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How to say no to a guilt-tripping manipulator:

To counter most manipulations, you have to know how to say no to get rid of them.

Unfortunately, some manipulators still manage to get what they want from us by playing on our feelings of guilt.

In this case, saying no is not enough.

Here is a non-exhaustive series of guilt-inducing phrases used by a manipulator:

+ Look, I'm your friend, you can't deny me that!

+After all I have done for you, this is how you reward me?

+I've never refused you anything and you have the nerve to say no to me...

+You only think of yourself, and I don't give a damn!

+ How dare you do such a thing to me?

+ It's always the same thing, as soon as I ask for something, I'm refused.

The main thing is to understand that the guilt-tripper is trying to make us feel bad about ourselves. to make us feel bad about ourselves.

In this way, they try to make us regret our refusal and to make us regret our refusal and thus hope to make us change our minds.

See how some beggars know how to play this game to make it easier for the passer-by to open his wallet more easily.

To resist a guilt-inducing manipulator, the question to ask yourself is:

Am I guilty of what I am being accused of?

The answer is not the easiest and it is not a question of disguising oneself as a judge of peace to determine who is right and who is wrong.

Knowing how to evaluate, even approximately, the reality of a guilt-inducing manipulation counts.

To do this, it is sufficient to ask ourselves:

Is there a balance between what he is asking of me and what he says he has given me?

When you realize that you are in the presence of a guilt-tripping manipulator, you realize that there was no reason to feel guilty.

You can then serenely oppose and say no without needing to justify yourself.

Despite what they tell you, you owe them nothing.

Don't get involved in endless explanations either.

Shorten the conversation without complexes, avoiding aggression, devaluation, and irony.

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Quick lesson on Body Language: The Middle Finger

You all know what it means.

The thing is, sometimes people will scratch their face, fix their glasses or point at something using the middle finger.

Let me tell you.

Its ALMOST never innocent.

Especially if their Index is free and can be used instead (the finger between the thumb and the middle one, for those who don't know it).

But.

Because there is always a but.

Its not because they use it while talking to you that it's against you.

It just shows an internal discomfort and it could be completely unrelated to the situation they're in.

You can however be sure that they most likely have something on their mind.

Something that makes them uncomfortable..

Watch out for when you do this yourself, it's a sign you have things to deal with.

Another Quick note: Honesty can be used as manipulation.

Be careful.

Its not because someone seemingly owns up for all their mistakes and flaws that they're genuine.

Sometimes, manipulative people will overshare and make sure to sound genuine as an attempt to gain trust.

What they're really doing by telling you the wrong things they do, is making you too accept their imperfections and poor behavior.

The goal is to make you say:

"Yea it's okay he's that way, he doesn't hide it, he just doesn't know any better"

If you find yourself finding excuses for other people's behavior...

Let me tell you.

You either love them or they are manipulating you.

In the worst scenario, it's both.

Stay vigilant but don't become paranoid.

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You are what you think of.

The direction you give to your thoughts define how you act and behave.

People think it's out of their control and I just can't understand that.

If you can't control what's on your mind then..

What do you control?

This is an answer to the 56% of people that do not feel free.

You do not feel free because you don't believe you are.

Or rather, you chose to be limit yourself.

Truth is, most of you don't feel free simply because they're not doing anything to change their situation.

No you're not stuck.
No it's not out of your control.

You were just thought that things are what they are and that we are powerless in front of what the universe offers us.

It is TOTALLY wrong.

You don't feel free because you're trapped in playing a role that is not who you are.

You don't feel free because you believe that you are powerless.

To put it simply:

You do not feel free because you put limits on yourself.

You'd feel a lot better if you did more fulfilling activities.

You'd feel a lot more free if you simply took the time to appreciate every detail of life.

And that start when you open your eyes in the morning.

Affirm that your day is going to be great as soon as you wake up.

Trust me it will.

The universe has this unbelievable thing where it amplifies everything it is given.

