit.
Always ask yourself one thing:
"What's the underlying intention"
But you don't want to become paranoid, so understand that very often people intention is to seek your approval and validation.
Not the case for manipulators, most of the time.
What a manipulator wants is to impress you.
It goes beyond validation.
They want you to validate an image of themselves that isn't really who they are.
If that doesn't make sense, let me explain.
A manipulator wants to impress because he wants to take an ascendant position, be the dominant side of the relationship.
So they will brag and use other techniques like name dropping to impress you.
What they're really doing is shaping your perception of them.
They're making sure that you think of them what they want you to think of them.
Question:
How do I spot such people?
Here are some tips:
- They always have an answer to everything. Whatever you've experienced, they've experience better according to them. Nothing impresses them.
- They will cut you off. They're too self-centered to listen to you. Listening to you isn't their priority. So they won't hesitate to talk over you.
- They might lie. But this is basic so I won't get too much into it.
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Forwarded from Will E
Spot on. There are also manipulators who try to weaponize your sympathy and pity. They'll play the "I need you right now" card or "There's no other option," and they'll try to to convince you by making you feel bad.
So instead of trying to impress you they'll try to shame you, even "unintentionally."
But they're still a manipulator and everything else still applies.
So instead of trying to impress you they'll try to shame you, even "unintentionally."
But they're still a manipulator and everything else still applies.
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Emotional control is POSSIBLE.
It's even necessary.
The least control you have over your emotions, the more they will be used against you.
It does not mean that you stop feeling, it doesn't mean that you become numb and detached from everything.
It simply means that you chose what affects you and what doesn't.
Most of the time, things that bring us negative emotions fall into one of two categories:
- It's either not worth it and irrelevant in the long run.
OR
- It's uncontrollable and cannot be changed; aka out of your control.
If it's the first, you only need a conscious decision to stop worrying about it.
If it's the second then what choice do you really have?
Learn two things: TO MOVE ON & TO JUST ACCEPT WHAT CANT BE CHANGED.
Move on from the former, accept the latter.
Eventually it simply comes down to your ability to consciously rationalize your emotions and decide whether the emotion you're feeling is of positive impact on your life or not.
If positive emotions are to be felt and enjoyed.
Negative emotions on the other hand are to be transmuted for the greater good.
Your own greater good.
It's even necessary.
The least control you have over your emotions, the more they will be used against you.
It does not mean that you stop feeling, it doesn't mean that you become numb and detached from everything.
It simply means that you chose what affects you and what doesn't.
Most of the time, things that bring us negative emotions fall into one of two categories:
- It's either not worth it and irrelevant in the long run.
OR
- It's uncontrollable and cannot be changed; aka out of your control.
If it's the first, you only need a conscious decision to stop worrying about it.
If it's the second then what choice do you really have?
Learn two things: TO MOVE ON & TO JUST ACCEPT WHAT CANT BE CHANGED.
Move on from the former, accept the latter.
Eventually it simply comes down to your ability to consciously rationalize your emotions and decide whether the emotion you're feeling is of positive impact on your life or not.
If positive emotions are to be felt and enjoyed.
Negative emotions on the other hand are to be transmuted for the greater good.
Your own greater good.
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Nobody truly lacks social skills. There are very rare exceptions.
Reframe it in your mind.
Don't tell yourself that you lack social skills.
Find the root problem.
What is it ?
The problem: You simply have an excess of fear.
A negative emotion poorly channeled that causes you to limit yourself.
You don't lack social skills, you're just afraid of trying.
Reframe it in your mind.
Don't tell yourself that you lack social skills.
Find the root problem.
What is it ?
The problem: You simply have an excess of fear.
A negative emotion poorly channeled that causes you to limit yourself.
You don't lack social skills, you're just afraid of trying.
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GM.
I'll be uploading another short audiobook to the 12 Laws of E-go later today.
No price increase this time.
Enjoy
I'll be uploading another short audiobook to the 12 Laws of E-go later today.
No price increase this time.
Enjoy
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Anti-manipulation and paranoia
This is one big risks for learning Anti-manipulation or even having a slight interest in the topic.
This is a disclaimer.
Be careful.
Genuineness does exist,
Do not fall into paranoia, not everybody is purposefully trying to manipulate you.
Again, most manipulation is unconscious and comes as a strategy for someone to get what they want.
Almost nobody thinks: I'm gonna manipulate this dude.
Those who do it knowingly are sick.
Does it mean those who do it unknowingly can't be considered manipulators?
Wrong.
Knowingly or not, manipulation is manipulation.
Anti-manipulation on the other hand, is mainly about protecting yourself, sporting manipulation attempts and avoiding them or canceling them all together.
Ways to do this depend on many things, including situation and the techniques used.
Not all manipulation is dealt with the same way.
There is no "absolute" rule or framework to properly respond to manipulation.
It is a set of skills that you need to acquire that will make it easier for you to deal with manipulators but not only.
In fact, learning anti-manipulation, will considerably improve your overall social skills and sense for details.
It will sharpen you, but under one condition:
Do not fall into paranoia.
Learn to recognize and create safe space that allow you to let your guard down occasionally.
You cannot be on the lookout 24/7.
This is also why the surest way to practice Anti-manipulation is by practicing your social skills.
Making your reactions to manipulation almost innate and natural.
Not forced.
I hope you understand the nuance.
To do the above mentioned, SSU will be extremely helpful.
That was the good news.
The extremely good news is that I will be giving away 100 free lifetime memberships to Basedonia.
Have a blessed weekend.
I won't be posting tomorrow.
This is one big risks for learning Anti-manipulation or even having a slight interest in the topic.
This is a disclaimer.
Be careful.
Genuineness does exist,
Do not fall into paranoia, not everybody is purposefully trying to manipulate you.
Again, most manipulation is unconscious and comes as a strategy for someone to get what they want.
Almost nobody thinks: I'm gonna manipulate this dude.
Those who do it knowingly are sick.
Does it mean those who do it unknowingly can't be considered manipulators?
Wrong.
Knowingly or not, manipulation is manipulation.
Anti-manipulation on the other hand, is mainly about protecting yourself, sporting manipulation attempts and avoiding them or canceling them all together.
Ways to do this depend on many things, including situation and the techniques used.
Not all manipulation is dealt with the same way.
There is no "absolute" rule or framework to properly respond to manipulation.
It is a set of skills that you need to acquire that will make it easier for you to deal with manipulators but not only.
In fact, learning anti-manipulation, will considerably improve your overall social skills and sense for details.
It will sharpen you, but under one condition:
Do not fall into paranoia.
Learn to recognize and create safe space that allow you to let your guard down occasionally.
You cannot be on the lookout 24/7.
This is also why the surest way to practice Anti-manipulation is by practicing your social skills.
Making your reactions to manipulation almost innate and natural.
Not forced.
I hope you understand the nuance.
To do the above mentioned, SSU will be extremely helpful.
That was the good news.
The extremely good news is that I will be giving away 100 free lifetime memberships to Basedonia.
Have a blessed weekend.
I won't be posting tomorrow.
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Side note: I'll be increasing the price of the program from 77 to 197 on Monday. Best time to get it was last year when it was at 35. The second best time is the next 48h.
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