Currently finalizing the Social Skills Playbook.

As promised, it will be free!

Your desire to fit in is killing your uniqueness.

Your subconscious need to be among a specific stereotype and fit within society increases your agreeableness and harms your personal identity.

As much as it's hard to control, you need to be at least aware of it.

This manifests through seeking validation and through allowing external influence to dictate how and who you should be.

One huge factor is envy and jealousy.

Which again are a projection of your ego on another person.

Here is the thing:

How about.. you detach yourself from other people?

Yes we subconsciously seek comfort in mirroring other people and feeling like we belong somewhere.

But at what price?

Denying yourself to be who you truly are.

And it's not social pressure, it's mental weakness.

As I've said many times, society conditions us to be copies of the same types of people. Through uniformed education, through optimization of workspaces, through many other things.. that's not our topic today.

Our topic is the necessity of resisting this brainwashing and holding onto your true self.

The first thing you should be working on is valuing your "yes".

Distancing yourself from cheap agreeableness. Questioning and evaluating the information you are given before making decisions.

Try as much as you can to step out of the mold you were put in.

Stop trying to fit, try being yourself more often.

Don't do favors without a counterpart.

If you dont expect anything in return, you unbalance the relationship.

Don't do someone a favor without explicitly telling them that you're expecting something back.

This might seem entitled or even childish to some.

But the truth is, you should keep everything transactional.

It's not about being greedy or opportunistic, it's just that people won't value your input unless they're giving something for it.

It doesn't have to be money, it doesn't have to be a favor they'll do for you.

You can simply tell them:

"If I do this, you owe me one."

Unless it's your close family, do not let people think that they can abuse your time.

This is one way to put boundaries and to signal that you are not to be taken for granted.

Remember: Good fences make good neighbors.

Love you all.

Good night.

How to win an argument without solid reasoning part 2?

Might write this today

On Social Skills:

There is a fine nuance that most don't get.

Being socially skills is not (only) about imposing your presence.

In fact, social intelligence is the ability to get what you want.

Even if it sometimes means making concessions.

For you to make people do what you wish them to do, you need to be ready to make compromises and accept that not everything will go exactly as planned.

What might seem like loser behavior at first, is simply practice. With time you won't need to do that kind of stuff again.

What I'm talking about is exercises like talking to strangers, practicing facial expressions in front of a mirror etc..

That's not what naturally socially skilled people do.

But that's the way around it if it's not innate to you.

You have to practice and do things you think are pointless.

The concept of social value is a very complex thing.

It's filled with paradoxes and opposing approaches.

There are so many ways to increase your social value.

But I believe the best approaches to be the ones that do not require you to negatively impact your self-esteem and personal boundaries.

You could be a people pleaser with high social value

You could be a strong character with very low social value

Too many parameters come into play

My goal is to solve this and make it simple through Social Skills University.

Social Skills University will be EVERYTHING you need to turn your life around.

Never been anything like it, most likely won’t be anything after it.

Mark my words.

Some asked when Social Skills University will be live.

Answer is June 30th

But on June 10th, I'm releasing the social skills Playbook for free

Drop your requests here.

I'll write about the 3 most relevant ones.

EDIT:

This is not an AMA, I will write a full post in the coming days.

If you feed it negativity it will give you back negativity.

Such are the laws of the universe.

If you have a problem, stay optimistic and learn to see the good side of things.

Truly nothing deserves to be blown out of proportion.

Expect the best.

Work for it to happen.

If you worry, you prepare yourself for negative outcomes.

Do not worry.

Take action and keep your hopes up.

If even though you do so and the outcome is still negative, above all, do not lose faith.

Do not lose your joy and do not lose your optimism.

Always keep your head up.

Little announcement.

Along with the 12 Laws of E-go, I've been working on an audiobook.

If you got the 12 Laws audiobook; you should get this one for free.

I've hired a professional narrator for the audiobook and it should be available tomorrow.

When that happens the price goes from 5 to 10.

Just a heads up.

PS: Nothing to do with the Social Skills playbook, that one will be free and I'll release it on the 10th

On helping others:

The easy way is to comfort them.

But is it the right thing to do?

Do they need comfort or a solution?

If they only need comfort, then do they really have a problem.

If you truly care about someone, avoid providing "emotional help".

Provide useful help.

Solve their problem.

Here is the thing, many times you'll realize people don't want their problems solved.

They seek compassion and comfort.

It's not good for them.

And it's a waste of time and energy for you.

Avoid comforting.

Real help is solving the root cause not putting band aid on negative feelings.

Understand this.

Audiobook uploaded.

Enjoy!

And get self sufficient, that's what Ego has mastery in! Do checkout his program, its Lit🔥🔥

Thread of the day.

PS: Those of you who are only following on Instagram and not Twitter, don't worry. I will post this on IG too.

https://twitter.com/EgoDriv/status/1530885700568158209