Give yourself positive thoughts and positive things will happen in your life.

Smile to yourself in the mirror and you'll have that image of yourself for the rest of the day.

Dont get stuck in a world and reality you did not create.

Create your own world.
Decide of your own reality.

Stop trying to just fit.

How to increase confidence and improve body language:

This might sound stupid to some but it works like a charm.

This is a mind programming technique you can use on a daily basis (especially in the morning as part of or after your stretching routine).

Part 1: Morning Confidence Boost

Stand tall, legs open and arms wide open.

Do it for 10 seconds, preferably in front of a mirror so you can realize your size and visualize your body language expressions.

This helps you see how powerful you are as you take space around you.

It also puts you in a dominative position, which you brain picks up right away and conditions you to feel confident.

You can alternate positions by using the "Superman" pose; where you put your hands your hips and pump your chest.

As stupid and childish as it might seem at first, your subconscious interprets it differently and benefits from the boost of confidence that position and image prints in it.

Alternatively, you can simply keep your arms up in the air above your head, with your palms facing in front.

The palms facing in front, the stretched arms and legs indicate to yourself that you are open to conflict and ready for whatever is coming.

It puts this idea in your subconscious as it automatically believes in your confidence by visualizing the dominant posture.

This will help you keep a confident posture throughout the day.

Again:

If you feel stupid doing this, repeat it enough times or make it last as much as you can. Until it seems normal.

Trust me, it works.

Part 2: Tips to Improve Body Language

In this post, I will focus solely on movements.

Because moving represents a good part of your body language and it's the easiest part to train as you don't need a specific situation to do so.

Tip 1:

DONT FUCKING CHEST BUMP.

It looks fake.

Instead focus on having a straight back.

Your chest will de facto be bumped without looking fake.

Plus, it's actually healthy for your back so take care of that body so it can speak louder.

Tip 2:

Move slowly, deliberately and take space.

Be comfortable with your body movement, don't be too quick as it shows insecurity.

Instead take your time to move, think about your movements and execute them with grace rather than hurry.

Walk slow, move slow and with intention.

This breeds both confidence and certainty, which affects the rest of your body language.

Don't focus on the micro shit, focus on being comfortable with your body and not being ashamed of yourself.

Be natural, intentional and cerebral.

Don't let your reflexes dictate your moves.

Tip 3:

Open posture at all times?

Fuck no.

You need to alternate.

You can't be open to everyone, it signals seeking validation.

Instead learn to alternate open positions and closed positions.

As opposed to what most people will tell you, it's not always good to face your interlocutors.

In fact, it's often beneficial for you to look away, stand next to your interlocutor or halfway facing them.

This will automatically put you in a position of power if you do it well.

The person in front will be confused by the contradictory messages and will try to seek a more genuine connection, thus putting themselves in a weak position and seeking your eye contact and attention.

Disclaimer:

Know when to do this.

Know when it's useful and know when it's useless.

If you have nothing to gain from the conversation then simply be genuine.

If you're in a conversation that involves 'power mind games' (examples: flirting or discussing work with a colleague) then you definitely can use the alternating body language method.

One last thing:

Don't abuse these tricks.

Stay cerebral.

Work on your general confidence and all of this will become natural to you.

A reminder:

Most people can't read body language, they'll only feel it.

You'll be manipulating their subconscious, something they can't put their finger on. So make sure you don't show all your cards at once by betraying your body language through the words you might say.

Bonus tip:

Say less shit.

Let the body do the talk.

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Why I Talk About Manipulation

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means.

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means without consequences.

Humans use manipulation to get what they cannot get using direct means without consequences they cannot afford.

These three reasons are totally different. The first is an inability. The second is an avoidance of consequence. The third is an avoidance of consequence, but only because the consequence is unaffordable.


Sometimes you can afford the consequences that arise from using direct methods. Other times you can't. For instance, if you forced your workers to work on the weekend without their prior consent, you might end up losing your workers.

