On Social Skills:

There is a fine nuance that most don't get.

Being socially skills is not (only) about imposing your presence.

In fact, social intelligence is the ability to get what you want.

Even if it sometimes means making concessions.

For you to make people do what you wish them to do, you need to be ready to make compromises and accept that not everything will go exactly as planned.

What might seem like loser behavior at first, is simply practice. With time you won't need to do that kind of stuff again.

What I'm talking about is exercises like talking to strangers, practicing facial expressions in front of a mirror etc..

That's not what naturally socially skilled people do.

But that's the way around it if it's not innate to you.

You have to practice and do things you think are pointless.

The concept of social value is a very complex thing.

It's filled with paradoxes and opposing approaches.

There are so many ways to increase your social value.

But I believe the best approaches to be the ones that do not require you to negatively impact your self-esteem and personal boundaries.

You could be a people pleaser with high social value

You could be a strong character with very low social value

Too many parameters come into play

My goal is to solve this and make it simple through Social Skills University.

Social Skills University will be EVERYTHING you need to turn your life around.

Never been anything like it, most likely won’t be anything after it.

Mark my words.

Some asked when Social Skills University will be live.

Answer is June 30th

But on June 10th, I'm releasing the social skills Playbook for free

Drop your requests here.

I'll write about the 3 most relevant ones.

EDIT:

This is not an AMA, I will write a full post in the coming days.

If you feed it negativity it will give you back negativity.

Such are the laws of the universe.

If you have a problem, stay optimistic and learn to see the good side of things.

Truly nothing deserves to be blown out of proportion.

Expect the best.

Work for it to happen.

If you worry, you prepare yourself for negative outcomes.

Do not worry.

Take action and keep your hopes up.

If even though you do so and the outcome is still negative, above all, do not lose faith.

Do not lose your joy and do not lose your optimism.

Always keep your head up.

Little announcement.

Along with the 12 Laws of E-go, I've been working on an audiobook.

If you got the 12 Laws audiobook; you should get this one for free.

I've hired a professional narrator for the audiobook and it should be available tomorrow.

When that happens the price goes from 5 to 10.

Just a heads up.

PS: Nothing to do with the Social Skills playbook, that one will be free and I'll release it on the 10th

On helping others:

The easy way is to comfort them.

But is it the right thing to do?

Do they need comfort or a solution?

If they only need comfort, then do they really have a problem.

If you truly care about someone, avoid providing "emotional help".

Provide useful help.

Solve their problem.

Here is the thing, many times you'll realize people don't want their problems solved.

They seek compassion and comfort.

It's not good for them.

And it's a waste of time and energy for you.

Avoid comforting.

Real help is solving the root cause not putting band aid on negative feelings.

Understand this.

Audiobook uploaded.

Enjoy!

And get self sufficient, that's what Ego has mastery in! Do checkout his program, its Lit🔥🔥

Thread of the day.

PS: Those of you who are only following on Instagram and not Twitter, don't worry. I will post this on IG too.

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1530885700568158209

Remember: Do it.

Anti-Manipulation is a complex topic.

Complex because in order to protect yourself from manipulation, you must first learn manipulation techniques.

Figure out how they do it so you can prevent it.

And when you do, it will be tempting to use it to get your way.

But once you understand how weak it is and unhealthy for your relationships, you will make the right choice.

The right choice being: working on your people skills.

That is the alternative to manipulation.

You can either be charming but deceptive.

or

You can be convincing and genuine.

This is why assertiveness is the core component of social skills.

That's the alternative to being manipulative.

You can get your way with people without burning bridges.

Being someone enjoyable, likeable without being a people pleaser nor a manipulator.

It is not that hard.

First you must control your own emotions.
They will be used against you.
Learn to be aware of them, control how they emerge and prevent people from using them to your detriment.

Second, you must learn how manipulators operate and cut out anyone who is poisoning your life.

Third, you must be able to assert yourself and impose your presence without using manipulation.

This is the process Ego Driven has been trying to teach you.

This is what being mentally balanced and nurturing healthy relationships sound like.

Confidence. Assertiveness. Genuineness.

You can have the best of both worlds.

It is ready, waiting for the audiobook version to be done and you can all download it.

Hopefully during next week.

Might release it before the announced date of June 10th.

Evil Saint will also be part of the team for Social Skills University

Read more from him, he's an excellent writer.

https://twitter.com/sanctemalum/status/1531241788480049153

Giveaway at 6k.

I'll be giving 6 lifetime memberships to Social Skills University.

440 subs left 🥂

Thread of the day.

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1531578969186873345