How to increase confidence and improve body language:

This might sound stupid to some but it works like a charm.

This is a mind programming technique you can use on a daily basis (especially in the morning as part of or after your stretching routine).

Part 1: Morning Confidence Boost

Stand tall, legs open and arms wide open.

Do it for 10 seconds, preferably in front of a mirror so you can realize your size and visualize your body language expressions.

This helps you see how powerful you are as you take space around you.

It also puts you in a dominative position, which you brain picks up right away and conditions you to feel confident.

You can alternate positions by using the "Superman" pose; where you put your hands your hips and pump your chest.

As stupid and childish as it might seem at first, your subconscious interprets it differently and benefits from the boost of confidence that position and image prints in it.

Alternatively, you can simply keep your arms up in the air above your head, with your palms facing in front.

The palms facing in front, the stretched arms and legs indicate to yourself that you are open to conflict and ready for whatever is coming.

It puts this idea in your subconscious as it automatically believes in your confidence by visualizing the dominant posture.

This will help you keep a confident posture throughout the day.

Again:

If you feel stupid doing this, repeat it enough times or make it last as much as you can. Until it seems normal.

Trust me, it works.

Part 2: Tips to Improve Body Language

In this post, I will focus solely on movements.

Because moving represents a good part of your body language and it's the easiest part to train as you don't need a specific situation to do so.

Tip 1:

DONT FUCKING CHEST BUMP.

It looks fake.

Instead focus on having a straight back.

Your chest will de facto be bumped without looking fake.

Plus, it's actually healthy for your back so take care of that body so it can speak louder.

Tip 2:

Move slowly, deliberately and take space.

Be comfortable with your body movement, don't be too quick as it shows insecurity.

Instead take your time to move, think about your movements and execute them with grace rather than hurry.

Walk slow, move slow and with intention.

This breeds both confidence and certainty, which affects the rest of your body language.

Don't focus on the micro shit, focus on being comfortable with your body and not being ashamed of yourself.

Be natural, intentional and cerebral.

Don't let your reflexes dictate your moves.

Tip 3:

Open posture at all times?

Fuck no.

You need to alternate.

You can't be open to everyone, it signals seeking validation.

Instead learn to alternate open positions and closed positions.

As opposed to what most people will tell you, it's not always good to face your interlocutors.

In fact, it's often beneficial for you to look away, stand next to your interlocutor or halfway facing them.

This will automatically put you in a position of power if you do it well.

The person in front will be confused by the contradictory messages and will try to seek a more genuine connection, thus putting themselves in a weak position and seeking your eye contact and attention.

Disclaimer:

Know when to do this.

Know when it's useful and know when it's useless.

If you have nothing to gain from the conversation then simply be genuine.

If you're in a conversation that involves 'power mind games' (examples: flirting or discussing work with a colleague) then you definitely can use the alternating body language method.

One last thing:

Don't abuse these tricks.

Stay cerebral.

Work on your general confidence and all of this will become natural to you.

A reminder:

Most people can't read body language, they'll only feel it.

You'll be manipulating their subconscious, something they can't put their finger on. So make sure you don't show all your cards at once by betraying your body language through the words you might say.

Bonus tip:

Say less shit.

Let the body do the talk.

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Why I Talk About Manipulation

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means.

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means without consequences.

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means without consequences they cannot afford.

These three reasons are totally different. The first is an inability. The second is an avoidance of consequence. The third is an avoidance of consequence, but only because the consequence is unaffordable.


Sometimes you can afford the consequences that arise from using direct methods. Other times you can't. For instance, if you forced your workers to work on the weekend without their prior consent, you might end up losing your workers.

Sometimes it doesn't matter because you can restaff quickly, other times you can't restaff quickly and effectively enough to avoid huge financial losses.

So bosses use manipulative methods to get you to comply to work on the weekend and feel like you did so willingly.

Back to the topic at hand.

Manipulation is the opposite of direct methods. How you use it, for what you use it, and why you use it determine whether you're diabolical or just a person trying to effectively achieve a goal.