Sometimes it doesn't matter because you can restaff quickly, other times you can't restaff quickly and effectively enough to avoid huge financial losses.

So bosses use manipulative methods to get you to comply to work on the weekend and feel like you did so willingly.

Back to the topic at hand.

Manipulation is the opposite of direct methods. How you use it, for what you use it, and why you use it determine whether you're diabolical or just a person trying to effectively achieve a goal.

Manipulation has a negative connotation, but it's not necessarily negative. The person's intentions for you may be good. HOWEVER, as an Evil Rebel, you don't care about that. You want to be immune to all manipulation. You're proactive and will not agree to any decisions on your life being made without your consent.

That is why I try to share as much as I know with you on the subject matter.

Hope you find immense value in these notes.

Quick Body Language Lesson:

The ultimate level of body language is touching.

Not only is it the most intimate level but it's also the most significant.

It can be express both affection and despise, along with infinite other messages.

I have mentioned this before (you can find it in my body langue book) but I've never gotten deeper into it..

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Body Language: Human Touch

Touch has to be the strongest form of body language.

If you know what proxemics mean, you realize that the ultimate level of intimacy and understanding is through physical touch.

If you don’t, I got you.

Proxemics is the distance between people as they interact.

The thing with distance is that it's a huge tell when it comes to trust and interest.

The less complicity, the larger the distance.

You get the idea.

Touch bypasses the very important notion of personal space.

But if done correctly, you can use touch to communicate with others without making them feel uncomfortable.

We’ll get into that later.

First, I’d like to give you a few examples of messages you can give through touch and situations where they are best used.

1- Negative Touch

A few examples come to mind.

But the most relevant one, is the pat on the back/shoulder.

Parents might use this as a way to express that they’re proud of their children, but in other contexts, it can be used as a way to signal superiority.

If someone (who is not a parent or a mentor or an older sibling) pats you on the back; you can be certain that they’re trying to be the dominant and superior side.

The real meaning behind being, that they are above you and look down on you (this is a double edged sword because it is not always malicious).

As I mentioned before, it can signal that they’re simply proud of you.

Question is: Are they someone you want to make proud?

If the answer is yes, then it’s innocent and genuine.

If the answer is no, then they want to make you feel inferior to them.

Another example is when while talking, someone interrupts you and puts their hand on your arm.

What they’re really doing is stopping you.

The abrupt physical touch (although it is not aggressive) is an attempt to stop your speech and take over.

It is a way of putting limits on you.

2- Positive Touch:

The other type of physical contact is the genuine and affectionate one.

We briefly mentioned how parents pat their kids to show them their affection.

But this can also come in the form of hugs or handshakes.

This is necessary to express feelings when words can’t.

However, this can be used against you by malicious people who want to confuse you and hide their intentions.

Question now is:

How do you make the difference between positive and negative touch?

The answer is simple.

There are two parameters to take into consideration.

1- Firmness:

This is the obvious one.

The more firm and “aggressive” or brutal the touch is, the more likely it is to be of negative intentions and a domination attempt.

Oppositely, the softer it is, the more affectionate and positive it is.

Common sense.

2- Insistence:

This is the least obvious.

Keep this in mind:

If someone is genuinely expressing positive emotions through physical contact, they will not feel like they’re trespassing your personal boundaries.

As opposed to someone who knows they’re getting past them.

As such, the longer the contact lasts, the more genuine it is.

On the other hand, the shorter it is, the more you should be wary of their intentions.

Why?

Because as we said, they know they’re trespassing.

But that’s not the only reason.

Affectionate physical contact is a way to express emotions.

Aggressive or negative touch however, is made to express a specific message (one that would be way too aggressive if phrased with words)

I mean, it’s better to put your hand on someone’s arm than to tell them to shut up, right?

With the information you just read, you can practice your physical touch skills.

Use it when finding words fails you

Use it to be more subtle about the way you express yourself

Remember, everyone understands body language, but most don’t use it properly.