Manipulation has a negative connotation, but it's not necessarily negative. The person's intentions for you may be good. HOWEVER, as an Evil Rebel, you don't care about that. You want to be immune to all manipulation. You're proactive and will not agree to any decisions on your life being made without your consent.

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Quick Body Language Lesson:

The ultimate level of body language is touching.

Not only is it the most intimate level but it's also the most significant.

It can be express both affection and despise, along with infinite other messages.

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Body Language: Human Touch

Touch has to be the strongest form of body language.

If you know what proxemics mean, you realize that the ultimate level of intimacy and understanding is through physical touch.

If you don’t, I got you.

Proxemics is the distance between people as they interact.

The thing with distance is that it's a huge tell when it comes to trust and interest.

The less complicity, the larger the distance.

You get the idea.

Touch bypasses the very important notion of personal space.

But if done correctly, you can use touch to communicate with others without making them feel uncomfortable.

We’ll get into that later.

First, I’d like to give you a few examples of messages you can give through touch and situations where they are best used.

1- Negative Touch

A few examples come to mind.

But the most relevant one, is the pat on the back/shoulder.

Parents might use this as a way to express that they’re proud of their children, but in other contexts, it can be used as a way to signal superiority.

If someone (who is not a parent or a mentor or an older sibling) pats you on the back; you can be certain that they’re trying to be the dominant and superior side.

The real meaning behind being, that they are above you and look down on you (this is a double edged sword because it is not always malicious).

As I mentioned before, it can signal that they’re simply proud of you.

Question is: Are they someone you want to make proud?

If the answer is yes, then it’s innocent and genuine.

If the answer is no, then they want to make you feel inferior to them.

Another example is when while talking, someone interrupts you and puts their hand on your arm.

What they’re really doing is stopping you.

The abrupt physical touch (although it is not aggressive) is an attempt to stop your speech and take over.

It is a way of putting limits on you.

2- Positive Touch:

The other type of physical contact is the genuine and affectionate one.

We briefly mentioned how parents pat their kids to show them their affection.

But this can also come in the form of hugs or handshakes.

This is necessary to express feelings when words can’t.

However, this can be used against you by malicious people who want to confuse you and hide their intentions.

Question now is:

How do you make the difference between positive and negative touch?

The answer is simple.

There are two parameters to take into consideration.

1- Firmness:

This is the obvious one.

The more firm and “aggressive” or brutal the touch is, the more likely it is to be of negative intentions and a domination attempt.

Oppositely, the softer it is, the more affectionate and positive it is.

Common sense.

2- Insistence:

This is the least obvious.

Keep this in mind:

If someone is genuinely expressing positive emotions through physical contact, they will not feel like they’re trespassing your personal boundaries.

As opposed to someone who knows they’re getting past them.

As such, the longer the contact lasts, the more genuine it is.

On the other hand, the shorter it is, the more you should be wary of their intentions.

Why?

Because as we said, they know they’re trespassing.

But that’s not the only reason.

Affectionate physical contact is a way to express emotions.

Aggressive or negative touch however, is made to express a specific message (one that would be way too aggressive if phrased with words)

I mean, it’s better to put your hand on someone’s arm than to tell them to shut up, right?

With the information you just read, you can practice your physical touch skills.

Use it when finding words fails you

Use it to be more subtle about the way you express yourself

Remember, everyone understands body language, but most don’t use it properly.

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Body Language: Facial Expressions

Facial expressions can be a powerful tool for body language.

Most people tend to try and hide their emotions.

The fact is, no one can do it.

Facial expressions are involuntary.

That means that you can’t help it when you’re feeling something.

You can however, pretend that you’re not.

It is also important to note that facial expressions can be very subtle.

This is why I recommend that you invest in a mirror and train your facial expressions.

The goal here is to become aware of the different messages that you can send with your face and use them to your advantage.

Here are a few examples of messages you can send through your facial expressions:

1- Anger

One of the most prominent and visible expressions, anger is almost always easy to notice.

Anger can be conveyed in different ways.

The most common way is through squinting and frowning.

Other ways are through clenched teeth or a furrowed brow.

Anger is usually accompanied by a certain type of body language.

This includes stance (shoulders squared, fists clenching) and gestures (pointing, poking).

All of these are meant to be intimidating.

2- Disgust

Disgust is usually conveyed through a wrinkled nose and a frown.

The mouth is often open and the tongue may be protruding.

It is important to note that disgust can be directed at a person, object or situation.

3- Fear

Fear is usually conveyed through wide eyes and an open mouth.

The eyebrows are often raised and the head may be tilted to the side.

The body may be tense and the hands may be raised in a defensive position.

4- Happiness

Happiness is usually conveyed through a smile.

The eyes may be closed and the head may be tilted back.

The hands may be raised in a gesture of triumph.

5- Sadness

Sadness is usually conveyed through a furrowed brow and drooping eyelids.

The mouth may be downturned and the head may be lowered.

The body may be hunched over and the hands may be clasped in the lap.

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The Social Skills Playbook: Conversation starters

The best way to start a conversation is to be honest, and the easiest way to be honest is to say what you are thinking.

For example, if you are thinking, "She's so beautiful, I wonder what she's like," say it.

Not, "Um, hi, so, um, what do you do?"

The latter is a question, but it's not an honest one. It's a way of trying to find something to say, and it sounds and feels fake.

The best way to start a conversation is just to say something honest. It doesn't have to be big or deep or profound. Just something that's true for you in the moment.

The second best way to start a conversation is to ask a question. But not just any question. A question that is specific, interesting, and that shows that you are paying attention.

For example, if you are at a party and you overhear someone say they just got back from traveling, you could ask them where they went and what they did.

You could also ask a follow up question, like, "What was the best part of your trip?"

The key with questions is to make sure they are specific and interesting, and that they show that you are really listening to the person you are talking to.

Another great way to start a conversation is to make a statement that is interesting, or that shows that you have something in common with the person you are talking to.

For example, if you are at a party and you see someone drinking a beer, you could say, "I love beer too. What's your favorite?"

Or, if you are at a conference and you overhear someone say they are a writer, you could say, "I'm a writer too. What do you write?"

The key with statements is to make sure they are interesting, or that they show that you have something in common with the person you are talking to.

Another great way to start a conversation is to ask for help. People love to help, and it gives them a chance to feel useful and important.

For example, you could say, "I'm looking for the bathroom. Can you help me?"

Or, "Can you help me find my friend?"

The key with asking for help is to be specific, and to make sure that you are actually asking for help and not just trying to start a conversation.

One final way to start a conversation is to compliment the person you are talking to. But not just any compliment. A genuine, specific, and sincere compliment.

For example, you could say, "I love your dress. Where did you get it?"

Or, "Your smile is really beautiful."

The key with compliments is to make sure they are genuine, specific, and sincere. If you just say, "Nice shoes," it sounds fake and insincere. But if you say, "I love your shoes. They are really unique," it sounds sincere and genuine.

The bottom line is that there are a lot of great ways to start a conversation. Just be honest, ask interesting questions, make interesting statements, ask for help, or give a genuine compliment. And have fun!

The Social Skills Playbook: How to be confident around strangers?

This is a difficult question. Some people are naturally confident and feel comfortable around strangers, while others may feel shy or uneasy. If you are not a naturally confident person, there are a few things you can do to try to boost your confidence.

First, try to relax and be yourself.

Secondly, try to focus on the positive aspects of yourself and your interactions with others.

Lastly, don't be afraid to ask questions or start conversations - this will show that you are interested and confident.


Another option is to try to build up your confidence gradually by starting with small interactions and working your way up to larger ones. For instance, you could start by making eye contact and smiling at people you pass on the street, then progress to striking up conversations with people you know slightly, such as acquaintances or co-workers. With time and practice, you should start to feel more confident around strangers.

One way to be confident around strangers is act like you've known them for awhile. Be patient in getting to know them and engage in conversation starters. Be confident in your own skin and don't be afraid to be yourself. Find common grounds, be a good listener, and let your body language do the talking.

Be yourself, and don't be afraid to let your personality shine through. Be polite and friendly, but don't be afraid to be a little bit quirky or different. people will be drawn to your confidence and will be more likely to want to get to know you. Remember that everyone is a stranger at first, so just take it slow and enjoy getting to know new people.